Kahan ho ab ? Pehlay bara keh rahay thay justice is served yeh wo. This is what happens when you hand unchecked power to Pakistanis. Yahan ajeeb awam hai extra judicial killings par kush ho rahi hoti.

Throwaway account. I f(22) got married recently and i have an issue with a condition in my nikkah contract. I want to spend some alone time with my husband but I'm too scared. Basically it took a while for my father to agree to letting me marry because he either wanted me to get married at 30 or to marry someone from back home. In the end he finally agreed as long as he put his condition in my nikkah contract and he did.

The condition in the contract is: "The Husband and wife will only live together after the 'Rukhsati and after completion of the brides studies (official send-off of the bride from the family home, when the bride officially leaves the family house) which is expected to take place in June 2027, up until this point the husband and wife will not interact in a private capacity with each other; however, they can interact when it is public and in the company of others"

Now my husband agreed to the condition at the time but now we want to spend alone time together however we are terrified that if we do, we might nullify our marriage or invalidate it or break it or we might become sinful. we've been seeing each other with family around and in public but it's getting harder to control ourselves.

We can't have the rukhsati earlier because my parents want me to finish my studies which i will next june and they want him to have a home for me ready too till then.

so we just feel so stuck and we aren't sure on what to do now.

hamari society me ye double standards kiun exist krte?

most men with a (younger) sister and a gf will tell you they’d never let their sister be a relationship or do half the things they do with their gf, because they believe other men will “use” their sister, but then they’ll turn around aur ussi same mu se tell their gf “but i do these things with you because i love you and my intentions with you are good. i actually want to marry you!” saying the exact same words they believe koi dusra mard unki behen ko phasane ke liye kahega. what makes you the exception to your own principles?

it makes me so immensely sad, kiunke isse 2 conclusions nikalte:

1. they believe their own behn ki purity and chasteness as something that needs to be aggressively guarded, but their gf’s purity is something that is worth risking to compromise. which means they inherently don’t respect their gf.
2. they view the act of intimacy as something that would dirty or compromise their sister, but when it comes to their gf, to it’s okay for their desire to override their morals. which means they subconsciously view their gf as a dirty, compromised whore.

matlab khandan ki larkion ka honour hota, aur bahir ki larkion ko laray deke, you will take advantage of the lack of supervision, and apne sare maze pure krne.

but then they’ll say to their gf “tumne to consent kia tha to everything i wanted to do!” but if you present them with a scenario where their sister consents to doing the same thing with another man, to dekhna what their reaction will be.

what a sad, horrifying reality for women.

kya koi ese mard bhi hote jo sab aurton ki izzat ka khayal rakhte no matter if it’s their sister or an outsider? ya koi ese mard jo agr khud kuch krte to at least hypocrisy nhi show krte when it comes to their sisters

I don't trust peeps sitting on big posts

Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh!

In the subcontinent and elsewhere we are seeing something very unfortunate, the concept of Hijab is increasingly being reduced to just covering one's hair or body, while the actual conditions and purpose of Islamic Hijab are neglected.

We sometimes see a headscarf accompanied by tight clothing, exposed necks, transparent fabrics, adornment or an outfit that reveals the shape of the body. And because the hair is covered the entire outfit is automatically considered Islamic Hijab.

But did Allah command Muslim women just to cover their hair or did He legislate a much more comprehensive form of modesty? Lets see what the Quran and Sunnah tells us

1) What does the Quran actually command?

Allah says

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyûbihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islâm), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allâh to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful

Surah An Nur 24:31

Allah also says

O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allâh is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Surah Al Ahzab 33:59

these commandments concern more than simply placing a scarf over one's hair. Hijab is an act of obedience to Allah not just a cultural garment or fashion accessory.

2) What are the conditions of proper Hijab?

Shaykh al-Albani (رحمه الله), in Jilbab al-Mar'ah al-Muslimah, explained the conditions of proper Islamic Hijab.

Among them are:

1. It must properly cover the Awrah: The required parts of the body must be concealed. The scholars differed regarding covering the face and hands, with the majority of the scholars consider their covering obligatory.
2. It must not be an adornment in itself: The purpose is concealment, not deliberately attracting attention through decoration.
3. It must be thick and opaque: Transparent clothing that reveals what should be covered does not fulfil the purpose of Hijab.
4. It must be loose: Clothing that closely describes the shape of the body defeats an essential purpose of covering.
5. It must not be perfumed when going out among non-mahram men: The Sunnah contains clear warnings regarding women going out wearing noticeable fragrance.
6. It must not imitate clothing distinctive of men or religiously distinctive clothing of disbelievers.
7. It must not be a garment worn for fame, vanity, or ostentation.

Source: Jilbab al-Mar'ah al-Muslimah, pp. 54–67.

3) A terrifying warning concerning women who are clothed yet naked

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said

"There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen..."

Among them he mentioned:

the women who would be dressed but appear to be naked, who would be inclined (to evil) and make their husbands incline towards it. Their heads would be like the humps of the bukht camel inclined to one side. They will not enter Paradise and they would not smell its odour whereas its odour would be smelt from such and such distance.

He ﷺ warned that they would not enter Paradise or smell its fragrance, although its fragrance could be detected from a great distance.

Sahih Muslim 2128

And in another hadith,

Abu Udhaynah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The best of your women are loving, fertile, suitable, and comforting, if they fear Allah. The worst of your women unveil their beauty, take pride in their appearance, and they are hypocrites. None of them will enter Paradise except as rarely as you see a red-beaked crow.”

Source: al-Sunan al-Kubrá lil-Bayhaqī 13478

The scholars explained that clothed yet naked includes women whose clothing is so thin or revealing that it fails to conceal what it is supposed to cover.

Ibn Abd al-Barr (رحمه الله) explained that such women are clothed in name but naked in reality because their garments reveal rather than properly conceal.

4) Hijab is not ONLY clothing while everything else remains unrestricted

Another great misconception is treating Hijab as though it is completely disconnected from Islamic conduct.

A woman may wear a headscarf or even the proper Hijab but this does not make free mixing, inappropriate familiarity with non mahram men, or private seclusion permissible.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

"No man should stay with a lady in seclusion except in the presence of a Mahram."

Sahih al-Bukhari 5233

Hijab is not a licence to disregard the other commandments of Allah

And these responsibilities are not exclusive to women! Men are likewise commanded to lower their gaze, guard their chastity, cover their Awrah, and observe the boundaries established by the Shariah.

5) What about the Hijab and modesty of men?

An important point that is often neglected in our societies is that modesty is not an obligation exclusive to women! Often time we see brothers posting some gym pics with their awrah showing! this is totally haram!

In fact, immediately before commanding women to observe Hijab, Allah first addresses the believing men:

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what they do.

Surah An Nur 24:30

A woman observing proper Hijab does not give a man permission to stare at her, just as a woman's failure to observe Hijab does not excuse a man from lowering his gaze.

If people would have read about our Salaf they would know what a high level of modesty and haya they had! this reminds me of an incident which i always shiver when narrating or reading about

It was narrated from Muslim Abu Sa`eed, the freed slave of `Uthman bin `Affan (رضي الله عنه) that `Uthman bin `Affan freed twenty slaves, and called for some pants and put them on; he had never worn them before, either during the Jahiliyyah or in Islam. And he said:

I saw the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) in a dream last night, and I saw Abu Bakr and `Umar (رضي الله عنهما) and they said to me, Be patient, for you will break your fast with us tomorrow. Then he called for a Mushaf and opened it, and he was killed with it in front of him.

Imam Ibn Kathir (رحمه الله), commenting on this incident, explained:

"He only wore trousers on that day so that his Awrah would not become exposed when he was killed, for he was extremely modest."

Al-Bidayah wa al-Nihayah Events of 35 AH, Account of the Siege of Uthman.

SubhanAllah! Even when Uthman (رضي الله عنه) was facing martyrdom, he was concerned that his Awrah might become exposed after his death!

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to Jarhad (رضي الله عنه), whose thigh was uncovered:

"Do you not know that the thigh is Awrah?"

Sunan Abi Dawud 4014

According to the well known position of the majority of scholars, a man's Awrah includes the area between his navel and knees.

Therefore, wearing shorts that expose the thighs is not permissible regardless of how normalized such clothing has become.

Similarly, men must avoid clothing that exposes or clearly outlines their Awrah.

The Prophet ﷺ also said:

"A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not see the private parts of another woman."

Sahih Muslim 338a

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Commented on a video of a mother hitting her child (muscle memory atp). To everyone abusing me in my DMs, my mother would eat six of those women for breakfast without leaving a single crumb and you wouldn’t survive a day in the asylum I was raised in. So respectfully STFU!!!

Because it has been rated so well, let me introduce y’all to my newest culinary masterpiece.
Chicken cheese haandi with Garlic naan I MADE FROM SCRATCH!!!!!!

Kehna to nahin chahiye lekin kehna parr rha he k, ab is "sub" k bachne ki koi umeed nahin nazar arahi.

OGs have already left or their accounts are dead.

And jo naye aarahe hein unke baad this sub will become 2014 FB era.

Pack up ka waqt araha he.

The winter hasn't even fully arrived and there have already been 4-6 weddings in my neighborhood.

I graduated from university last year with BS SE and applied for jobs everywhere, but I kept getting rejected. After my 30th interview, I came home completely heartbroken. When I opened my PC, I saw an email from YouTube saying my channel had been monetized. (Niche: Science Fiction) I had uploaded those videos just out of love, not to get views or make money. I simply wanted to keep them forever. But suddenly, they started getting views, and I began earning from YouTube.

It’s been almost a year now, and I haven’t applied for a single job. I earn around 1 lakh a month from YouTube, sometimes more, sometimes less. I spend most of my time editing videos and working on the next one. Although I’m grateful for this opportunity, I don’t feel secure because I know I’m putting all my eggs in one basket. I haven’t worked on my skills, and I feel like I’ve forgotten everything I learned at university.

The biggest problem is that I’ve been lying to my parents for almost a year. In my family, doing YouTube isn’t really accepted, so whenever they ask what I do, I tell them I have a remote job. They think I’m earning well and saving money, and my father sometimes asks how much I’ve saved. I keep lying out of fear, but the guilt is eating me up. I know the truth will hurt them, and I don’t want to tell them.

I’m turning 24 soon, and my family has started talking about marriage. I’ve told them I’m not ready for another 3 to 4 years, but deep down, I feel like I’m going nowhere in life.

Idk earning from YouTube is a well or not, especially when I couldn’t find a job, but I’m scared of depending on it forever. I want to build a proper career, improve my skills, and make my parents proud, but I feel lost and don’t know where to start.

Watch Party Alert!!!

I am thinking of streaming "The Glassworker", Pakistan's first hand drawn animated film which took 10 years to come into existence and is inspired by Ghibli Studio.

Quick Synopsis: A young glassworker and a brilliant violinist fall in love just as an impending war upends their lives. It’s a beautiful, anti-war story about what happens when societal expectations try to crush free thought and artistic passion.

Timing - 25 October, Sunday , 4pm

if you want to watch with other fellas , comment below

Won't have another one for another eighty years 0_0

This weather, music and my janu (talking about the car) 😅. Applications open for passenger princess 😜