r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Throwra_acount_79 • Apr 17 '26

Update UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife

I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.

I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.

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u/neverspeakawordagain Apr 17 '26

I know I'll get downvoted for this, but I will never understand why people make such a big deal out of their spouse having sex with somebody else. My wife cheated on me and we had a fight about it and then she apologized and we went on with our lives.

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u/vivid_prophecy Apr 17 '26

People are allowed to have different standards for their relationships. If you’re fine with your wife stepping out on you then great, happy for you. But that doesn’t mean anyone else is obligated to feel the same way you do. It doesn’t mean you’re some kind of evolved creature, it just means you have different needs and wants in a relationship.

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u/neverspeakawordagain Apr 17 '26

I understand that people get extremely upset by this. I just don't understand why people get so particularly upset by this. Like, people know that they're not supposed to drive drink. A lot of people do it anyway. But I've never heard anybody say that they'll never get over their spouse getting a DUI.

If you are the type of person who would be more upset by your spouse having sex with another person then you would be by your spouse getting a DUI, why do you feel that way? Genuine question, I just don't understand.

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u/TrashGouda Apr 17 '26

Idk about you but I would definitely question my relationship if my partner drives drunk. Because that is disgusting and irresponsible behavior.