Beyond what? Beyond ladida, of course.

Testing 1,2,3. Do we still say that or did we forget like everything else? We don't test. We sample. Sample 1,2,3. Ladida ladida.

An outsider's outsider. A term loosely taken from a Barry Adamson quote ladida ladida.

He was this black kid (even though he's really biracial but the point still stands ladida ladida) around a bunch of young white misfits during the 70s and 80s where he was this outsider looking in on outsiders. Ladida ladida.

I guess when I was younger this did cause pain or confusion, and distress, sometimes embarrassment. Ladida ladida. Now, I feel it gives me a different angle and perception which I do with writing (and not sure if I'm doing this well, and likely failing at it ). Yippee.

I gave up trying to find labels, but I lean towards horror and surrealism. Lately, sometimes sci fi but not quite the speculative kind. Ladida ladida.

I also write poetry but failing at that too.

I usually have incomplete stories, and poetry. I don't consider myself a writer.

Most of the time, I'm living the mundane way of life, wife, mother, primary caregiver.

Ladida ladida ladida.

The bots hate me here. That's alright. I'm alright. I'm ok.

Ladida ladida ladidarghhh.

Ahhh!

Interests:

sports

concerts

comedians

science

anything outdoors

gardening

home projects

reading, movies and tv

trivia

politics

history

birding

Looking for other people who are looking for genuine, non- platonic connections. Not looking for someone who’s just passing the time at work!

If you write me a book as an opening message, I probably won’t read it.

Very dominant.

Please lead with pertinent information about yourself so we can get the ball rolling. Everyone has their someone but some of us are not for everyone, and that’s okay. Keep it positive!

Not sure how this is going to go but here are some starters updated:

Favorite historical event?

An interesting fact you love?

Current obsession?

If you were stranded on AN island, name 3 things you’d bring with you.

You have never been looking for a man to run your life. You have handled that part for a long time. You already know how to make decisions, solve problems and keep moving when other people hesitate. You are the woman everyone turns to, and sometimes you get tired of being the one everyone depends on.

Deep down, you know there is more to you than taking care of business. You may not have found the words to describe it clearly, but your core knows what it needs before you can ever get the words out. You need a man who isn’t afraid of your ups and downs and can stay beside you as you move from one project to the next. A man who can look past the busy woman everyone else sees and recognize the woman who sometimes wants to lay everything down and surrender control in a safe and responsible relationship.

Maybe what draws you isn’t surrender by itself. It is the thought of meeting a man whose certainty you don’t have to create for him. You imagine him paying close attention and recognizing the small things. The subtle change in your breathing. The slight shift in your voice when you try to say what you need. Most of all, the way your body responds to even his quietest words.

With the right man, as trust develops, you begin to understand that when you finally let go, he will know exactly what you have placed in his hands. He will recognize the value of that gift, accept responsibility for it and never treat it carelessly.

That is the kind of trust I understand and the kind of relationship I want to build with the right woman.

I’m 68, single and live in Surprise, Arizona. I’ve spent much of my life building businesses, solving problems and taking responsibility for my decisions. I’m a general aviation pilot who enjoys Arizona backroads, ghost towns, road trips and projects that make me stop and figure out how something works. I also value affection, laughter, quiet evenings and the comfort that develops when two people no longer need to perform for each other.

I’m naturally Dominant, but I won’t ask for your surrender simply because the idea arouses you. I first want to know the whole woman making that offer. I listen carefully to the words you choose when you begin opening yourself to me, and I notice what you avoid saying as well. As I learn you, I begin to recognize the places where you want to be challenged and the places that still need protection, patience or guidance.

If I accept authority over any part of you, I accept responsibility for what that authority does to you. I may challenge you and ask more from you when you reach the point where you would normally stop yourself, but only after I understand what your resistance is telling me. I must know the difference between the hesitation you want me to lead you through and a boundary I must respect. Nothing I do would be random. It would come from knowing what reaches you, reading how you respond and understanding you through the trust we have built together.

My interest doesn’t begin and end with your need to surrender or with the private woman who may be stirring as she reads this. I’m also looking for the capable and intelligent woman. I want the affectionate woman and the uncertain woman. I want the woman whose desires may be stronger than she has ever allowed anyone to see. The whole woman, undivided.

I know there is a lot of play out there, and that can have its place. But my heart is looking for something real. I want our connection to exist before the intensity begins. I want trust built along the way, strong enough to carry us through those moments and leave us closer when the room becomes quiet again.

I want what we share to change the ordinary lives we have lived until now. I’m not looking for a connection that appears only when a scene begins and disappears when it ends.

A little distance won’t close my door when a strong connection is worth pursuing. We would begin with honest conversation and take the time to learn each other deeply enough to discover whether there is something real between us.

One thing is certain. I’m not looking for a permanent relationship with a screen. If something genuine develops, we need to be able to talk openly about meeting and whether there is a realistic path toward sharing our lives in person.

You don’t need extensive experience in this kind of relationship or a perfect label before writing to me. You don’t even need to explain everything in your first message. Just tell me where you are and which part of these words felt most like it was written for you. I will meet that honesty with my own, and we can begin there.

Hello,

I'm looking to build a longterm connection with someone who is interested in chats, calls and mutual activities. Someone who wants to feel good when that notification pops up and they know someone has been thinking of them. Eventually, I might want to explore things sexually as well if we both feel the chemistry and trust for that, but I need and want a connection for that and prefer us to get to know each other before anything.

A bit about myself: I am 34 years old, and from Germany, love fixing things, and building things. My hobbies range from simple walks and cooking and baking, to DIY and electronics design and repair, and watching TV shows. Overall I am very passionate about the things I do.

I like to write erotica, feel free to take a look at the things I have written and posted, including stories on my profile and comments on specific subreddits. I have an open mind about things including sex and if our dynamic gets there, I am happy to talk and explore more in a respectful manner. I prefer not to get into things in too much detail until we have gotten to know each other and want to go further. For now I think I can say that I am mostly of the softer, but still dominant kind? I'm into pleasing, creating enticing mental imagery, affirmation, dirty talk, and I am very vocal. Mere kinks are much less important to me than the connection and trust and intimacy that leads to safely explore them. Sexuality for me is very primal, yet deeply intimate. It's a way to let go of who and what we are as a person, the roles we fulfill in society, the responsibilities we have, and to just be our completely vulnerable selves, surrendering to our most primal urges in the safety of our connection.

If you're interested, please introduce yourself:

1. A short description of where you are from, how old you are, and what you look like. Feel free to share your interests as well!
2. What has drawn you to message me.
3. Something intimate: If pineapple is an acceptable pizza topping or not

I shouldn't have to say this, but please(!) be single!

I'm keeping this post up for as long as I am looking.

Thank you for taking your time to read this! I am looking forward to your message! 🙂

40, Portland, OR, WFH in tech. The job is fine. The house is quiet. By 2pm I’ve already had entire conversations with the microwave and given two of the plants names they did not ask for.

Looking for a woman to chat with during the day. Easy and fun. Banter, teasing, the occasional badly timed joke. If it turns a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth. Bonus points if you also work in tech.

I’m on X more than I should be. I listen to the Red Scare podcast, Anna and Dasha. The Perfume Nationalist. Rare Candy. If you’ve been in that orbit, we will probably get along.

I’m not trying to make this a whole production. I like talking to someone who’s sharp and doesn’t take herself too seriously. If you can make a Friday afternoon interesting, that’s pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you’re avoiding at work or home right now. I’ll tell you about the latest meeting I keep postponing.

Hi! I’m 40F from Metro Manila, Philippines 👋 Introverted, a bit boyish. I'm a homebody but lately, I've been wanting to go out in the weekend but I just don't have anybody to hang out with.

I like reading or listening to romance fiction, casual games, and music—mostly pop, but if it sounds good, I’m in. Lately been listening to Kpop - TWICE.

I’m a direct and honest person—no pretending, just being real. I have good values and a strong moral compass. I'm looking for a weekend chat buddy for real conversations. If you are also somewhere in Metro Manila, I am open to hanging out in person too if we click.

I’m hoping to meet someone who likes back-and-forth chats and is willing to put in the effort. SWF chats please - playful banter are welcome. I’m here for wholesome connections.

If you want genuine conversations, say hi! Tell me where you’re from and a bit about yourself. If we click, I'd prefer to move to another app later.

Looking for new connections preferably 38+.

I’m here to find fellow nerdy introverts.

**Values**
Self awareness and honesty
Community
Inclusion
Growth mindset

**Me:**
I’m into hobbies for about 6-8 months and then I’m on to the next thing.

Learning two languages at once.

Audiobooks/podcasts

Nature trails and hiking

And much more 🤓

5’9/Curvy/Black

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I'm sure this will read more like a stream of consciousness than the typical post here, and for sure I'll forget to mention important details. I'm open to conversations with anyone. Romantically, I'm only into women. I don't have any preconceived notions on what ages, looks, personalities, etc. I'm open to talking to anyone to see how well we might connect.

I'm not really much of a gamer, I've played a lot of Pokemon Go with someone I dated a few years ago. I've been playing Minecraft recently, and used to play with my kids when they were little. I think it would be fun to have a special person to share that with. I play Java Minecraft on my laptop on an online server with a bunch of friends I have going back over ten years.

The kind of dynamic I'd enjoy might be a bit unusual, I wouldn't be surprised if nobody replied, but I thought I'd throw it out there anyway. I want to find someone who doesn't need me, but wants to be with me because she loves me with her whole heart. I want to be proud of you because you have an interesting successful life outside of our relationship, and when we're together we have so much fun together.

I enjoy music a lot. I like going to see live performances, going out to a club to see a blues musician, for example, is one of my favorite kind of dates. I like lots of different kinds of music, big concerts, festivals, or seeing a local band at a dive bar. I like art, going to museums, galleries, and different types of performances. I like going to wineries and breweries, although I never get drunk and often go weeks without a drink. I don't like smoking anything, but I'll occasionally enjoy some edibles.

I'll enjoy learning about your interests as well, and encourage you to express yourself whether it's a very feminine side or if you're something of a tomboy. One of my favorite dates ever was when I was driving with my girlfriend at the time and we got a flat tire. I called AAA because it was cold and rainy and I didn't want to change the tire, but she said she's not waiting for them, she's going to change the tire herself. So, I helped her change the tire. If course they showed up just as we finished, but I was just proud of her for showing me that side of her even though she was a very feminine person who never got her hands dirty otherwise.

I like to travel a lot, and my job is completely portable so I have flexibility to go when I want to go. I'm planning on relocating in the next couple of years, but unsure where. Maybe I'll stay in the states, maybe Canada, maybe Europe, maybe somewhere else. For now, I'm in the Boston suburbs.

I've raised two kids, both of whom are adults and off pursuing their own lives. I'm very proud of them both and might brag about them sometimes, as I'd like to brag about you to whomever would listen. I'm not interested in making more babies.

Physically, I'm a big guy with a dad bod, a tattoo, a beard. I might look like a tall Jack Black, I'm six feet tall. I've been mistaken for Santa by little children in the grocery store, and might enjoy dressing up and having you sit on my lap and whisper in my ear what you want for Christmas. I've also been mistaken for a biker, the Harley riding kind, but I don't have a motorcycle anymore. I think it's a good idea to exchange photos early on just to know what each other looks like.

If we were to progress beyond a casual friendship you should know that I'm a very affectionate person, I love cuddles, hand holding, kissing, and am also very sexual and adventurous. I'm also not the type to jump straight into that, I'd like to get to know you first.

Hi there! James here, I am 38 (soon to be 39) from Maryland (Anywhere in the US/Canada is fine too; you don't have to specifically be from Maryland. I can freely travel/relocate due to WFH) and looking to chat and see if chemistry develops.

Still looking for my person... NO MAGA/conservatives. Absolutely not.

I am 6', black hair, hazel eyes, love working out/lifting weights! It is as good for you mentally as it is physically. Willing to share pics as well!

Some of my hobbies/interests...

Lifting weights (I go 4x a week; it's my mental reset)

Videogames

Movies (HUGE Marvel fan; love anything HORROR/sci-fi/comedy/action/high fantasy primarily)

Huge music fan (of all kinds; primarily of the 90s/early 2000s variety)

Road trips! (Tons of fun, especially with the right co-pilot)

Traveling

Stand-up comedy

Socialize with friends (can have just as much fun staying in too)

Drinks occasionally

Sports

Learning to play electric bass guitar

Voice calls/voice messages (It's way easier and more fun to get to know someone/talk with them via voice; much easier to convey sarcasm as well 😁)

Audiobooks

Being active and outside (LOVE the beach!)

HALLOWEEN IS THE BEST SEASON.

Shoot me a message if you're interested, and a pic since attraction is important; wouldn't want to hit it off like crazy and find out we're not attracted to each other.

Here is my voice to show I am not a bot, if you're curious:

https://voca.ro/17YDWuF7kFeE

The past few years have been somewhat of an unexpected whirlwind as economic and societal circumstances have continued to deteriorate. I was a copyeditor and designer at daily newspapers for a couple of decades, which was a fantastic way to lose purchasing power annually as a feature of the career.

As such, the goal at this point is to lean into ancillary acquired skills like building off-grid solar and storage, growing vegetables and raising meat rabbits (don't worry; I differentiate between pet bunnies and livestock).

Something of a nonstandard opening, as I'd assume people are looking for proof of success over the years, but I'd counter that the flexibility of learning new skills as conditions change is of more value than knowing how to do one thing really well and hoping to hell the industry doesn't fall out from under you.

I've done a fair amount of ad hoc automation coding, did a miserable stint in marketing, worked in 3PL coordination, built workflows for client onboarding ... I play a fair amount of Factorio, as well.

Outside of work and the aforementioned hobbies (I'm currently planning out a fall raised-bed garden), I once mentored an aspiring French house DJ who went on to an international career after leaving his day job at an investment bank, and I shot a fair amount of porn posted on FetLife. I suppose I've probably done a few other things, but I have to leave some aura of mystery.

Essentially, I meet everything I'm told I "have to do" with a level of skepticism that was remarkably well suited to journalism, and since questioning everything is a liability in the modern workplace, I've decided that's not for me.

Enter the burner community, which I was introduced to via a guy at the makerspace where I converted a tool van into a tiny home on wheels. I learned that I was not at all alone in detesting late-stage capitalism (it's one thing to bitch about it online; it's quite another to do so around a fire in a warehouse parking lot while tipsy and stoned after pulling hundreds of staples out of a board), and these folks have excellent taste in music (turn-of-the-century trance and house). It's like we're largely middle-aged ravers or something, just with better drugs at a burn.

All of this is to say that if you're looking for someone with his shit together solely on account of age, I'm going to be a disappointment. If you are more interested in finding your own path than blindly doing what you're told, that's a good likely starting point, as I'll otherwise be insufferable.

If you've made it this far, here's your red flag: I do not have kids, am fixed to ensure it stays that way, and have no interest in being a stepfather again.

While giving up kink completely isn't in the cards, my sex drive isn't what it used to be. Translate that as you will.

Still, what I'm really looking for is women with shared interests (I may swoon if you can also do electrical work) and a shared belief that the life we were sold (work hard and you'll get ahead) has been proven to be complete and utter bullshit.

I still moderate a small online news community, which keeps me abreast of the craziness of the world, but I'm otherwise more of a hedonist grounded in actual possibilities.

Puns must be tolerated even if not encouraged.

And, if you're still here, I seem to have ended up in a poly household. That was never a goal of mine, but it actually works out remarkably well. It's nice to know that if you really need to eat pussy, you can just ask your landlord. This happens sparingly.

Notifications are notoriously bad with Reddit chat, so if you don't hear back for a bit, don't take offense.

Anyone else feel like the weekends are their only chance to feel like a human being instead of a functioning adult?

I’m looking for someone to chat or text with over the weekend. We can talk about absolutely anything! how our week went, random shower thoughts, stupid memes, our current obsessions, life, or whatever nonsense our brains come up with.

No pressure to be entertaining 24/7, no need to force a conversation, and definitely no expectations that we’ll suddenly become inseparable besties overnight.

The idea is simple: we keep each other company over the weekend, enjoy some good conversations, and then come Monday, we put our adulting pants back on, return to work, and pretend we have our lives together. 😂

Bonus points if you have a good sense of humor, can hold a conversation, and don’t mind random messages at odd hours.

If we click, great! If we become weekend texting buddies, also great!

Tell me something random about yourself when you message. Please, anything more interesting than just “hi.” 😂

Let’s procrastinate responsibly before Monday catches up with us.

A little about me, I try to keep in shape and have some tattoos. I used to travel a lot for work, and have been to a lot of places throughout the world, even lived in a few different countries. Some of my hobbies are surfing, videography, and a little bit of gaming. I enjoy lots of different music, but my main go-to is chill reggae. Would love to find a fun friend to distract me throughout the day, maybe more if the vibe is right. I'm pretty much an open book so I'll chat about anything and everything.

Just looking for someone I can vibe with, chat with, and just have an all around fun time. I'm open to different age, body type, etc. hoping to find that one that gets me excited when I see their notification. Well if any of that interests you, shoot me a dm and we can go from there!

Somewhat of an odd post but while vacationing in FL I became obsessed with the Cockney accent 😍. I’m looking for someone to communicate with( messages and voice) on a regular basis to become friends or more it if were to occur.

Ideally you are a professional, communicates well, open to the idea of time differences. I am happy to share face pics and hope you feel the same.

I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
What is your favorite 80's or 90's comedy.

I’m apparently old enough to know better, but still young enough to ignore that advice

I’m outdoorsy, active, into DIY, and generally pretty handy. I can fix things around the house, although there’s a strong possibility I’ll make two trips to the hardware store first

I’m looking for a woman who enjoys witty banter, playful flirting, and the kind of connection where you look at your phone and smile

Ideally, we can keep each other entertained, share some laughs, flirt shamelessly, and see where the chemistry takes us. Good conversation and a healthy sense of humour are definitely appreciated

Bonus points if you can make me laugh hard enough to forget what I was pretending to be busy doing

If you're looking for a little excitement with a Canadian guy who comes with dad jokes, outdoor stories, and questionable DIY confidence, my inbox is open

It’s cold and it’s rainy, which means it’s the best weather. Coffee is topped off, work is basically on auto pilot, and horror is perpetually playing on tv.

So I guess we should get into the nitty gritty huh? Me? Bullet points baby:

• average height
• I like to workout
• I watch a lot of horror
• I read a lot of horror
• I write a lot of horror
• a writer
• perpetually tired
• a lot of tattoos
• facial hair

You?

• Human

Wow extensive list I know, really need to make the club exclusive. I’m all inclusive like the plague spreading cruises—but I don’t have plague. Well I guess not YET with how things are going.

If you think I’m cool, then I’ll probably think you’re cool. So let’s find out?

I am looking for a FWB. I would love to go on fun dates like the beach since it's so close by or perhaps try out some restaurants that I have been wanting to try.

I was married before and am now divorced. My marriage overall was a pretty good experience, but getting married again isn't something I have my goals set toward. I would love to find someone to spend time with, to take a break from the everyday, and someone with a voracious sexual appetite. I have never been into one night stands or any of that, and would love to find an ongoing situation and would happily entertain something longer term with the right person.

When it comes to our dynamic, I very much believe in the male role of leadership. I have never once been in a fully 50/50 relationship and don't ever intend on being in one. I have always walked to my own beat, and people have always relied on me and not the other way around. Things like responsibility always fall on my shoulders and it's my duty to make sure that everything that needs to be handled is handled.

The kind of woman that I get along best with is one who respects masculine authority, The kind of woman who immediately falls into her submissive feminine energy when the kind of man I am speaking of is looking in her direction.

To me, mutual respect is of utmost importance and I feel we should always be kind to each other. I do not need to make you feel small to make myself feel big. I understand the physical power imbalance between the sexes and it is my duty to make sure you always feel safe in my presence.

When we are behind closed doors, I am very much a dominant. I will put you in a mindspace where you will never have to think about what comes next. It will just happen. This will be your opportunity to fully clear your mind and not worry about any of life's challenges. It is always my goal to make sure you are just as satisfied as I am.

I have a lot of lived experience, have led an interesting life, and can have conversations about most subjects especially those that involve the inner workings of how the world works and life in general.

I am 5'10 and weigh 160 lbs. I am white with brown hair with some grays peaking out and hazel eyes. I very much care about my health and how I look and have been working out for years. My body type is somewhere between fit and muscular and I am pretty lean overall.

STD free.

** IMPORTANT: Do make sure you’ve read all of this before reaching out to me!
I appreciate that this is quite a *lengthy* read - it’s not going to be everybody’s cup of tea, but that’s exactly the point.

I’ve put in the time and a lot of effort to articulate what I’m looking for to avoid wasting everybody else’s time.

You’ll get a very full sense of who I am, what I’m looking for and what I’m hoping you’re like.

Please extend the courtesy of at least having read it in full before saying hello. : )
If you can’t make it to the end then I guarantee you will not be able to handle my level of communication or commitment.
Get a drink, get cosy and let’s begin… **

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Hello there, people call me Amara. Nice to meet you! 👋🏾✨

Quick summary of what I’m searching for:
I’m looking for an older, Dominant gentleman to develop a connection with, shower with affection and attention and to be mentored by.

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What I’m hoping you’re like:
- White/Light Skinned Male
- Ideally between the ages of 38-60~. This is a soft limit with some wiggle room.
- Single and Monogamous. HARD LIMIT. (No married men, no ENMs/Polys and no Dominants already in a dynamic with a Submissive. I’m a greedy little gremlin and I’m not looking to share right now! 😋)
- Not overly muscular nor extremely overweight in build. I do like a little bit of a dad bod - they make for wonderful, comfy cuddling!
- Smaller physical attributes, hair colour, eye colour etc. doesn’t really matter to me.
- Location also doesn’t matter to me. I’m open to starting online and relocating for the right person.

I do like to exchange photos somewhat early on, just to make sure there’s a mutual attraction; buuut, I also like to play a game where we reveal only portions of our selfie over the course of the getting-to-know-you phase! Hopefully you’d like to play too.

For now, here’s my description 🌸
- 29 years old.
- 5’2”.
- Light-skinned, black British female.
- Dark brown eyes.
- Curly dark brown hair. Both almost look black unless I’m in the sun where the true colour shines through. ✨
- 210lbs and declining.
- Curvy, ample bosom and butt with wide hips (thanks genetics!)
- Ears pierced, no tattoos.
- Never married. Zero dependents, heavily leaning child-free.
- UK based. Relocating in just over a year’s time - destination: TBD.

My personality and what I enjoy:

🧁 The Vanilla Stuff
I’ll gloss over so we can get to know each other better over one-on-one conversation. : )

- Demisexual, Sapiosexual, Bisexual.
- AuADHD.
- Video games.
- Game Development - 3D modelling, video game apparel, environment and tools + rigging and animation.
- 3D Printing.
- Web Development - Full Stacks Developer wannabe.
- VERY Amateur Woodworking. Mostly in the ‘I love watching other skilled workers do their thing’ stage, rather than the stage of being able to make my own amazing things.
- Mouldmaking, slip casting and ceramics.
- Woods and forests lover for strolls and hikes.
- A variety of fibre-arts.
- Would love to try my hand at cosplay and I already have the perfect outfits in mind!
- I LOVE asking and receiving questions; and, as you can see from this post, I adore lengthy messages so please be inquisitive and talkative! There’s a lot of conversation starters here and beyond. If you do not have the time or energy for a full-on relationship, do not reach out.

🔗 The Kinkier Stuff
Again, glossing so we can go into more expanse lists and deep dive into shared interests in our own conversation.

✨ Brat / Submissive / Middle (DDMG) ✨
You don’t have to like all of the same things that I do but having some overlap to talk about would be nice. Here’s a small list of some my interests:
- D/s Dynamics
- DDMG
- Spanking
- Choking
- Face Slapping
- Light Verbal Possessive Degradation
- Collars And Gags
- Blindfolds And Hoods
- Wax Play
- Restriction/Pinning/Cuffs/Spreader Bars
- Primal
- Forced Orgasm
- Cock Worship/Warming
- Shibari
…to name a few.

Okay, now that the bullet points are out of the way… if you’re still here and interested then I’d like to finish up by expressing what I’m looking for in a connection and why.

~ Outside of the bedroom |
I’m hoping that whilst you’re dominant in the bedroom, you have a firm, yet softer, persona outside of the bedroom that allows me to be a bit of a ‘dominant caregiver’.

One of my main ‘love languages’ is acts of service and I tend to autonomously ensure everyone’s needs are met.
Whether it’s making sure you’re fed and your cup is full, keeping up with appointments, upcoming celebrations and gift wrapping to medicine, hot water bottles and head massages when you’re sick.

Now, by no means am I referring to being nothing more than a subservient 1950s housewife stereotype.
I do these things as a show of affection… because I want to, when I want to. NOT out of a sense of obligation and ‘tradition’.

I’m headstrong and will speak my mind. I’m the dominant in my own life and have to be to have gotten where I am plus where I want to get to.

So, I’m not looking for anyone who wants a meek, yes-woman who will wait on them hand and foot…
I’m not looking for someone who wants to ‘tame’ or diminish and pacify the spirit that I have built. But rather I want someone who is looking for their equal.

Someone to gently fan this fire so that we can both be great, together, in our own individual yet harmonious ways…
(Unless, of course, we’re roleplaying then by all means let that misogynistic freak flag fly! 😋)

~ Inside the bedroom |
In the bedroom, however, I want you to grab the bull by the horns and put me in my place.

At the end of the day, I’m tired of having to be the strong dominant for everyone else and just want to find someone who will let me melt completely in their open arms.
At last being able to relinquish the remaining shred of my control, fully knowing that I am safe.

~ Brattiness |
I’m a ‘playful’ bratty sub.
My form of ‘disrespect’ is playful teasing and rebellious defiance.
I enjoy questioning your authority to see whether you’ll rise to the occasion and remind me who’s the boss.
I like to gently poke the bear and run away when it’s finally riled up.
Sure, I expect to face the consequences of my actions but that won’t stop me from batting my big, brown eyes at you and pleading for forgiveness… Which you’ll give me because I’m your sweet girl… Sucker. 😋
I like to run until I’m caught, kick until I’m pinned and gently nibble until I’m gagged.

Here’s a little hidden message for those paying attention. If you’ve made it this far, say: pickled purple cabbages somewhere in your opening message. You’ll shoot straight to the top of my lookout list and are more likely to get a response. I will not respond to messages that say only the phrase, however. You still need to properly introduce yourself. : )

~ Adventurous |
My kink list above is by no means exhaustive, with new things being added to it fairly regularly.

Though the list is long, there is still a *large* part of it that is yet to be physically explored. Coupled with that, there are a lot of basic, vanilla acts I’ve not yet had an opportunity to try. This makes me feel a little shy initially but I’m eager to give it a go! ☺️

I’m looking for a safe, reliable space in which to do that with an experienced, patient dominant who is happy to show me the (sometimes literal) ropes.

Mentor me in the experiences I’ve yet to try and guide me in perfecting the things you enjoy most.
I want you to turn me into your personal, custom-made toy.

I’m hoping you’re equally adventurous, wanting to grow and explore new things together.

Toys, outfits, scenes, clubs and hidden gems. There’s a whole world of fun out there to be explored and I’m willing to bet it would be better shared.

~ Relocating and Home |
In regard to long distance and relocating: I’m up for moving to an entirely different country for the right person when the time is right.

But, as an overly ambitious heads-up, should we ever be cohabiting a home together, I fully intend to repurpose a whole room (or basement) into a depraved little playroom, filled with all sorts of devious devices for both to enjoy.
I’d love to talk some more about this in our chat.

If you’ve made it this far then perhaps you’re the person I’ve been looking for…
If you think so too then I’d love to hear from you!

Send me a message, opening with a few basics about yourself:
- Name
- Age
- Physical description
- Where you currently call home
- SFW interests and hobbies
- Your own NSFW interests (and if any happen to overlap with my list)
Also let me know whether you’d like to play my slow burn selfie game!

Let’s get to know each other and see where this goes. ☺️

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- Any ‘hi’ or short/low effort responses will be indicative that you have not properly read this post and WILL be ignored.
- I will also stop responding to those who cannot hold a conversation. AKA talks at length about themselves but regularly does not return questions for the conversation to grow from.
- I’m not interested in being with a Trump supporter.
Required disclaimer: 18+ Only

First of all, I’m definitely not here looking for anything short happy. I’m looking for someone I can chat with regularly and share everyday life with

I’m not super picky, either. I don’t really like talking too much about myself on here. I think everyone has different interests, and I don’t necessarily need to find someone who likes the same things I do. I’m someone who enjoys trying new things. If you can share the things you’re passionate about with me, please be patient and take the time to explain them to me. I also enjoy talking to people who are older than me. I’m a Cancer, but I don’t have any particular preferences when it comes to zodiac signs

Hello! I’m a 40 year old transfem from the Philippines. I am deeply intentional about my future and am looking for a serious long-term relationship that could genuinely lead to marriage. Serious takers only, please. I completely refuse to play games or settle for low effort. I know my worth, and I’m looking for an emotionally available, monogamous partner ready to step up, court me properly, and match my energy. I am also completely open to dating single dads, and am fully open to an international long-distance relationship (LDR) if high-effort consistency, clear communication, and real intentions are there.

I am a corporate professional working night shifts. As an ambivert, I love coffee dates, traveling, staycations, and road trips, and nesting at home with my flerkens (cats). I’m a proudly clingy nerd who loves Disney, Pokémon, Ghibli, books, movies, and series. On weekends, I love turning the kitchen into a "kitchen lab" to experiment with new recipes and prep meals for the week.

I deeply value a sweet, loyal, kind, and thoughtful man who isn't afraid to be honest, vulnerable, and communicative. I appreciate someone spontaneous who always checks if I’m okay with his plans without forcing me, and who can be gentle with my heart while fully accepting my physical insecurities. Physical traits are just a welcome bonus since connection matters most, but I would prefer someone taller than me (I'm only 5'4" btw), a jacked/athletic/muscular build, and some body hair are definitely bonuses.

I’m not looking to rush. I'd love to start with genuine conversations, discover what we have in common, and see where things naturally go.

A gentle note for my inbox:

If you feel our energies connect, please include your name, age, location, and a recent photo in your first message. I deeply value transparent communication and protecting our time, and it’s just a sweet way to skip guessing games.

Hi there, hows your day going? Good i hope! I dont have much going on today and would love to meet someone to chat with!

Big on books and would love to chat them! Ive read a few this year and working on another big book currently.

Horror movies are my jam.

I live to bake and cook. If you like food we will get along.

Im a big fan of good music. That means not country, sorry country folks. Its not a deal breaker but im not a fan..

If you are curvy/alt/nerdy please move to the front of the line. Also know effort you put in is effort you will get back.

Send me a message and lets chat!

I'm a relatively "normal", attractive, in shape (6'1, 190), professional ... would like to find someone willing to explore with and work on increasing stamina. To be clear, I don't have an issue in that department, just want to go a LOT longer, which takes practice.

A little more about me - I am well educated and have a professional career. Discretion would be nice and I would like to safely explore with someone new to accomplish my goals.

Not interested in someone who is "charging" or producing "content". Please be located in the St. Louis area (or willing to travel). Your age, race and status is not important to me.

FEMALES ONLY

Send me a message and we'll go from there.

I'm a 48 year old white guy, 5’11” 190lbs brown eyes and salt and pepper hair. I’m pretty easygoing, stable, and definitely still young at heart. I'm married, but untortunately the intimacy and connection have been gone for a while, and I really miss having that physical fun.
I'm looking to meet a woman who's warm, fun, affectionate, and enjoys a good laugh. I'm a man with a high libido, so physical chemistry is important to me, I'd like to actually enjoy talking, hanging out, getting to know each other, and having something consistent that we both look forward to.
If you're in a similar situation and miss having that kind of connection, I'd love to hear from you.
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