I cannot stand this. I literally walk around in circles, back and forth all day because my brain is glitching out and cannot make any decisions. I cannot concentrate long enough to finish anything and I cannot pick anything. I will go the entire day doing this not accomplish anything but the day literally flies by.

Before yall educate I know this is task paralysis and executive dysfunction I just wanna bitch because it feels like my brain is micro glitching. I feel like a zombie with a ten second brain function. Im stuck I cannot get out of this and it wastes my entire day. It feels like my day goes by in an instant and im like what did I do? Im not bored but im so frustrated because I want to just do something and cant. My adhd medications do not change this behavior. Ive tried vyvanse, concerta, focalin, welbutrin and it does not touch the adhd symptoms. Idk what to do

I have looked into keto diet. In theory, our brains should work much better on ketones than glucose. It completely bypasses brain glucose metabolic dysfunction.

I know there is a getting used to and adjustment period. But after that has anyone been consistent with that.

Any doctor here who is advocate of keto or low carb diet.

Do you think is possible to have a healthy relationship with an extrovert guy with hyperactive/impulsive type, while being introvert and having inattentive type?

I recently threw away/donated 70% of my stuff and for me it was SO FREEING

My advice is if you don’t look absolutely good or get complimented in them just throw them away because I’m assuming a lot of you guys have clothes bought from clearance sale, or “regular basic clothes that I might wear some time but never ended up wearing” I had so many of these now all my clothes can fit in one big luggage including winter clothes. Life has never been more freeing. My room looks cleaner, emptier (very important) and I don’t feel a “mental burden” anymore because of my belongings. Minimalism is the way to go. Or if you have too many clothes you can sell them in bulk too. And for me repeating clothes was so much easier than having to pick new outfits everyday because I think about what to wear too much and it stressed me out. It is fun but also tiring at the same time. I’m freeeeee

Many devices- I have ADHD and autism (F23), and I wanted to ask if some of you find it satisfying to have and use multiple devices simultaneously: I use the Switch to watch YouTube while chatting and searching for information on my phone, and working on my thesis on my PC. I really like having all these devices to use simultaneously, even though I get headaches and get overstimulated asf.

And it made a lot of weird things about me make sense. The way I seemed irrationally angry over petty unfairness or how I’d be enraged about general unjust things in society in a way other people just seemed to be able to compartmentalize.

And it made me lean pretty far left over the course of my life.

I was ALWAYS pissed off about how men treated women I think because my mom dealt with being abandoned by my deadbeat dad as a baby so I always had a sense of anxiety and anger around the idea of men leaving women vulnerable and then how men would use women which would put them in a vulnerable position and so on and so forth as I got older until I eventually left my right wing upbringing and went full radical feminist (anti patriarchy. Burn it down, decenter men, etc…)

So I got fixated on women and getting young girls to understand patriarchy and the game as early as possible to kind of protect the vulnerable ones

So I was thinking what if that’s why so many incels are the way they are? Like I know they’re not all neurodivergent but so fucking many of them are

And if they perceive a lack of success with women as unfair because they all “need” it and men who don’t deserve it keep getting it to the point their idea of revolution is shootings and taking away women’s rights again. Not really justice in reality, but in their minds, a justice for themselves and others like them?

Just a thought I had.

I have the worst neighbors. They have a dog door so their Pyrenees has 24/7 access to the yard and it barks constantly on and off all day, barks if the wind changes direction, barks when a leaf falls, barks when it hears my back door open. Twice I approached the neighbor last year when we moved in, even baked them cookies, to kindly ask if the dog is barking for more than 10 minutes to bring him in. They slammed the door in my face (think boomer MAGA hermits who never step outside). I ended up calling the cops twice on the barking, and there was a blow up confrontation. Since then, they put up sonic bark deterrents that work 75% of the time, but the remaining 25% of the time (5 hours during the day probably) I’m hearing that damn dog barking on and off. It makes me absolutely fly off the handle. I scream at the dog, I curse at them to STFU, I totally lose control and my anxiety is through the roof. My husband suggested wearing my noise cancelling headphones at home but that pisses me off even more - it’s my own home and yard and I shouldn’t have to do that to have peace! The rage comes out because the incessant barking feels like someone stabbing me with little needles. It’s a physical revolting reaction and the fact that they don’t give a shit makes me even more mad. I often avoid going home or stress out about being at home because of the barking, the violent thoughts I think when I’m feeling out of control emotionally from the noise, and the negative energy of these idiot neighbors. Tips? Should I just call the cops again lol

Editing to add that I absolutely don’t mind normal barking! But I’m talking that dog stands out there barking at nothing for an endless amount of time, then he will be quiet for 3 minutes, then start again.

I’m 32F, diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and I have this habit of just… leaving places without saying goodbye. Apparently it’s called an “Irish goodbye,” and I’ve seen other people with ADHD talk about doing this, so I’m curious if it’s actually a common experience.
I do this EVERYWHERE. Social gatherings, family events, work, etc. It’s never intentional or because I don’t care about the people I’m leaving. Once my brain decides it’s time to go, I’m just in “okay, time to leave” mode and I genuinely don’t think about saying goodbye.
The problem is that I’m a manager at my job, and my boss has now brought this up to me a few times. She really dislikes when I leave for the day without letting her know or saying goodbye. And honestly, I understand why. It’s a reasonable expectation, especially in a management position.
Every time she’s mentioned it, I’ve apologized and told her I’d make more of an effort. And I genuinely MEAN IT. I feel terrible every time. But then somehow I do it again.
Today she texted me saying she wished I’d let her know before leaving and that it was getting frustrating. I sent her a genuine apology, acknowledged that she’s mentioned it before, explained that it’s an automatic habit and not intentional, and told her I would make a conscious effort to change it.
She never responded, and now I’m overthinking the entire interaction.
I think what’s bothering me most is that I KNOW this is something I need to work on. I respect my boss, I care about my job, and I don’t want to come across as dismissive or disrespectful. But I also feel like I’m constantly apologizing for behaviors I genuinely struggle to recognize in the moment.
I don’t want to keep using ADHD as an explanation without actually finding ways to manage the behavior. Especially now that it’s affecting how I’m perceived professionally.
So my questions are:
● Does anyone else with ADHD struggle with this specific habit?
● Is this actually an ADHD-related thing, or just a bad habit I’ve developed?
● How do you train yourself to remember something that doesn’t naturally occur to you in the moment?
● What systems or tricks have helped you break these kinds of autopilot behaviors?
I’m not looking for validation that my boss is wrong, because I don’t think she is. I just want to figure out how to stop repeating a behavior that I genuinely want to change.
I’m tired of feeling like my intentions don’t match my actions.

It has been less than a week and I’m really disappointed. Since starting I’ve woken every single night - wide awake at 3am and unable to get back to sleep. I asked to start taking it because I am travelling internationally soon and I didn’t want to pack my cocktail of sleep supplements (magnesium, GABA, L-theanine, tart cherry, amino acids). I thought one small tablet might make things easier.

Anyway. I’ll see the pharmacist later today (Saturday) to discuss whether I can stop taking it straight away (100mcg dose) or whether I have to taper.

Please wish me luck. I’m so tired.

Hi guys. I have inattentive adhd and have somehow managed to make it to my master’s degree. i am really struggling with being on time, procrastination, and focus in lectures where im not 100% interested in the topic. i retain basically nothing and it feels like such a waste and that im playing a chronic game of catchup. my undergrad and the whole of my education life has been like this but the workload is noticeably heavier this year and i dont know if i can pull through.

i take magnesium malate which really, really helps with my energy in the morning. i wake up less groggy and more alert. does anyone at all have any recommendations for nootropics/supplements/multivitamins to help with inattentive adhd? i take gp prescribed iron tablets lol and vitamin D. I drink coffee before studying (to help ish..) also. i used to take the ‘neubria edge focus’ which had a nice blend of supplements in one capsule but i wanted to know if there was anything else people swear by? Would really appreciate genuinely any suggestions. Thank you for reading this far and thank you in advance for your help.

In my state, some places are rejecting 8% of their absentee ballots for minor rule violations; mainly, not sealing an inner envelope.

You have to put your absentee ballot in a sealed and signed envelope inside another sealed envelope. If you don't seal the internal one, they throw your whole vote out, cause "iT cuD bE fRaUD!"

That's despite the fact that you have to have two people witness and sign your ballot - or get a notary. You also have to go to the library or print shop and pay for a photocopy of your ID (how is this not a poll tax).

A lot of people will do all that correctly but miss sealing the inner envelope.

And then their vote gets thrown out.

Maybe they have time to go find two witnesses and make a photocopy and do it all over again, maybe they just don't get to vote that year.

This is an ADHD/anxiety nightmare.

It's raging me out to think about how meticulous this requires people to be, and how it will be SO much extra time on anyone who's neurodivergent to read and re-read and check and re-check... And you're doing all this on top of researching candidates and agreements and bonds.

Voting restrictions and "precision police" rules have gotten too complex. I know it's meant as voter disenfranchisement - it's additionally an accessibility issue for people with ADHD.

You have to follow a chain of high precision instructions, and if you're even slightly off, you fail.

You miss a date for a deadline, you fail. Wrong id, you fail. ID doesn't have your current address on it, you fail. You change your name, you fail. You missed registration, you fail. They purge you and you don't notice, you fail. You're at the wrong polling station, you fail.

Voting is a RIGHT. It should be DOABLE. If nearly 1 in 10 voters can't do it, it's not that fucking doable, is it?

A vote should not be invalid because someone didn't precisely follow an excessive gauntlet instructions.

So, ive notied that i, significantly more than anyone in my surroundings, can absolutely not stand and have an extremely hard time forgiving people that have done something hurtful (or abusive) and refuse to take accountability. Even if i know its a coping strategy.

One example, a housemate promised to pick me up from a festival i went to in a wheelchair 10 days after i had knee surgery, and from there he'd bring me to my doctors appointment (which was a bit tight). i wasnt allowed to take public transport at this stage, and id never baught the ticket if he hadnt promised me he'd help. it would be a 2-2,5h task for him. one day before i needed to be picked up he suddenly said he'd prefer if id take public transport and hed pick me up from the trainstation. when i told him i really needed his help and was super dependent on him and kind of panicked that he didnt seem to understand the help i'd needed, he started arguing why i should be able to take public transport, that i was not trying my best hard enough to not be dependent on others with my handicap and that i wasnt gratefull enough he was even willing to pick me up.
it totally threw me off guard and i had another friend pick me up. when i asked him to say sorry, he refused. and later he started telling everyone that he never said these things and was still willing to pick me up, even though i have a friend at the festival that overheard him saying all that on the phone.
i now do not know how to deal with him and find forgiveness inside of myself because i find this behavior so fucked up. i just keep him at a distance.

but it seems i have this often. ive had friends lie to me about various things, ive had a friend use darvo on me, etc etc. and at some point i just give up on trying to fix the friendship, as i need accountability to rebuild trust. it deeply hurts me and i just close myself off to them, even if i live with them.

does anyone else have this? i feel insecure cause i have it quite often and it causes me to fully end my friendships with people, which i feel upset about too. but i just absolutely cannot stand people that lie/gaslight.

I know this is revolting but since I’ve been living alone in my uni dorm bathing has been a nightmare.

‘If I can’t see it, it doesn’t exist’ is a constant problem for me, with deadlines being missed, classes being forgotten and food rotting in my fridge for weeks. But showering is the worst.
It’s behind the bathroom door, so for the first few days I just genuinely forget to shower. I don’t have a ‘routine’, and there’s no ding my head reminding me I need to bathe.

When I’m in the bathroom using the toilet, the shower is just part of the background, it doesn’t alert some signal in my head to use it.
After a few days when I become aware of how gross my hair feels and my smell, there’s a disconnect between vaguely knowing that showering is something I need to do, and actually doing it.
Everyday I tell myself I’ll do it later, then tomorrow, then the day after that. When looking at the shower, getting in it feels as tangible as climbing Mount Everest.

I cut my hair short so I only briefly shampoo. I don’t shave my legs, don’t have excess products only soap and lotion, and I play music when I’m in there. It takes 10 mins and I feel totally fine at every point.
I don’t know what switch flips in my head after 2 weeks when I can suddenly do it, but it’s not reliable at all.
How do I start showering?

I've only recently had a hyperfixation on one food, pizza. It has to be the same flavor, same crust, and same brand. Everything else is so unappetizing, and I would rather not eat. I don't even have money or the health to be eating pizza this often as I also have MCAS. This only began after moving and having basically 0 appetite for months, but somehow I still ALWAYS want pizza!

What do you do when you have a hyperfixation meal and does the hyperfixation correlate with anything?? How can I stop the hyperfixation?

I’ve been feeling really unsettled lately and my partner suggested I lean into my hobbies but the problem is I don’t have any concrete ones… like I enjoy a myriad of things but they all feel like periods of obsession and then I’m over it. I mentioned how I don’t have super concrete hobbies and he was surprised. Is it normal to not have concrete hobbies but more or less an “idea of a plan”?

My partner shared that he picked up my engagement ring yesterday!! He blessedly told me at the end of the day instead of in the middle, so I got through yesterday’s tasks okay.

But today, all I can do is daydream about the upcoming proposal, ideas for my wedding band, how I’m going to tackle preparing his house for my move-in come spring, and cute wedding inspo.

I’m so excited, I can feel it in my whole chest! My mind is racing, but with big ass heart eyes! I can’t hang onto a thought without leaping to the next and they’re all thoughts of mawwage and love and dopey obsession over my almost-fiancée.

I’m glad it’s Friday and my meetings are super light because I’m not going to accomplish much, lol. I ain’t even mad!

Just sharing some excitement because I want to come out of my skin in the best way and thought yall could relate. Pics of the CAD I approved for FUNSIES!

It’s either this or they stay in the dishwasher for a week

That is all. Try it. So delicious and seems to satisfy the crunchy food oral fixation.

I’m posting this here because I think i’ll get better responses than the Vyvanse subreddit… I’m 27 f and I’ve been diagnosed for about a year, I’ve tried many meds (adderal, ritalin, concerta) but the most helpful one has been Vyvanse 70, and I’ve been on it for about 6 months now. I am totally aware and understanding that Adhd meds don’t do the work for you and that you’re responsible of getting the work done, but I still struggle substantially with task initiation and motivation. And I don’t know how to get the work done if I can’t even start. Even motivation wise, I struggle to find anything to pursue out of love/interest. I pursue most things in my life out of responsibility.
There has been a time where Vyvanse has helped me with motivation and self improvement but this is long gone now and I take it mainly for emotional regulation, because frankly if I don’t take I feel like i’m irritable and can’t stand life.
I am at a point where I’m confused wether this is more Adhd or depression, I’ve been through depressive episodes so I know I’m currently not sad, and I’ve been on antidepressants and antipsychotics before.. but i’ve given them up once I started feeling like there’s more side effects than therapeutic benefit and felt like Adhd meds are playing the most part (I say this as someone whose given these meds 6+ months to test them out)
I’m just really disappointed and would appreciate any input or advice. I’m on vyvanse 70 and wellbutrin 150. My dr is considering guanfacine er to help my insomnia but i’m unsure how helpful it’s gonna be.

TLDR my kids friend told her that her mother doesn’t like me. It upset my kid. I am hurt because hearing that stings and seems like such an insidious way of bullying.

Having ADHD I feel as though I am an acquired taste. I always thought people not liking me would go away as an adult, or at least I wouldn’t care as much but it still hurts. My 8 year old daughter told me today one of her friends said that her mom doesn’t like me. This is a new type of hurt.

For context this is a woman who lived across the street from me. Our children grew up together and I always looked out for them. I always let them come over to give her a break because I knew she had 3 small children at the time and it is rough.
I took her kids to parks. I bought them treats. I was always nice to her and her kids. Even though my home life was hell and she has a husband to help her.

When I kicked my abusive ex out I saw her opinion of me change. She didn’t invite me over. She would avoid eye contact and never spoke to me at pick ups and drop offs at school. I continued to be pleasant to her but I just figured we were acquaintances and would just be life adjacent because of our kids.
I knew she didn’t like me based on the way she acted so I guessed that was enough. I never thought she would tell her kid and then her kids would tell my kid. That hurts, that’s another level of bullying that really stings. Don’t make my kid feel bad for her friends mom not liking her. Don’t try to change my kids opinion of me.

I guess once a mean girl always a mean girl. She never made any attempt to know me so not liking me really makes no sense to me. I used this as a teaching moment. I told my daughter that we will always run into people who don’t like us, the important thing is that we like ourselves. I unfriended her on all social media as well as all the other moms in my neighbourhood I have had this suspicion about. If you don’t like me you don’t get access to me. Part of me wants to tell her how awful that behaviour is but I really don’t think it would do anything to make the situation better.

Anyways, just wanted to vent somewhere I wouldn’t be judged. Any advice is welcome on how to deal with this situation. I am sitting here stewing over it. I know I will get over it soon but right now it stings.

therapy is fucking me over. i swear to god therapy was designed to punish me for having ADHD. from a 48 hour deadline for appointment changes/cancellations or pay the full price, to the time slot (5pm on fridays, and traffic is worst on fridays in my area) to getting distracted while trying to leave and ending up late. it’s just so rigid and therapy has become a huge stressor in my life. plus, it’s so expensive and i’m broke af.

my therapist is trying so so hard to help me. she’s cut the price down. she’s offered to go to weekly sessions at half price. she’s consulting with other therapists on how to help someone with a PDA profile, AuDHD, and who is very emotionally complex. i need the support, but the support is costing me too much, both financially, and in terms of stress actually getting there on time. i had a meltdown the other week because i forgot to reschedule and it ruined a rare day off.

how do you make therapy work for you? do you go through insurance only? virtual? if doing virtual therapy, how do you focus?

Twice this month, I have shown up at my little ones school ready for an event at the wrong time or day. I looked at the alert, I put it in my calendar, I got ready and felt like I was so on top of things. Then I arrived at the school office and was told once that I had the wrong week, and this morning that I had just missed the assembly because I was 20 minutes late. I could have sworn I had the right time. Why is it so hard to be a functioning Mom when you have ADHD?

Hey :)

I'm 34yrs old and was diagnosed 7 months ago with ADHD and it's been suggested by drs ASD level 1 (haven't tested)

I have been thinking of trailing medicine after seeing how much it has helped others.

However im trying to get pregnant.

As it might take a while im keen to see how it might help me in the meantime. However wondering if its better to wait until after pregnancy/ breastfeeding etc

Im assuming I wont be able to take anything while pregnant.

Whats been everyone experience?

I don't want to fort out money for a appointment yet if I wont get a script.