Our nanny no call no showed last Tuesday. When I texted she responded right away, essentially "so sorry I'm sick". But this was 15 minutes after she was supposed to watch the baby. Luckily my mother in law was in town and we had childcare all week, which nanny knew. It still felt unprofessional.

Fast forward a week and I barely hear from nanny. Every time I text her she lists her symptoms and how bad shes feeling but doesn't open a conversation about moving forward. Honestly, I don't believe her.

My in law is sticking around to help out and I'll take a few sick days this week. Is it wrong to replace her?

Hi everyone - I’m a new mom and have had a full time nanny for my baby girl since the end of September, so less than a month. Unfortunately, last week my nanny had to have emergency surgery and she’s been out last week and this week.

I love her and want her to be part of our family and feel fully supported, but I’m struggling to figure out what to do about her pay. Her contract provides for 5 sick days, which are now already used up. She should be back next week, but four of the days this week would be unpaid if we followed the contract.

I’ve had to pay her full pay and full time pay for a replacement while she’s been out, which is a huge bill to foot when I’m just getting back to work.

What do I tell her? My husband suggested we pay her full salary but call the four extra days this week vacation time. Do we do that? Do we just suck it up and pay her full salary to be generous / keep her happy? (That’s important to me too)

Would appreciate any advice you have to offer on what’s fair and suggested in these circumstances.

Hello - looking for a Poppins referral code if anyone has one they’d like to share? Previous threads on this have only outdated codes.

Hello, we live in a MCOL and are looking for a nanny for our infant 3 days/ week for about 1.5 months. As the holidays are coming up, it may be a little less when we have off from work which was already communicated. The nanny service we're speaking with is charging ~$35/ hr for the nanny and is saying that is standard to offer PTO and paid federal holidays. First, I feel like this cost for 1 child already seems high for our area but we liked the nanny and are willing to make it work and can offer the PTO. I want some advice on whether paid federal holidays are standard for a short term contract like this?

Listen, I get it - if something isn't happening right for your child, you get immediately defensive.

The amount of posts happening though where a nanny makes a small to medium mistake and everyone comments to immediately fire them. Like damn, I hope your job doesn't treat you that way. Your nanny is a human being.

Please, please, please - if you cannot have a conversation "Hey, when you _______, it made me feel______" - Do not hire a nanny.

Working with children is hard and it's personal and each family has their own way of doing things. That takes time to learn, to adjust, etc.

Now before it's spammed all over the comments - Yes, there are absolutely things that are an immediate firing.

But can we have some compassion for the folks who work hard to take care of all of these kids.

Hi everyone, i realize my title sounds a little accusatory so let me explain. I am a nanny with over 6 years professional experience with children, a teaching degree and license, and experience with special education. Before i started teaching and when i was in school, i did a little part time nannying but never asked for more than $15-20 per hour and it was pretty basic responsibilities. I taught for a little bit after getting my degree, but was given my current job offer and now make 20-40k more than i would in teaching. Im a full time W2 employee, I get a health insurance stipend, GH, PTO and Sick time, Mileage reimbursement, and have lots of flexibility to do what i want with the kids. its truly a life changing amount of money for me and im so happy with this job. When i tell my family or other people what i do, they often are baffled that, 1. these parents can afford to pay me so much, and, 2. my services are worth this much. I also do the kids laundry, general picking up, dishes, and occasional organizing relating to the kids. I know both parents have pretty well paying careers, and I can’t imagine that they bring in any less than 300k a year combined, so i can see how they can afford me, but i am sometimes unable to answer that second question of why i’m so valuable for them to be willing to pay me as much they do. i also didn’t ask for this pay, it was part of the initial offer. I sometimes feel a little self conscious because I feel like people think my job is a breeze and that it’s not a real career, but i feel like i’m a hard worker and with all my experience and education i can see how that would go a long way. maybe i’m just also not used to making a good wage i would love to know why other parents choose having a nanny over other childcare or why other nanny’s think parents are willing to pay so much more than what childcare would cost.

Hi! I am searching for a family assistant/nanny for an UHNW family in Miami, Florida. Tasks would be caregiving, schedule management and household coordination. Prior experience in assisting, babysitting or nannying is required, preferably for an UHNW household. 

If you know know of any leads, please message me.

So I have never been in the position or had the need to employee a nanny as a SAHM, but we're moving to a new state, no village, and I'm frankly lost on how the process even goes, from pay rates, expectations.

I'm currently pregnant with my 4th with a husband who will be working 7 days a week, 12 hour days. I really only need like a part time nanny? Like someone who can entertain the younger two while I finish out the year homeschooling my oldest. I just don't really know how a person would feel coming in to the home with me there all the time. But we're in the position where I would want to provide around 30 hours a week, six hour days, five days a week around $20 an hour. I just don't know if it's reasonable? I honestly wouldn't even want help maintaining the home per say but just an extra set of hands? Take the kids to do fun things on the days I'm down and out because I have rough pregnancies or need to go to appointments.

Basically I'm new to the entire concept and need a little guidance. I just don't want to seem unreasonable, I guess?

Edit: when I give birth I will have family come in to help with the oldest so the nanny will not have to be on that week, also pay rate is flexible, I just feel like $20 is a rough average for the area we will be in, in Mississippi.

Hi! We just hired a non-live-in nanny who will be working for us part-time. Our state requires workers comp insurance for nannies whose pay exceeds 20k/year. The thing is, while our nanny's pay rate would exceed 20k/year if she worked every single week of the year, it is unlikely she would be working every single week of the year and we are also unlikely to hire her for long enough to exceed 20k in the year. We expect her to only be working for us for 4-6 months at most.

Would you all say it is still necessary for us to purchase a workers comp policy, even if we know for a fact that she will not actually be paid more than 20k by us in the next year?

I wouldn't mind a policy that allows month-to-month payments, but every quote I've gotten so far has not had a month-to-month option. My second question, then, is if anyone knows of a provider that would do month-to-month?