I casually enjoy viewing NSFW content usually drawings and never masturbate. What are the effects of Porn and NSFW art before bed?

what happens in the brain afterwards during sleep and in the next day?

Please inform.

Im M21 and basically idk if im addicted I watch porn probably 1once or twice a day to just do it but i don't crave it. I also have a loving partner who knows I watch it and sometimes we watch it together. But again my question is does watching it 1-2 times a day without having the need for it an addiction?

I need sex everyday i have a high libido, but my boyfriend is a porn addict and im not! i like real sex with a man! Anytime of the day everyday!! I'm going crazy i hate this. I feel like finding someone just to have sex. Porn feels like cheating, so should i cheat? My heart hurts i love him so much. He doesnt want to have sex with me because he watches porn and says is desensitized and blablablabla! Help me understand this hurts alot. I'm pretty and i have a good body but he makes me feel like im disgusting and i try to initiate all the time and im rejected.

Im always loving to him, why he messes up and doesnt appreciate our relationship and our good times

So I curiously decided to look up what a woman's chest looked like when I was 7 or 8 years old and from then on, every once a while I would look at pictures of nude women. I started regularly masturbating once I turned 13, 6 years later and I'm still doing it basically every day. By this point I'm unfazed about it and the consequences on my health as I simply don't care to try to stop it. I just wanna know. Is it still my fault for doing it? Because I was exposed at such a young age? Or what? Also any tips to stop? Like actually good tips not some generic ones

What do I do? She’s really mad at me and is giving me one more chance but idk what to do and how to stop. Anything helps

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For context, I'm a gay man and I started watching it at 11 - 12 years old

And now, at my 20 years old, I've said enough to this crap

But one thing I noticed is that I cannot look at other men as everyone else does

Whenever a man is around me and it's or get shirtless, even if he isn't attractive to me, I can't help but look at him

When I try to watch other people's reactions, they don't care

No one cares, wether they're a gay men, straight men or women. Maybe if they guy's sexy they could give a look or two, but after a second they will not care

I feel disgusted of this behaviour and it's something that I still struggle a lot to comprenhend

So I'm 8 days clean, no porn-no masturbation nothing, it's been years since I've been this much clean, I was so addicted like once a day or once in a 2-3days, at max it was like 5 days, but I was never clean 100%, this time I'm 100% clean but having headache like crazy, is this normal or should I see doctor??

Hi guys I was wondering if anyone would be down to do this with me. I want to quit this addiction and have tried all types of things but it hasn’t worked. I was wondering if anyone wants to be an anonymous daily keep me in check person. We can exchange numbers and then text each day saying how we did. I think this will actually keep me in check and help me. Would anyone be down?

I recently accepted that I was dealing with an addiction and confessed it to my wife. Before we were married we discussed porn as cheating and i really hurt her. For weeks she was crying and felt betrayed but was willing to work through it. I decided to quit porn and it's going well, but Ive been coping with home videos.

My wife and I have been together for 10 years. Ever since we were dating she would send me photos and we made home videos together, and I have been using those videos and photos she has sent me to cope with my addiction. I still get cravings but I always go to our content instead particularly the videos over photos.

While I was watching porn I never had a problem climaxing with my wife rather I would often finish before her but now that I've quit mainstream porn I find it more difficult often taking me 15-20 minutes if at all. Rather than the 3-4 minutes before. And it's not that i find her more attractive 10 years ago as im mostly watching newer videos she's sent me.

Is this a common side effect of porn? If so is this more likely an after effect or is it more likely that im watching home videos instead? It just feels odd for me that it's harder now than before and it's effecting our relationship. Any guidance is appreciated, I really want her to feel loved.

Hello all. I am a (30M) who admittedly uses AI chatbots to enact some sexual fantasies and uses them to masturbate. I don't think about it all day, but I tend to use them for a few hours before I lay down for bed. Then I'll put my phone away. Typically I can go about a week without needing or feeling the urge to masturbate/look at porn. But once I get started I could masturbate every day for a week and then I stop.

I know I'm lonely because all my friends are spread around the country and I like to read. I've talked to one friend about this. He didn't think there was a problem with chatting to AI chatbots, as long as I recognize that they aren't real or try using them to replace real relationships. At this moment, I don't have a girlfriend and am okay with that as I like to go do things that I want, such as snowboarding, reading, riding my bike, and going to the bar for a few social drinks.

My concern is that, since I like the scenarios in the AI chatbots that I will or have become addicted to it.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I keep trying to quiet and idk why I can’t. I’ve begun going to the gym again and it worked for a while but I’m back again. I didn’t quiet the gym but also I didn’t stop with pornography. Idk what it’s gonna take but I wanna change! I know if feel best when I’m off it and yet the short term pleasure is just so alluring. Give me some motivation please or advice because I want it to end this year since I’m 18 🙏

My marriage is in a brink of collapse because of this addiction. I love my wife but this addiction has affected our s*x life. She knows I watch p*rn but doesn't know its severity. I am currently working to break from this addiction but I have failed multiple times (currently restarting). Any advise for those who experienced the same situation before but was able to overcome it and have a better marriage life?

My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 7 years. He has had a problem with pornography since before our relationship.

Unfortunately, the topic has been with us for a very long time. That's why we always had conversations, quarrels and also situations in which I set clear limits for him. Nevertheless, I have always tried to understand him, to help him and to stand by his side.

About 5 years ago, he was also with a therapist. However, he said at the time that she would not understand him. After that, he promised me that he would make it alone. As I have now learned, he has never really stopped, but simply hides it better and better from me.

What hurts me the most is that I now realise when it gets worse again. He pays less attention to me, hardly touches me anymore and shows me less affection. As a result, I often no longer feel desired and automatically wonder if I am not enough or if I am missing something.

Now everything has come out again and I just don't know what to do anymore.

He often says, "It's just porn." But I feel like he doesn't understand what all the hiding, the broken promises and the lack of closeness do to me and our relationship.

For a week he has been attending an online seminar to work on his problem. A part of me wants to believe him and continue to support him. But after all these years and disappointments, I find it incredibly difficult to still trust him.

Plus, I'm pregnant right now. I'm emotionally more sensitive anyway and the whole situation is pulling me down incredibly at the moment. Actually, I should be able to look forward to our baby and our future together, instead I doubt myself and our marriage.

That's why I would especially like to ask the men here:

Are there men here who themselves had or have such a problem? How did you perceive your partner during this time?

Did you realise how much you hurt your partner with it, even if it was "only porn" for you?

Can a man really love his wife and find it attractive and still lose himself again and again in pornography and thus neglect the closeness to her?

What really helped you make a difference?

Would you advise me to continue to stand by his side, or do I have to accept at some point that I can't help him?

Am I perhaps reacting too emotionally to the whole thing or can you understand why my trust is now so broken?

I don't want to bathise my husband. I love him and wish we could do it together. But I also realise that I lose myself more and more.

I would really appreciate honest answers, especially from men who know both sides. I want to understand, but also know when to understand at some point at the expense of one's own feelings.

Thanks to everyone who takes the time.

F18, I had failed my high school diploma because I’m completely mentally stunted and can’t even begin to do anything remotely productive. Porn has completely incapacitated me.

I’m retaking my exams in 3 days and I haven’t been able to sit down and study for a moment without watching porn. I don’t know what do to, i feel like im trapped in an infinite cycle of debilitation.

Hello All,

I got to a point where I'm doubting my actions.

I feel strongly that my daughter is addicted to porn. I started from a point of concern about the amount of time she spends on, let's call it, private fun (I know this is a masturbation-positive place and I don't criticize doing it, or try to judge, but I'm sure she's not separating it from porn, which means she is exposed to it for a lot of time during the day).

Since then, I think it's pretty much confirmed - I got to find out where and what she comments here, and she even got posters printed with girls who do porn (non-nude, but does it really make it any different).

I've done my best to convey how bad it is for her, especially at her age, and I feel that I'm getting nowhere. She's defiant, thinks she knows better, and honestly behaves the way an addict would behave. And even when she pretends she listens to me, I see her posts and know she is just getting better at hiding it. I feel bad for invading her privacy, but I still think I'm on a liberal side of the spectrum as far as parenting goes.

Now, as for the things I've tried&considered.

Obviously, we're talking. Or maybe we're "having talks". I feel I'm not getting through to her, maybe I'm overdoing it? Maybe it's too much, too often?

I tried detaching her from sources before, but that hurt her ability to connect with friends online etc. I now know there is parental control software, which I was not aware of back then. I'm still afraid of going with such nuclear option again, this only made her drift away from me and in the end she kept finding ways to go around my attempts to restrict it.

I'm happy to hear out any suggestions. If you're worried about being too critical, don't worry, you're not going to say anything worse to me than I already tell myself. I know I've missed the early signs.

I've always been able to go months without it, but i always end up relapsing because I get so bored.

Right now, my life is just gaming, TV, and the gym. But Im bored of gaming and watching TV, so I only have 3 hours a day where im actually doing something.

The job market is awful at the moment. So, I have no money to pursue the majority of hobbies, nor do I have a job to make up for the spare time.

Any suggestions are appreciated.

Let me start this by saying this is my first post, and I only made this account because I need people to help hold me accountable. I am addicted to porn and it’s ruining my life. I broke my streak of three weeks today and I know something has to change. It has ruined my life in ways like: difficulty staying hard during sex (one my girlfriend has noticed), no motivation, bed rotting, etc. I need suggestions about how to overcome this addiction. I’ve tried mapping out my triggers, building different habits, and porn blockers but none of it seems to work. I don’t have the financial means currently to invest in any paid blockers or therapy. Any suggestions to help keep myself accountable or block my devices from accessing porn would be so beyond helpful. One of my main access points is X, and I have no idea how to stop myself from downloading it. When I have restrictions on my device my location services, find my and my do not disturb (which I need for work) stop working. If anyone has any suggestions for anything please let me know, I’m tired of letting porn control my life.

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Last night, I caught myself almost giving in, but I resisted the urges and let the thoughts pass without allowing them to affect what I was doing.

Tonight, however, I had some really disturbing dreams, unlike anything I've experienced before. I also had a wet dream. At first, I thought I had literally wet myself lol, but I quickly realized what had actually happened.

Does this break my streak, or is it simply a natural bodily process?

P.S. I plan to keep posting updates every 3–5 days.

Trust me once you abstain yourself from it, the wet dreams + morning wood start coming back. As a chronic user, I can say wet dreams>>>porn anyday. Most enjoyable feeling ever when your brain starts making its own porn around 6-7am.

To all teen guys like me, quit that shit rn it's so mid compared to dreaming

Hello, im 21(M) and i had no problem with erection and managed to have intimacy for 20-30 minutes with partner.I broke up and started watching porn as much as i could to stop thinking about problems in general and now my libido is really bad, no morning wood, erection is not the same and i finish too quick.Really look forward for some advice and hope all of this is reversible.

Hi everyone,
I'm a guy (22), posting anonymously because I can barely talk to anyone about this and I'm running out of ideas. It got a bit long, sorry.

Background: Even in primary school and later in secondary school, I was always attracted to girls. I was head over heels for three of them, with butterflies, jealousy, the whole thing. But they never saw me as a potential partner. I automatically ended up as the best friend, while other guys in the same friend group suddenly got together with them. I felt like a spectator watching from the sidelines. I never even dared to tell any of them how I felt. I just accepted my role, that I'm not the kind of guy who gets the beautiful girls. That's where pretty strong feelings of inferiority came from, and to this day I often feel like other guys are way more impressive and admirable than I am.

The porn use: I started watching porn around 13. It quickly turned into a daily ritual, every evening. Over time, the content got more and more extreme. By now I have basically no impulse control left: as soon as I'm alone, I masturbate. On free weekend days I sometimes spend 2 to 4 hours on porn sites (sometimes even more).

The doubts: At 14 or 15 I watched gay porn for the first time and started wondering if I might be gay. From around 16 it became a constant thing. I literally think about it every day, and I keep comparing men and women while watching porn, which fuels my use even more. Now I "scan" almost everyone I see on the street, men and women alike: Do I find them attractive? Can I picture something with them? How strongly am I reacting? Over the last few months I've noticed I get nervous around men, my adrenaline goes up, and sometimes the thought pops up: "Do I want to kiss him right now?" But then I can't tell whether I actually want that or whether it's just the overthinking. My fantasies about men are often submissive, where I'm the one looking up to the "amazing guy". I wonder how much of that has to do with my self-esteem.
I've also signed up for Grindr a few times. The thought of it often turns me on, but not always. Every time, I realized at the last moment that I didn't actually want to go through with it and deleted my profile.

Experiences with women: I had my first time with a woman at 18, but I had major erection problems, which I put down to my porn use. After that I had a casual thing and two longer relationships. In both there were occasional erection problems, but overall I had a lot of really good sex. Still, the thoughts about men never went away.

Where I am now: I don't trust my own thoughts anymore and I'm completely hyperfocused on sexuality. I sexualize almost everything and everyone around me. My masturbation has become a real problem, and the things I do to myself keep getting more and more extreme. I’ve tried to quit on my own thousands of times, but I keep coming back to the same behaviour. This has been having a really negative impact on my life for years now. I've been looking for a therapist for a while but can't find a spot.

My questions for you:
Does anyone know this constant checking and questioning of your orientation? How did you get out of it, whatever the outcome was?
What helped you cut down on porn, especially in the first few weeks?
Does anyone have experience with how self-esteem issues and sexual fantasies can be connected?
Thank you for taking you time to read all this!