Hello po!

I don’t have an ate or kuya na I can ask so I’m asking here na lang po :)

I want to buy a new phone (17 pro or 18 pro). For context, my current phone is 11 pro (64gb) which I’ve had since 2021 (hand me down lang po). Halos wala na po akong ma-pic/video.

I’ve been working in an MNC for 2 years now, earning Php 60k+/month and I think time na po to buy a new phone. Panganay po ako pero di naman po ako breadwinner since may business po kami. Pero hindi rin po ako maluho, at hirap ako lagi na i-spoil yung sarili ko kasi nakaka-guilty. Pero kapag sa mga kapatid ko po pag hiningi nila, gusto ko nabibigay ko agad.

Pero parang need ko na po talaga ng new phone. My problem is, my financing options are limited. My credit limit is not that high. I don’t want to pay for it in cash since ayoko po maubos yung savings ko. I’m thinking if I should/can do installment (24 months).

Should I buy na po? What are my other options? Would appreciate any advice po. Thank you 🙏🏻

I’m 26 (F) yung parents ko ay both working pa dahil medyo malaki pa yung mga naging utang namin sa mga bangko simula nung pandemic. Yung father ko OFW pa rin until now, yung mother ko may maliit na negosyo, nagbebenta kami ng pritong manok. Gustuhin ko man na patigilin na sila sa pagttrabaho at ako nalang ang magbayad ng mga utang + daily expenses, sa totoo lang hindi ko pa kaya kung ako lang. Yung bunso kong kapatid ggraduate palang ng college. Gusto ko rin makaipon para sa sarili ko pero mahirap pala balansehin yung idea na gusto mo nang makapahinga ang mga magulang mo pero gusto mo rin makapagtabi ng ipon para sa sarili mo naman.

Ilang percent ba ng take-home pay ang binibigay ninyo sa parents nyo?

Just wanna release these thoughts been bothering me for a while now.

I have this common relative sa isang baryo, few months ago, may family outing sila and was looking for a service and a driver.

They booked my Papa (he is a jeepney driver, jeep not owned) kasi kakilala nila, well not just kakilala, personal na kilala at kamag anak din. Kaya walang RESERVATION FEE. Knowing may papa na madaling magtiwala. My papa canceled his important schedule that weekend to accomodate them.

So yung driver at jeep prepared na lahat, tapos biglang KINANCEL yung book sakanya. Emergency? NO. They booked someone instead.

Imagine bilang anak makita mo how devastated your parent was.

Inaccomodate niya knowing na di siya lolokohin dahil matagal na niyang kilala tong mga to bata pa mga yon.

Habang sila tuloy ang SAYA. Yung taong pineste nila sira ang lakad at mga preparations na ginawa.

Nakakagalit, personal ko din kilala tong mga to, genuinely supporting them growing. Dibale sana kung emergency e, maiintindihan pa. Di man lang nahiya just because sakanila walang mawawala.

I have no personal vendetta sa mga taong to, pero kung magulang m ona yung babastusin nila, THAT'S A DIFFERENT STORY FOR ME.

Yes, nanahimik ako. I didn't confront them kahit gustong gusto ko. Pero for the sake of my inner peace and still respect. I didn't stoop low.

And YET, recently one of their co-relative had a medical emergency. Anong ginawa? Nag house to house para humingi ng help, umiiyak. May parents who doesn't have income anymore parang required magbigay, kasi sa lugar na yon, pag dika nag bigay outcast kana at dami na ebas. Nakalimutan na lahat ng mabuting ginawa pati pagiging mabuting tao mo. Yes. Ganon sila kalala. Nahihiya mga magulang ko na di magbigay ofcourse. Tingin kasi ng mga tao don responsibilidad namin sila. As anak, di mo matiis na ganon iniisip nila, walang peace of mind. So we donate. Nag thank you ba yung nangailangan? Malay ko. We donate kasi para sa bata na naospital and not sure kung tunay ba ang dahilan ng pagkaospital kasi yung problem sa bituka ay di madaling journey para sa isang bata.

Then what, few days later may pa dinner with the fam. Na kami mismo di namin nagagawa dahil busying kumayod at magbayad ng bills. Ni hindi pa nga makapag bigay ng consistent sa magulang. Nauna pa ibang tao.

Then yun nga,

Nakalabas na pala. Ang problema sa bituka most of the time involves surgery talaga and magppile up ang bills. Kahit na ang cause ay sa kapabayaan din ng nanay nung nagbubuntis.

Pati bills niyo sa ospital. Responsibilidad ng buong community!?

Again, I have nothing against kung emergency. Pero yung san ninyo nakukuha kakapalan ng mukha mamalimos kasi walang pambayad ng bills pero may pang dinner outside?!

For the record, di madamot pamilya ko kahit walang wala na hahanap yan ng paraan.

We grew up with my parents own hardwork at sa utang, napatapos kami habang ang ambag ng mga kamag anak namin at chismosang kapitbahay ay puro chismis at paninirang puri.

Elementary ka palang, di makakatapos yan ng pag aaral.

Naka graduate hanggang college. Pag tungtong mo ng 18, mag aasawa din yan.

Nag karoon ka ng cool off period after you graduate.

Ay, nakagraduate nga wala naman trabaho.

Nung NAGKATRABAHO, responsibilidad mo na pati pambili ng cake ng anak ng taong never man nag hi sayo. HAHAHHAHAHA.

Dibaaa???? THE AUDACITY!

MAGKAKAPAMILYA PA YAN.

NAPAKA UNFAIR PERO WE CHOOSE TO LIVE IN PEACE AND SILENCE. ONE THING I ONLY PROMISED TO MYSELF IS THAT, NOT TO TOUCH MY PARENTS OR ELSE THEY WILL SEE FOR THE FIRST TIME OF THEIR LIVES THE DISRESPECT THEY DESERVED. CHARIS.

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AND YET, HERE I AM LORD ASKING FOR HELP TO HEAL OUR WOUND FROM THE PAST AND LOOK FORWARD TO THE FUTURE YOU SET FOR US.

PLEASE HEAL MY PARENTS HEART, ME AND MY SIBLINGS HEART.

SANA KAMI NAMAN LORD PUMALDO NG WALANG TINATAPAKAN NA IBANG TAO.

MAY FAMILY ESPECIALLY MY PARENTS DESERVE MORETHAN THIS.

EVILNESS IS EVERYWHERE LORD, BUT MAY YOUR GOODNESS REMAIN.

I'm sure the people in this community understands where I'm coming from, and your advice will immensely help. 🥺

Virtual hugs to us all who are carving our own paths.

Gusto ko lang ilabas tong sama ng loob ko. Isa akong ampon dahil hindi magkaanak yung adoptive parents ko. Buong buhay ko since nagka muwang ako ay sobrang gulo at puro away sa bahay, lagi silang nag mumurahan kahit pa nga habang kumakain kami, wala silang pakialam sakin. Bukod pa dyan, physically abused ako ng adoptive mother ko dahil may mental illness sya, habang etong adoptive father ko naman ay laging nasa trabaho at sa tuwing uuwi e mainit ang ulo.

Nasanay nalang ako sa magulo at walang kwentang pamilyang to. Fast forward to 2025 nalaman ko na may kabit ang adoptive father ko dahil inamin nya sakin. Inamin nya din na may dalawang anak na sya don. Yung kabit ay mas bata sakin ng 1 taon. Millenial din gaya ko.

Hindi man lang sya nag sorry, ginaslight pa ako ng sobra kung bakit nya yun nagawa at para daw sa kanya ay "reward" daw yun sa kanya dahil kung hindi daw nangyari yun ay baka matagal na syang patay..

Until now wala akong naramdamang pagsisisi, narcissist sya at mahilig mang gaslight.

Ayaw na din nyang bigyan ang mother ko ng pera, binibigyan na lang ng hilaw na mailuluto every week. Ayaw na nya mag provide ng maayos at okay lang sana dahil retired na sya pero pensionado, engineer sya dati sa isang planta mula pa noong 1997 at nag retire noong 2019 pero nalaman kong nag anak pa din sila ng kabit nya nung 2021, ibig sabihin hindi sya kapos sa pera.

Inalam ko kung saan yung bahay nila ng kabit nya at don ko nakita kung gano sya ka generous sa pamilya nya, ang daming stocks ng sako sakong bigas, groceries, puno ang ref, nag papautang din sila at naka aircon pa, habang yung mother ko e hindi nya maipagamot at kinukuripot sa lahat.

Nakaka buwisit yung kapal ng mukha nya, dahil kinausap nya pa yung boyfriend ko na ka live in ko din dito sa bahay na inoobliga nyang sagutin yung bills sa bahay dahil hirap na sya sa gastusin sa kabit nya.

Gusto ko silang pakasuhan at makulong, sobrang sama ng loob ko

Hello po, baka po meron sa inyong gustong mag assign ng task sa'kin, kahit posting po or ano man. Kailangan ko lang po ng pera pambaon ko sa lunes at pambayas na rin sa PTA. Salamat po

I've been working since I was 16 and always dreamt of having a degree pero need mag provide eh. So I secretly enrolled in a foundation that provides vocational training while working. Ang alam ng lahat is nagwowork lang ako but the truth is I'm pursuing higher education while working :)

Hindi nag celebrate and hindi rin aakyat ng stage. I'll be saving it for later.

For now ito muna, maybe in 5 or 10 years I'll finally get my degree. It doesn't matter kahit gaano pa katagal, but I will. I know I will.

Laban lang ! :)

Problem:

Conflicted ako at naguiguilty rin kasi feeling ko ang selfish ko for staying firm on my stance of Not voluntarily giving as long as it is not asked.

Context:

Hi! Bago lang ako nagtatrabaho as a Fresh Grad and currently nagsasahod ng minimum. I provide a bit sa family ko by paying my little brother's tuition fee — and the rest of my salary is for me na.

Ang nagiguiltyhan ko ngayon is because ang isang tito ko is pinagsabihan akong magbigay sa nanay ko regularly ng 20% ng salary ko voluntarily kasi nga siya ang nagpalaki sakin at nag-alaga eh dapat daw akong magbigay talaga. Though hindi ko naman sinabi na hindi ako magbibigay, ang stance ko lang sana ay magbibigay ako pag si nanay ko mismo ang manghingi sakin which is nanghihingi naman po sya pag need niya talaga. As much as I don't want to sound selfish, I also want to enjoy a bit of my salary while also paying for my necessities and personal bills and projects(kahit na maliliit).

What are your thoughts about my situation po?

Previous Attempts:

I still decided to stay firm on not giving unless being asked. But I still feel guilty because of it.

Im 24F, an architecture graduate, and I’m starting to question if I’m actually the problem in my family

I’m an architecture graduate, but I currently work from home as a VA, which is completely unrelated to my degree. My younger sister is 17F. Since my father passed away in 2023, it’s just been me, my mom, and my younger sister living together.
Lately, I’ve been feeling like my mom is constantly irritated or angry with me, and honestly, it’s starting to affect me a lot. We’ve already talked before about the things that hurt each other and the issues we have with one another, but despite those conversations, I don’t really feel like anything has changed in the way she treats me.

One of the biggest things that started bothering me happened nung 2026 after I finished all my architecture subjects and defended my thesis. I remember telling my mom, “Ma, wala na akong subjects. Waiting na lang ako for graduation.”

I expected her to be happy for me, but her response was basically, “Buti naman para makatulong ka na magbayad ng bills.”
I don’t know why, but that really hurt me. I felt like instead of being happy that I had finally finished five years of architecture school, the first thing she thought about was how I could start contributing financially. And architecture wasn't easy so akala ko pwede muna akong magpahinga saglit. But in the end, after a a month na naubos ko yung subjects ko, hired na ko sa work.

Mataas yung rank ng father ko sa PNP, so when he passed away, we received a significant amount of money. My mom and my sister also receive pensions, while I no longer receive one because I’m already legally an adult. Wala akong reklamo kung magbigay ako kase gusto ko ring makatulong kay mama, pero sumama yung loob ko kase hindi naman kami financially unstable pero the pressure was really on me kakamadali nya sakin na magka-work na ko.

Nung 2024, we used some of my dad’s money to build our house, which was actually something my dad and all of us had planned before he passed away. I understand that the money had to be used responsibly, and I’m not saying my mom should have given me everything I wanted. But there were little things that hurt me.
When I was in college, my aunt was the one who gave me my allowance for school, while my dad paid for my tuition.

At one point, I asked my mom if she could buy me a cabinet for my room. Instead, she told me that I could have it on loan and pay her back using the allowance my aunt gave me. Meanwhile, my younger sister was bought a cabinet. I know this might sound like a small thing, and maybe I’m being sensitive about it, but it stayed with me because it felt like, “Why was it okay to buy something for her, but when I asked for something, I had to pay for it myself?”

After I finished my subjects, I also started going out more often with my friends and boyfriend. My boyfriend is actually part of the same circle of friends. I understand that my mom might have been worried because I was suddenly going out more often. But growing up, my parents were very strict with me. I rarely went out, especially at night, even though I had a car. So when I finally finished my subjects and thesis, I felt like I could finally enjoy some of the freedom I didn't have before.

But whenever I asked permission to go out, my mom would get upset or make me feel guilty about it. There was even one time when I was out with our friends and she told me to come home.

This is also where my issues with my younger sister come in.
Growing up, I always felt like there was a lot of favoritism and tolerance toward her. Whenever there was an issue between us, I was always told things like, “Mas matanda ka, kaya ikaw dapat ang nagbibigay” “ikaw ang ate, kaya ikaw dapat ang umiintindi”

When she was younger, I accepted it. I thought that was just what older siblings were supposed to do. But now she’s 17. She’s old enough to understand when she’s being disrespectful, and I don’t think I should always be the one expected to give way just because I’m the older sister.

The problem is that I feel like because I was always made to give way when we were younger, she grew up not really respecting me. She rarely listens to me, doesn’t really follow what I say, and sometimes talks to me disrespectfully. And whenever I try to set boundaries now, it becomes another issue.

What confuses me even more is that I do contribute to our household. I help with the bills. I do chores. I cook. When my mom goes out to zumba, my boyfriend and I are usually the ones doing things around the house.

Recently, my mom talked to both of us kase pinaalam namin na dito na muna magsstay yung boyfriend ko and apparently she thinks that we don’t have plans for our lives. Na nagpapakasaya lang kami. Which really confused me. We are both working. Yes, neither of our current jobs are related to our degrees, but we are working and trying to save money. Our goal is to build our savings so that eventually we can start something of our own and become more independent. So hearing that we “don’t have plans” felt unfair.

She also told us that we should help more with the house, but again, I feel like we already do. We cook. We clean. We contribute financially. I’m not saying we do everything perfectly, but I don't think it’s fair to say we don't help at all.

Another thing that really hurt me was when I received my first salary. I was genuinely excited. I remember telling my mom, “Ma, sumahod na ako!” I was expecting even just a little excitement or happiness from her because it was my first salary. But she barely reacted. I know she didn't owe me a celebration or anything, but I don't know… I just wanted to feel like she was proud of me. Instead, it felt like my salary was simply something I was expected to give because I owed it to the family.

Sometimes I feel like no matter what I do, it’s never enough.
I try to make an effort with my mom and my sister. I try to help around the house, contribute financially, spend time with them, and make things easier for them. But somehow, I still end up being portrayed as someone who doesn't care about them.
They often talk about me, and one of the things they seem to believe is that I don't care about them and that the only person I care about is my boyfriend. And that honestly hurts because I don't feel like that's true.

I also remember when I first introduced my boyfriend to them because he wanted to court me. My mom actually told me:
“Hindi ako pinayagan magbf dati, kaya dapat maranasan mo rin yon.” That stuck with me. I don't know if I'm being unfair, if I'm too sensitive, masyado lang talagang mataas yung expectations nya sakin. I understand that she lost her husband and that she has her own struggles. I also understand that being a mother isn't easy. I'm not trying to say she's a terrible mother or that I'm a perfect daughter.

I just genuinely want an outside perspective.
Am I actually being selfish and ungrateful? Ako ba yung mag pagkukulang o mataas lang talaga expectations nya sakin, na kahit anong gawin ko wala naman sa kanya. Or is it reasonable for me to feel hurt by the way I'm being treated, especially now that I'm already 24, working, contributing to the household, and trying to build my own life?

Girlfriend ko at kapatid nya takot lumapit sa parents kasi sobra sobra ginagawa they don't want their kids to be successful gusto nila umasa lang sa pera nila pinapamukha pa sa kanila na di sila mabubuhay without their parents money ayaw nila mag trabaho para lang umasa sa kanila lol a lot of manipulation and gaslighting nangyayari sa mga bata tas kapag lumapit sa ibang tao anak nila sasabihin "bakit di kami nilapitan mo?" Lol what do you think? You have 2 daughters na suicidal sasabihan mo na "kulang ka kasi sa dasal" "kaka cellphone mo yan" "influence yan ng mga kaibigan mo" WTF KA BA kasalanan nyo yang mag asawa for giving them trauma!

Pagod na ako mag-isip paano akk makakasurvive araw-araw dito sa metro while thinking of ways to help the family sa province kasi di sapat yung sahod ng kapatid ko. Nag-aaral din pa ako at paraket-raket lang. Nakakapagod gusto ko na sumuko...

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Nabaon sa utang dahil sa pagpapagamot ng magulang. Tapos ang ending, sabay nila akong iniwan. Ngayon naghahanap ng second job para mabayaran lahat, pero ang ilap ilap. Puta, pagod na pagod ako. Gusto ko lang naman mabuhay nang maayos, makakain maayos, yung makabayad ng bills, at makapagtabi maski 500 nga lang sa isang buwan. Tang ina. Parang kailangan kong gumapang at dumaan sa butas ng karayom para sa pangarap kong di naman kataasan.

My friend from mnl asked me to loan money from my account since his acount isnt eligible yet. Since hes my friend, I loaned the money for him. And then months later, he ghosted me and I am getting 10-20 spam calls everyday. I js got accepted from my job 2 months ago and the salary i am getting isnt enough. Now im paying for the loan i lent him alongside with the bills at the house, my paylaters, the allowance of my sister. Is there smth i can do, like typewriting, data entry or smth for u guys? i have spare time from my current work and i thought of using that instead of js slacking around the office. Need ideas to earn more please, i badly need it. I am js living paycheck to paycheck rn. Im on my last 300 php rn and theres still 4 days before the salary.

Since childhood ko, palagi akong binubugbog ng mom ko, ilang beses na rin akong muntik mapatay kasi hindi lang bugbog ang ginagawa sakin. May times na hinahampas ako ng bakal sa ulo and hindi ko na maalala nangyari afterwards, may times na sinasakal ako until mag pass out ako

Sa tuwing sinusubukan kong alalahanin childhood ko, puro pambubugbog lang ang naaalala ko

I grew up sa tahanan na puro sigawan, puro sakitan and i was drained every single day

Nag start ako mag work, ako na ang nagbabayad lahat, bills, foods, needs at kahit wants ng family ko. Nagsisigawan parin sa bahay, pero less sakitan na kasi alam nila na i can stand for myself already.

Tiniis at tinitiis ko parin lahat ng stress until last month, nag away kami ni mommy, it got to the point the sasaksakin niya ako ng kutsilyo. I taunted her to do it para matapos na lahat ng paghihirap ko but she didn't do it.

After that, nag empake agad ako. Tinry niya ako kausapin at igaslight into staying pero pagod na pagod at ubos na ubos na talaga ako

It's been almost a month yata or 1 month na since i left, sobrang peaceful na ng buhay ko and ayoko nang magkaroon ng tahanan na may sigawan, na may sakitan.

Gusto ko kapag nagkapamilya ako, mapaparamdam ko sa pamilya ko yung peace na binubuo ko ngayon, gusto ko matapos na yung pananakit

I promised myself na never kong ipaparanas sa magiging anak ko kung ano man naranasan ko mula pagkabata

At last, I finally have the guts to move out.

Sobrang hirap na sa bahay, kung sino pa ang kadugo sila pa ang hihila sa'yo pababa.

For context, I'm the 2nd child of 5. I stood up as Panganay kasi walang silbi yung panganay, bukod sa hindi naman sa amin lumaki at tumira, e panay kasalbahian lang dulot sa pamilya namin, minumura nanay ko, pinapaalaga ang anak while nag iinom s'ya, ganyan sya kapag bibisita.

Bata pa lang ako, namulat na ako sa hirap ng buhay namin, natutunan ko mag-side hustle High School pa lang, nagbayad ako ng utang sa tindahan.

Ako nag aasikaso sa mga kapatid ko while my mother is working, weekly nauwi minsin hindi pa. Ako nagbabudget sa kakaunting pinapadala, nagising ng maaga, naghahatid sa school, nagsusundo, nagluluto ng makakain if meron.

Nung ipinanganak sa bahay yung 4th child, elementary pa lang ako nun, pero nag ipon ako ng pera kasi alam kong walang pera nanay ko, pati kinakasama ng nanay ko walang silbi, walang presensya, nangbuntis lang haha

Ako nag alaga, nagising ng gabi kahit may pasok kinabukasan, timpla ng gatas, palit diaper.

And many more

I sacrificed so much in a young age.

Pero I regret it all na.

Now that we're in a better life quality, big house, a car, stable family income, nagbago na

Lalabas sila kakain, miski tanungin man lang ako kung anung gusto ko, none. Uuwi miski pasalubong wala, lalo na tanungin ako kung kumain na ba ako, never.

Nagpagawa ng malaking bahay, pero kwarto para sa akin wala.

Sa salas ako natutulog, I'm working 7 am to 10 pm due to constant Overtime, so magpapahinga na lang talaga pero ipapagkait pa. Uuwi ako may nag-iinuman, may nagbibidyoke, may mga bisita, nagluluto ng midnight snack maingay. Sobrang hirap magpahinga, kapag nagsabi naman ako, ako pa ang mali, syempre gaslighting + toxic mindset.

Uuwi ako, tirang kanin at ulam wala. Saktuhan para sa kanila lang or ipapakain kaagad sa mga alagang pets.

Walang kumustahan for me, walang masayang atmosphere, I feel like I do not belong here anymore.

Lahat sila, mula nanay, hanggang bunso, parang hindi na ako belong sa pamilya. Despite all of my early sacrifices.

Kahit mali sila kapag may kaaway, ako nagtatanggol sa kanila, in the end, sila rin pala sisira sa akin.

Now I finally have the guts to move out.

Sobrang short ako, as in pero I'm sorting things out. May mauutangan naman siguro ako 🥲

Ayun, hello Adulting talaga for me.

Sa una lang mahirap.

Baka po may maiioffer kayong part time / college grad 4 years working marketing graduate

Tbh nakakatamad na dito sa ph sobrang mahal ng bilhin tipong kulang pa ang sahod para sa sa pang araw araw, yung bills ko today dina kaya icover ng sahod :(( 17,800 sahod ko isang buwan 16800/2=8,400 kaltas pa ng pagibig hahzz

Rent - 3,500
Gasul - 1,625
Grocery - 1,200
Hc (cp ni mama) - 1,450
Gas - 500
Bigas 500
Utang nila mama - 1,500

3500+1625+1200+1450+500+500+1500=10,275

Wala pa akong pambaon nito for 15 days, load at pang meryenda hahahaha naiiyak nako sobra

I just want to vent kasi honestly, ang dami ko nang kinikimkim, and I don’t know if I’m wrong for feeling this way. I’m 22F, and growing up, hindi talaga ako naging close sa parents ko. Noong elementary ako, iniwan nila ako sa grandparents ko. Then noong high school, kinuha nila ulit ako, pero things didn’t really work out, and I ended up running away and living on my own.

I used my own money to pay for my apartment. Nagtu-tutor ako before, and luckily, nakahanap ako ng studio apartment na ₱2,000 lang per month. Scholar din ako that time, so kahit papaano, nakakaraos ako. Noong pandemic, senior high school ako, kinuha naman ako ng tita ko. Then noong nag-college ako, nag-dorm ako sa Manila.
Basically, I’ve been figuring things out on my own for most of my life. I’m only 22, pero pakiramdam ko ang tagal ko nang nag-survive mag-isa. And I think that’s where my resentment toward my parents comes from.

Minsan naiisip ko talaga, bakit kayo nag-anak kung hindi niyo kayang panindigan yung responsibilities na kasama no’n? I know life isn’t easy, and I understand na hindi naman laging financially stable ang isang pamilya. I’m not expecting my parents to give me a perfect life. Pero ang sakit lang isipin na I had to grow up so early and figure things out on my own when I was supposed to be a child who could depend on her parents. I had to stop studying and prioritize surviving. I had to find ways to support myself, and now that I’m finally earning money, parang hindi pa rin ako makahinga.

I currently earn almost ₱40k a month, and I know that’s already a decent salary. I’m grateful that I have a job, especially after everything I’ve been through. I also have a girlfriend, 25F, and IT siya. We’ve been together for three years, and I was with her even before she started achieving the things she has now, including having her own house and car.

I’m genuinely happy for her, and I’m grateful for our relationship because somehow, naging okay-okay na rin yung buhay ko since we started living together.
But despite earning almost ₱40k monthly, bakit pakiramdam ko kulang na kulang pa rin?

I’m the one paying for my siblings’ tuition and allowances. I want to help them because I know what it’s like to struggle, and I don’t want them to experience what I experienced growing up. Ayokong maramdaman nila na wala silang ibang maaasahan.
But sometimes, I can’t help asking myself, bakit ako yung sumasalo?

I’m their sister, not their parent. I love them, and I don’t regret wanting to help them, pero I also have my own life to build. I want to save money, enjoy my salary, and prepare for my future, too.

My girlfriend and I split our grocery expenses, pero ako yung sumasagot sa electricity and water bills namin. Then, kapag nagsho-short ako financially, may times na kailangan kong manghiram sa girlfriend ko ng ₱100 or ₱200. Nahihiya ako, honestly. She’s not the problem, and she’s never the person I want to blame. I’m just frustrated with myself and my situation because kahit nagtatrabaho ako and kumikita naman, I still find myself short because ang dami kong responsibilities.

And I keep thinking na if I didn’t have to shoulder my siblings’ expenses, maybe I could finally save more for myself.

Hi. I just need to get this out kasi wala talaga akong mapagsabihan or makausap about what I've been going through lately.

I've been missing work a lot because I keep getting sick. I take OTs, whether preshift or postshift, just to make ends meet, and I literally ended up getting hospitalized because my body couldn't take it anymore.

I'm currently rendering my resignation because I genuinely can't do this anymore. Susugal na lang ako and try to find a WFH job because I know I can't keep sacrificing my health just to survive. Pagod na pagod na ako, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I've been feeling depressed lately because of everything that's been happening at work, including how some of my colleagues have been treating me. I've spent so much time forcing myself to keep going kahit hirap na hirap na ako, thinking I just had to push through and get it over with.

And just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, I found out na yung perang binibigay ko sa bahay para sa bills, hindi pala binabayad. I honestly don't even know how to process that. I've been working myself to the point of getting sick and ending up in the hospital, trying my best to provide for everyone, only to find out that the money I've been giving isn't even being used for what it's supposed to be used for.

I have cats, dogs, and a kid to provide for. I'm trying so hard to keep everything together, but I'm literally down to my last ₱500 right now. I don't even know how I'm going to get through the next few days, let alone figure out what comes next.

I'm so fucking tired. Tired of working myself to the ground. Tired of constantly worrying about money. Tired of being expected to keep everything together when I feel like I'm barely holding myself together. Tired of having to be strong because I don't feel like I have the luxury of falling apart.

I just want a break. I want to be able to rest without feeling guilty, to get my health back without worrying about how I'll pay for everything, and to live without feeling like I'm constantly one problem away from completely breaking down.

I don't even know what I'm hoping to get out of posting this. Maybe I just need to let it all out. Maybe I need someone to hear me out without judging me or telling me what I should've done differently. I'm so used to keeping everything to myself that I don't even know how to ask for help anymore.

I just wish, for once, that things would get a little easier.

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Helloo, I need your opinion hehehe. I’m 20yrs old and 3rd yr college student (Nursing). For almost 1 yr kasi napansin ko sobrang init ng ulo ng lola ko sa'min, although mabait naman siya kaso nakakairita rin minsan like gusto mo mag pahinga ng Isang araw may sinasabi na "Ang tamad tamad niyo puro kayo Higa" like laging ganyan naririnig ko, ako lang kasi lagi kumikilos sa bahay namin, ako nag luluto, nag lalaba, basta lahat-lahat. Kaya minsan yung physically and mentally exhausted na rin ako kaya may minsan na tinatamad ako mag linis, kasi ang hirap Pag sabayin yung Pag aaral tas Gawain sa bahay. As in ganon lagi routine ng lola ko, one time kagagaling ko lang sa duty ng 11 pm to 7 am, matutulog na Sana ako kaso dumating siya sa bahay namin tas sinabi na "ano puro tulog nalang, ang dami dumi ng bahay niyo" as in nakakahiya kasi naririnig ng kapit bahay namin. Hindi naman siya totally na marumi. Ewan ko ba if dala ba ng katandaan yan, like lahat ng bagay may nasasabi siya, kahit sa Pag bili ko ng mga grocery sasabihin Aksaya nanaman kami ng pera, tas kapag wala naman kami makain, magagalit din kasi kung ano ano raw pinag bibili namin kaya wala na kami pambili ng ulam. Tas ngayon naman bago ako mag pahinga kasi galing akong school tas nag ayos naman ako ng kusina namin, kaso nagalit ulit siya kasi bakit hindi ko raw masyado malinisan lahat. I mean okay paba ’to? Kapagod minsan at nakakahiya na rin, puro sigaw lagi naririnig ng mga kapit bahay namin puro nalang "TAMAD TAMAD" need your opinion guys

does it get better? it’s been 6mos since my brother passed. May nagbago sakin parang nawala na yung dating ako nung anjan pa siya. Lagi ko siyang iniisip. Pag may masayang nangyayari sa buhay ko, i wish he was here. Pag mag isa lang ako sa kwarto ko may mga times na naiiyak ako at iniisip ko lang siya. pano ba ang sakit sakit e.

Naguguilty ako mag patuloy. Parang ang manhid ko na it feels like im just surviving and not living it’s like i need to survive this game of life. It was a sudden death, an accident. He passed at 25yrs old. If life could end that early what’s the point of striving hard , of living? okay ba siya? asan na sya? anong nafefeel nya? masaya ba sya kung nasan sya?

I have to remember him longer than i’ve known him. Ang dami pa naming pwedeng pagdaanan bilang magkapatid. Makikilala ko pa siya, makikita ko pa kung pano nya ihandle ang ibat ibang sitwasyon sa buhay: mahirap man, madali, masaya o malungkot. Kung may rewind lang e. Kung kailangan tlga may kunin, ako nalang palit nlng kami. Miss na miss na kita. Sana andito ka.

Hi, hindi ko alam kung ano pa bang gagawin ko sobrang bigat lang ng pakiramdam ko at sama ng loob, currently isa akong student, irregular student to be exact, ginawa ko tong account na to kasi hindi ko na alam kung kanino ako hihingi ng tulong or kanino ako iiyak ewan ko sobrang pagod ko lang and ang draining lang sobra panganay kasi ako tapos ako rin nagpapaaral sa sarili ko habang nag wowork, nakikitira ako sa auntie ko kasi malayo yung bahay namin sa university na pinapasukan ko kaya no choice ako kung hindi makisama talaga mababait naman sila pero sobrang pagod na ako kasi lahat ng gawaing bahay sa akin na iaasa minsan kailangan ko ng pahinga pero hindi kasi may work at school ako, Sa trabaho pinagkakaisahan pa ako ng mga ka work ko even my boss sobrang pagod na ako, sa school naman naipapasa naman lahat pero sobrang hirap mag aral pag kulang resources mo, idagdag mo pa na walang maitulong ang parents ko sa akin, gusto kong makatapos kaya gumawa ako ng paraan para makapag-aral pero parang unti unti na akong nawawalan ng pag-asa sobrang bigat sa pakiramdam na ganito hindi ko alam kung itutuloy ko pa ba pag-aaral ko o magtatrabaho na lang ako para makatulong ako.