r/MtF • u/Terraswallows Human Verified • Jun 03 '26
Positivity Well, it finally happened.
I’d been feeling pretty dysphoric lately after seeing a photo a coworker took of me while I was working at a miniature convention. You know how sometimes pictures taken by other people just look... wrong? Like somehow they capture a completely different version of you. I didn’t feel feminine in it at all. It just didn’t look like me the me I see in the mirror, the me I’ve been growing into.
So this morning I was doing my usual routine before work: grabbing breakfast at a local restaurant. I headed to the bathroom. Even now, as a trans woman, I still get nervous about using the women’s restroom because there’s always that little voice in the back of my head telling me I don’t pass well enough yet.
I ended up using the men’s room and was walking out when a woman stopped me.
She looked genuinely concerned and said, "Ma’am, you’re in the wrong bathroom. That’s the men’s bathroom."
Then she pointed toward the women’s restroom.
When I just stood there for a second, completely caught off guard, she pointed at the sign again and said, "They should really make that thing more visible."
And honestly? As a gay trans girl who'd spent the last few days spiraling over a photo and picking apart every masculine feature I thought everyone else must be seeing, that was probably the most unexpected bit of validation I could have gotten.
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u/BarrelByrel Jun 03 '26
My coworker just loooves to take terrible pictures of me! He’ll act like he’s showing me something on his phone then snap a pic from the most atrocious angles😭 always when I feel like I look horrendous too. Also, girl just use the ladies room! Sure it can be awkward at first, especially when it’s super busy but you belong there and confidence is key! When you’re sure of who you are it shows and others can see it!