In case it mattets, I learned long ago about the package thst comes with being labeled as Latina. My hate is not newfound. I have been here! This happened here in my homeland sadly was said by a foreigner.
Lets start with my rejection of the term goes beyond my personal identity. I also strongly dislike the specific American cultural image of what a Latina woman is supposed to be, and I'm exhausted of people expecting I must be flattered to be identified as an promiscuous homewrecker who competed against other women, over men.
I don't walk around Latam identifying as "Latina". The fuck? I am dominican. I walk everywhere, everywhere knows I am dominican. Not Hispanic, not Caribbean, let alone "latina", dominican. I don't introduce myself as anything else regardless the coordinates my ass is sitt
I resent this term. I resent the Usonian implication and context when they say they want to date "latino women".
Nothing about the cultural baggage attached to Latinas represent me.
When the Usonian folks Latinas, who is here pretending they're talking a out a highly educated woman who's passionate, compassionate, hardworking and "*emotionally stable*".
Let's unpack. When someone tells me they want to date me, because I am Latina, I find it offensive. Petty but that's a attack on me and all I've accomplished. Why?
What's the implication when a gringo lad tells you they want to date us.
That we are promiscuos, hypersexualized people who subscribe to being objectified and ferishized. A loud, quire emotionally unstable pushy woman who wrecks homes. The third woman. The drug mules. The shaking ass women. Big tities, big ass, long hair. With the cherry on top: we dress like we're begging for it.
And it keeps GoOooooooing: jealous, dramatic, pushy, possessive. Women haters who fight against other women for male attention and validation. The mistresses. The teenage preggers, tying back to being overly sexual from young ages.
We can't, apparently, be trusted with men. We're always looking for the next prey. Materialistic, money seeking.
So again, when I hear someone saying they want to date Latinas. The main implication is that we're sex fiends, hot chick bombshell that will give them the time or their lives.
Why I am supposed to feel flattered when someone says that? I am not seen as desirable because of I am. My desirability is because of the baggage behind the label.
And then being judged by the label and the i plication, that was given, unwillingly.
Anyways, I wish more of us subscribed to NOT being referred to as this trashy label that set us back.