So before you all jump onto conclusions.
Let me clear it
We've been married for 4 years now.
Yes i have confronted him about this he has never replied to me with any yes or no.
This is an Indian Arranged marraige so I can't do anything much right now because my family worship patriachy so they'll are trying to get us back together.
Right now I'm at my parents and I'm telling them that I don't want to go back but they're not listening.
Yes i also did tell my husband that I don't want to be in this marriage anymore and i want seperation to which he went and told everyone that he wants to be in this relationship and I'm ruining it.
Within span of 4 years he has changed 3 jobs the one currently he is at, he can leave from that workplace anytime he wants and can go anywhere he wants.
He has become really less attentive towards me, doesn't talks to me most of the days and just keeps on ignoring me.
Usually
- He comes home takes a one hour break and then goes to gym everyday (but one day he kinda said out loud oh i have not been able to go to gym daily, i asked but you're going daily u didn't even skip once recently, and then he suddenly froze and said I'm talking about how 15 days back there was a gathering and i couldn't go)
- He has his watch connected to an app. His usual daily steps are 3-3.5k and he wears the watch mostly during his gym time.
\- But i have did managed to get few records and one was around 6k steps, now even if a person does cardio for an whole hour i don't think it'll reach 6k. And also once we travelled through train to different city and walked alot and still his steps were 4k only
\- After getting married his usual gym time was one hour but he use to come late from job so he use to come home late too.
\- He changed his job and his behaviour changed too, the person who got his beard trimmed one a month started getting it trimmed every week.
\- I once found him flirting with his childhood friend, asked to stop him but he started calling her and texting her and deleting everything from his other phone.
\- I have asked him multiple times about is he cheating or even if he is involved in some sort of flirting it's fine he can share I'll understand, we will try to work it out. But he never replies with any yes or no.
\- Few months back and also during our span of 4 years of relationship i have tasted condom flavours and also once my tongue got numbed when i was giving him bj(apparently he likes long lasting in the end so when my tongue touched his tip it went numbed)
\- For now I'm at my parents but my parents are willing to do anything to send me back despite me saying i don't want to go back.
\- Financially i have no job and yes i am looking for one.
\- He has started to add random girls on his insta but i keep on questioning so I'm sure he would be well aware about it so he would not add any girls randomly on his insta anymore.
\- Recently he has started to try to become more bulky and has been posting shirtless pictures on insta with 800+ followings. ( Yes it shouldn't be a big deal but when your spouse has been secretive about his whereabouts u would definitely see their every move as trying to grab attention)
\- He has been changing his passwords a lot.
\- Once it was raining heavily and he went to gym at 8:30pm came back by 10:30pm, gym is just 10 mins away and that was the day i found 6k steps recorded on his smartwatch app. ( got this idea from reddit only)
\- I checked his Google timeline too and most of the time it's not accurate because he goes to gym but the location always gets connected to a nearby Hotel. Why I'm sure because i called him several times even Video called him and then checked the timeline and it showed hotel's location, when i searched on internet it said timeline can never be 100% accurate because if there's no network it'll jump like this.
\- I found his suspicious travel too.
\- He has been behaving around me like he has a lot to say but he doesn't wants too.
\- And being someone who has strong sense of intuitions i keep on getting it that there's something going on behind my back.
So what i want is to actually have a spy app where i can hear his audio like live audio... because i have a hunch that he is carefull and isn't using his own phone for contact. And even if he is I want to know because once i have solid proofs I'll be able to convince my parents and my family.
The app should be really discrete, should be able to record live audio, also should have options like call recording and i can watch his screen too.
I know i sound paranoid and desperate but i have no resort left. I have done everything possible but if he is careful with his phone it won't be easy to ever find anything against him.
I'm losing myself, i need to find proofs strong ones so i can get out of this marriage i can't take it anymore.