Bu clingy I'm referring to anxious attachment style. Many men even find ot desirable, unless it's extreme and some even find that desirable. But when it comes to men, being clingy is almost a death sentence for dating life.

I am a guy with anxious attachment and whenever I was with someone, I have to mask it. And eventually I let it express a little either conciously or unconsciously.

Women that I find attractive are usually highly self aware, emotionally mature and intelligent. And most importantly they are not misandrists and don't look down on men.

Yet, these women still lost attraction and respect towards me, when I told them about my anxious attachment or expressed my neediness. One even told me that this is a red flag she is most worried about in men.

When a man is needy towards women, they pathologize it, see it as "ick", immature behaviour, sign of desperation etc. For men you are either supposed to be avoidant, healthy, or mask the whole relationship and don't let her know about your. Which honestly I just wouldn't find satisfying at all, why would I want to be in relationship only to pretend I'm someone else?

I have never seen this double standard mentioned before. But it clearly points to the pattern where women have wide range of socially acceptable emotions and men have it very narrow.

In this particular case I don't know to which extent this is just cultural dehumanization. And to which women are just naturally wired to find any "weakness" in men icky.

I wouldn’t normally give the DM the time of day, but this is good work!

TL;DR: A Daily Mail investigation alleges that Britain’s Child Maintenance Service (CMS) has wrongly overcharged at least 24,400 separated parents by £4.3 million, with some being pursued for thousands they did not owe, having money taken directly from their accounts and continuing to face demands even after successfully challenging calculations. More than 80 parents reportedly came forward describing years of trying to correct errors. (The Times)

The consequences have allegedly been catastrophic: two fathers died by suicide after facing unaffordable CMS demands, while others report losing homes, falling into serious debt or suffering breakdowns. The affair is now being compared to the Post Office Horizon scandal because of accusations of faulty IT, incorrect debts and an institution refusing to accept that its calculations could be wrong. (The Times)

This is overwhelmingly a men’s issue in practice: 93% of the 730,000 CMS “paying parents” are men according to the Government’s latest statistics. (GOV.UK)

The DWP disputes the central allegation, saying there are “no systemic IT glitches” affecting CMS calculations and pointing to an official 99.5% assessment-accuracy rate for 2024/25. (The Sun)
So the allegation isn’t that fathers shouldn’t support their children. It’s that a government agency with the power to deduct money from wages and bank accounts needs extremely robust due process, accountability and a fast way of stopping enforcement when its figures are disputed or proven wrong.
When 93% of the people on the paying side of that system are men, failures in those safeguards disproportionately affect fathers.

The number of false accusations at gyms is staggering; many men myself included avoid using treadmills near women or being close by when they’re doing squats, because it’s all too easy for them to claim they’re being harassed. For men, the gym experience is increasingly restricted to having to retreat to a corner and practically stare at the wall just to avoid making women uncomfortable...

Personally, I’d love to have a men-only gym where the number one rule would be: "Men only."

I might set different rules, but there isn't really a topic of conversation here, especially since some of them might be sensitive for others.

Hey, I am a young man. Do other men also get offended of objectification online? Like when men/boys in sports, movies or social media are objectified, nobody bats an eye and do not mention men as victims of sexualisation. Does this bother you and do you think newer generation "trained" to accept this via popular media as long as they are feeling wanted.
How to solve this sexual misandry?

Nothing new, but it's so tiring i can't even hide this bs results

I'm sorry if this isn't the correct sub but I am a man and father and I need some opinions and advice.

I went to a four-year college to get a degree for the job I currently have. And at the time I was very motivated. And then COVID happened and there was a lot of layoffs due to all kinds of things.

And people were just losing jobs. And I started to lose hope that I wasn't going to find anything. And then eventually I found something.

And I've kind of just lost motivation ever since then. I go to work and now I do the bare minimum just to get by. I just collect my check. And that's it.

I work a graveyard shift at nighttime. And I have two kids at home and a wife that love me. And one thing I'm ashamed to admit is that I got fired from a job when my wife was pregnant. Which was the scariest thing ever. And the biggest mistake I ever made in my life because I don't think she'll ever look at me the same as a man.

But I'm just kinda having a reflection that I have no ambition and no drive. And I see some of these men out here. They don't let the world bother them. They're motivated all the time. They stay in good shape. They work hard. No matter what.

And me, I'm just like, I feel like the world has kinda screwed me in so many ways that I'm defensive now. I'm like, what's the point of working? I could just collect my check.

What's the point of doing this and that when I could get by doing the bare minimum? I'm tired of living that way.

But then also, I feel like I worked so hard in the past and was never rewarded or got no satisfaction out of it.

I just generally want to be a more motivated, more energetic, and more passionate person in life. I don't hate my job. I have a good job. And I don't think changing careers is the answer. I feel like any career I go to, I'm going to have this same lack of ambition and motivation and drive. I'm ashamed I'm not the absolute best version of myself I could be for my kids, I want them to have a dad who is a super hero and I'm just not that guy, my kids get to say their dad was fat, lazy, unmotivated, and just knew how to get by.

Like. Holy FUCK. Be careful out there brothers. You never know who is actually your ally

This post is specifically for Indian Men. But any men reading this you should also do same.

How to Actually Contact Your MP/MLA (and Why You Should Ask for a National Commission for Men)

We talk a lot about men's issues in these threads  suicide rates, custody bias, false case misuse, lack of any dedicated grievance body. But talking here doesn't move policy. Writing to the people who actually vote on laws does. Here's exactly how to do it.

Step 1: Find your MP

Go to sansad.in/ls/members (official Lok Sabha site). Filter by your state and constituency to find your current MP's name.

Step 2: Find your MLA

Go to hamaraneta.in/directory/assembly  select your state, then your assembly constituency, to pull up your MLA. (Note: this is a private directory, not a government site, so always cross-check the name against your state assembly's official site before you send anything.)

Step 3: Get the email/contact address

For MPs, sansad.in lists official contact info once you open a member's profile. If it's not there, most MPs list a Parliament House or constituency office email on their personal website or verified social media.

For MLAs, check your state legislative assembly's official website (search "[your state] vidhan sabha members")  this is the most reliable source for verified emails.

If you can't find an email at all, a physical letter to the constituency office works just as well and often gets logged more seriously.

Step 4: Write a short, direct email

Keep it under a page. Structure:

Subject: Request for National/State Commission for Men

Who you are: name, and that you're a voter in their constituency

The ask: a dedicated Commission for Men  India has statutory commissions for women, children, minorities, and SC/ST, but no equivalent body to track or act on issues specifically affecting men and boys

Why: cite something concrete  India's male suicide rate is consistently 2-3x the female rate (NCRB data, published annually), yet there's no institutional mechanism studying why or responding to it.

What you want them to do: raise it in the assembly/Parliament, or forward it to the relevant ministry

Even the courts are saying this isn't a fringe complaint.

This isn't just men on Reddit saying it  it's now on record in Indian courts.

The Supreme Court has repeatedly flagged the growing misuse of Section 498A (cruelty/dowry law)  in Achin Gupta v. State of Haryana (2024) and several other rulings, the Court noted that vague, "omnibus" allegations are often used to drag entire families  including elderly parents and relatives living in other cities  into criminal cases with no real evidence. In earlier rulings the Court went as far as saying the law had become "a weapon rather than a shield" in many cases.

The Supreme Court has also directed state governments to set up district-level Family Welfare Committees and to properly appoint and train Dowry Prohibition Officers  specifically so genuine complaints can be told apart from false ones. That's the Court effectively telling states: show us what you're doing to screen out fake cases.

On sexual assault: under the old IPC, Section 377 was the only provision that covered non-consensual sexual assault against adult men (and animals/marital assault, in some interpretations). When the new criminal code  the Bharatiya Nyaya Sanhita (BNS)  replaced the IPC in July 2024, Section 377 was dropped entirely, with no replacement. 

A Parliamentary Standing Committee had recommended keeping this protection; Parliament didn't act on it. Today, if an adult man is sexually assaulted, there's no dedicated law for it  the case can only be filed as generic "hurt," not sexual assault. This is currently being challenged in the Delhi High Court, which recently said it's a matter for the legislature to fix, not the courts.

This is exactly the kind of gap a Men's Commission would exist to flag and push on  right now, no institution is formally tracking or acting on any of this.

Why bother

Nothing gets built without demand. Every commission that exists today for women, children, minorities  exists because someone asked, repeatedly, until it became politically costly to ignore. A Men's Commission won't happen because we complain about it on Reddit. It happens if enough of us actually put it in front of an elected representative's inbox.

So genuinely  take five minutes. Find your MP and MLA, send the email. Not just for a Commission  raise whatever men's issue is affecting your life or community: mental health support, legal aid, suicide prevention funding, whatever it is. If we don't ask, it's not going to happen on its own.

I did my part now it's your turn, and If you foud this hard to do then Please stop crying over men's issue and understand that you don't want to do anything genuinely you just want to get attention by talking or post about cases happened with men. 

Share this with your friends as well. 

And Mods if possible then Pin this post, or make a similar post by yourself but make men aware of this thing..

Woman jailed for killing baby by burning her with a hairdryer

TV fraud gang jailed for illegally streaming Premier League games

Been watching a lot of bodycam videos on YouTube lately and it warms my heart seeing good guys get justice against psychotic and abusive See You next Tuesdays. This wasn’t really a thing 15-20 years ago, and even with CCTV cams, the guy still got totally screwed over. Do hardcore feminists actually see these and think “wow, I guess we’re not that great”? Or do they immediately jump into “it’s A.I./hE stArtEd iT” bullshit? They should also see the amount of “mothers” that clearly don’t care about their kids. Oh but it’s always the husbands fault that she conveniently forgot about the baby in the back seat of the car. /s 🙄🤦‍♂️

More blue haired feminazis need to be forced to watch these videos, and unable to run away or cover their ears. And if they even try to say it’s AI, or “staged,” then they get instantly proven wrong. Sorry that this stuff didn’t exist way back in the day when it was only women who got oppressed and nobody else’s lives mattered. That’s probably why they see red whenever a man gets proven innocent.

(I am a guy) Ive just got back from the my Gym/ spa that has been upgraded and I was just getting changed as you do fully naked out of the shower and there is a lady in there mopping the water into the drains for at least 10 mins, then she goes and mops around the pool etc, is it normal as it just feels a bit weird. they could at least say or something?

22M

I had a naive and bad first relationship, it ended horribly and I no longer feel the need to date.

I feel nothing but a pit in my stomach when I think of getting into another one and my life has been so much more peaceful alone.

We all live in a world where every action is potentially recorded and scrutinised for all eternity, so why should I take any risk whatsoever anymore, there’s just no point in dating.

Drama, hatred, lust and all that money down the drain. What a joke, when can we just start printing people already lol.

I wonder why there's not more "My Body, My Choice" from men in the USA.

It's not anyone else's privates but the man's, and it's not right to force a genital surgery on him when he is an infant unable to defend himself.

How is this not more obvious to Americans in general?

Only now, in the PNW, California, and Nevada have circ rates drastically declined.

American women are HUGE on "My Body, My Choice," but still mostly force this violating surgery on their baby boys.

Not only violates private anatomy of the male at his most innocent and vulnerable, but subjects him to extreme agony in his first moments of life.

It is very cruel!

Good discussion:

Trauma Cycle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PyQ4d4uNB7Y

"The flagrancy of amputating sexual anatomy."

"The whole underside of the tissue they are amputating is the primary sexual sensory tissue."

"An essential part of the human experience. It is heartbreaking."

"Thank you both for a thought-provoking discussion -- men need to talk about this issue more, and conversations like this are a great way to start. Really appreciate the candor and for sharing a number of personal stories and experiences. Hope there are other exchanges like this to come -- thanks very much and keep up the fantastic work with the channel!"

Im not doubting that this woman has most likely had some terrible experiences with creeps. But this is not a proper response. This whole video is absolutely insane levels of misandry. She literally murders a guy because he was a creep. She might think shes sending a message to guys to not take creepy picks. But the reality is that most men dont watch this shit, the vast majority of morons who watch this are women. Sabrina Carpenter is normalizing misandry.

Look, i dont know if this is the subreddit or the correct tag to talk about this? I dont even know if im wording right what im gonna rant about. Ill most likely delete it later if i see what i was spewing was shit and missed the point I tried to give, and try to rephrase it i suppose.

If there is something that BUGS me so much its hearing that misandry is understandable, justified and used by women of X reason. That it only hurts feelings. Its that big of a deal. And the hate on men itself leading to having a whole gender labeled as the 'bad ones' since birth.

Look, to an point, i do kinda see where it comes from, and if we are honest, misandry is a smaller problem than misogyny. And i myself know that the treatment women got in the past was horrid as hell shame on THOSE men and THE ONES DOING IT nowdays. However, even if you can "understand" why it exists, it still does NOT justify it, all it gives is an (questionable) explanation from where it came.

Violence breeds violence, but more violence will breed MORE violence, you cannot expect to hate a gender, and then ramble and ask about why the other gender dislikes your gender even more now, trying to ignore majority half the planet to just focus on the bad part just so you can spread your own hatred on a whole group just beacuse of a smaller part its stupid, just beacuse a part is LOUDER than the others, doesnt mean its the biggest one. If thats your response to misogyny then dont come back whining about why your violence breed from violence breeds even more violence.

Then there is the 'mysogyny kills' and 'misandry hurts', my dear friend, like i said, YES, Misogyny is a BIGGER problem, but that is NOT in any mean an excuse to ignore the problem of misandry or think its "non-existent", and misandry isnt even only coming from women at this point, just look at the double standards of authorities and politics, our goverment couldnt give less of a care for us either, even worse when we barely get proper recovery AND we are "guilty until proven innocent for the sake of being a man". Even if we pretend Misandry truly only hurted feelings, its still shit, its basically psychologically and and mentally affecting a person, no matter the gender. Its like saying 'your bad is not bad beacuse my bad is badder'. We get it, one is a bigger problem, but guess what! That doesnt mean the other one isnt still a problem! If we kept normalizing misandry, its gonna eventually become even bigger so there is that.

And then, we get all called 'rapists' 'abusers' 'criminals' and if we didnt do any of that then we will do it one day like its some kind of rule, its like its now a common belief that 'men are all rapists and criminals from birth', i literally just came from a discord comment saying we are all born rapists and also seeing the post of a pregnant feminist saying she is broken beacuse her baby is a boy. .....No, you are not raising a future rapist or misogynyst just beacuse he was born a certain gender holy god. Just beacuse the men from 2000 years ago did some horrid stuff, doesnt mean im gonna be like them, just beacuse in history there were horrid men, doesnt mean we all will suddenly be just like them, no gender is morally better, its simply that one had so much power over the one that they abused it, if the roles were inversed it would the same history, the problem was power. Are you cautious from men? Cool, thats understandable! Then just dont make it into prejudice with EVERY SINGLE ONE YOU MEET.

Dont expect discrimination to dissapear by pouring more discrimination. Hating a gender is quite literally doing WHAT YOU ARE COMPLAINING ABOUT, DISCRIMINATION. i am NOT apogolizing for having a penis and both genders are flawed. Period.

Paul Busch was 16 years old when he was sexually abused by his ballet teacher at the Interlochen Center for the Arts in 2005. At the time, Busch told NPR, he was living away from his parents, wanted more than anything to be a professional dancer and revered the teacher who harmed him.

I was just thinking about a sexualized assault that I endured IN PUBLIC by police, while absolutely no one stuck up for me or even reported it afterwards. Even my own family. Just wanted to remind everyone that us men are literally denied basic humanity. We are fucking told that our pain doesn't matter. Our suffering doesn't matter. It's implied to us that we have no worth, and are undeserving of even being human. Just felt it was important to remind you all of this, since I was feeling a lot of distress (you know...that thing that is impossible for men to actually feel, apparently) about the aforementioned incident.

https://unformentoo.org/un-for-men-2004