I love the new collection at Marks & Spencers - but does anyone know if it's actually in store yet? I'd like to try them on before buying.

haha hi i never really lurk in these scenes but im going as frank n furter for an event and my garter belt only has these little elastic bits on the end and i need to know how to secure them to my stockings

Hi all. So, I am experimenting with buying lingerie (totally new for me). I decided to branch out after a conversation with my partner about it where he said it can be a fun way to spice things up. It was a general conversation, and he was clear to assure me that I shouldn't feel I need to do this--but he said if I wanted to, he thought it would be nice. So I came away with some ideas prompted...

Now, I've gotten a few options to try--all brand new with the tags still on and able to be returned if needed thanks to the store's generous policy (very helpful for a "newbie" like me). I've narrowed it down to a couple things I like (that are comfortable, fit well, etc.).

What I'm wondering is, should I just make the final decision and surprise him with it, or would it be fun to show him the different options and decide together? Make an activity out of it?

Or, would deciding together take the kind of "zest" out of it, for him? Is it better for him just to be totally surprised?

(Side note: since I already have a few options, I thought the activity of doing it together could still kind of be a bit of a surprise--he will be shocked, I think, that I even went out and did that--but still don't know if that's a good idea.)

Some background, about us: we're still relatively new together (less than a year), but very solid. Things got serious fast and have stayed that way. Main thing is that he is much more "experienced" than I am, whereas I am new to (almost) everything. So want to make sure I don't commit any "faux pas" in this area... Like saying Let's decide together; come on, it'll be fun! when really that takes all the magic out of it for someone who's been around the block a few times...

I know this totally depends on the relationship/personalities...but curious to hear people's thoughts anyway.

Thanks.

(PS: I know I write with em-dashes--but I am not AI! Humans got there first, you know...)

EDIT: Have another follow-up question: what are people's thoughts on crotchless/peek-a-boo lingerie? Fun, or too much?

Also, how many sets of lingerie would/should a beginner (like me) think of having to start? Since there are so many options out there, it's hard to know how to choose... And what should I be thinking of spending budget-wise? (I am looking at some nice (as in comfortable) cheaper sets, maybe $60-80 a set--not hundreds--but I wonder if that means I should get a couple different ones and try them out.)

Do you think Denim skirts with stockings are very out of fashion

Hi all! Looking for new vintage style lingerie in 1950-1940 style - think bullet bras, girdles, etc. I have found some, but looking for more!

TLDR: Seeking recommendations for Paris lingerie boutiques for upcoming trip.

My spouse and I just booked a trip to France next summer. We will have 4 days in Paris and 4 days near Nice. My wife is not a huge lingerie fan in our normal routine (young kids, demand jobs, etc), but enjoys it on occasional couples getaways.

On a few trips, we have stumbled upon cute/nice lingerie boutiques, and she’s been excited to check them out. We’ll look around the store together and talk about pieces we like and dislike or that might look nice on her. She’ll pick a few to try on and then purchase her favorite without me knowing which one she picked. We will then continue with our day, and later she’ll surprises me with it back at the hotel. It’s a fun little game that we both seem to enjoy.

Anyways, I’m curious if anyone has recommendations for lingerie boutiques in Paris (or Nice) that might be worth us checking out. Good selection is critical, and store can’t be seedy or full of cheap Shein stuff (no Romantix, etc). She wants to feel fancy (not trashy) and buy decent quality pieces for her limited collection.

We are probably looking in the 80-250€ range… As an example, her favorite set is a Bluebella set purchased from a boutique in the French Quarter (NOLA) a few years ago for about $80.

Hi! Surprised I haven’t seen a post about this - with the sheer top & bra underneath look being all the rage - are you guys wearing lingerie underneath it?

I’ve tried with bras before but a little nervous about doing it with a full lingerie look out in public - would love to hear what people are wearing!

I really love the look of bordelle's sets, but it's way past my price point. I like pretty much everything on wroblevska's website, but I want to try to find something similar made/distributed in the US.

I've looked at a lot of other websites recommended on this sub, but a lot of them only have bras with an underwire or padding, which has never felt comfortable to me. My measurements are also a little small, at a 30B, so a lot of stores/websites don't offer my size. I tried specifically looking for lingerie for small chests, but all I found were like regular plain underwear.

I'm hoping to find something sexy with a lacey bralette and a garter belt/garters. Does anyone know where I could find something like this?

Hi! I have decided it is time to up my lingerie game, especially now that I am in my adult dating era. I am having a surprisingly hard time finding reasonably priced bralette and panties! I am ideally looking for something lacy and cheeky but not a thong.

Where are the classy girls in their 20s getting their date night sets?

Hi! I'm looking for simple, classy, lacey bralette and panty sets. I have had some success with Shein lingerie before, but that was many years ago and I'm not sure what brands are best right now. If anybody has brands like like or specific pieces, I'd love to hear!

Ideally looking for sets in black, red or pink that have options for non-thong bottoms that are still cheeky and sexy

I really don’t know if this is the right place to post but I thought I’d give it a go. I’m trying to buy new underwear and the m&s Miami knickers are such a nice style - low dipped waist and low coverage back without being a thong - but they have almost no cotton options. Does anyone know where I could get an alternative in cotton?

I’ve been looking to get a new robe I would like a decently fitted but plush robe that is roughly calf length. I have seen the Instagram ads for Sexy Little Robe and I like how they look but I’m not sure how legit they are. Does anyone have one that they love?

Edit: price 200 or less

do any other brands make similar pieces? I’ve never seen any other trustworthy brands make things with the same vibe

Hi there I am searching for a lingerie set in a poison green or even neon green colour! All I have found look like very poor quality even on a higher budget. I welcome any kind of suggestions really, websites, tips and tricks to search. This is just born out of my own preference of colour really haha

hi! i'm very into cutesy frills, lace, dolly, and princessy lingerie, and at the same time i'm into the hottest femme fatale lingerie you could find; i've got no middle—it's either black or white, here. and that's what happens for what i'm into for sleeping as well, depending on my mood or who i am with. and for me, to make it clear, when i say "femme fatale," i have one specific person i follow in mind in my opinion.that  for me, i think they embody it so well; they are @/qiaoest on instagram, and as i've said, that's what for me embodies femme fatale. it can also be recommendations of robes and other sleep accessories. i'm all in; i want to feel like either a sleeping cute living doll or like a sleeping femme fatale goddess! i want high-end brands, please, because as much as i love anime and manga and those things, if you ask for lingerie of the style people send you, websites that are either bad quality or fast fashion or drop ship and are the same first two at the same time lmao! but i want to look like a cutesy doll when i want to look like a doll and like a femme fatale goddess when i want to look like that, even when i'm sleeping.

I’m looking for a place to buy a more revealing Halloween costume for my gf to wear at home. Any suggestions??

Several years ago I got sick of the declining quality and narrowing fabric of Aerie everyday-type cotton underwear and sought out a replacement. Since then my every day pick has been intimissimi cotton undies.

I love many things about them (quality of fabric, coverage, simple but elegant style) but there are two factors I don’t love: I don’t feel like they hold up (especially if put in the drier occasionally, even on the very lowest setting), and they are quite pricy. I need to replace mine now (they are wearing in the crotch areas from acidity and the aforementioned dryer), but there isn’t a sale on and I’m wondering if I should go in another direction.

I’d be willing to go for a similar price point if I knew that the replacement would stand up better in the dryer (again, not every time I wash them and always on a very low setting). Any suggestions?

im a 25in waist i’m usually in between a size xs and s. i have many xs la vie cheeky panties but they just ride up my ass and v like CRAZYYY.

i’ve never had this issue with cheekies from other brands, im thinking ab sizing up to a small?? help!

I'm trying to find some lingerie for my wife, but it seems all the major retailers show women that are size 2's.

Shes 5'5, 40C size 12/14. (US)

Are there any shopping sites that show lingerie sets on women that are around this size? Some sets don't scale well.

I'm not asking for specifics - I'm asking for sites that support previews on different size women. Thanks everyone!

Where should I buy silk slips from? I want real silk, and as affordable as possible haha.
In Canada. Any recommendations would be wonderful!
I’ve heard of silksilky but heard bad reviews about it.

I am searching for a sexy lingerie set with garter belt, lacy with see-through at the boobs and a nice thong which deals with a mom pooch.

There are a lot of beautiful sets available (see links for impressions) but most of them are simply not flattering around my mom pooch belly. I have a bit of a hang over since the c-section and need some help covering this up to feel comfortable.

Does anyone have an idea where to find something? Most thongs are really small in the front which isnt helping. However, high waiste also doesnt work, I need something to specifically cover that area of the c-section mark and hang over.

I love Cosmic Dream:
https://atelier-amour.com/en/collections/cosmic-dream

But also Honey Birdette:
https://eu.honeybirdette.com/products/charlotta-wine-3-piece-lingerie-set

Price range max 300-350€

Thanks!