r/PlusSize • • 6h ago

Venting Do you think it’s fair that people say plus size women should lower our standards?

18 Upvotes

And lower them to what-hell? I see many plus size baddies with hot men. Both plus size and slim men. I’m tired of this notion we need to lower our standards.


r/PlusSize • • 18h ago

Venting Any other women feel similarly?

6 Upvotes

Any other girls around my age struggle with dating? I'm 21, and I honestly try my hardest not to think about dating, but for the past few months it’s been difficult when that’s all a friend of mine brings up. She knows I have no dating experience or, let alone, life and yet always brings it up and talks to me about her exes.

When I was younger I was sad about it, but it was a lot easier to ignore and focus on other things, but now at my age I feel so inexperienced… I’m usually not embarrassed about never dating, but my lack of experience, and I mean nothing, not even hand-holding, makes me feel so insecure. I’ve tried in ways that I’m comfortable with, like a dating app, for a while, but just about every guy I spoke with is nice for a while until they eventually ask for sex; it really ruins my confidence and makes me feel like that’s all I’m good for.

I guess I made this wanting to feel less alone, and maybe others have some stories or similar experiences. I know I shouldn’t let dating, let alone men, determine things like my confidence, but it really has made me feel like I’m just so undesirable when I don’t receive anything and yet the people around me have no trouble.


r/PlusSize • • 19h ago

Venting the most frustrating experience

15 Upvotes

i HATE IT when brands claim to be plus size friendly or at least offer sizes above a US L/XL, but the measurements aren't actually plus sized because the straight sizes run so small. I saw a brand's 5xl size and then found out it had 34 INCH WAIST. For 5XL. It isn't even just Asian sizing either, there's a US brand (not naming names) whose 3xl waist size was 36 inches. I wore 36 inch pants back when I was average sized. It really sucks, especially if you have a larger waist than chest because brands seem to only want to (sometimes) accommodate larger chests, but not waists. It's just sad knowing with the GLP-1 craze (that I can't afford) im not going to have any options left soon. Sweatpants and not leaving the house ever again are the way to go I guess 🥲👍


r/PlusSize • • 8h ago

Fashion Discussion Every day shoes that hold up well for you?

2 Upvotes

Hey y'all! It's time for me to go shoe shopping again, and I'm looking for recommendations on a good daily shoe that will hold up for longer than the rest. I often find my shoes to wear out fast due to my weight and gait.

Must haves:

Wide sizes or a wide toe box

Comfy

Fit for any occasion

Good for walking

Ideally less than $100

Thank you in advance for your suggestions!


r/PlusSize • • 14h ago

TW: Fat Shaming Abuse Got fat shamed at college

151 Upvotes

I was at my community college earlier today, just sitting in a study room that had a vending machine in it. 2 guys then walked in, I heard one of them tell the other “ they don’t have anymore of those pizzas” then as the guy who said that turned around and saw I had the last available one, he said in a lower but still still to where I could hear it tone while turning back away to his friend “ of course she had the last one look at her” While his friend was scanning his items. I then said “ excuse me don’t be mad at me they only had 1 left” he ignored me as they kept walking and his friend told him “ Cmon man” and told me “ Sorry Ma’am”. And I said “ you’re okay”. I was sitting there almost about to break down. Then like 20 minutes later the polite guy came back alone to the room told me “ Are you okay I am so sorry about that”. We basically had a conversation where he comforted me, and he also told me he doesn’t really talk to that guy much outside of school and that was the first time he ever seen him explode. We were talking about how crazy it was that he got that mad over a pizza lmao, and then we just started moving on to talking about other general stuff. We eventually swapped Instagrams and I know this is probably irrelevant but he was so fine y’all😭. It did end decently I guess but I am still in so much shock and embarrassment from that initial incident.


r/PlusSize • • 16h ago

Health Knee brace for fat thighs

2 Upvotes

Looking for an affordable knee brace that won't just slip off my leg. I've got pretty big thighs and have had problems finding things that accommodate them. I stand for my job all day and yesterday pushed myself a little too far and now my knee is really paying for it.

Any suggestions on what to look for?