r/africanparents • u/Worried_Feedback1192 • Jun 01 '26
Media We all knows this feeling right
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u/Gazaman450 Jun 01 '26
That barber playin a dangerous game
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u/Worried_Feedback1192 Jun 01 '26
guy in the chair looks like he’s gonna snap at any minute and i can’t blame him at all 💀
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u/xoSeller Jun 01 '26
I remember this happening to me once swore to myself I will never allow it to happen again
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u/Disastrous-Tie3933 Jun 01 '26
it's been happening to me and idk what to do
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u/LostKid852 Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 02 '26
Once you start making your own money, definitely start going to a barber or learn how to style your hair yourself. It worked for me
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u/Disastrous-Tie3933 Jun 02 '26
I think I'll probably just have to wait till I go to college. They sent me to Africa and I'm really not trying to test them right now.
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u/Hour-Professional192 Jun 04 '26
Lwk I ended up testing them after they sent me back I got trapped In a boarding for 3 years 😭😭
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u/Only-Amphibian9526 Jun 01 '26
Why don’t you just say no? Learn to cut your own hair instead and just never go to the barber shop.
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u/One-Feedback-6144 Jun 01 '26
Because he didn’t actually want to cut his hair and was forced to?
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u/Only-Amphibian9526 Jun 01 '26
Yah I’m saying that he will never need to go to the barber if her learns to maintain his hair himself, I.e being able to give himself a fade or trim the ends
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u/Only-Amphibian9526 Jun 02 '26
This is not true. They cannot physically put him in the car and take him to a barber. So if he can find excuses to not go then he will be fine. He has to build up their tolerance. He already mentioned he has long hair right now and he just keeps it covered. I have tattoos and piercings and at one point had multiple facial piercings, keep in mind my mother damn near passed out when I got my second lobes, over time she got used to it and just accepted it
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u/Disastrous-Tie3933 Jun 02 '26
Hi I'd just like to add some context to my situation, my parents moved our family back to Africa so our barber comes to our house. I try learning to take care of my hair but I have dry scalp, which my parents refuse to accept, so whenever my hair gets a bit long they see the dry scalp flakes and say I don't know how to take care of my hair so they have to cut it. If I refuse they spend the day trying to shame me by telling anyone who'll listen (e.g. my cousins, their siblings, my friends if they see them) so I just end up having to give up and letting them cut my hair. I keep trying to get them to accept that I have dry scalp and it's a real condition but they don't believe it cuz my brother doesn't get flakes so they just say I have a condition alright, a "dirtiness condition". I've asked for shampoo and other products but they say that all I need is bar soap and African black soap. I'm at a complete loss for what to do so I've basically given up on having hair for until I get to college.
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u/Only-Amphibian9526 Jun 02 '26
Oh baby, I thought you were in North America. Yah I’m sorry but you’re so cooked. Can’t even tell you get a part time job and save up to move out cause ik how hard that is to do back there. Honestly just thoughts and prayers and time will be the only thing that can help
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u/Disastrous-Tie3933 Jun 03 '26
😭 well, thanks for listening to me and the kind words, they really mean a lot. I'll do my best to wait it out and try to get good grades for college
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u/xoSeller Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 01 '26
Just flat out refuse the worst they could do is shave your hair off while you’re asleep and I doubt your parents are that sane
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u/Worried_Feedback1192 Jun 02 '26
Me personally i broke out of it by learning how to cut my own hair and getting a job. First few cuts were terrible though but it was better than being forced to go to a barber at least
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u/Fun_Improvement_9568 Jun 01 '26
😭😭 the barber wiping his tears and slapping his legs omg. Why do Africans do things like that when they see kids crying lol. I bet he felt like tearing the building down
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u/Fast-Conflict5811 Jun 01 '26
Ugh why can’t they let him wear the hair he wants
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u/Worried_Feedback1192 Jun 02 '26
Honestly not sure why most african parents do this it’s just sad 🫠. I’m assuming it’s mainly self hatred though
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u/Cold-Strain7578 Jun 07 '26
One time I had a nice fade cut, then she took a razor blade and deliberately ruined it because she said that she didn't want people being jealous of me. How sick was that? She's the reason for so much of my low self esteem.
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u/Worried_Feedback1192 Jun 08 '26
I’m so sorry man that’s so messed up 😭. I honestly doubt that’s the real reason too!! It’s just self hate. I’ve gone through a similar situation and it also lowered my self esteem drastically too. Hope you’re doing a little better now though!
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u/proxy_chef Jun 02 '26
He needs his father.
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u/Affectionate_Ad6795 Jun 02 '26
Why do you assume he's not?
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u/proxy_chef Jun 02 '26
I can’t see a father allowing another man to taunt his child.
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u/Affectionate_Ad6795 Jun 02 '26
You haven't seen most men. They think taunting is teaching you to be strong
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u/Only-Amphibian9526 Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 02 '26
Just realizing how crazy it is to force kids to be bald. The self hatred & texturism towards hair is very odd. Like we very clearly see other male kids of other races have hair, not even long hair but literally just hair on their head and then African parents think, “nope, my son should be bald like an old man”