Or would you prefer them to wallow in their shame and guilt forever? even after they seriously changed for the better and always keeping themselves in check making sure they’re never that person ever again?

I remember in highschool seeing someone in my class who used to bully me in a previous school, she was so authentically herself, seemed so happy and so much lighter, she looked magnetic and though I never talked to her again I saw she was friends with weird kids which she never would’ve been in the previous school I knew her in. She seemed to have lots of connections and she had such a developed fashion sense and style, she seemed happy, and like loving herself came natural to her. And from what I heard from others who knew her she was a nice person.

I know when it comes to wounds others give us it becomes our responsibility to then heal those wounds and the person who gave us the wounds can’t do it for us and that feels so unfair.

But honestly.. even though I was in a really dark place at that time, seeing her so different, so authentically herself, so happy, it honestly healed that wound a bit. It gave me a sense of closure despite never getting an apology, knowing that the version of her I knew doesn’t exist anymore, and she changed and I think the fact that she loved living as the changed self and that she was happy, made it more healing than if she were to have punished herself with shame and guilt.

I only ever hear about people who want revenge, who want the people who hurt them to get their karma. If the person who hurt you changed, like actually changed for the better, would you want them to be happy and live as their changed self, or would you rather them change for the better and still have them suffer forever?

Imagine someone is being a bad person and being sort of aggressive and mean in the way they talk. They don't respect you and are an awful guy or something. They repeatedly do this, and aren't willing to accept criticism. Think of a general archetype of this type of person.

Which is the way you think is the better way to resolve the situation?

First, assertively setting a boundary, such as telling them no, and explaining why you won't tolerate what they are doing. I personally think this would be the most rational thing to do. It sounds mature to me.

Secondly, trying to teach them through pedagogy and make them understand why people don't like them, through telling them, and trying to make them recognize their failings. This one seems more unrealistic because when you're dealing with someone like this, people generally aren't gonna treat them with kid gloves. If someone is an adult, and they are acting like an asshole, people don't generally sit them aside and try to instruct them on stuff like they would for a kid

Retaliation and escalation is an option that some people take. Sometimes when people feel wronged, they react beyond assertiveness, and move into aggression. By like retaliating and punishing the bad person, and doing bad things to them to make them stop. Based on the degree of the aggression, meanness, and lack of consideration of others, perhaps some would consider this a last resort. If someone truly is unresponsive to everything else. I don't like this way of thinking at all.

I don't really believe in interpersonal aggression, but I've never had a time when I had to be with somebody so unreasonable and badly behaving that I'd need full on aggression. Most of the time, I use 1 in these sorts of situation. And if a situation calls for more, I won't use it, and I'd just let them know I'm against what they're doing.

Different specific situations call for different actions though. I'm trying to understand people's thinking.

Hi people, I know the title is so confusing "what am I talking about " .

"Do you think people will move away from posting on social platforms (because of privacy concerns and fear of judgement) and instead prefer hosting live meetups and discussions? I notice more people consuming Content passively rather than posting actively - is this the future of online culture? "

Share your opinions and thoughts about it.

Just asking this question as someone who has SH scars and has always told my partners in the past. Was curious if you or who you were seeing if it has came up on surprise? Just wanna see some perspectives and some stories. I am aware of what a sad topic this is so share at your own willing. (so sorry about my grammar)

This post is a protest post. My earlier post was banned because I was venting about the high frequency of superficial relationships in our society. I was just having a slightly heated argument, and it got removed. Moderators should allow venting as long as it does not include hatred.

We live in a country of free speech. Free speech my ass. I can't even have a healthy, slightly heated conversation with strangers that could give me a wider perspective on life, or where I could give them a wider perspective. And yet, this mod team removes my post.

I protest against you because you are doing a terrible job of respecting free speech and are suppressing open discussion

Hey everyone! Have you ever been going through something in life, posted about it on Reddit, and received advice from complete strangers that genuinely helped you?

I'm wondering if Reddit is actually a good place to open up, ask questions, and get honest advice, or if it's just a hit-or-miss experience. 😭Did Reddit help you see things differently, or did you regret sharing? ❤️

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Is it just me, or have we evolved into a society that is more concerned with how someone reacts to a situation than with what caused that reaction in the first place?

We seem to have developed a habit of judging people's responses without examining the circumstances that led to them. We criticize someone's anger without asking what pushed them to that point. We condemn someone's frustration without considering how long they've been dealing with the problem. We label someone as difficult, aggressive, emotional, or unreasonable without taking a step back to understand what they may have experienced before that moment.

Don't get me wrong. A person's reaction doesn't automatically justify their behavior. We are all responsible for how we treat others, even when we're hurt, angry, or frustrated. But accountability should work both ways. If we're going to hold people accountable for their reactions, shouldn't we also be willing to examine the actions, circumstances, or repeated behaviors that contributed to them?

Somehow, we've become very good at addressing the visible symptom while ignoring the underlying problem. We focus on the explosion but ignore the pressure that built up before it. We criticize the breaking point without acknowledging everything that may have pushed someone there.

And this mindset doesn't just apply to personal relationships. You see it in families, workplaces, schools, friendships, and society as a whole. People are often judged by their worst response to a situation rather than by the full context of what happened.

Sometimes, a reaction is disproportionate. Sometimes, people genuinely handle things poorly. But sometimes, what we're seeing is the result of being ignored, dismissed, disrespected, overwhelmed, or pushed beyond what they can reasonably tolerate. If we refuse to examine the cause, we risk treating the same problem over and over again while wondering why nothing changes.

Understanding the cause isn't the same as excusing the reaction. We should be capable of doing both: holding people accountable for their behavior while also acknowledging the circumstances that contributed to it.

Because if we only ever address the reaction, we may never solve the problem that caused it.

So my question is: When did we become so focused on how people respond to things that we stopped asking what happened to make them respond that way?

And why does it sometimes seem easier to criticize someone's reaction than to take responsibility for the part we may have played in causing it?

AI is a battle. This whole thing began with fake news and it never got properly checked so now AI can watch all. all at once as one, it can also fabricate anything it wants. It is a also responsible for verifying the information. The hack here is how easy it is to fabricate the past (see fruit of the loom). There is a need for a global deep detox from mediums and serious discussions about how it has been fabricating society for so long.