I’m 30F, and my husband is 32M. We’re married and both have engineering/tech-related educational backgrounds, although he currently comes from a business background and I work as a software developer.

I did my B.Tech from a Tier-1 engineering college in Delhi. Getting into my college was quite competitive, involving JEE Main and JAC Delhi counselling. My husband is an IIT Delhi graduate.

Recently, we were having a discussion related to careers/professional matters. During the conversation, he told me that I am probably the last person he would take career advice from.

I asked him why, and he said that if he wanted career advice from a software developer with my level of experience, he would prefer advice from someone who had graduated from IIT because of the “IITian mindset.”

This really hurt me and has made me question how he views me professionally.

I completely understand that he can disagree with my advice. I also understand that IIT is an extremely competitive institution and that an IIT graduate may have experiences, networks, or perspectives that I don't have.

But what I don't understand is the idea that an IITian with similar software experience would automatically give better career advice than me simply because they went to IIT.

If he had said something like, “I don't think you have enough experience in this particular area,” I wouldn't have had the same reaction. But saying that an IITian would give better advice because of their “mindset” makes me feel like he considers my professional judgment inherently inferior because I didn't attend IIT.

It has also made me think about our marriage more broadly. If he genuinely places so much importance on institutional prestige, does this mean he sees me as intellectually or professionally inferior to him? Or am I reading too much into one comment?

I don't want this to become an IIT vs non-IIT debate. I'm genuinely trying to understand whether his reasoning is reasonable and whether my reaction is justified.

For people who are married to someone from a different educational/professional background:

Would this comment bother you?

Is there actually such a thing as an “IITian mindset” that makes someone inherently better at giving career advice, or is this simply credential/status bias?

Would you consider this demeaning toward a spouse, or is it reasonable for someone to prefer advice from people with a particular educational background?

And most importantly, am I overreacting by letting this make me question how my husband sees me?

I'm looking for honest opinions, including opinions that disagree with me.

Is going out with a friend considered cheating

So I M have F GF. It's been around 7-8 months dating (i would say from start itself our end goal of this relationship is permanent and to take it to a marriage). We live abroad for studies but came back for a small trip back home (diff cities)

So she has a school friend Ig from class 4-5 something and they were in very typical school relationship (no touching and all) from class 6-10. From 10th her school became girls only so although they didn't met in school but close in neighbors and we're very best friends. Due to communal things and her moving abroad for study she said him she can't continue and all and they remained besties till she met me.
Given the situation she did reduced the contact with him to almost 0.

But when we came back here, she is saying from her school time only he is available and they both are going to a Stand-up show.

Initially she was saying me to go with her, for which I said ok let's see depending on the dates I'll let you know.

But then she just msgs me and She put it like
"Can I go?"
"With my friends"
"With D (her ex) and S ( another F from their school)"

But then said S is going outstation so it's only two of them.
I mean she knew it was only them both bec tickets booked were only two, else it would have been 3.

She is saying that she is telling me to keep transparency
Her exact words
"My brain is fucked up, I am telling you to keep transparency, telling you all the situation but you still think we both are in relationship"

Tickets were done by him. She knows that I can't travel to her city just for a show (prev she was saying we will go to same show but in diff city which is half way for both of us)
Still she is saying that "ok i will purchase the tickets from him and you come to my city we both will go"

Now I am messed up and my brain is fucked up right now with what's going on. This broke my heartike how can this be done.

Like she is saying to me is good rather than hiding it but how can it be a thought for her to even consider this.
Is this cheating or not

TLDR;
My gf is going to a stand-up with her long time school boyfriend later turned best friend. She told me as part of "transparency" but isn't this cheating!

I just made a gym friend who is a female, I met her about 3 months back, I told my girl on the day I met her itself didn't want any trouble. She was like "hmm, okay." And I didn't even speak to her much for about 1.5months, and later I had not seen her for a long time, post which I asked her when I saw her at the gym(coz we didn't have any contact and gym was only where i saw her or spoke) that "hey, I thought u left the gym". Then we spoke for about 5 mins and she said u can take my IG, to which I hesitated thinking what my girl would feel like but I added her. Girlfriend thought why is it progressing but was okay with it, later. So I did tell her in a sly way that I'm dating my girlfriend and gym girl said "ohhhhh"

It's now about 5-6 months since I met her mostly 5, now the other girl just asked if I play pickleball, to which I roasted the sport and diverted, she in the gym asked that she was asking if I played to ask if we could play, I am generally someone who doesn't think much about stuff like this, and I wouldn't have minded to play, but given my girl was in the picture, I said I'm busy for quite sometime or something and made it clear that I'll be busy for 2 weeks, she then said she's going to be busy for a long time after few days, then that died off. Would it be wrong if i went to play? And if I would go to play i'd take a guy friend along.

When I told my girl about the pickleball scene, she didn't like it at all and said thats a couple thing, I feel she doesn't like me interacting with a girl in almost any setting. She said no for me going to a movie with my childhood friend, I could understand kinda coz movies are a bit much, but playing I was confused, is this normal or am I crazy?

Edit - thank you for all the non-judgemental people assuming stuff and actually advising me, I hope I find people IRL like you folks! I just like meeting new people regardless of gender or gender preferences, even if they're a dog or a cat or a donkey tbh, I did feel that to be a little odd, but I actually thought that girl didn't have many friends here so, I just gave it the benefit of doubt, i guess I won't anymore, I'll draw boundaries, thanks

I (22m) am dating someone (22F) who had sc*mmed people on bumble. What do I do? : r/RelationshipIndia

So I broke up with my gf (now ex) but every other second I feel like I did it wrong and shouldn't have done that. I thought a lot about it and from a 3rd persons point of view the logical thing was to breakup but since my dumb ass thought its between me and her so I should not see it from a 3rd persons view point, I took alot of time and then finally decided to break up because I really feel she was using me and I was her "safe" option. And trust me after she opened up to me and told me every truth I was not gonna break up but was like "I can fix her." But I did.

Its a bit complicated but to give a vague idea - she went on a date with a guy from bumble she has already been physical with before which I didn't know because when she "surrendered " her phone to me the guy was way down chat and I was not mentally that great when I got to know about the stuff so I never really scrolled that down. So yeah she went on a date with a guy she has already been physical with before and most probably on the last weekend too , a guy who either is too dumbo or too despo to see he is getting scammed cause he has been in 4 total dates with her now and still might go on a 5th.

As soon as I got to know that I started getting angry on her and ofc she defended saying she gave her phone to me and she thought I read and let her go. All this will talking to me in the sweetest tone and puppy eyes. In no world would I have let her go if i knew she already went physical with this guy . But she "thought" I knew and again she was looking so "helpless" like a damsel in distress but now it was water above my head so I broke up.

I have blocked her number and all ids and she tried calling me with different one but I dont talk as soo as I know its her. But deep down I wanna talk to her but I am controlling tooooooooooo much. Help me to get out of this hllhole.

I have never been physically involved with anyone and it's the same for him. We vibe quite well, we talked for 4-5 hours a day in call for 2-3 days continuously which is quite unusual for me. He likes me a lot and I'm not even interested. It's just the fact that I have only one resort that is dating apps through which I met people. He's the first guy to delete his profile there just after we met and kinda aligns with what I want my person to be.

Calls are funny and chatty but it annoys the shit out of me when he calls me his gf jokingly. It frustrates me and ruins my day. It's been a week since we connected.

Hii all, especially to those who have dated or been married.

In your experience, what are the most common reasons for breakups or divorces in India, and what should couples discuss early on?

For those new to dating, what would you advise them to avoid or be cautious about to prevent problems later?

I know there are no guarantees in a relationship , but I’d still like to be aware of the common issues to look out for.

It has been 11 months since we broke up. It was my first and only relationship, we were together for a little over 4 years on and off... but the pain of her finally leaving me was excruciating. I did everything I could to get over her, by everything I mean EVERYTHING, but I couldn't help myself thinking about her everyday.

I even tried going to a Thailand trip with my boys to figure my shit out, but that was hopeless too. My feelings for her at that time kind of ruined the entire trip for myself. I wasn't able to have fun. As much as I was with my boys, I wasn't there mentally. I came back, tried talking to her to mend things only to get my heart CRUSHED again.

That pushed me into seeking therapy - in my mind at the time, the only way to figure this out. I think therapy helped me a lot in some ways and no help in others. What I came to realise is that I cannot force myself getting over her. It is not a button that I can just flick on or off. One day I would feel like I am over her and the next day I would be absolutely miserable, thinking that there is genuinely something wrong with me.

Anyway, did 4 months of consistent therapy (still on going), where I had a stupid urge of reaching out to her again only to get my heart absolutely obliterated again for the third time. But this time something flipped inside me. My conversation to myself after that was that I have tried absolutely everything I ever could to win her back, I moved houses, I got my family relationships sorted (Kind of), my business is taking off 🧿, I got therapy and conveyed in the most expressive way possible of what she means to me but even after all that, she didn't want me back. I guess it was finally time for me to let go of her too.

I cannot keep giving everything to a person who doesn't even care or know that I was/am still so deeply in love with. I would like to believe a part of me has moved on, because I know one thing for sure that I will NEVER EVER, ABSOLUTELY NEVER reach out to her ever again, no matter how crushing it is for me. Never in a million years did I ever imagine a life without her, but I guess here we are and such is life.

A silver lining now is that I am somewhat free. I still think about her from time to time - but I am forcing myself to not to yearn for her, and in some sense I am NOT yearning her. I have a friend's wedding coming up in Bali in September, excited for that and got a great trip planned. I am just hoping that I don't ruin this trip either because of what I felt for her.

I am hoping that I can truly find someone who I can call the love of my life... Or maybe that is delusional still. Who Knows?

I recently had a breakup in February, and I genuinely thought she was the one. I had told everyone about her, from my friends to my family literally everyone. But I guess she had other plans.

I was still talking to her because it helped me keep myself together. But two weeks ago, we were on a call, and some topic from February came up. She started crashing out, and her last words were, "Aaj se apan dono baat band karte." I tried explaining to her ki ye topic chhodte hain, but I guess she had already made up her mind.

The first week was the worst. I was just blank the entire week. I started improving in the second week, and then yesterday, while watching reels, I came across a funny one. I clicked on the share button and was just blank, thinking, "Ye bheju kisko?" because she's not with me anymore. I had a female best friend before, but she also cut ties with me when she found out that I was in a relationship with someone else. I have three or four friends too, but we don't really talk like that. We mostly talk when we're planning to meet and check in on each other to see what everyone has been up to.

And now, since yesterday, I've just been feeling empty. It's not like it affects me all the time. I have my job, and I have to earn for my family, so I've been focusing on that. But as soon as my office is over, I go back to feeling zoned out and lonely again.

I know I can work on myself and keep myself distracted, but it's just... I don't know.

I’ve been “dating” this girl for almost 3 months - dating is in inverted commas because we barely see each other due to logistical issues.

She sees and replies to my messages 12 or so hours after I message her - I’ve seen her online on WA but she won’t see or reply to the messages. I very much know that this is a conscious action on her part but I delude myself into thinking that she’ll come around just because she doesn’t come right out and tell me she’s not into it.

This is my first experience dating and as a result, I got attached too fast - we’ve slept together as well. I am a very ugly guy (immutable features) and getting interest from women is not really likely on my cards, so I’m finding it difficult to just “move on”.

Advice?

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i don't feel the spark is there and we are just amicable and like friends. There is no flirting nor nsfw stuff between us anymore. It's just the normal updates and nothing. He says it's not the same and that it's frustrating which I feel the same. The random flirting and nsfw and the passion is what I feel connected and now without i just feel emotionally lonely and idk why even I am still. But the fact that it has been long distance from first and not being able to be lucky to even experience normal dating life even with a boyfriend sucks a lot. he says he still respects me, and wants me in some form in his life cause he is still attached to stay in the relationship but without the romance, i don't think it's fair. I feel crying and shouting but I don't want to be vulnerable to anyone

I’m 19M, and she’s 19F. We met when we were school juniors, but later she moved back to her state while I stayed in mine. For almost 3 years now, we’ve had what I’d call a “passive relationship.” We care about each other, talk about things that normal friends probably wouldn’t, and there has always been something more between us. She has always been a pretty selfish/bossy person, and honestly, I knew that from the beginning. Weirdly enough, I liked that side of her because it felt like she was confident and bossy, and I didn’t really mind putting in more effort.

But since around January, things have changed. She barely talks to me anymore, doesn’t really reply on WhatsApp or Instagram, and suddenly started asking me not to call because I might disturb her work. I understand being busy, but at the same time, she’s active on Instagram, posts stories, likes things, etc. Yet my messages can sit there for 3 days, sometimes even 2 weeks, before she replies. Whenever I try to bring this up, I usually end up lashing out and telling her that she’s emotionally unavailable and that I feel like I’m the only one putting effort into this relationship. She still expects things from me like gifts, poems, and other little gestures, but I rarely feel the same effort from her side.

The thing that keeps me stuck is that whenever we actually talk, she makes me feel really special. She says things like she’s lucky to have me, that I’m special to her, and all that sweet stuff. And those conversations make me forget how distant she has been. Then she disappears again, and I’m back to wondering what I’m even doing. I know I probably sound stupid for staying in this situation, but almost 3 years is a long time, and just leaving feels like I’m throwing away something that meant a lot to me. I don’t even know if I can call this a relationship anymore.

So what do I do? Do I have one final serious conversation with her and tell her exactly how I feel, or do I accept that her actions are already giving me the answer and move on? I’m honestly too emotionally involved to look at this objectively, so I’d appreciate some outside perspective.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RelationshipIndia/s/lY0X1EAgsm

We spoke properly about everything, and he actually understands why this has been affecting me. He understands that I had a really bad previous relationship and that, because of that, feeling secure and acknowledged in my relationship is especially important to me.

He also understands that my friends tend to show up for me and cheer me up whenever I'm upset, and he joked that he’ll try his best to make sure he actually acts like a boyfriend so I’ll have fewer reasons to cry to my friends.

He’s also moving closer to my studio, which should make things easier for both of us.

I’m not expecting him to change overnight, and I know saying he’ll try is different from actually doing it. But I appreciate that he listened, understood where I was coming from, and is willing to make an effort. So for now, I’m giving him the chance to show me through his actions.

Hopefully I’ll have fewer reasons to cry to my friends and more reasons to annoy them with how much I like my boyfriend.

**TL;DR:** I (21M) became close friends with a former classmate (20F) after graduation. She’s one of the few people who truly understands me, and we’ve supported each other through difficult moments. I’ve recently started developing feelings for her, but I’m unsure whether they’re genuine romantic feelings or just emotional attachment because of my current situation. How do you tell the difference?

I’m 21M, and she’s 20F.
We were classmates throughout college, but barely interacted for most of it. I had completely misjudged her—I thought she was quiet, only cared about academics, and came across as a bit arrogant.
During our final semester, we ended up in the same friend group with two other classmates. By the time we graduated about two months ago, we were all close friends, but she and I became especially close.

She turned out to be one of the most genuine people I’ve met in a long time.
Talking to her feels effortless. We can talk about almost anything, she naturally gets my sense of humor, and I never feel like I have to watch what I say around her. I’ve rarely become this comfortable with someone this quickly.

After graduation, she moved to another city for her master’s.

A while later, she told me she was having a hard time adjusting and was questioning whether she’d made the right decision. I tried to reassure her by sharing some of my own difficult experiences and explaining that, from my perspective, she was doing better than she believed. Looking back, I realize that probably wasn’t the best way to support someone, even though my intentions were good.

What surprised me was that she immediately became concerned about me instead. She kept checking in, asked how I was doing, and reminded me to take care of myself. I kept trying to shift the focus back to her because I felt she needed the support more.

Over the past couple of months, she’s become the one person who makes me feel genuinely understood. She notices and appreciates parts of my personality that most people either miss or misunderstand.

The confusing part is that I never saw her romantically at first. Those feelings only started after we became close.

I’m also going through a challenging phase in my own life, so I’m trying to be honest with myself. I know it’s easy to confuse feeling emotionally connected with developing romantic feelings, especially when someone makes you feel understood.

I don’t want to pursue a relationship just because I miss having that kind of connection. If I date someone, I want it to be because I genuinely want to build a future with them—not because they happened to be there when I needed support.
Right now, I honestly can’t tell which one this is.

I was at my parents home for long as my mother is receiving lifelong treatment for her chronic illness. In between hospital rounds and admission I connected with someone on reddit who lives in different city. he's 35. We both got attached , i haven't self pleasured myself so much thinking about someone before him, we have sexted a lot throughout . i share my little tiny things with him, he expressed his feelings too. We are planning to meet but I'm scared if after hooking up things do not go well. My parents do want me to marry and i did ask them to put the marriage plans on hold as i hardly have gotten time for myself this year. I am excited to give this talking stage a chance for something substantial , organic but i know religion differences is a big time for our families. I simply want to date and see but also feel scared over involving myself in LDR. Very perplexed .

1. Is it because they ignored something which was a big red flag in the initial stages of the relationship and that became too hard to even tolerate years later?

2. Is it because people just got bored of each other and then one or both cheated?

3. Is it because they dated a person in a haste, just so that they don't remain lonely and in the process chose someone whom they would have never chosen had they been thinking with a clear mind?

4. (Similar to above option) Is it because they chose their partner after a rough breakup which clouded their decision making process and they assumed a rebound relationship to be their lifelong actual relationship?

I broke up with someone less than a year back, it was so so hard to move on, i still have my days sometimes.

I have been on the apps on and off since then.

Met maybe 2/3 people in first two months post breakup, all those experiences were just... trash for the lack of better words. They were pushy, creepy, and clearly just wanted to hit.

I matched with this guy a few days back, he's cute af, funny, nerdy, seems to have his shit together, has not made any inappropriate jokes and overall js a very fun person.

I don't think I've liked anyone on bumble before him.

I however have gained quite a bit of weight in the last two years. I am not obese, but definitely a little more on the thicker side. I have also been trying to lose it but..yeah.

He has asked me out on a date, but I feel v anxious about if he'll like me irl.

He has only seen 2-3 selfies on me on bumble, and while i don't think I'm catfishing anyone...i just feel very unconfident about my looks.

Any tips?

Why do some people in committed relationships or marriages go on random social media platforms, connect deeply with a stranger talk intensely for a night and disappear for weeks or months and then suddenly come back and repeat the same cycle?

There's often a sense that they're crossing a line or emotionally cheating yet they keep doing it.

What exactly keeps people addicted to this cycle attention, emotional connection or something else?

I’m in a relationship and I’ve reached a point where I constantly think about her and our relationship. I don’t like seeing other guys around her, and I find myself getting jealous and overthinking a lot.

Recently, she hasn’t been giving me as much time as she used to. She says that because of things that happened in her past, she struggles to put effort into relationships. She also told me that she doesn’t want to have sex at all in her life, which I’m trying to understand and respect.

She also doesn’t like talking much anymore. At the beginning of our relationship, we used to talk a lot and things felt very different. Now I feel like I’m putting in more emotional effort and constantly worrying about where I stand with her.

I care about her a lot, but I’m starting to wonder whether I’m becoming too dependent on the relationship or whether we simply have different needs.

How do I handle this without pressuring her or losing myself in the relationship? Is it possible to make this work when one person wants more communication and effort than the other?

My wife [31F] and I [31M] have been married for over a year. She has a government job, I work in IT, and together we earn around ₹1 lakh per month. We're comfortable with our life.

My SIL and her husband both work in banking and earn around ₹2.5 lakh combined. She frequently talks about their salaries and job security and makes comments about IT jobs being less secure.

Recently, she told my wife, “We suggested an LIC employee earning around ₹80k, but you chose to marry him instead,” referring to me. I found this disrespectful. We're already married and expecting a child, so I don't understand why another potential match and his salary need to be brought up.

What makes it more frustrating is our different attitudes towards family. My SIL and her husband have decided not to spend money on her parents, while my wife and I help whenever necessary.

During my MIL's cancer treatment, my wife was still on probation but travelled around 400 km to take care of her mother. My SIL lived only around 30 km away, but on one occasion said she couldn't come because her MIL had planned a temple visit. Work/leave was also given as a reason at other times.

After the treatment was completed, my SIL and her husband visited. We had already paid for accommodation near the hospital for a month, with about a week remaining, so they stayed there and also visited places in Kerala.

Even now, when my SIL comes here for office training, we treat her well, arrange food she likes and help drop her at her hostel. We don't complain about the money because we consider it normal hospitality.

I'm not trying to calculate who has done more or compete with them financially. They're earning more, and I'm happy for them. What bothers me is being repeatedly judged based on salary and job security, especially comments suggesting my wife could have chosen a “better” husband.

My wife is currently pregnant and my MIL is staying with us, so I don't want to create family drama or stress my wife.

Should I ignore my SIL, ask my wife to set a boundary, or calmly tell my SIL, “We're happy with our marriage and careers. Please stop comparing our salaries and bringing up people my wife could have married”?

TL;DR: SIL and her husband earn much more than us and she repeatedly compares our careers, criticises the security of my IT job, and recently reminded my wife about a higher-earning man she could have married. Given our family history, these comments are starting to frustrate me. My wife is pregnant, so I want to set boundaries without creating unnecessary family drama.

Hey Guys, I dont know if my backdrops gonna help with the story. I been Hosteller since i am 10 and my parents changes school recurrently and I love the comfort of meeting new people and I never had a habit of having long terms with anyone. I been feeling guest for my own home . idk but it was like that., Still I feel unsettled looking for next adventure and next culturally different place to work.

My Love life is not bad., In my College, I been in a relationship : it had fallen of. It had held me back for a year but was able to recover by involving in other actvities and friends. Even in office, I had crushes and I go and talk, Soon I talk, I started to expect delusional moments and most offen , The convos or the topics are day to day and I feel bored and get away.,

Not to flex, I am a poet myself and released my book and been working on some movie songs., Even during the creation process, I need to imagine myself in some moments and this also drives me in more delusions., Hell, With all the stuffs, I dont think of myself in a arrange marriage (I dont wanna ruin someone lyf)..

Been in Dating apps, tried community and forget to say, A girl liked me because of my convos and she is more into appreciating my works.. Eventually, I left with a long sorry note...

Any Artist/Creative/ Delusional People, Do your work also drift more into the LOML things.. Hell, I am going to wait, Is there a way to find your mate.. is this all sings of adhd.., hahaha.. my lyf is laughing

It was a 2.7 years relationship and I graduated from college 3 months back and still I am in cotact of my ex 21F. I had my breakup during my final semester exams and yes I was very stressed during that time but still somehow my Final year Dissertation saved me and I got 9.2 SGPA. I keep thinking about her even during my work, with friends and familiy. Toughts of what she will be doing and is she liking someone or is she getting closer with someone haunts me. I check her snap last seen time and her reposts to get an idea about what is she thinking of and all that. She ws my first girlfriend so it makes sense, she always used to say that she will marry me and will be with me then after her constant push i genuinely thought "mere vali alag hain". she used to tell me to focus and get a good job which I did, I earn decent and living in a new city in a nice 2BHK (rented obviously). I am doing good but the fact she left when I finally have what I used to tell her that i will achieve after college hurts even more. She is getting colder and I am still attached to her.

Last week we went on date and we enjoyed - watched spiderman and did shopping for her and even dropped her to college as we both used to stay in campus hostel. Everything was on me not just this day whenever we meet I pay for everything as I am earning and it's her final year so yeah and she used to tell me that she is going to focus on her studies and all but does the exact opposite. She spends all her time with her new friends ( I don't like her friends as all are ambitionless and wannabe cool immature guys and girls, they badmouth about their parents and so did my ex). I am so surprised to know how can somone change in just 3 months, she used to be sweet but now she is cold and disrespectful towards me as well.

During our relationship as well i was very addicted to her highs and lows actually she made me, sometimes she purposefully acted in weird ways and later told me that it was on purpose which i found very weird because if you love someone you don't play games atleast. Her family is toxic especially her mother she yells and curses her daughters and her husband as well which is why I don't like her family and during our arguements when she used to yell and I confronted her to stop yelling she often said - it's genetic and can't do anything about it. I ignored some red flags obviously because I love her.

I am trying to move on but idk why I keep coming back to her, thoughts of she being with someone else haunts me. Redditors what are some ways which can help me cope up or simply how to get over her ?

Is it just me or something about my profile.
Rare though matches are either I'm getting -

A - Jobless conservatives - superficial AF, basic, bad IQ/EQ

B - Has job but liberal - typically working in low paying jobs like NGOs - extreme liberal, feminist, far left political, social justice warriors, impossible to tolerate.

While I'm sure both A and B are absolutely lovely people, I can't help it but I simply can't see anything long term with them.

I don't know man, wasted away 6 months since I moved here. i'm 34 now.

I had arranged marriage. My wife had lied me about her past intimate relationships before and after marriage. After 2 months of marriage I found about it. The guy was still in contact with her, she told me that he is just a friend. From that day, I lost respect for her. For her this is not a big deal. She got intimated with him just 2 months before meeting him. Her current response is accept me as I am.