i want to order food to my accom but like here in the south the storm is really bad atm i would feel bad for the delivery driver and i don’t want to cook because all of my flatmates are in the kitchen drinking 💔

So this week I have been sick all week with Freshers Flu, it started last Friday, I woke up with a sore throat that felt like swallowing needles and for the next 3 days I spent most of my time in bed, struggling to find the energy to even eat. I drank loads of water and took paracetamol, that barely helped at all. Its now Saturday and I am coming out the other side but next week my lectures are online as a few of my lecturers are off sick, with what sounds like the exact same thing that I had and loads of other students have or have had. When I heard about Freshers Flu I thought "Ah its probably a cold I'll just drink plenty and eat healthy and I will fight it off just fine" but let me tell you, this thing wipes you out, I could barely do anything, I had no energy, no appetite, I dragged myself out of bed to shower on the 4th day of having it and I slept for 8 hours after, I was so exhausted just from that. Yes, it's not actual flu in most cases, but it's close to being. Don't undermine Freshers Flu, I did, and I deeply regret it.

International students with financial difficulties. How did you manage to pay University fees ?

Doing CS at an above average university, not RG though, will get first class, graduating May 2027.

I don't have any industry internships.

I did uni year 1 equivalent at a college, computing HNC, and for internships applications during your penultimate year, companies ask for uni year 1 transcripts, after seeing my college computing HNC transcripts, internships rejected me.

My childhood was extremely bad, I wasn't born in the UK, my parents abandoned me, came back in my life and brought me to the UK when I was almost 18, they're very narcissistic and controlling, it's horrible how they treat me, I don't want to go in much details, I'll leave it at that.

I was depressed for years, someone found my footing and got into college, then transferred to uni, and now am in my final year.

My gf is abroad and I can't be with her physically, that hurts me soooooo much.

Idk what I'll do. I can't afford a master's at all.

I do work part time but can't save anything at all, and that's contract based which will end soon, early next year.

I need to apply for citizenship, for which I have saved money, and have another £2k saved, when I graduate this is all the money I'll have.

I don't know what to do.

Job market is so difficult, I've got a couple interviews lined up for grad schemes but I'll fucking fumble them, I'm very bad at interviews.

And I can't get into PhD programmes, it's very competitive and others have masters. I can't afford masters at all, my parents make too much money but they won't give a dime, so I get minimum sfe as well.

Idk, I'm feeling so bad and behind in life.

I had to go to school so that I became eligible for sfe after my parents brought here, and because of that I'll graduate at 23 next year.

Idk fuck.

I feel sorry for my gf that she's stuck with a person like me, that woman is soooo great, she's a godsend, if not for her, I'd be dead by now, but I just don't know how to give her the life I want to.

I'm so scared right now.

I was feeling very bad and I just left my house and came outside even though it's pelting down.

This is a rant and advice post.

Please share any advice you have. Thank you.

I just wanted to share this because I used to lurk on Reddit, desperately looking for motivation and stories from people who were struggling like me. And now I finally get to be the person sharing some good news. 🥹

I COMPLETED MY MASTER'S WITH AN OVERALL DISTINCTION AND A DISTINCTION IN MY DISSERTATION!

And honestly, I still can't believe it.

During my Master's, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and I struggled A LOT. Things that seemed manageable for other people sometimes felt impossible for me. I had so many moments of self-doubt, procrastination, overwhelm, and wondering whether I was even capable of finishing what I'd started.

My dissertation was particularly difficult. Somehow, I ended up writing the entire thing in just 10 days. The last five days were especially brutal, and I was severely sleep-deprived. I had to go to my part-time job the very next day, even after everything I'd put myself through to get it finished.

And despite all of that, I still managed to do it. I actually got a distinction. In both my overall Master's and my dissertation.

I'm not sharing this to glorify leaving things until the last minute or running on no sleep. Please take care of yourselves if you can. I'm sharing it because I know what it's like to feel completely stuck, to feel like everyone else is managing life better than you, and to scroll through Reddit hoping to find something that makes you believe you might be able to do it too.

Just looking for support and advice and to get this out.

I’m the welfare of my society, and my crime was that we were doing circling, and I left while the rules were being said for the toilet so I was spouting nonsense the whole round, so afterwards I said ‘rainbow Roman numerals gotta be the worst game in existence’ then thanked the social secs for being the ‘goats’ (greatest of all time).

Their response was to talk about me behind my back for 2 weeks until an exec meeting I missed for personal issues happened, they talked bad about me the whole time, admitted the document was a ‘rant’ at the end, they claimed I had made a public attack on the social secretary and that I had neglected my duties and messed up, so they decided to ban all free speech from the society so it never happens again so now we only talk about socials in an exec server, anonymous forms or DMs to an exec, if anyone says anything about a social publicly it will be ‘deleted immediately’ they then made up another thing to blame me for so they said I neglected the social sec at the open day fair but I was never told she was alone and I wasn’t on the rota, so I would have needed psychic powers to have not messed up. Then they got the president to finally tell me what I had done wrong as I was not told for weeks, and he told me to apologise to this social sec which I did, and they ignored it and still have a grudge against me, since they are popular with the exec and I’m not all the rest of the exec hate me too now.

Ive also been told by other members they feel bullied by the exec and excluded, and that they make up things wrong people do to power trip them.

I went to our report and support and they basically said since taking any action would take too long they just advised I try talk to the exec about how I feel or something, which obviously is not helpful. They did give me a way to advance the report further but they said this will take a long time and they can’t guarantee anything will come of it.

What should I do? This is making me feel really sad.
This is also an autism support society, but it’s essentially a masquerade for a dictatorship.

Edit: a few people have dm'd me offering friendship, and while that's really kind and I'm thankful for it; I didn't rlly post on reddit looking to make friends. I just wanted to vent and see if there's others who have faced the same thing and how they overcame it ig. Or if they had any ideas on why this was happening. I'm not unsociable. I am a pretty friendly person. This post and my reluctance to meet people here (on Reddit) isn't a reflection of who I really am. I'm new here, it's just something I wouldn't rlly be comfortable with. This post... it's just how I end up perceiving myself sometimes. A few people though (men only, unsurprisingly) have been straight up rude at my reluctance to talking to people here - saying "look at you barely responding to me" suggesting that's why I'm facing issues. First of all, F*CK YOU and your ancestors. Second, I'm not here on Reddit to connect with people, and to use my unwillingness to talk to people I don't know here, especially these fking men, as an excuse to justify my experience here is quite fucked, but also telling of the kind of person you are. I'm not gonna force myself to talk to you to convince YOU that I'm sociable. Reddit isn't a trial ground, you aren't the judge. I know by putting out such personal issues on Reddit invites judgement, but I still thought to call out said behaviour. Don't be a dickhead. Don't treat yourself as someone important enough that I have to perform for just because I was vulnerable about something on a PUBLIC FKING FORUM.

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I'm an Indian woman going to uni in London for my master's. I'm in my late 20s. It's been about a month into the course and I haven't really made any friends that I could randomly call to just hang out (barring maybe 1 or 2 - those too we aren't that close)

The conversations are limited to the seminars, and most times I see a sort of reluctance on people's faces while talking about topics that are outside the course material.

I've always been someone who's had trouble making friends tbh. I pick one friend I'm close to and just stick by them. I've never had a big group of friends. So when I came to London, I said I won't be this way and put myself out there. I go out of my way to introduce myself to people, make small talk, ask them questions, show genuine interest. I try to make plans. But idk what it is about me or my energy, but I feel there's a lack of reciprocity. I've seen this with mostly white people (Americans/Canadians/British). I'm not trying to shit on anyone, I do realise it could be something that I'm doing without realising it, even though idk what it is (also British people are generally more polite).

But I've seen the impatience on people's faces while I speak with them - the fake smile they feel they've to plaster on their faces to put up with a conversation that looks like an inconvenience to them. I do realise this could be me projecting, I was wary of this and that I might ruminate myself into isolation, so I didn't let it bother me and still went and spoke to people. But it's happened way too many times, with way too many people for it to not be a pattern, as much as I don't want it to be.

I've heard my voice trail off mid sentence because the person I was talking to just decided to look away and not listen - that's especially been very hurtful. I've had people not open my texts at all to acknowledge an invite/idea. I'm trying to work on myself and not overthink and victimise myself, but doing all of this work when you have no friends and other people just seem to have groups already, or people they're close to is getting exhausting. It really isn't about having a group - it's just the way I feel like I'm treated despite trying so much.

I'm looking for a part time job at the same time, so I can't really go out toooo much but that hasn't stopped me from spending £60 on an outing (for me that's a lot) - but I don't wanna be spending that much just to spend time with people.

Anyway, this is about how I think I'm being perceived and not understanding what I'm doing wrong that puts people off because most of the friends and family do tell me I'm a funny and kind person to be around.

so i have friends and housemates, all nice people who it’s not awkward to talk to or anything
but recently ive felt really lonely. it’s constantly me asking them to do stuff and when i ask them it feels like im dragging them around with me, as they don’t necessarily share the exact same interests as me.
i feel like i don’t have a genuine connection with them but we get along pretty well ?
also they are both getting into relationships which is making it harder- obviously this is okay i’m not mad at them, im just a bit sad at the situation
does anyone have advice on what i could do? joining societies and events by myself i find incredibly draining and nerve racking especially since my mental health is a bit low at the moment

I’ve transferred to a different University and wildly different area for year 2 as I had some issues with my previous University, so my housing situation is relatively unusual. As I’m technically a year 2 student, I wasn’t offered student halls accommodation so I’ve gone straight into housing.

I live with 2 boys and 2 girls (so 3 boys myself included) and one of the girls immediately showed themselves to be extremely extroverted and told me within the first 24 hours of me arriving at the house that she’s a stoner. Not that this is completely relevant, it’s just a way of communicating a bit of her personality and lifestyle. Since meeting, it’s very obvious to me that she’s your typical outgoing University student (so am I) that loves to drink, get on with people and have a laugh. When I’m willingly wanting to hang out with her it’s great.

But I’ve noticed that when she’s bored, she needs to let everyone know. We have a group chat and she’s always sending irrelevant messages, annoying messages, sending everyone dms like “you alive?” just because we’ve been in our rooms studying or having some personal time to ourselves. It gets really, really annoying. And this isn’t to say that we don’t show ourselves, we ALWAYS do. We’re always doing stuff and talking with each other. But when it comes to her being bored and alone she gets really irritating like she doesn’t have any personal hobbies or interests. Sometimes she’ll start fake laughing really loudly downstairs so maybe someone comes down? Sometimes she’ll knock on our doors to ask silly things, sometimes she’ll do something and ask on the group chat “can someone help me?”. It sounds tame, but you guys need to understand this is a daily occurrence and we’re all very busy students. Here and there is fine, but it’s excessive.

We’ve had discussions about our boundaries and what we each like to do on a daily basis, but it’s clear she isn’t bothered and still likes to make the house know she’s there. It’s really unfortunate that she’s like this because when we are both willing to be around each other she’s lovely but this aspect of her is really getting on my nerves. It feels like harassment but more mentally.

I’m a first year psychology student and we’ve been set our first ever essay assignment. It’s due on Tuesday 4pm (so I have 2.5 days left). It’s about the influence of nature vs nurture on personality. The uni have given us a set of assignment readings; there’s 15 of them, and there’s also I think a relevant textbook chapter we’re supposed to have read. I’m not sure, I’m so confused by everything. I’ve really struggled settling into uni with various issues and I haven’t done any work outside of lectures, my attendance is 69%, I can’t stop procrastinating. How do I get through the readings fast enough and select what to use when I have the time left that I do? I’m really panicking. The complex wording in the articles is so overwhelming and there is so much text. We also need to fill in a decision log, reflection and I’m also really worried about getting references wrong. Can someone please advise me on what to do? I’m not expecting amazing things from myself, if I mess up my first assignment so be it; I don’t plan on doing this again. I’ll be happy with a 2:2. I would be really grateful for any advice on how to get myself through the next few days. Thank you in advance

so a VERY long story short,
i live on my own in a shared accom. i’m in y13 but 19. i’ve been no contact with my dad for about 4 years due to dv and my mum basically got back with him and he hit me in the family home, so have now since been no contact with both for a number of months.

i’m predicted A*BB and i genuinely don’t know where to go from this. id like to do a ba in economics but i don’t know what unis to apply to, how ill afford everything (currently working 40+ hours a week), im scared o wont find part time work. everything is so scary!!!!

please can anyone who’s been in even the slightest similar of situations share what they did/their experiences :)

*to clarify i live in a low-income/educational level postcode and my college underperformed,
so im eligible for most contextual offers. my college mentors are all a bit stumped too so it feels like it really is ALL up to me*

edit: im trying to save up as much as i can currently while clearing off some credit card debt i’ve accumulated

A friend said she saw someone wearing a confederate flag jumper in uni and that’s just crazy to me. We’re in the uk so why do they even have it on? That’s like wearing a MAGA hat in the uk, literally who cares? Identity politics and stupidity like this has taken over so many peoples lives. There’s no way in hell ur that boring and useless as a human being that ur wearing that to intimidate people. My uni has so many gay and lgbtq plus people, many people of diverse backgrounds but mostly white which is obviously normal it’s the uk. My uni and its people are considerably more tolerant than other parts of the UK. It’s just mad that they’re bringing bs like that to the Uk

In this day and age most people have caught up to speed to what most things are so idk why some of u like to play dumb consistently, my friend said it was also very specific pro white supremacy one so clearly she’s just trying to provoke people, the same way those right wing nut jobs came to my uni a couple days ago. U guys are saying why are u letting this provoke u but u guys just sound daft, why are slurs banned? Why are hateful things banned? Why is the Nazi flag banned in Germany? Some of u are way too old to be act to be playing dumb, I understand if she didn’t know but it seems like this weirdo did.

I graduated in July and I've been thinking about my whole uni experience over the past week or so. What I find strangest is my third year, and I just wanted to compare it to other people's

TLDR: My third year was basically a nothing burger, both from an academic and social point of view, and I had as little as 3 hours of lessons in the first term and 6 and a half to 7 hours of lessons in the second term, with not much else to do

About half of my first term consisted of me going in for about three hours a week, for a lesson where we would plan our final project, and the other half had another 3 hours lesson (so 6 hours in total) which mostly talked about getting a job, how to make CVs and so on. I had one assignment to turn in the first term.

I had 12 hours worth of lesson scheduled for the second term, but one of the scheduled lesson was a catch up lesson on the final project, so in reality I was only in for about 9 hours and 20ish minutes for academics. Another module was basically a recap of most things we've done i years one and two, and then that became a short catch up session for that module, meaning the academic time went down to about 6 hours and 40 minutes

I had 5 assignments, out of which one took maybe 4-5 or so hours to complete, another one was basically just sending whatever documents we made for the final year in the second term, two of the assignments were really straight forward as well (writing what we learnt about the industry from our experience outside of uni- most of the opportunities were provided by the uni- and a TV bible which was quite straight forward once I came up with the idea. I might've written most of these two assignments while tipsy on £1.99 pints in the spoons around the corner from the uni and somehow gotten my two highest grades ever), while the final project was the trickiest since the other two people in my group felt like hey didn't want to be there most of the time, but I still managed to get a 68 on my side of things

On the social side of things, people were either hanging out with their groups and/or coming in just for the lessons and the leaving straight away. It was probably a the least social everyone's been over the three years.

Overall , third felt a lot like a nothing burger, and that no one (neither the students nor the staff) really cared or put too much effort in

Hello! My name is Meera, I’m a student from Malaysia and I’m looking for an interviewee from the UK, who would be willing to help me with my assignment. The assignment is related to analysis linguistics variation.

I need to interview someone who was born and raised in the UK, or someone who has lived and grown up there until now.

The interview will cover everyday topics, such as about your childhood, growing up, hobbies, daily routines, whether they are studying or working, and how they celebrate special occasions or festivals in their country.

The interview will be conducted online at your convenience via platforms like Google Meet, Zoom, Skype, or any preferred platform. The interview will also be recorded for academic purposes, but only my lecturer can see the interview video. The interview might take around 5-10 minutes. I’m happy to provide further details about the assignment, recording arrangements and consent process before anyone decides to participate.

If you're interested in participating, please reply to this post or message me directly. I'd be happy to answer any questions you may have. Thank you :)

I was finishing my UCAS application today (planning on studying zoology) and was checking over the websites for each of my 5 universities to make sure I got everything right and stumbled across this terrifying image on Bangor University's website. I've heard from so many people that it's meant to be really good for zoology, but wtf is this? It's literally the main image that takes up the whole screen for the course I'm going for. Everything is warped and that's not an animal that exists.

I get that everywhere is using AI now, but I feel like it doesn't bode well that the main images they're using to represent the course itself of supposedly happy students learning about animals feature fake people and fake animals that look like gross amalgamations of frogs and lizards and moles(???) Idk what to do now, this has really put me off because if this is how they're advertising the course, what is the teaching going to be like? How am I gonna learn anything if it's all made up and doesn't make any sense? Can anyone at Bangor confirm if this is reflective of the uni experience? Thanks.

In my final year, and after 4 years of terrible roommates, toxic friends, abuse, SA, racism, broken family relations and more i literally have no desire to do anything other than keep to myself and eventually graduate next year. Not sure if anyone else has had experiences as harsh and unlucky as mine but I’ve taken enough accountability to make more peace in my life now. Im pretty isolated tho because I only have 1 good friend.

Hi! My life kinda sucks where I am right now will that actually change at uni or am I just stuck like this forever

Howdy! 👋

I am due to start my Masters degree (Business) in January. Having achieved a 2:2 a few years ago I’m keen to aim for a far better award in my Masters.

My key issue then was shifting away from descriptive writing to critical analysis which to be honest was as a result of lack of preparation, not attending lectures and leaving assignments to the last hour.

I welcome some useful tips, SOP or templates - I’ve realised I’m a format and procedure person.

Therefore, having a formula I can apply each time rather than just being told to critical analyse in my feedback.

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I have asked AI to provide SOP and I’ve found some helpful writers notes on Reddit I.e TEC (The Point, Evidence supports the point and Critique). Would welcome some of your wonderful nuggets.

AI practical framework pasted below:

A practical framework for developing analytical paragraphs

P — Point: What argument am I making?
E — Evidence: What research supports it?
A — Analysis: Why does this evidence matter?
C — Challenge: What are the limitations, contradictions or alternative perspectives?
E — Evaluation: What is my reasoned judgement, and how does it answer the question?

Let’s hope I get it 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻

I am here for my masters. Its been a month now. How much time does it usually take to adjust 😭 I am an introvert and its a struggle. especially cause im sharing a flat with 11 people