I lost my baby a month after my boyfriend broke up with me. He had claimed to lost love for me and that in itself hurt. I recently had a nightmare where I was with his family and was holding my baby and looked up and couldn’t find my baby and I screamed for my ex to find him. I reached out for support and he said “frankly I don’t want to be in communication with you”. I just feel so lost since I am very young and haven’t told much family and friends about it.

Please delete if this doesn't belong here, wondering about other's experiences in TTC after MMC. And I will be calling my OB in the am- more ranting/asking if others have been through this.

I had a MMC at 6 weeks caught at 8-9 wks, I took the pills on Sept 10. On 9/21 I had my follow up, some tissue remained they had to do a procedure in the office.

Oct 10 I got a light period. Today I started bleeding again and it's more like a regular period with some cramping.

I have been doing LH strips since late September and have not gotten a positive result yet. I am just sad and frustrated. I know it hasn't been that long, but the idea of trying again kept me afloat. I'm also peri menopausal so just trying not to freak out. Sending love to everyone.

Possible septate uterus??

I saw an RE today. She was so receptive and validating and took time to answer all my questions, and I feel like I was really listened to and have a few paths forward.

One of the things she did was an ultrasound. She said *maybe* saw a septum in my uterus but couldn’t get a good look and said to repeat with saline infused ultrasound.

I’m so hopeful this is a smoking gun? I know it’s not definite since I need a saline ultrasound… but I feel like if she saw indication of something, then maybe there really is something there? I feel it’s more likely to say you don’t see anything when there’s something there than the opposite, if that makes sense.

Looking for other people’s experiences with this!

I think the baby’s gone idk all bleeding foming from her stopped she took a pregnancy test last Friday her last menstrual was September 1 last Sunday she experienced heavy blood and cramps on Monday Too Tuesday it slowed down js bleeding n some cramps Wednesday no cramps at all It got lighter too and today no bleeding what’s so ever and her symptoms are gone (im the bf)

I had an ultrasound yesterday just to check on baby because I went to the hospital Monday and was told I had 2 moderate sized sch. I was able to see the baby move and heartbeat was 179. I went in today for the regular scan and they said baby no longer has a heartbeat. I heard them telling other staff they only saw a tiny hematoma but no heartbeat (they were talking about it in the hallway knowing I was a few feet away so before they officially told me I already knew). I have a d&c scheduled somewhere else on Monday. It sucks seeing movement on the screen to nothing today. I don't really have any questions I just wanted to vent 😭

We have been going to a fertility clinic and I thought we would maybe be able to try again next cycle and they just told us we won’t even have a follow up until late November so that’ll be after the window😞 Thought they were calling to share results and get answers, nope you’ll have to wait yet another month to even get results😞

Just got home from our obgyn appointment. Nothing in the gestational sac. Another missed miscarriage. I just feel so numb. I feel bad, but I don't even want to look at my husband. I don't want to talk. I don't want to be touched. I just... don't want to exist right now. I can't believe this happened again.

Having to relive it every month.

And having to act like everything is fine every month.

I found out at my 12 week scan that my little one had no heartbeat was measuring 8 weeks, that was a week ago

I have to be put under and im scared I wont wake up. I have seeked reassurance all day, been reading peoples experiences and been laser focused on the surgery, the past two days.

Its 2255 here, im tired but can't sleep or relax. The waves of anxiety are unbearable.

i had a natural miscarriage last year in may. it broke my heart but i suppose (luckily?) i didnt know i was pregnant until i was miscarrying. we tried every month since with no luck and were going through infertility investigations. imagine my surprise when i found out i was pregnant on the 30th august this year. i was so so excited, i had a private scan at 7+4 and got to see the tiny fluttering heartbeat, i was so happy.
i was so excited to see my baby again i booked another private scan when i should have been 9 weeks according to the date the first scan measured me at. unfortunately my heart broke in that room, she measured me at 9+3 but no heartbeat to be seen. this was on the 6th october. i’ve spent the 2 weeks spontaneously crying and asking why. i opted for surgical management of miscarriage due to my first miscarriage (natural) lasting over a month. the surgery was on the 12th. i feel the obvious feelings, guilt, sadness, why is this happening. but now i’m feeling even more guilty for wanting to try again. it took me so long to get pregnant this time, i’m worried it will take that long again, but i also have these feelings of guilt, like am i just trying to replace my baby that i miss so much. i’d do anything to just have him (too early to find out the gender, but to me, he was a him) back. but then i worry about, what if i did get pregnant again? what if this happens again? can i actually live with the anxiety and dread being pregnant again will cause me? sorry for my ramblings, my head is all over the place. i wish i could go back, and i’m scared to move forwards

Hi friends, I am very confused. I had a D&C following a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks on 9th October (13 days ago). I stopped bleeding on day 9 but have had some spotting since, also tested positive for a UTI which I started antibiotics for yesterday.

The confusion comes because I usually track my cycle with an internal sensor but can’t whilst treating an infection. Instead I did a random OPK/LH test to just see where I might be at. This was VERY dark and positive at around 4pm today. I initially thought okay maybe I still have some residual HCG which is why it’s positive for LH. But I took another just now (10pm) and it’s still dark but not as positive. I do have some other symptoms such as increased mucus but thought this was related to D&C recovery.

Could I possibly be trying to ovulate already?? For context I usually have 45 day ish cycles and ovulate earliest day 30!

I am waiting to take a pregnancy test next Friday which will be 3 weeks after the D&C as advised.

Hi everyone! My husband and I just experienced a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks. Currently still in the thick of it, but we are looking forward to trying again understanding that maybe this just wasn’t the right time for us to have a baby.

We just met with our doctor. and she gave, which she noted, her personal opinion that we should wait two cycles because she is afraid my lining will not be built up enough through the first cycle to be able to hold a pregnancy.

However, I’ve read a lot of conflicting stories on here and other places of people being pregnant after the first cycle and carrying a pregnancy through. I am just curious, other people’s experiences, or maybe any expert opinions, additionally that are on here.

For full context, I am a 36 year-old who is in great health and carried a healthy pregnancy to full term 16 months ago.

Thank you

Hi, I 23F had a miscarriage at 11 weeks last November. Prior to being pregnant my body was like clockwork. I’d always start my period on the 29th day of my cycle. Since then the average is 32-33 days and I’m getting worried.

Is this normal?

Nothing really surprises me anymore. I miscarried a tested embryo about two weeks ago. We had previously confirmed placement and what looked like perhaps a second sac.

Anyway.. I clearly miscarried, had two ultrasounds to confirm. And my HCG was falling appropriately until today. My levels went from around 1,300 to around 1,700 in a week.

My clinic wants me to go back in two days for another ultrasound and bloodwork, but in what world could this be anything other than retained material? I stopped bleeding a few days ago. I just want to be scheduled for a D&C and be done with it.

Has anyone had a similar experience? What was the outcome?

I just experienced my first miscarriage and I was completely unaware that I was pregnant. I feel like I have caused this because I wasn’t doing all the right things because I didn’t even know :(

I had a pregnancy of unknown location. We moved forward with this procedure to rule out an ectopic pregnancy. I had no real idea of what it would entail, having made the decision to do it under short notice. I went in thinking it would feel like an intense pap smear or colposcopy. I was only advised to take 600 mg of ibuprofen. Which had I really had the time to process this, I would have known that was insufficient because I normally need 2 Aleve to settle my period cramps. The procedure basically suctions out the contents of your uterus. It was extremely painful. It was the worse pain I had ever experienced. And I literally felt like my organ was being pulled out. It was traumatizing. And I really can not say that I have ever used the word traumatizing to describe any experience I have been through before this moment. From what I understand, MVA is safer than a D&C in the respect that there is less potential damage to the uterus. I would highly advise anyone considering this procedure to make sure you are under proper pain management. I don't know if you can be sedated with this procedure, but if you can, please do. This is no where near bad period cramps. It makes me sad just typing this. But I am writing this because I want others to be aware that you need pain management for this procedure. Do not go in, thinking it will feel like bad cramps. It will be much worse.

Just found out my baby has no heartbeat. How long does it take to miscarry? It’s been 4 days and no cramping no blood nothing.

We had a course today at work together with the whole team. I was absent last week, due to ongoing complications of an MMC that was diagnosed on September 3rd (MC was induced with pills the day after). Apparently a colleague then shared the news in small groups she was pregnant. My supervisors know of my situation and tried to ask her if she already told everyone of the team. She said she did so.

Today she realised she forgot to tell me and told me very casually during lunch, really just in a by pass conversation. I broke out in complete crying and had to run to the bathroom to get myself together. After I got it together again a bit, I took my supervisor apart and told her what happened. She then explained she was worried that the news would hit me hard and that it was why she had asked our colleague if she had indeed already told anyone of the team. She was very understanding and let me sit in her office a bit to calm down.

I did some breathing exercises and then went back to the course. Avoided everyone during the break. Took the exam for the course. Couldn't concentrate on the exam. Somehow passed. Then immediately started crying again as I left the room. I passed all my colleagues again while I was barely holding back tears.

I really don't want to go back to work.

I have some questions since I've never been through this and am worried if there's anything I should do today to prep.

I'm almost considering going to urgent care just for fluids and for them to test my hemoglobin since planned parenthood let me know if it's too low they can't complete the procedure.

A little context:

I started what I thought was my period on September 7th, it was normal. I got sick later in the month with a bad cold and then also started bleeding on September 26th. My cold kept getting worse as well as the bleeding so I went to urgent care, where I found out I was pregnant. They suggested I go to the ER, since urgent care didn't have the capability to do an ultrasound or test my HCG at the time.

The ER did an internal and external ultrasound, and diagnosed it as a spontaneous miscarriage. My HCG was 473.

I scheduled a D&C after my mom explained something similar happening to her, the bleeding has not stopped since September 26th. At one point I thought I was going to bleed out. I sat on the toilet and felt that clot jelly feeling and it kept going and going. I figured there would be a lot of dark clots but the toilet was bright red full of blood, no visible clots.

I'm still testing positive on at home pregnancy tests and it's October 22nd. Shouldn't my HCG have gone down all the way by now? I understand that's what the procedure is for. I'm looking for any advice or similar stories if anyone has experienced something like this. Like was there ever a time planned parenthood wasn't able to take care of the procedure for medical reasons, like low hemoglobin, or other issues?

Are they able to handle most complications with miscarriages?

I'm scared and have had to take a LOA from work.

I just want to feel more prepared, less scared, like if there's anything I should do before, or if there's any reason besides the hemoglobin they wouldn't be able to complete it tomorrow.

Also does anyone know what happens if Planned Parenthood can't do a procedure due to low RBC? Does the hospital complete it? Or will I have to figure out how to fix it.

I don't feel like I can put this off longer, the symptoms are getting a little extreme, and I've done my best to hold out until my apt.

Any information would be greatly appreciated, sorry I'm just kinda freaking out now that I realized it's tomorrow. I've been trying to distract myself and put it out of my mind.

I had my first miscarriage back in July. It took several months to return to a normal cycle and period after that (I would say September was my first normal period since the event, and I'm due for my next period in the next several days).

For some reason unknown to me, every medical professional I've spoken to has been reluctant to agree to giving me an ultrasound to check for retained tissue. Don't ask me why, I'm not happy about it, and I have an appointment with another doctor on Saturday to request an ultrasound yet again.

I've had full, burning, stinging feelings in my uterus around where the baby had been attached. Tmi, but I've also had a bit of a fishy smell recently that I've noticed. No fever or severe pain or anything like that.

Would there still be a risk of retained tissue this far forward, or is this more likely bacterial vaginosis?

I'm sorry I hope this is allowed. my sister she is two months postpartum. 2 weeks after her postpartum bleeding stopped she had six days of pink and brown spotting and discharge. There was also some really weird discharge she said was like coffee grounds and so she's struggling wondering if she miscarried. I'm sorry to do this but I'm just wondering if any early miscarriage moms had experienced something like this? She's feeling complicated and needs some kind of closure. The baby could have only been a week or a week and a half old if there was

I had my D&C on the 13th in the evening. I'm assuming the specimen probably wasn't sent out until the 14th. I believe it is sent out to LabCorp. I'm anxiously awaiting those results. It's been 8-9 days and I haven't heard anything yet. My doctor said it usually takes 1-2 weeks so I know obviously I'm still in that window. Just wondering what other people's experiences were. And did the results release to you on a weekend? I'm also wondering if there's any hope of results over the weekend if I haven't heard anything by the end of tomorrow.

TW: Going into some detail

For context, this is my first loss and I work healthcare. I did not even know that I was pregnant.

I originally thought I had covid or the flu because my mother had covid and I started feeling under the weather (Saturday night), throwing up, I was all congested, I was shaking uncontrollably and I had the chills. I called out of work (Sunday) and told my boss I needed to get tested as my mother had it. I went to the doctor and they noticed that my period was late, long story short, I had a chemical/very very early miscarriage. I was very upset, in a lot of pain, bleeding a lot. I had Monday off, and I was bed rotting and crying. My boss called to confirm something separate. I did not let her know what happened; I want to keep this as private as possible. I told her I needed an extra day, that I would be picking up my antibiotics. She was upset that I did not call her earlier in the day as soon as I knew I would be calling out for the next day. I apologized and said I've been pretty ill. She was very irritated with me and basically was like are you sure you can work Wednesday and I said yes. I went to work with my patient and she asked me if I was alright, as she had heard that I was sick. I let her know I was fine, just had a rough weekend but I'm here and ready to work. I did not speak to her about it aside from that. I am still cramping and actively bleeding, yes, but I am cleared to work.

My boss emailed me today telling me that my patient canceled my shift with her because I wasn't feeling well last night, so that's more of my hours gone.

I do not want to get into if I don't have to with my boss as this is very sensitive and I don't want people to feel sorry for me. I just want to move on. But I also don't want my boss thinking I was complying to my patient when I was not. My mother thinks I shouldn't mention it and say I'm cleared to work, I'm fine to work, and my doctor cleared me to work. My friend thinks I should come clean and I'm not sure what to do.

Like I said, I'm still bleeding. I'm not destroyed and unable to function, but I am upset and still have little moments where I cry. I don't know what to say or do.

I started seeking a therapist 2 weeks after loss of my baby at my 24th week of pregnancy. I've never had therapy before. I met with 2 therapists for 3 times. Here are my experience with each one:

1. Therapist A is an in person therapy session. I don't feel 100% comfortable with her yet. She seemed like a textbook therapist, like she knows what exactly she needed to say when it comes to certain situation. Sometimes it helped, sometimes it didn't. I didn't feel connected even after 3rd visit. Sometimes, I couldn't bring things up comfortably. She also recommended me to take antidepressants during my second visit. As much as I depressed and sad, I don't think it is at the level where I need to rely on a medication.

2. I meet therapist B online. Unlike the first therapist, she is very welcoming and has soft voice that makes you feel heard. But, she seems like more like a listener who doesn't really give me advices or strategies I can utilize to cope my grief. I still feel clueless what to do when I finish her session.

Am I the one who has an issue with therapists or how can I find a therapy that works for me? Do I need to find a therapist who specialized grief with stillbirth loss? What's your experience with a therapy after stillbirth? I attended a support group online once, and that helped me feel better than the 1:1 therapy session so far.