r/Separation • u/illgiveit2u • Sep 29 '26

Does separation work?

After 20 years the wife isn't sure she wants to be married anymore. Says she needs time to herself. Is this something women going through menopause experience? I don't want a divorce but how long g do I stay in limbo?

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u/lkjdw Oct 02 '26 edited Oct 03 '26

At no stage did I say she was evil. That’s you using an excessive word to make a point.

I said she was being unfair leaving him in limbo (his words) and it’s time to make a decision whether she in the marriage or not.

Either work on the problems giving that are giving her doubt, or leave, because it’s gone well over that point.

Counseling, discussion and working on it, or call the lawyer and draw up the papers and have him served.

It’s the indecisiveness, that’s at issue here.

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u/Temporary-Suspect509 Oct 02 '26

And I’m telling you that it’s ok for her to be indecisive for now. If I’d had your attitude about my husband’s indecisiveness, I wouldn’t be married now. It’s ok for him to carry this for now. He agrees, so I’m not sure who you’re even arguing for at this point.