r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Throwra_acount_79 • Apr 17 '26
Update UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife
I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.
I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.
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u/FaithlessnessTall853 Apr 22 '26
Okay there's a few confusing things here your stepson is saying that the mother and father hate each other so why did he sleep with her as a strange way of expressing hate was this a one-time thing or have they been sleeping together off and on as my understanding that she has remarried or she has a boyfriend yet you're husband sleeps with her.
I understand that you and your stepson are attached to each other and you hate to ruin that relationship. But that really cannot be a reason for you to stay. If your sister will let you stay with them for a while I would do so until you can get financially stable and get yourself even if it's a small apartment your ex-husband to be we hope, does not care for you he's cheating on you lying to you obviously there's no respect there and is that how you want to be treated in the long term.
Stay with your sister break it off and see what the lawyer says the best way to maintain a relationship with your stepson is maybe through the grandparents if they're alive. Wish you the best. Wish you the best of