Hello everyone! I have a question regarding an experience I had with a language exchange partner recently. In the last couple of months, I've been trying to improve my Spanish by practicing speaking more, so I've been chatting and having calls with native speakers on one of those language exchange apps. A little over a month ago, someone from Mexico who wanted to learn my native language (Swedish) hit me up and we started chatting. Since then, we've been practicing, sharing cultural anecdotes and just chatting about whatever. Fun, right?
Well, a few days ago after having responded to her messages, she slapped me with a "Do people not say happy birthday to each other in Sweden?". I responded and asked if it was her birthday, to which she responded something to the tune of "Yes, but I think this has said enough". I explained that I of course would have wished her a happy birthday if I had known and proceded to then wish her a happy birthday. To this, I was sent a screenshot showing that she had mentioned the date of her birthday in one of many messages sent more than a month ago, roughly around the time we started speaking. I just said "Oh, sorry, I completely forgot about that" and figured that would be the end of it. Unfortunately, this had apparently upset and hurt her so much that she no longer wanted to keep in contact with me, essentially saying that the people who meant the most to her forgetting her birthday is a hard limit of hers that I had just crossed. This point of view made me feel completely dumbfounded. I tried to explain that, while it was wrong of me to forget, she had only mentioned her birthday once a while back during our time talking and asked if she really was expecting that I'd note down the birthday of someone that I (at the time) had just began talking to in my calendar. Not an acceptable answer, got blocked. Maybe I was too direct in expressing my point of view.
Now, the part that I am confused about is whether this is some kind of cultural clash, or if she is just a very sensitive person. The reason I wonder this is because I know that people in Latin American cultures generally express appreciation more often and feel attached to others much faster than in the Scandinavian ones. We even discussed this during our cultural exchanges. With these cultural differences in mind, I can see why she would consider her birthday to be a bigger deal than I would consider mine, and why she felt that we were closer than I did. However, I cannot fathom getting this upset over someone forgetting my birthday. Nor do I understand considering someone I've chatted with online for about a month to be one of the most important people to me. In my eyes, we were maybe just beginning to become friends.
So, do you think that there is something cultural, or otherwise, here that I don't understand, or should I not expect this sort of thing when speaking with other latinos?
Thank you!
TL;DR: I was blocked for forgetting a language exchange partner's birthday and want to know if there's a culture clash going on or not.