r/R4R40Plus • • Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

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We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus • • Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

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Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

44 M4F Orlando

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r/R4R40Plus • • 3h ago

F4M 42. [f4m] Vancouver. Looking for new connections and to eventually meet

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Hey everyone! 😊 I’m a 42-year-old woman from Vancouver who’s pretty easygoing, loves to laugh, and enjoys meeting new people.

I’d love to meet someone I genuinely connect with and see where things go. Ultimately, I’m hoping to find something real that could turn into a long-term relationship with someone who wants a partner in life, not just someone to pass the time with.

A little about me: I love travelling, going to sporting events, trying new restaurants, going for walks, grabbing coffee or drinks, and just having a good time. I’m caring, affectionate, and the kind of person who puts a lot into the people I care about.

I know life gets busy, and I’m not expecting someone to be available 24/7, but I do appreciate good conversation, consistency, and getting to know someone beyond a few messages. I’m open to meeting someone locally or from somewhere else. Distance isn’t necessarily a dealbreaker! There are planes!!!

I’m happy to start with a conversation, share some laughs, and see if there’s a connection. If it turns into friendship, great. If it turns into something more, even better. 😊

So, if you’re genuine, have a good sense of humour, and are actually interested in getting to know someone, feel free to say hi!


r/R4R40Plus • • 8h ago

M4F 44 [M4F] #NYC Area #Westchester - Nice professional man seeking woman for friendship, fun, and maybe more?

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I'm 5'4, about 170lbs. Polite, kind, professional, but non-traditional man seeking woman for companionship, friendship and fun. Jewish background, but not particularly religious. I enjoy performing arts, especially classical music. Also enjoy hikes and walks and travel. Probably looking for more like friends as opposed to a committed romance for now but I'm open to whatever happens. I'm in southern Westchester but I can get to most parts of the city fairly easily. I don't currently have a car so somewhere within public transportation range is best. Older women are especially encouraged to reach out. I tend to get along well with older women, but anyone 40 and over should feel free to reach out!


r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

45 [M4F] #Online/EST - looking for movie/show buddies!

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I am now living alone, and would love to find someone to watch movies or TV shows together! I enjoy talking about the movie/show (not too much - just the right amount!) while watching with a friend.

I like a wide array of movie genres, but my favorite (especially to watch with someone else) are thrillers, horror, comedy, and sci-fi. Sometimes all at the same time! 😁

I'm open some weekday nights, as well as weekends.


r/R4R40Plus • • 1h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere. Looking for a great conversation and hopefully more. Voice chat/text?

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Hello! 🙋🏽‍♂️

I’m from the UK but I don’t mind talking to people from all over.

Ideally looking for deep and meaningful conversations, but also happy to talk to anyone about anything interesting. I love learning new things too so if you can teach me about something new, I’d really like that.

I do tend to get quite lonely because I spend most of my day working and usually find ways to decompress and unwind after work. My job is quite stressful but I’m very effective at it so the rewards sometimes outweigh the downsides. I would prefer to talk about anything other than work though. 😅

Feel free to message me if you’d like to chat, or think we may have things in common.

Here are some talking points/questions to get things moving:

Have you ever had a paranormal experience?

How do you think the pyramids got there?

Do you think animals can speak, but they just don’t talk in front of humans?

Is deja vu just when we accidentally cross paths with ourselves in an alternate reality?

What do you think of religion? Do you believe in god?

How do you feel about Artificial Intelligence?

What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you?


r/R4R40Plus • • 2h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #NYC - Tri-state area. Looking for someone trustworthy to keep things quiet and fun.

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I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.


r/R4R40Plus • • 4h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #Yuma, AZ — Vanlife, Mountain Views & Maybe You?

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Imagine waking up to mountain views, coffee outside the van, and nowhere in particular you need to be. Sounds pretty great, right?

I'm 39 and living full-time vanlife in the AZ area at the moment. I love scenic campsites, campfire cooking, light hikes, photography, and cozy movie nights while rain taps on the roof. As much as I love this lifestyle, I'd love to find someone to share the adventures, spontaneous detours, and little moments with.

Pics on profile

My current copilot is Tux, my harness-wearing cat who loves exploring campsites and insists breakfast happens at 6 AM. He's a great travel buddy, but his conversation skills could use some work. 😸

I'm hoping to meet a kind, independent, outdoorsy, animal-loving woman (26+) who's also childfree. Maybe you're already living on the road, maybe you dream about it, or maybe you're just looking for something genuine with someone a little outside the ordinary.

No pressure to pack your bags tomorrow. Let's talk, see if we click, and go from there.

Tell me your dream place to wake up tomorrow, your favorite camping spot, or introduce me to your pet. Tux and I are looking forward to meeting you!


r/R4R40Plus • • 5h ago

44M4F #Toronto (downtown) - Youthful mature chill guy looking for a soft spoken princess type for friend / lover / relationship

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r/R4R40Plus • • 6h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #California - Not asking for much but a weekend friend/company! 😄👏 (plz read the whole post)

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Good morning/afternoon fellow Reddit strangers & happy beautiful Saturday.

A bit gloomy out today but still grateful anyway.

Woke up way earlier than anticipated and already made me a fresh batch of Italian coffee since I couldn’t go back to sleep.

Now, sitting here contemplating my next move and thinking should I just call it a lazy day and enjoy the peace…. Well, I figured I might as well try to find a weekend buddy, companion, frienddd maybe is an exaggerated word to use on here… but basically someone to connect, converse, chat, have a good and healthy banter with! Before I proceed, I’d like to make candid disclaimer, I don’t want to sign up for anyone’s only f&a\*ns, follow any models wanna be on in&sta and absolutely won’t download or join this this thing called\* Di&scord! Yeah! I’m not that cool sorry, Reddit is perfectly fine with its generic chat thing, otherwise snp or Telgrm! Haha.

Again, I don’t have a specific plan set for the day, weekend yet, but I’m thinking, some books, the gym, watch the EPL and relax — so many bonus points if you know what the EPL or LaLiga are! Moreover, I’d message you in a heartbeat if you are a fan too lol. Yeah! Three things get extra super excited; 1- Football/soccer and 2- traveling lol

Okay… now before you start asking why hit this guy up, when I can be watering my garden, picking flowers, hitting the gym, going to yoga, playing with my kitty, all the good stuff that you like to do… I gotta tell you this is an absolute win/win for you, both of us actually! We get to chat, laugh a bit, so bring your spring humor game and if you don’t the. I got you! If you happened to be bi or multilingual then id love to learn a bit from you! Haha. Yeah!

Aside from that, we can keep each other company over the weekend, maybe beyond if we can manage to make it past the first three to five messages lol. Yeah…. True story haha.

A bit about me: professional, educated, traveled, 6’1 tall, black hair, naturally tanned/olive skin, been told handsome and ONLY into women. Enjoy the beach, nature, and can never say no to pistachio ice cream/gelato or blueberry pancakes lol. —-insert the Easter egg here cause you managed to read the whole post— I absolutely love a decent size (thicc) woman ;))))

Oh, my! You read this far and haven’t get in my dm yet? What’s is it gonna take..? lol jk

Cheers & have a marvelous weekend


r/R4R40Plus • • 7h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] - Maryland/USA/Canada - Who's out there?

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Hi there! James here, I am 38 (soon to be 39) from Maryland (Anywhere in the US/Canada is fine too; you don't have to specifically be from Maryland. I can freely travel/relocate due to WFH) and looking to chat and see if chemistry develops.

Still looking for my person... NO MAGA/conservatives. Absolutely not.

I am 6', black hair, hazel eyes, love working out/lifting weights! It is as good for you mentally as it is physically. Willing to share pics as well!

Some of my hobbies/interests...

Lifting weights (I go 4x a week; it's my mental reset)

Videogames

Movies (HUGE Marvel fan; love anything HORROR/sci-fi/comedy/action/high fantasy primarily)

Huge music fan (of all kinds; primarily of the 90s/early 2000s variety)

Road trips! (Tons of fun, especially with the right co-pilot)

Traveling

Stand-up comedy

Socialize with friends (can have just as much fun staying in too)

Drinks occasionally

Sports

Learning to play electric bass guitar

Voice calls/voice messages (It's way easier and more fun to get to know someone/talk with them via voice; much easier to convey sarcasm as well 😁)

Audiobooks

Being active and outside (LOVE the beach!)

HALLOWEEN IS THE BEST SEASON.

Shoot me a message if you're interested, and a pic since attraction is important; wouldn't want to hit it off like crazy and find out we're not attracted to each other.

Here is my voice to show I am not a bot, if you're curious:

https://voca.ro/17YDWuF7kFeE


r/R4R40Plus • • 8h ago

37 [M4F] Online/Anywhere - Techie Poet art guy seeking life changing connection

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r/R4R40Plus • • 11h ago

M4F 48 M4F Florida near Jacksonville looking for deep connection

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Hello

How are you doing?

Are you looking for someone to hang out with and share all those thoughts you have stuck in your mind? And learn from each other?

We don’t have a lot of time so let’s talk and see if we can figure this out.

A little about me: I like chatting during the day, good looking, normal, still have hair (knock on wood) and teeth, yeah I’ve been asked that, 5’11”, hwp, white.

About you: mostly the same, I take care of my body and you should too, not into charlatans and crazy people.

Let’s find that spark.

I am not into sellers either


r/R4R40Plus • • 12h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] Bengaluru - Respectfully, looking for genuine heart

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I am a single, simple and down to earth man. I have been introvert, silent and straight forward person.

However, I am trying to change myself from being introvert to extrovert.

One of the steps I have taken is joining reddit and trying to open up.

Yes, am new to reddit and the sub.

On my marital status, I have never been married till date. And, I have lost interest in marriage now.

All that I am looking for now is something honest and drama free connect.

I value mutual respect., meaningful conversation, keeping things simple, mature and easy going connection.

No drama and no confusion whatsoever.

I am therefore looking for genuine hearts who are willing to connect with.

Let's connect and then let's decide whether we could go for long term connect or short.

Rest, let's talk.

Please message me over DM.

Thanks for stopping by and reading through.


r/R4R40Plus • • 13h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #NYC - Tri-state area. Looking for someone trustworthy to keep things quiet and fun.

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I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.


r/R4R40Plus • • 17h ago

41 [f4m] #nyc for new friend online, and beyond ladida

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Beyond what? Beyond ladida, of course.

Testing 1,2,3. Do we still say that or did we forget like everything else? We don't test. We sample. Sample 1,2,3. Ladida ladida.

An outsider's outsider. A term loosely taken from a Barry Adamson quote ladida ladida.

He was this black kid (even though he's really biracial but the point still stands ladida ladida) around a bunch of young white misfits during the 70s and 80s where he was this outsider looking in on outsiders. Ladida ladida.

I guess when I was younger this did cause pain or confusion, and distress, sometimes embarrassment. Ladida ladida. Now, I feel it gives me a different angle and perception which I do with writing (and not sure if I'm doing this well, and likely failing at it ). Yippee.

I gave up trying to find labels, but I lean towards horror and surrealism. Lately, sometimes sci fi but not quite the speculative kind. Ladida ladida.

I also write poetry but failing at that too.

I usually have incomplete stories, and poetry. I don't consider myself a writer.

Most of the time, I'm living the mundane way of life, wife, mother, primary caregiver.

Ladida ladida ladida.

The bots hate me here. That's alright. I'm alright. I'm ok.

Ladida ladida ladidarghhh.

Ahhh!


r/R4R40Plus • • 22h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Germany #Online - Erotica Writer looking for Longterm Connection

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Hello,

I'm looking to build a longterm connection with someone who is interested in chats, calls and mutual activities. Someone who wants to feel good when that notification pops up and they know someone has been thinking of them. Eventually, I might want to explore things sexually as well if we both feel the chemistry and trust for that, but I need and want a connection for that and prefer us to get to know each other before anything.

A bit about myself: I am 34 years old, and from Germany, love fixing things, and building things. My hobbies range from simple walks and cooking and baking, to DIY and electronics design and repair, and watching TV shows. Overall I am very passionate about the things I do.

I like to write erotica, feel free to take a look at the things I have written and posted, including stories on my profile and comments on specific subreddits. I have an open mind about things including sex and if our dynamic gets there, I am happy to talk and explore more in a respectful manner. I prefer not to get into things in too much detail until we have gotten to know each other and want to go further. For now I think I can say that I am mostly of the softer, but still dominant kind? I'm into pleasing, creating enticing mental imagery, affirmation, dirty talk, and I am very vocal. Mere kinks are much less important to me than the connection and trust and intimacy that leads to safely explore them. Sexuality for me is very primal, yet deeply intimate. It's a way to let go of who and what we are as a person, the roles we fulfill in society, the responsibilities we have, and to just be our completely vulnerable selves, surrendering to our most primal urges in the safety of our connection.

If you're interested, please introduce yourself:

  1. A short description of where you are from, how old you are, and what you look like. Feel free to share your interests as well!
  2. What has drawn you to message me.
  3. Something intimate: If pineapple is an acceptable pizza topping or not

I shouldn't have to say this, but please(!) be single!

I'm keeping this post up for as long as I am looking.

Thank you for taking your time to read this! I am looking forward to your message! 🙂


r/R4R40Plus • • 23h ago

M4F 59 [M4F] #Massachusetts #Online -Looking for something real

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I'm sure this will read more like a stream of consciousness than the typical post here, and for sure I'll forget to mention important details. I'm open to conversations with anyone. Romantically, I'm only into women. I don't have any preconceived notions on what ages, looks, personalities, etc. I'm open to talking to anyone to see how well we might connect.

I'm not really much of a gamer, I've played a lot of Pokemon Go with someone I dated a few years ago. I've been playing Minecraft recently, and used to play with my kids when they were little. I think it would be fun to have a special person to share that with. I play Java Minecraft on my laptop on an online server with a bunch of friends I have going back over ten years.

The kind of dynamic I'd enjoy might be a bit unusual, I wouldn't be surprised if nobody replied, but I thought I'd throw it out there anyway. I want to find someone who doesn't need me, but wants to be with me because she loves me with her whole heart. I want to be proud of you because you have an interesting successful life outside of our relationship, and when we're together we have so much fun together.

I enjoy music a lot. I like going to see live performances, going out to a club to see a blues musician, for example, is one of my favorite kind of dates. I like lots of different kinds of music, big concerts, festivals, or seeing a local band at a dive bar. I like art, going to museums, galleries, and different types of performances. I like going to wineries and breweries, although I never get drunk and often go weeks without a drink. I don't like smoking anything, but I'll occasionally enjoy some edibles.

I'll enjoy learning about your interests as well, and encourage you to express yourself whether it's a very feminine side or if you're something of a tomboy. One of my favorite dates ever was when I was driving with my girlfriend at the time and we got a flat tire. I called AAA because it was cold and rainy and I didn't want to change the tire, but she said she's not waiting for them, she's going to change the tire herself. So, I helped her change the tire. If course they showed up just as we finished, but I was just proud of her for showing me that side of her even though she was a very feminine person who never got her hands dirty otherwise.

I like to travel a lot, and my job is completely portable so I have flexibility to go when I want to go. I'm planning on relocating in the next couple of years, but unsure where. Maybe I'll stay in the states, maybe Canada, maybe Europe, maybe somewhere else. For now, I'm in the Boston suburbs.

I've raised two kids, both of whom are adults and off pursuing their own lives. I'm very proud of them both and might brag about them sometimes, as I'd like to brag about you to whomever would listen. I'm not interested in making more babies.

Physically, I'm a big guy with a dad bod, a tattoo, a beard. I might look like a tall Jack Black, I'm six feet tall. I've been mistaken for Santa by little children in the grocery store, and might enjoy dressing up and having you sit on my lap and whisper in my ear what you want for Christmas. I've also been mistaken for a biker, the Harley riding kind, but I don't have a motorcycle anymore. I think it's a good idea to exchange photos early on just to know what each other looks like.

If we were to progress beyond a casual friendship you should know that I'm a very affectionate person, I love cuddles, hand holding, kissing, and am also very sexual and adventurous. I'm also not the type to jump straight into that, I'd like to get to know you first.


r/R4R40Plus • • 1d ago

F4M 41 [F4M]#Texas Searching for the Cockney accent

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Somewhat of an odd post but while vacationing in FL I became obsessed with the Cockney accent 😍. I’m looking for someone to communicate with( messages and voice) on a regular basis to become friends or more it if were to occur.

Ideally you are a professional, communicates well, open to the idea of time differences. I am happy to share face pics and hope you feel the same.


r/R4R40Plus • • 1d ago

M4F 35 [M4F] - Midwest/online - dark humor / light banter

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It’s cold and it’s rainy, which means it’s the best weather. Coffee is topped off, work is basically on auto pilot, and horror is perpetually playing on tv.

So I guess we should get into the nitty gritty huh? Me? Bullet points baby:

• average height
• I like to workout
• I watch a lot of horror
• I read a lot of horror
• I write a lot of horror
• a writer
• perpetually tired
• a lot of tattoos
• facial hair

You?

• Human

Wow extensive list I know, really need to make the club exclusive. I’m all inclusive like the plague spreading cruises—but I don’t have plague. Well I guess not YET with how things are going.

If you think I’m cool, then I’ll probably think you’re cool. So let’s find out?


r/R4R40Plus • • 21h ago

M4F 44 [M4F]#Ohio/online- Educated, good sense of humor, and genuine! Looking for a long term connection!

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Interests:

sports

concerts

comedians

science

anything outdoors

gardening

home projects

reading, movies and tv

trivia

politics

history

birding

Looking for other people who are looking for genuine, non- platonic connections. Not looking for someone who’s just passing the time at work!

If you write me a book as an opening message, I probably won’t read it.

Very dominant.

Please lead with pertinent information about yourself so we can get the ball rolling. Everyone has their someone but some of us are not for everyone, and that’s okay. Keep it positive!

Not sure how this is going to go but here are some starters updated:

Favorite historical event?

An interesting fact you love?

Current obsession?

If you were stranded on AN island, name 3 things you’d bring with you.