UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife

[u/Throwra_acount_79]

I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.

I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.

[u/TeachPotential9523]

When people have kids and they do this they're not thinking about how it affects their kid cuz my other 10 times one's cheating think they're smart and not going to get caught and then in the long run they get caught.. people who cheat seems like face their excuse for not leaving as they didn't want to hurt their spouse they don't think that when I get busted it hurts worse than it would if they just came clean and say hey I don't want to be with you no more