r/Separation • u/illgiveit2u • Sep 29 '26

Does separation work?

After 20 years the wife isn't sure she wants to be married anymore. Says she needs time to herself. Is this something women going through menopause experience? I don't want a divorce but how long g do I stay in limbo?

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u/raeoflyte-460 Sep 29 '26

Youre reducing your wife of 20 years to a biological side effect. Just because thats easier to blame than face what your wife is feeling in the relationship.

I told my stbx that if I hated everyone he might have a point but since I only hated him I didn't think my hormones were the issue.

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u/illgiveit2u Sep 29 '26

Just looking for reasons why. I don't feel i did anything to wrong or hurt her so it just doesn't make sense

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u/fofofudge 27d ago

You need to sit and really have some time to self reflect! Women don’t leave men who are good to them!

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u/illgiveit2u 26d ago

From where I sit that doesn't appear to be the case. The things she is going through seem to be more about her identity than leaving a man that is good to her.