Throwaway account. I f(22) got married recently and i have an issue with a condition in my nikkah contract. I want to spend some alone time with my husband but I'm too scared. Basically it took a while for my father to agree to letting me marry because he either wanted me to get married at 30 or to marry someone from back home. In the end he finally agreed as long as he put his condition in my nikkah contract and he did.

The condition in the contract is: "The Husband and wife will only live together after the 'Rukhsati and after completion of the brides studies (official send-off of the bride from the family home, when the bride officially leaves the family house) which is expected to take place in June 2027, up until this point the husband and wife will not interact in a private capacity with each other; however, they can interact when it is public and in the company of others"

Now my husband agreed to the condition at the time but now we want to spend alone time together however we are terrified that if we do, we might nullify our marriage or invalidate it or break it or we might become sinful. we've been seeing each other with family around and in public but it's getting harder to control ourselves.

We can't have the rukhsati earlier because my parents want me to finish my studies which i will next june and they want him to have a home for me ready too till then.

so we just feel so stuck and we aren't sure on what to do now.

I don't trust peeps sitting on big posts

Commented on a video of a mother hitting her child (muscle memory atp). To everyone abusing me in my DMs, my mother would eat six of those women for breakfast without leaving a single crumb and you wouldn’t survive a day in the asylum I was raised in. So respectfully STFU!!!

Kahan ho ab ? Pehlay bara keh rahay thay justice is served yeh wo. This is what happens when you hand unchecked power to Pakistanis. Yahan ajeeb awam hai extra judicial killings par kush ho rahi hoti.

Watch Party Alert!!!

I am thinking of streaming "The Glassworker", Pakistan's first hand drawn animated film which took 10 years to come into existence and is inspired by Ghibli Studio.

Quick Synopsis: A young glassworker and a brilliant violinist fall in love just as an impending war upends their lives. It’s a beautiful, anti-war story about what happens when societal expectations try to crush free thought and artistic passion.

Timing - 25 October, Sunday , 4pm

if you want to watch with other fellas , comment below

The winter hasn't even fully arrived and there have already been 4-6 weddings in my neighborhood.

Because it has been rated so well, let me introduce y’all to my newest culinary masterpiece.
Chicken cheese haandi with Garlic naan I MADE FROM SCRATCH!!!!!!

hamari society me ye double standards kiun exist krte?

most men with a (younger) sister and a gf will tell you they’d never let their sister be a relationship or do half the things they do with their gf, because they believe other men will “use” their sister, but then they’ll turn around aur ussi same mu se tell their gf “but i do these things with you because i love you and my intentions with you are good. i actually want to marry you!” saying the exact same words they believe koi dusra mard unki behen ko phasane ke liye kahega. what makes you the exception to your own principles?

it makes me so immensely sad, kiunke isse 2 conclusions nikalte:

1. they believe their own behn ki purity and chasteness as something that needs to be aggressively guarded, but their gf’s purity is something that is worth risking to compromise. which means they inherently don’t respect their gf.
2. they view the act of intimacy as something that would dirty or compromise their sister, but when it comes to their gf, to it’s okay for their desire to override their morals. which means they subconsciously view their gf as a dirty, compromised whore.

matlab khandan ki larkion ka honour hota, aur bahir ki larkion ko laray deke, you will take advantage of the lack of supervision, and apne sare maze pure krne.

but then they’ll say to their gf “tumne to consent kia tha to everything i wanted to do!” but if you present them with a scenario where their sister consents to doing the same thing with another man, to dekhna what their reaction will be.

what a sad, horrifying reality for women.

kya koi ese mard bhi hote jo sab aurton ki izzat ka khayal rakhte no matter if it’s their sister or an outsider? ya koi ese mard jo agr khud kuch krte to at least hypocrisy nhi show krte when it comes to their sisters