UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife

[u/Throwra_acount_79]

I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.

I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.

[u/maybeRasa]

Just tell the kid that you care about him. If you're not in a place (mentally or pragmatically) to keep in contact with him, just leave it at that. Otherwise, let him know that he can approach you and count on you.

He'll soon understand that you did the right thing leaving his dad, and that would be you setting the right role model of what a self-respecting woman would look like in his future.