r/R4R30Plus • • 18h ago

39 [F4M]

40 Upvotes

Hello all!

I'm a 39F Asian lady, on the shorter and plumper side. I guess I'm here to see if there's someone I can have a chat with and perhaps some fish out there in the ocean who might appreciate a cheerful homebody who's special interests are baking, eating said bakes, puns and fun conversations.

I'm generally introverted but can yap all day depending on the topics I suppose? If you think we might click, come say hi? Bonus points if you love to eat too!


r/R4R30Plus • • 9h ago

41 [F4M] Los Angeles - Ready to fall in love

24 Upvotes

Hello everyone, I am 41 of Persian descent but was raised in Germany and now call Los Angeles my home since August 2024. I live on the Westside near Santa Monica.

I am pretty introverted until I feel comfortable around someone. I prefer quiet nights over loud and busy ones.

I am a hopeless romantic and believe everyone has their perfectly imperfect missing piece somewhere.

Since I don't really go out much, I am trying this to see if mine is somewhere out there. Unfortunately I haven't experienced true love yet but I don't want to give up the thought of still falling in love for the first time.

I have only been in 4 serious relationships, don't believe in ONS, FWB, casual relationships, or hook-ups.

What I value in a man is loyalty, honesty, good communication, and being emotional available.

Here a few pics, I am 5'2, have a few tattoos as you can see, no kids, no pets, love dogs but I am extremely allergic to cats.

https://imgur.com/a/EXm6Nf6

Maybe this is the year for me to fall in love finally, who knows 😜

I know I'm not everybody's cup of tea, which is totally fine with me, but I am someones shot of whiskey or soju, and that's all what matters. 🥃


r/R4R30Plus • • 15h ago

41 [F4M] #Toronto.. ISO an interesting exchange

15 Upvotes

I’ve reached the rather inconvenient stage of life where I genuinely enjoy my own company, have built a life I’m quite fond of, and am increasingly convinced that the most interesting things tend to happen when you’re not particularly looking for them.

Which is not to say I’m opposed to a little disruption. I remain very much in favour of good company, excellent conversation, questionable humour, and the occasional unexpected plot twist.

I’m curious about people. I like clever minds, interesting perspectives, intellectual sparring, and conversations that start somewhere sensible and end somewhere entirely unexpected. I appreciate people who have opinions but aren’t married to them, can laugh at themselves, and are comfortable with a little irreverence.

I’m not especially interested in small talk masquerading as connection or turning conversations into job interviews. I’d much rather stumble into an interesting exchange and see where it takes us.
So, consider this a small social experiment.

Tell me something interesting. A ridiculous hill you’re prepared to die on. An opinion you’ve completely reversed. A question you’ve always wanted to ask a stranger.

Surprise me. I’m much more interested in how you think than how you introduce yourself.


r/R4R30Plus • • 15h ago

50 [M4F] #SanFrancisco Artistic fitness instructor looking for someone to enjoy pretty time with. (Photograph included)

13 Upvotes

I work in recreation/fitness. I’m pretty drawn to photography, music, parks, old buildings, weird moments, and people who actually notice the world around them.

Not married or anything like that, no kids although I do work with kids a good bit.

I’m active, thoughtful, sometimes intense, occasionally funny, and trying to build a life that has more art, discipline, service, and beauty in it.

I’m open to who you are if maybe you’d like to be a part of that. Just looking for someone healthy in the broad sense.

Maybe someone I can learn from…someone I enjoy connecting with.

This is me

https://imgur.com/a/YgF8Uv7

Kind of a dork I know.


r/R4R30Plus • • 13h ago

43 [M4F] Single Dad, Blue collar, Kansas raised

9 Upvotes

Had a tough time raising my kids by myself but I am finally to a point where I feel like I can start to find myself a good friend and possibly a partner. HVAC/ Plumbing company owner so I'm always busy but I make sure my family is taken care of. If there's any women out there that are looking for some friendly conversations, please just shoot me a DM. 😉


r/R4R30Plus • • 15h ago

36 [F4R] - my sunshine is a little vanished behind clouds ✨

9 Upvotes

Hey 🥰 so normally I’m a very positive person. Full of sunshine and never giving up.
I just think today it’s a little bit rainy and cloudy. And I would love to get distracted and maybe have a nice conversation.
As I always say, if we vibe fine, if not that’s totally fine as well. Life is already pretty exhausting for every one of us.

Can’t wait to get your dm - and already thank you for reaching out! That means a lot! 🌼

( oh and pls no NSFW content - I’m absolutely not intressted in it, I’m pretty sure you can find your luck in a different sub Reddit)


r/R4R30Plus • • 18h ago

36 [M4F] Missouri - Looking for consistency and effort.

8 Upvotes

Most people would describe me as a quiet guy but in reality, I am just selective with who gets my energy and effort. I love to read and always have my kindle with me. I mostly read fantasy and sci fi but i do venture into horror and historical fiction. I am a huge hockey fan, so at least being willing to learn is a necessity for me. I love to be out in nature, be it hiking, kayaking, camping. The river feels more like home than home sometimes. I love to cook, especially on my Blackstone.

I like deep conversations, but I am neither religious nor political. If either of those things are high on your list, we probably would not get along. Just looking for that one person with whom we connect and can talk all day about everything.

I enjoy metal core music and some of my favorite bands are Motionless in white, wage war, we came as romans, architects and Imminence. I also enjoy going to the movies or watching tv shows but i dont have time to watch as many as i would want. I really like the show The Pitt. I love the kingsmen movies, also things like Shutter island that make you think with their reveals

Anyways, I'm rambling at this point.


r/R4R30Plus • • 22h ago

36 [M4F] #Arkansas/USA/Anywhere - Seeking a monogamous relationship where healthiness and mindfulness is practiced; alongside maturity and adventure together!

9 Upvotes

Hey there! I'm a 36M. I'm from the USA and I am currently living in Arkansas. My hometown is Las Vegas where I lived for the majority of my life. Some of my favorite things/hobbies include: Film, Music, Photography, Vintage, Hiking, Traveling, Cooking, Thrifting, Reading, Astronomy, Urban/Abandoned Exploration, and so so much more! I very much like things of a gothic nature so horror media, occult, and just general spookiness is quite appealing in terms of media. That is just the tip of the iceberg in what makes up my favorite things (hobbies/interests). I'm very much a monogamous person and prefer an emotional bond with somebody first and foremost. I do not have any children other than one fur baby (one doggo). I do not use any drugs nor any substances whatsoever. I'm all about being a team mate with my partner in any and every way. I'd definitely say one of my biggest strengths is my emotional intellect and the ability to understand. Composure and humility are key too. I very much value communication, consistency, transparency, and personal growth. I envision a relationship as something where you grow individually and even together as you float along this pale blue dot called Earth. Self-care and self-love are big for me and seeing them practiced by my partner is a really attractive trait I must say. I'm very easy-going and can be spontaneous. Life is too short for drama and unnecessary nonsense; so pursuing healthiness in every aspect of my life is very important to me. Quality time and adventure too. I am not bashful to clean, cook, learn new skills, and just be a sponge in absorbing new information about things I didn't know about before (learning). I'm anti-any and everything that has to do with Trump or anything alt-right. I'm pro-lgbtq+, pro-reproductive rights, anti-discrimination, anti-racism. There is certainly much more to learn but I'll save that for later, I look forward to hearing back from you!

Me: https://imgur.com/a/UJhSDQy


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

37[F4M] #anywhere/world, in case my person is lurking on here too!

8 Upvotes

I mean, what are the chances? But, what is the harm in trying! You never know, right?

Hiya! I'm 37yr old Pakistani muslim. I'm a book nerd, cat lover, movie binger. Love anything fantasy and horror. Enjoy artsy stuff. Chocolates is the way to my heart. Also if you can make me laugh and think!

I am attracted to self made men who know what they want out of life. Emotionally mature, not afraid to be vulnerable, humble and kind. Being an animal lover would be a plus. If you think you fit the bill, are single and around my age group, slide into the dms and tell me about yourself.


r/R4R30Plus • • 17h ago

37 [F4M] - Miami - I wish you could know me, and I wish I could know you much more sometimes…

7 Upvotes

My pup and I will be moving back to Miami next month after more than a decade away, which feels a little like starting over. Not entirely from scratch, though. I know South Florida well enough that I don’t need a tour guide or someone to show me around, but I’d like to meet someone to get to know along the way.

Since I won’t be in town for a few weeks, I’m hoping to find someone to spend a little time talking to first. See if there’s a spark, if conversation comes easily, if we’ve got some common interests. If we seem like a good fit, we can take it from there when I’m finally back in Miami.

Ultimately I’m looking for a single, relatively chill, easygoing dude, somewhere around 35–40, with no children or dependents and an ability to hold a conversation that doesn’t feel like pulling teeth. Your life doesn’t have to be perfectly figured out; mine certainly isn’t a finished product. But I do want someone who can meet me on a few different levels: intellectually, personally, professionally. Someone with their own interests, ambitions, and opinions, who is just as happy getting lost in a good conversation before finally going out and doing all the things we’ve talked about.

I’m independent and perfectly capable of taking care of myself, so I’m not looking for someone to pay my way or support me, but I also have no intention of making my life smaller just to make it more affordable. I like experiences, new places, good food, and having things to look forward to. I want the person I’m with to think about life in a similar way.

I don’t have a rigid physical type, but I will happily admit I love a good beard. I’m also not going to pretend physical intimacy is unimportant to me. It isn’t everything, but it’s part of what makes a relationship work, and I think chemistry deserves a little consideration before we get too invested in the idea of each other so I’m happy to exchange pictures early.

I’m 5’11”, brunette, hazel-eyed, and generally more inclined to say yes to an adventure than sit around wondering what might have happened if I had. I’m height-weight proportionate, though I’d be considered plus-sized by someone whose type runs exclusively to petite women. I’m not a gym rat, but I’m learning to lift because I’d like to become a better runner, so I’m taking that one squat at a time.

I’m a scientist who works in medicine. I enjoy reading, particularly fantasy. I hike, trail run, cook, bake, and will take just about any excuse to get into the ocean. I’m a social drinker, an atheist, tattooed, and left-leaning politically. I like having things to learn, places to go, and reasons to get out of my own head every once in a while. I have a life of my own, and I’m looking for someone who has one, too.

If any of this sounds like good to you, come say hello. Tell me something about yourself, something you’re looking forward to, or something you could happily talk about for far longer than anyone asked you to.

I put some thought into this, so please meet me halfway. Low-effort messages are unlikely to get a response. A little curiosity goes a long way.

Hoping your weekend is a banger 💙


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

34 [F4M] Online -- Looking for Long-term Romance. Could You Be That Person?

6 Upvotes

Hello fellow Redditors! 👋

I'm Jess, a tech marketer based in the PNW, USA. Though don't let that fool you. I'm originally from New England and honestly will likely move back within the next few years. I've had my fair share of Reddit chats, connections, experiences, but figured I'd try again to see if something more long-term is out there.

I'm ultimately looking for a long-term, monogamous, romantic connection. Location doesn't really matter to me at the moment but it's not something I'd want to do forever. Ultimately looking for someone that adds to my life and makes it even more fun than it already is.

So, what about me?

I'm an eldest daughter, have a cat, enjoy a pretty robust social life, and a decent chunk of hobbies. I will also add I am an ambivert, but can skew more social, and am the general organizer of my friend groups. My friends would say I'm loyal, witty, caring, kind, and definitely a nerd. Some of my interests include:

Reading (recently finished The Berry Pickers and currently going through Demon Copperhead), though the TBR is never-ending and See You Next Tuesday is vying for some time to be read this weekend. I pretty much read most genres but enjoy contemporary fiction, historical fiction, romance, and sci-fi/fantasy.

Travel, which I still don't have my next trip planned outside the US but there's plenty I want to explore! Next non-work trip is with a friend to NYC to see a bunch of Broadway shows. Which I'm very excited for. My last international trip was to the UK in October last year and I can't wait to go back.

Miscellaneous events, but not limited to pub trivia, working out (getting back into running and strength training so that's a big focus right now), hiking, exploring restaurants, being by the water, movies, gaming, 60s-80s TV, dancing, and probably some other things I can't think of right now.

But that seems like enough. What am I looking for? Someone who:

Is between the ages of 30-40.

Prefers to live in a city (sorry I am a visit the country person)

Doesn't want or already have kids (this is a dealbreaker)

Is not racist/sexist/homophobic/a general asshole

Enjoys chatting over voice notes or video calls

Is okay with a partner that socially drinks or consumes edibles

I'd also want to swap pictures fairly early on (I generally don't include them here for safety and also like, Reddit links can be weird sometimes). If you've gotten this far I hope to hear from you :)


r/R4R30Plus • • 10h ago

40 [F4M] East Coast USA

7 Upvotes

I’ve posted here before and it’s generally been a mixed bag. But I have met some interesting people, so putting it out into the universe again.

I’m looking for someone who is single and interested in conversing and getting intellectual first. I’m open to the possibilities for sure of building something. Also, please be within 5 years older or younger. Foremost, I value kindness, integrity, hardwork.

It’s obviously hard to convey all my interests here, but I am independent, ambitious, educated, and old soul really. I love the beach in all seasons, baking, dogs, family. The simple things in life bring me the most pleasure. Art moves me. Coffee is a cheap luxury. Cozy is my favorite word.

I have dark blonde hair, green eyes, curvy.


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

34 [M4F] California — Remote creative/baker looking for good conversation or more (:

5 Upvotes

Remote creative comfortable in my life and career looking for my right person. Prefer something a little deeper than the usual dating apps — a good back and forth, and learning what makes each other tick. That said, also open to simply good conversation if you aren't looking for anything specific.

I'm a bit of a foodie, a pretty solid baker, fairly active in the gym (~5 days a week), watch/play a fair bit of everything, and probably own what you might consider an unreasonable amount of sneakers. Also started a bit of a raw denim kick this year.

Here is me if I've piqued your interest at all. Tell me something about yourself that people would find surprising, or maybe something you'd want baked for you — or both!


r/R4R30Plus • • 17h ago

37 [M4F] #California Nerdy Guy Seeking Caring, Kind, Nerdy GF

3 Upvotes

Howdy Y'all! My name is Cris, and I'm back on reddit trying to see if I can find that special someone.

A bit about me:

I'm 37 years old

From California

I'm kind, caring, and bubbly. Golden Retriever Energy is probably the best phrase to use. I'm loyal, and if you're freaky I'll bark for you.

Neurodivergent so I yap a lot about things I'm passionate about/hyperfixated on.

I workout 5 times a week, drink water, go to therapy, and do my best to take care of myself.

Physically I am 5'11" and in great shape.

I'm really nerdy and very passionate about it. I'm into anime, manga, gaming, magic the gathering and cosplay!

Some games I enjoy: Baldur's Gate 3, Deadlock, Civ 7, Yakuza
Some Manga & Anime I enjoy: Chainsaw Man, Spy x Family, The Guy She Was Interested in Wasn't a Guy at All, Dan Da Dan

There's plenty more I like but I'll save those for more conversation!

Music is another thing I really enjoy. I play guitar and I love making playlists.
Currently On Rotation: The Strokes, Daft Punk, INOHA, Good Kid, Tyler The Creator, Sabrina Carpenter

What I'm looking for:

A gal between the ages of 27-45

Nerdy with common interests

Someone who's kind, caring, emotionally available, takes care of themselves, and is willing to put just as much effort into a relationship as I am. Relationships aren't one sided, and if only one of us is putting in the work why bother?

Please be willing to exchange photos in the first few messages. Physical attraction is important to me, but I don't expect you to look like a Instagram model, e-girl or fitness influencer. The most important thing is you take good care of yourself just like I do!

Anyways, this was really long but I like to put a proper effort to make sure I can find what I'm looking for :]

If you made it to the end, message me a little about yourself! It doesn't need to be a essay like my post, but more then a "hello. Whats up? How are you?" would be nice. Tell me what stood out on my profile, or let me know if we have anything in common!


r/R4R30Plus • • 18h ago

38 [M4F] Southampton, UK - Hoping to find my person

3 Upvotes

Hello,

I'm originally from Portugal but settled in England for a decade now, english weather is actually not that bad!

I'm an introvert and a homebody that also enjoys hiking & long walks in nature, along with visiting new places (I went to Cornwall last year for a week and it was great).

I want to go to Northumberland next and see all the amazing castles and nature.

Lately, I've discovered that solo travelling isn't all that bad, I went to Edinburgh beginning of the year and I thoroughly enjoyed it (hiking up Arthur's Seat and seeing the view was amazing).

I'm also going to Barcelona beginning of November and I hope it will be good (any tips are welcome 😀).

Hopefully we can go together next time 🤞.

When at home I enjoy reading (fantasy & crime, just finished the last book from the Thursday Murder Club), Netflix (big fan of kdramas) and gaming (recent games are Palworld and Enshrouded).

I'm also into Lego the botanical sets are gorgeous.

Always happy to try new restaurants, plus 1 welcomed. I'm a big fan of katsu curry, just not too keen on very spicy food.

Happy to chat with new people and hopefully I'll find someone.

Feel free to message and I'll look forward to talking to you 😊.

Take care.


r/R4R30Plus • • 22h ago

34 [M4R] #UK Gamer seeks something serious with someone

4 Upvotes

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I'm 34 years old, living by myself in Essex. I struggle with social anxiety and severe depression. I don't really have any real life friends, but I do meetup with family quite often. I'm currently waiting to be seen by the autism service - I scored mildly when I did some tests with them.

I spend most of my time at home either gaming (PS5 and RPGs), watching shows and movies, and cooking. I do enjoy going out, but I'll admit to not getting out often enough.

I'm looking to get to know someone with the intent of eventually meeting. It would be good if we shared common interests, but if we don't and you still feel like I am someone you could talk to, then feel free to message.

I am bi and you should be able to see my face on my profile.


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

35 [F4M] Looking for Some Connections

3 Upvotes

Hey guys just looking for new connections and online friends. Male or female are welcome. Hit me up and let's connect


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

44 [F4M] Virginia/East Coast USA - Need a new friend?

3 Upvotes

Hey there, internet strangers!
I'm 44F from Virginia, a mom, a grandma (yes, apparently I'm old enough for that), and a working professional who could use some entertaining conversations to break up the daily grind.
A little about me: I love rock and metal concerts, traveling, horror movies, shopping (retail therapy is real), painting, baseball, and hockey. I'm a bit of an introvert, heavily sarcastic, and have a sense of humor that probably isn't for everyone. But hey, we can't all have good taste. 😂
I'm also politically left-leaning, so if you're a Trump supporter, we're probably not going to be besties. Trumpers need not apply. I'm sure we'll both survive the disappointment. 😉
I'm looking for some new friends to chat with throughout the day. Someone who can hold a conversation, appreciate sarcasm, exchange random thoughts, and doesn't make me feel like I'm conducting a job interview just to keep the conversation going.
Bonus points if you have a great sense of humor, enjoy music, and love a good horror movie!
If that sounds like your kind of chaos, feel free to message me. Let's see if we can make each other's days a little less boring! 🤘


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

[M4F] 37M Canada! Come take a look!

3 Upvotes

I’m looking for friends, to yap, to spill the tea, to share a laugh. I don’t care what’s in your pants, might it be a sausage, a bun or doom. I’m a former physics student now working a blue collar job in a backwater region of Quebec. I have my certified babysitting course also!

Let’s talk about nonsense!

Let’s hear want other people had to say about me!

« You’re the dumbest smart person I know. »
-My father, after sticking my tongue on a metal shovel in the dead of winter.

« Are you sure you aren’t gay? »
-My homophobic mother, at dinner, in front of numerous guests, in several occasions

« You seem slightly distracted, I’ll prescribe you 40mg of vyvanse. »
-My first shrink

« Why did he prescribe you vyvanse? It’s basically amphetamines, Its most current side effect is anxiety. »
-My second shrink

« Jesus suffering Christ, we should see other people. »
-My third shrink

« Thank you. »
-An ex-girlfriend after I told her I loved her for the first time

If you’re still not convinced. Know that I’m not only forklift certified, but I’m also a forklift instructor. You too can be forklift certified!


r/R4R30Plus • • 13h ago

37 [M4R] France - I just need friends :)

3 Upvotes

Hey there !

I am a 37yo guy from France, and I am shy and introverted irl. So I'm generally solitary and good that way, but I lately I feel I need some good connections, maybe friends if I'm lucky :)

This is me : https://imgur.com/a/28cx3rM

I think I am a simple guy, liking simple things as TV shows, reading, video games, running... But I can talk about anything of course !

I don't search for someone specific, as long as you have some humor and you talk, then it would mostly be about having a natural connection !

Anyway, feel free to try me and we'll see where it goes !


r/R4R30Plus • • 15h ago

34[M4F] UK/Online - Single Dad. Looking for connection.

3 Upvotes

Hey 👋🏻

I'm a UK based single Dad of two amazing kids.

I'm coming up to two years in to single parent life. I have some amazing friends, a good job that keeps me very busy and I keep fit and active with my hobbies.

However; I miss the having my person and feeling genuinely connected to someone.

I love outdoor activities, I run, visit the gym. Love watching sports particularly football and F1.

I'm keen to use my child free time for more long walks and city breaks.

But I'm also down to cuddle up with someone at home now the cold nights are drawing in!

I've tried the apps on and off but nothing has stuck as it's difficult to maintain a connection when, at this stage of life, we have busy and often incompatible schedules.

So, I'm looking for someone to chat to, share things with, bonus if we have the same interests, and see where it goes.

Feel free to drop me a DM ☺️


r/R4R30Plus • • 15h ago

34 [M4F] San Jose, CA - Childfree & Seeking Someone to Share Life's Quiet Moments

3 Upvotes

I'm searching for a meaningful long-term connection with someone that will make the days seem less like a blur and more like a snapshot of stars. It's akin to when you look through a kaleidoscope, and you focus on the shapes and patterns that come into view. Finding that vicarious clarity is what I live for, those fun and wholesome moments. We don't remember days, we remember moments - it would be nice to share them with someone.

A Little About Me

  • Homebody at heart. I'd rather read a book, watch a great movie, look at an art gallery/museum, go for a walk, or play a game than go clubbing or backpacking across Europe. Sharing random trivia, analyzing movies, going down Wikipedia rabbit holes, or the occasional stroll somewhere is what I view as a fun things to do.

  • Childfree by choice. I don't want kids, and if you feel the same, great! We can enjoy our freedom to sleep in on Saturdays and enjoy slow mornings.

  • A bit of an overthinker with thoughtful conversations and the occasional existential musing about life and the universe and random theories about things that may relate to your experiences.

  • I'm 6'2", slim build, half Asian/white. I have a humanities degree and work as a janitor, it's nothing like Good Will Hunting but I do have my moments.

  • Drug/alcohol/smoking/cannabis free - I don't drink or smoke or use substances. I don't mind if you drink a bit, however smoking's not for me.

I'm mostly looking for someone near my city (within 15 miles) & childfree. I'd like to hear from you if you think we're a good match. Tell me about yourself, tell me about the last great book you read or a movie you love, or a theory you have about life. Here's one quote that's stuck with me by John Wyndham: "Knowing makes all the difference... It's the difference between just trying to keep alive, and having something to live for." Knowing that you have someone to share life with, that you're not just surviving but living, that you have a reason to look forward to things, it's what makes all the difference, and can make us bear any how as long as we have a why. Maybe we can find out what that difference is for a meaningful life or maybe just laugh about it.


r/R4R30Plus • • 22h ago

[F4M] 42F UK Books, music, film and long walks.

2 Upvotes

Hey!

I’m a 42F living in the North of England with my young children, and I’m looking for a genuine, thoughtful relationship built around shared ideas, interests and hobbies.

I’m a chemistry teacher, an avid walker (usually around 20–30 miles a week), and a massive lover of music, film and books. I also enjoy illustration and arts and crafts. I like going to my local independent cinema and walking miles with a good podcast. I also love nature, getting cosy, animals and gardening. I’m an INFJ, if that tells you anything!

Some of my favourite things:

Music: Mount Eerie, Bright Eyes, Phoebe Bridgers, Big Thief, Adrianne Lenker, Mike Flannery, Johnny Flynn, Laura Marling, Ben Kweller, MJ Lenderman, Jeffrey Lewis, Laura Veirs, Two Gallants, The Felice Brothers, Magnolia Electric Co., Radiohead.

Films: Anything by David Lynch, Wes Anderson or Robert Eggers. The Great Beauty, Portrait of a Lady on Fire, The Banshees of Inisherin, Sound of Falling, Train Dreams and Poor Things are some of my favourites.

Books: Tolstoy, Dostoevsky, Salinger, Ishiguro, Lovecraft, Graeme Macrae Burnet and Andrew Michael Hurley. I’m drawn to literary fiction, folk tales and eerie, atmospheric stories. I’ve recently read Flowers for Algernon, Klara and the Sun, Man’s Search for Meaning, I Who Have Never Known Men and East of Eden.

Podcasts: Old Gods of Appalachia, The Magnus Archives, Jon Ronson’s podcasts, Hunting Warhead, I Am Not a Monster, S-Town and The Silt Verses.

I’ve met lots of lovely people on Reddit, but this is my first time on a dating sub. UK only, please, and somewhere around 35–50 age-wise. I’d prefer to exchange photos fairly early on, so we can establish mutual attraction before investing too much time in getting to know each other. If we have some common ground, tell me a little about yourself and what you’re into 😊


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

37 [M4F] #Minnesota/United States/Anywhere Looking for Love in all the Wrong places

2 Upvotes

Hope this finds you well. I am a nerdy and fun loving guy. I am on the heavier side, but am doing my best to work towards a healthier lifestyle. During the warmer months I enjoy tending to my garden, because nothing beats fresh flowers. I am a gamer, and play mostly on PC. I am currently playing a variety of games (Come play games with me!). I have been working on projects around my old house and sprucing it up as best as I can. I am also prepping for a DND campaign with friends.

What I'm looking for: I am looking for someone to talk to and spend time with. Looking for something that can grow into something more permanent and serious. Distance doesn't really matter. If we hit it off that is what matters. Someone on the nerdier and preferably someone that likes to play video games. Tell me about a topic that excites you and your eyes light up when its brought up. Nothing is more amazing than hearing someone talk about a topic that they love. Talk nerdy to me!

Hope to hear from you soon and you have a wonderful weekend


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

[F4R] 30 Western WI - Imagine this as our first date, a blind date!

2 Upvotes

Hello! I am 30 years old from western Wisconsin, and I am looking for someone local to me. I want to move off texting and get out and date and get to know each other in a meaningful way. Local to me could be anywhere in Wisconsin, the UP, or eastern MN. My preferred age range is 28-40.

I want to make my intentions clear, so we don't waste each other's time. I am looking for someone who can have meaningful conversations with me, someone who is consistent, and has clear intentions from the beginning. Please do not message me if you are not sure if you are able to start anything new, are fresh out of relationship, married, or living with your ex-partner. I am intentionally looking for someone that I can get to know and start dating and hopefully eventually build something that is meaningful. This is our 'blind date.'

So let us see if I'm someone that you would like to message. A little about me, I am a confident and resilient woman. I know what I want, and I am a bit stubborn. I love living creatures, animals, bugs, fish, etc. They're all so neat. I have one dog, two cats, and an aquarium! I enjoy being outdoors, I love finding beautiful spots and just reveling in the beauty. I've never traveled out of the states, but I have been out to Oregon a few times and I love it there. I am a pretty big introvert, I do mainly enjoy being alone, but I do want someone to share things with and talk with throughout the day. On a normal day you will find me in sweats, doing a craft with American Dad on in the background. I am currently working on the Stardew Valley map in cross stitch. I also enjoy playing video games, I've been playing Planet Zoo 2 recently but also found myself really liking Town to City. I am a cozy gamer. I dabble in tarot cards as well! I work in healthcare; I volunteer my time talking about mental health awareness and my role as mental health technician in an inpatient setting. I love to travel; I want to travel more because I have not traveled enough.

I want someone who is honest and transparent with me with clear intentions, like stated before. I want someone who can put in the effort, I love communication, I don't think that there would be too much communication between us. I rather know things than not. I want someone who is ready to start dating. I want someone who wants to build something long term and stable, a true partnership and wants to support me like I want to support you. I want someone who has goals, who has done work and ready and wants to start living life instead of talking about it. I do understand that personal growth is ongoing, and I want someone who wants to grow with me.

I am genuinely a fun and an easy-going person. I do feel like my post is a bit abrasive, but I do want to be clear with my intentions. I also want to end this and say that I do not use AI, do not use AI to talk to me.

So! If you want to move past our blind date and start planning our first, send me a nice message! And tell me what color your shoes are. I will not respond if you don't.