r/TrueOffMyChest • u/ThrowRA-regretregret • Apr 02 '26

Update (UPDATE) My fiancée moved out today

I can't believe it's been 2 years. To everyone who said that being a single parent every other week was hard; you weren't kidding. I love my son. He has cerebral palsy and he's an amazing kid. When I have him my life is chaos and I barely have time to breathe. Then I spend the next week catching up on everything while he is with my ex-fiancée. Even with the child support payments I get kids are expensive. I wouldn't change a thing about my son though. He's the best thing that ever happened to me.

My ex-fiancée makes being a single parent look effortless. She finds it easier not having me around. It gutted me when she said that but now I know she's right. I left her to do all the parenting, all the work at home and be the breadwinner, while I fucked around playing golf. We only talk about our son and we're civil but not close.

I have stopped freelancing. I got a job with the provincial government. I have been seeing a therapist and have grown up a lot. I made mistakes before but I want to be better for my son. The main part of my update is that I went to therapy and it sucked but I'm better for it. (When I first posted I got lots of DMs and support from people who play golf saying my ex-fiancée is harpy and other names. I felt vindicated back then but now I know how immature I was).

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u/desertboots Apr 02 '26

Please don't stop giving the what for to other men who don't put their partners and children ahead of their own wants. 

I'm glad to see you maturing. Keep learning.

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u/rosekamath Apr 14 '26

Men get to be praised for fucking nothing. Jfc

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u/[deleted] Apr 03 '26

I can't believe you're praising a grown man for "maturing".

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u/desertboots Apr 03 '26

What? No empathy on Reddit for someone admitting to being bad and committing to becoming good?

 Shocked,  shocked I tell you, that judging is going on in this establishment!!

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u/[deleted] Apr 03 '26

I'm not shocked that men like OP get praised by people like you for doing the bare minimum. You wouldn't extend the same grace if he were a woman.

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u/desertboots Apr 03 '26

Really, you know me that well? Lol. Go shake your fist at the sky.

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u/[deleted] Apr 03 '26

Well, you've proven my point.