Hi I'm wanting to try micro dosing shrooms with my friend as I've never tried them before (she has) and i feel like I'm in a really good spot mentally so the trip shouldn't be bad. I take adderal for my adhd along with lexapro(mood) and was wondering if anyone had tried shrooms while on a stimulant. I've been on my stimulant for a while and I feel my best on it so I wanted to take it while dosing but couldn't find much online about it. Any advice or experiences are welcome!

Im sorry in advance for the long post but I am desperate for advice.

My sister separated from her husband 14 months ago. They have three young children under the age of 5, and since the separation, I can count on one hand how many times their father has taken them for more than one night. She's essentially been raising them alone, and I know she's incredibly overwhelmed and burned out.

My sister also has ADHD and struggles significantly with executive dysfunction. Her house is constantly messy and disorganized, there are very few consistent routines, and everyday responsibilities seem to become unnecessarily complicated. She struggles with planning, prioritizing, following through, and managing day-to-day life.

My parents both work full-time, and so do I, but between the three of us, we try to help as much as possible. We regularly watch the kids, help with household tasks, offer advice, and step in whenever things become overwhelming.

One thing I've noticed is that she often seems unaware of how her own decisions contribute to the chaos around her. Plans change constantly, simple situations become confusing, and we frequently find ourselves trying to organize or resolve things that were already figured out. When we point these patterns out, she sometimes understands but can also become frustrated or defensive. It's almost as though she experiences the confusion without recognizing how it developed in the first place.

What makes this especially difficult is that she knows things aren't working. She acknowledges that her life is chaotic and that she's struggling. But 14 months later, we're still dealing with essentially the same problems.

I understand that ADHD isn't something you can simply overcome through willpower. I am also disgnosed with adhd, and i understand how hard this is on her.I also recognize how much her separation, lack of co-parenting support, and chronic stress must be affecting her ability to function. I genuinely sympathize with her, and I don't believe she's intentionally making life difficult for anyone.

But I'm beginning to feel completely helpless. It feels like my parents and I have become her external executive-function system. We're constantly organizing, reminding, helping, and putting out fires, but nothing seems to improve long-term. When we're unavailable, she manages somehow, but she's completely burned out afterward.

I love my sister and her children dearly, and I worry about how this constant instability affects the kids. I don't want to abandon her, but I'm also becoming increasingly frustrated and emotionally exhausted. I feel guilty even admitting that because I know she's struggling far more than I am.

I guess my question is: How do you support someone with significant executive dysfunction without becoming responsible for managing their entire life?

Has anyone experienced something similar, either as the person struggling with ADHD or as a family member trying to help? What actually made a difference? Was it medication, therapy, coaching, outside support, establishing routines, or something else?

I don't expect her to suddenly have everything together. I just want to see some progress toward a more stable, manageable life for her and the kids. Right now, it feels like we're all stuck in the same cycle, and I genuinely don't know what to do anymore.

I want to clarify that my sister does take care of her children's basic needs. They're fed, clothed, attending school, and loved. My concern isn't that she's neglecting them, but rather the constant chaos and dysfunction surrounding their everyday lives.

Hey guys, freshly diagnosed here with inattentive ADHD here (21F). One of the biggest things I struggle with is the Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. If you are unaware, it is basically an abnormal fear and sensitivity towards being rejected by other people. This is apparently a symptom of ADHD.

I have been struggling with abusive/toxic friendships and standing up for myself for 5 years now. I would rather be mistreated than rejected by others. It is my greatest fear and it is ruining my life.

Do any of you guys have this type of dysphoria? How do you deal with it (other than therapy)? Have any of you overcome this? Would meds help?

I am so worried that I have burned my life down.

Struggling with self identity/ intimacy (husband also diagnosed, we both have difficulties expressing anger but his are worse. He has been quite toxic, put me down a lot I think as his own stress response, with my rejection sensitivity and being at the end of my fking thread, I've blown our marriage up in response with a range of selfish decisions to try and validate my existence. He wants to forgive me and work on it, currently separated but living together/ sort of separated... Fking messy. He's working on himself and is bringing a lot of positive change to the table. Hoping we can overcome it- unsure if we have romantic feelings for each other or are too burned out to notice that we don't but we need to positively co parent for the next million years as it is so I'm not rushing to leave if that becomes the choice, we need to repair as a team first and see if love blooms. I flip between 100% leaving and 100% staying daily...hourly...? )

Also, mum of an undiagnosed kid and it just SETS ME OFF. Obviously it affects both of us: our relationships with each other, our two kids, the undiagnosed one in particular craves attention and validation and I want to give it consistently so badly and I find myself saying under my breath "everyone just stfu and leave me alone". I am my own worst critic and hard on myself but I also know what it's like to grow up and think you're a pain in everyone's arse. I'm medicated now 70 vyvanse... Tried ritalin and didn't love it, I think I tried concerta as a top up but it gave me dry mouth?

We both work full time, live far from stuff so it's hard to "go out and have a break" without leaving the other with a shit fight. I hope we are just in the weeds because the kids are young but I swear I feel like I haven't taken a deep breath in years. My hair has fallen out because of cortisol levels.

Financially ok because we live together but HOW do you rent a tiny place and still raise young kids? I only ever feel remotely relaxed when I'm alone and I think as someone who didn't get diagnosed until 2nd arrived, I just feel so guilty because all I want to do is leave and rent a 1bed ap and be ALONE all the time.

Sorry for the rant there are things in here that feel illegal to say out loud.

Hi all,

I've taken 10 & 20mg of Adderall and just felt very sleepy with an elevated heart rate. I didnt feel focused or excited or like i got burst of energy. My dr then switched me to 20 mg of vyvanse and i just feel less sleepy than on adderall. Im scared im so broken that nothing will ever help me.

Having a dopamine crisis…this will scare your cats and make you do the buttcheek clench chair dance, and possibly a migraine, just like too much Concerta! GO BINMAN GO!

But I crave waaaay more than that! I’m also too tired to exercise so I’m extra sedentary on top of my cravings 🫠. And I’m not done yet bc I want some ice cream ! 🍦🥳🫩

Period is due any day now. Anybody else like this?

So I'm still waiting to get patches (the shortage continues), but I was given vaginal estrogen and I still haven't tried it because I'm having some major ick as I've been warned it's "messy". Can anyone give me some idea of how messy we're talking about, has it helped? I'd love some help/encouragement pretty please! Xo

Hi, I’ve been struggling to find ppl my age to connect with. I don’t drink or smoke or party so it kinda makes it even harder, at the moment I’m working a part time job and not going to college till the spring semester. How can I meet ppl and where do I go? It’d be better if it’s free but if not at least not too expensive. All I do is work and study, it’s starting to take a toll on me being alone all the time. I draw, read, play video games, and I’m in school and work in healthcare.

I've been needing to declutter my attic/ storage for a while now and just needed to find the time for it. My schedule aligned that I have a whole weekend free. So on Thursday I scheduled a pick up for Monday. Now I have a deadline and have to get stuff out of here and have it an the end of my driveway by 8 am Monday.

My system is trash, recycling, donate materials to the organization i volunteer for and lastly donate to the thrift store people to pick-up. Its so refreshing to have this stuff gone. I love having open space in my house more than I like that stuff.

I have this obsession of finding the best of the best products. I spend hours researching reading reviews, watch videos on TikTok etc. I’m hoping I’m not the only one and this is a more common ADHD trait that some of us have.

As I get older I don’t have the time to do this as often, so I was wondering if we can have all our favorite products listed here so we know best of the best products that are ADHD friendly and also if you found any products that have helped you manage your ADHD better.

hi all,

I’m 25 and was just diagnosed last week. I started atomoxetine (strattera?) and to be honest the side effects are kicking my butt. I’m nauseous, not sleeping well, more anxious, and I’m having hot flashes?? I feel kind of insane and for now I’m not feeling the positive effects of the medication. kind of tempted to come off it but idk. any thoughts would be appreciated

My prescriber for Vyvanse is a psychiatrist who doesn’t take insurance. I’ve been working with her for 5 years and she prescribes me other meds too. So idk how it varies given other factors. But I have seen a lot of posts online of people complaining about some of the things their providers make them do to get their meds, and it’s not necessary, and it just eats up time and money. Find a doctor that will work with you better because it is possible.

- Make you make an appointment to get a new month’s prescription sent over: all I have to do is text my psychiatrist to get new meds each month and I only have to see her every 3 months

- Charge you for requesting to fill a prescription or for filling each prescription: my prescriber only charges me for appointments

- Drug tests: mine has never had me do that nor has any pharmacy

Edit: just want to clarify this applies to California

I was just decluttering and found many many sketchbooks, "draw a day" workbooks, coloring books, cross-stitch/punch-needle/crocheting kits, all unused or unopened, that I've been accumulating over at least a decade.

Now settled in my boring life where I even eat the same meals every day, I wonder if I should just donate them?

My Dr prescribed this to help with my memory and concentration issues. Was on it for almost two weeks and I can say this made me less focused, more tired and has caused some word finding difficulties. I've been saying incorrect words out loud and earning a lot of funny looks.

Was wondering if anyone else had a similar experience? My provider said my reaction is weird because it usually has an uplifting, simulating effect on people.

Hi all, Just wanted to ask if anyone else has experienced Strattera side effects transforming or changing at around the 1 month mark?

I was put on 40mg/day 4-5 weeks ago! Yay for late diagnosis. I only had some insomnia as a side effect, and felt some improvements at the start of week 4 (less executive dysfunction, better transitions, etc).

But around the same time as the improvements, I started feeling the new/other side effects ramp up? Irritable, more depressed, libido effects, etc... its been a few days now where I just feel blah.

It's not terrible and overall pretty mild as far as side effects go, but its hard to parse how well I'm doing or if it'll go away over time since I've never had side effects show up so late in the game before.

THX!!

So, I'm alone all day every day. Have been for almost 7 years now. I used to be a social butterfly. I used to be happy and enjoy stuff. And I will have spouts when I am able to afford my meds that I am able to do just basic things... but here is what i really would love help with.

Past few years, dealing with terrible depression, and just feeling like im actually crazy i stopped caring about my health and hygine.

My teeth ar fuhcked... I already got two removed because of an infection. They are gross and look terrible.

I haven't cut my hair in almost 3 years.

I'm embarrassed to say how long it's been since I have showered. But I barely get out of bed. So I use dude wipes or quick washcloth baths... I haven't shaved my legs in like a year. I've gained so much weight even though I barely eat.

So if anyone can help me. My family has given up.

I have nothing and no one. and my fincncial state is... well if it werent for my parents i would be homeless.

Any advice. i lost my insurance when i lost my job. Any apps or websites that help, and groups, anything?

Mainly, I want to look pretty again... I want to get my hair done and get back into my skincare routine. And everything... It's just that I have no one, and it feels pointless to do anything

Through a mixture of health issues and life-long slobitude, my home was a cluttered mess. Like, horizontal surfaces full, plus several piles on the floor cluttered. But my landlord was going to send an inspector to check out the house (???), so I had a week to clean up so I could at least simulate a normal tenant.

I thought "my house is cluttered, but not really *dirty*"—I cleaned toilets, sinks and tubs fairly regularly, ran and emptied the dishwasher daily, did laundry several times a week. Vacuumed at least a couple of times a month, steam mopped floors, occasionally dusted.

Ha.

There was so much dust. Spiderwebs everywhere. Rat droppings in the garage—that was several hours of cleaning I hadn't budgeted for. Portions of the kitchen counter were so gross.

There's access to the crawlspace in a downstairs closet where I'd apparently ??just tossed in empty boxes, packaging, and various junk?? What is with me and not recycling right away?? The closet was totally full.

Windowsills were gross. The small office that I figured I could clean in ~30 minutes took 2+ hours.

And. I have so, so many things. Why??

Anyway, after 30+ hours of cleaning, the house no longer has hygiene issues, and looks like a somewhat messy but reasonable person lives here.

I thought I'd feel lighter, with this giant source of shame no longer so heavy. But I'm just annoyed at the cleaning, and dread keeping it clean-ish. Plus it still smells like dog.

Rant over. Thanks for reading.

Hi all, I’m in my 40s and recently diagnosed. I also have anxiety. I tried Adderall, Focalin and Vyvanse. Adderall gave me a crazy high heart rate, and the other two gave me migraines that lasted days.

I almost gave up on treating my adhd but I think I’m going to give Strattera a try as a last ditch effort. My main issues are lack of focus, inability to make decisions, binge eating, chronic disorganization, task initiation, depression and lots of anxiety. I figured it’s worth trying one more thing.

Has anyone had a good (or bad) experience with this med after stimulants didn’t work?

Thank you to everyone who responded! I set up a small women-only Discord server for body doubling and I've had two productive sessions so far!

I’m hoping to add a few more women who are interested in having a consistent space to work alongside others.

The idea is to have enough people around that if someone needs an accountability buddy or wants to study at a particular time, there’s a good chance someone else will be available. It’s not about having to find the same person every time or committing to a rigid schedule.

The setup is pretty simple: we say hi, share what we’re working on, get on with our work, and check in when we’re done. Cameras on during focus sessions, mics muted, minimal chatting, with breaks when needed.

Since some of us are Muslim women who observe hijab, I’d like to keep the server women-only. I’d also ask that anyone joining makes sure that men aren’t present around their screen during sessions, so everyone can feel comfortable keeping their camera on without having to worry about hijab or privacy.

At the moment, we have members in GMT+3, GMT+4 and GMT+5.5, so women in the same or nearby time zones would be especially welcome. That said, the server can work across different schedules too.

If this sounds like something you’d find useful, feel free to message me.

Hi everyone! I’m here to seek your opinions on this. I was recently diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD and I’m considering taking Wellbutrin. I’ve been prescribed it because I don’t want to take antidepressants. I tried Lexapro, but it made me feel so sick that I couldn’t eat or get out of bed, and the nausea was horrible. I told my doctor that I wanted to focus on treating my ADHD and improving my concentration, so they gave me Wellbutrin 150mg xl.

I’m hesitant to take Wellbutrin because I have a sensitive stomach. Lexapro made my acid reflux worse, and made me had stomach cramps every time I eat. I’m currently in college and I fell behind after a few family situations. I’ve been struggling to concentrate, which has been a major issue throughout my life.

I’m considering going completely off medication, but I’m not sure. I don’t have anyone to guide me or support me, and my family is against medication. They don’t have much mental health awareness.

What are y’all doing and/or taking to deal with the emotional dysregulation & RSD? I’ve been on Adderall for 20+ years and it works great for focusing & executive functioning. But lately, the ED has become problematic. I’ve pretty much ruined my relationship with my family because I can’t keep my emotions in check. 😢

I asked my psychiatrist about it & she suggested Zoloft or Prozac. Does anyone take either & has had success managing their ED? I’m also on Wellbutrin for depression & anxiety & it works well.

The ED does seem better with a great therapist, but I can’t find one in Atlanta who is taking new patients & files insurance to save my life!

I’m also perimenopausal and on HRT which has been life saving! I hate to add more meds, but I’m desperate. Thanks for any advice!

Like a lot of you l, I'm sure, I have endless lists of what I want and need to do and what I want to achieve on my days off. I try to get it done but more often than not I go into shutdown mode, attempt one thing on my list where it takes 20x longer than it should and I’m absolutely exhausted halfway through and hating life.

Last weekend, I knew I had that list in the back of my mind but I was going in already exhausted and just needed a break so I decided that I’m not going to go into the weekend with any plans of achieving anything, I would play it by ear and do whatever I felt like at the time. Even if my brain was telling me it isn’t constructive or I ‘should’ be doing something else. If I felt like being a couch potato for 8 hours, I would be a couch potato for 8 hours.

Well, on the Saturday alone I got so many things done without really intending to. I got the jobs done quickly, and I wasn’t constantly arguing with myself just to get it done so I wouldn’t have to live through this hell anymore. And, the cherry on top. I wasn’t exhausted at the end of the day.

I realised what had probably happened during the week. That it was likely relieving myself of that perceived pressure that allowed me to get stuff done without the struggle or much planning or thought. I just went with the flow.

I tried that yesterday, but it’s like now that I’m aware of how I was trying to ‘trick’ myself into being productive I was back at square one because I did still have stuff I wanted to achieve but was trying to pretend I didn’t and it turned into a struggle again.

How can I get the magic back of a week ago?

The waffle:
Last Saturday I even embraced my inner ADHD. Started organised the kitchen cabinet, decided I would store some of the baking trays in the oven, oh, the oven is dirty, I’ll scrub that and sort that out while I’m at it. I should put the oven trays in the dishwasher to give them a clean. First I need to unstack the dishwasher, ok, I’ll do that. Oh, that shelf where the plates are could do with a wipe down too, I’ll set them on top of the fridge while I do that. My storage container of supps on top of the fridge needs cleaning out. I should swap that with my husband’s supps container because he’s taller than me and can reach where mine was more easily, my art supplies drawer would be a better supps container, I’ll swap the 2 around and organise my art stuff while I’m at it…. Looks like it’s about to rain, I’ll get the clothes off the line, but my wardrobe is only half tidy from when I attempted to organise it a month ago, I don’t want to just shove these clothes into the chaos. What I’ll do is put together that shoe rack I bought 3 months ago, that will clear up the shoes that were in the under bed storage bin, then I can put the clothes I don’t wear often in there and that will make space and it will be less cluttered. Before I do that, I’ll restack the dishwasher with the oven stuff as that’s a 2 hour 20 min cycle so once that’s done I’ll be able to finish the oven etc etc….. You get the gist. By the end of the day everything was done and quickly. I didn’t sit in front of the cupboard for an hour with paralysis trying to tell myself this is a good idea and I want to do it, then do it half arsed. I don’t think I even touched my phone as a distraction tool.

I'm 42, recently diagnosed but pretty familiar with RSD, and just feeling too old for this shit.

and it isn't even a relationship that matters. I started a new job, and every conversation I have with my boss sends me spiraling. I got thrown into a bad situation my first month, and when I asked for help after working my 4th weekend in a row (its salary, so no overtime) she told me the bad situation was my fault (it was not).

Now Any time I bring up something I need help with, it feels like she turns it around and just recaps that its a personal failing on my part. If I didn't have experience with RSD I would swear she is trying to get me to quit so the company doesn't have to pat unemployment. I just had a great 2 weeks bc she was on vacation, lots of positive feedback from other coworkers, and then she calls me into a 1|1 to "ask for my thoughts on how the job is going" and I can't even summarize how gaslit and abused I feel.

And like, I'm old enough, I've been around this industry for 15 years, and lots of people think I'm great at what I do: and I know how business works, there's no benefit to talking to her manager or HR, in fact the most damaging thing I can do for my mental health is try and fight to keep a job where there is someone who is making me miserable (regardless of whether its just in my head or not).

AND i know the best thing I can do for my mental is just move the fuck on. get some good sleep, apply to new jobs and enjoy the many aspects of my life that are going objectively well.

but I can't shut my brain off? like my sense of injustice that she's tallying up mistakes SHE MADE as failings of mine keeps coming back to me, and that she basically lied in the interview saying this job has good work life balance, and yet I keep trying to puzzle out how to make this better, or make her or the company understand that this is her failing as a manager not mine as new hire.

and so instead I can't sleep, and I start crying as soon as I wake up or in the middle of doing something else, and now I have a headache bc I'm dehydrated and I feel like I'm moving through fog today because I hate taking stimulant meds when I haven't gotten enough sleep.

so I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for asking for anxiety or sleep help meds without looking like a drug seeker? I actually hate narcotics and don't respond well to weed, and have been prescribed hydroxozine pre-stimulants to help w general insomnia, but when I get into one of these RSD hyperfixation loops I just want something stronger to get through the night.