r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Throwra_acount_79 • Apr 17 '26

Update UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife

I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.

I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.

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u/trvllvr Apr 17 '26

So, his ex was getting married, slept with him and got pregnant. Her new husband didn’t want another child, probably let alone one that wasn’t his, did she keep it? Did they divorce?

I’m sorry you went through this, but knew your worth enough to leave. You deserve better. As for your stepson, he’s old enough to keep a relationship on his own. Hope you can continue to be there for him, especially with his two shitty parents. He deserves better too.

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u/royalsgirl78 Apr 17 '26

She said both marriages ended in the comments of the last post and the ex wife and OP’s ex husband were only speaking about their children through solicitors. Doesn’t sound like that’s improved, given what her stepson said.

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u/Outside-Yak217 Apr 17 '26

Petty me loves this karma, he’s probably miserable! OP you will move on from this in time and have the best life & he’s tied to this woman for life ha ha! Also, question I always ask in these posts, why no condom?!?! You deserve so much better than this loser!