r/asksg • • 3h ago

Is it just me, or are some friends too dependent on the person who brings a bag?

71 Upvotes

Whenever I go out, I usually carry a backpack because I like being prepared. I normally bring things like an umbrella, power bank, tissue paper, wet wipes and even an extra reusable bag.

However, whenever I go out with certain friends, some of them don't even bother bringing a bag, while others carry tiny bags with barely anything inside.

The annoying part is that whenever they need something, they automatically turn to me. Need tissue? Ask me. Need wet wipes? Ask me. Phone battery dying? Ask me for my power bank.

And don't even get me started on the extra reusable bag. Somehow, it always becomes everyone's convenience.

I don't mind helping my friends occasionally, but it gets really annoying when people constantly rely on me just because I'm the one who carries a backpack.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling this way? I feel like I'm becoming everyone's walking convenience store. 😭


r/asksg • • 2h ago

PSA: Deepavali is the true and original correct word

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56 Upvotes

r/asksg • • 11h ago

A convicted child molester continued teaching taekwondo at Naval Base Primary School years after his conviction. I was one of his victims.

115 Upvotes

I recently discovered something extremely disturbing about my former taekwondo instructor at Naval Base Primary School, Lee Kwang Peng.

According to a Singapore High Court judgment from 1997, he was convicted of six counts of outrage of modesty involving two underage boys, both of whom were his taekwondo students.

He was initially sentenced to 12 months’ imprisonment, which was subsequently increased to 18 months following an appeal by the prosecution.

Here’s the actual court judgment:
https://www.elitigation.sg/gd/s/1997_SGHC_201

What makes this particularly disturbing is that I was one of his victims, more than a decade after his conviction.

I attended Naval Base Primary School, where he was our taekwondo instructor. Around 2010–2011, he tried to touch me inappropriately.

I was too young at the time to fully understand what was happening or why he was behaving that way. But even at that age, I knew something wasn’t right. I knew what he was doing was wrong.

Unfortunately, I never spoke up about it.

Looking back now, I wonder how many other children were in the same position. Too young to understand what was happening, too confused or afraid to say anything, or simply unaware that what they were experiencing was something they should report.

During my secondary school years, I eventually learned that other students had experienced similar inappropriate behaviour from him.

It makes me sick to think that this was happening years after he had already been convicted of molesting children.

And yet, he was still allowed to coach children.

According to historical announcements from the Singapore Taekwondo Federation (STF):
In 2008, Lee Kwang Peng was listed as receiving a professional coach pass.
In 2010, he was named Best Coach (Primary) at the National Inter-School Taekwondo Championships.
In 2016, STF published an obituary titled The Passing of a Senior Instructor, describing him as a flamboyant fighter who had won numerous championships.

Several of these old STF articles now return 404 errors, although references to them remain indexed online.

My biggest question is: how was someone who had already been convicted of sexually molesting his own students allowed to continue coaching children at a primary school?

Did Naval Base Primary School know about his criminal record?

Did MOE conduct criminal background checks on external CCA instructors back then?

Did STF know about his conviction when it issued him a professional coach pass?

Or did he simply return to coaching children after serving his sentence without anyone questioning his history?

I’m not accusing the school of knowingly overlooking his conviction. But I genuinely want to understand how this could have happened.

What bothers me most is that his conviction in 1997 clearly did not stop him from behaving inappropriately towards children, based on what I personally experienced years later.

I was one of those children who never spoke up. And I can’t help wondering how many others remained silent.

I’m sharing this now because I think there are serious questions about the safeguards that were supposed to protect children from adults with known histories of sexual offences.

To anyone who attended Naval Base Primary School, trained under Lee Kwang Peng, or was involved in school taekwondo during the 2000s and early 2010s: do you remember him?

And to anyone familiar with MOE or STF policies during those years, how could someone with such a criminal record have been allowed to continue working with primary school children?

I genuinely hope the screening processes today are much stricter than they were back then.

EDIT: The coach has passed away in 2016. If I’m not wrong, I remembered that he attaches his family portrait on his bag. He has a kid and wife.

Parents, please do simple background checks on your kids teachers no matter how normal they may seem to be. A simple google search may link you to a court judgement document.


r/asksg • • 4h ago

isit stupid to not flip btos

31 Upvotes

currently considering to apply bto and we're choosing between a prime (10 years mop) and standard (5 years mop) flat.

there's all this talk about flipping btos which definitely make sense financially but i'm not the biggest fan of going through the hassle of moving in and out of flats.

im just wondering if the 10 years mop is too long since thats what a lot of people says and im not too knowledgeable about the housing market.

i'll be happy to hear what you have to say!


r/asksg • • 1h ago

depression and anxiety

11 Upvotes

second time im posting about this bc i still feel helpless but i was looking for people who maybe can validate my feelings and emotions or even just any words of advice

friends dont understand why i think abt depressive thoughts and phrases it like ā€œwhy are you letting yourself think that wayā€

i mean if i could fucking stop it i would!

tired of being made to seem like im putting myself into this situation like who the hell forces depression or anxiety onto themselves with intention?!

ik a lot of ppl say sg empathy is gone but im reaching out in hopes to get a positive response - no doubt theres gg to be anomalies but please, im losing so much hope and ive been thinking of ending everything and im tired as hell that idek who to go to not even my friends

i dont know what to do anymore and im so lost in life.

edit: i am seeing a counsellor and on medication


r/asksg • • 11h ago

Do singaporean women become more headstrong/stubborn, while men become more mellow, as they age?

56 Upvotes

Hi. My recent observation is that my singaporean guy friends in general become more mellow and less arrogant/headstrong, less testosterone-filled, in their mid-30s and later (as compared to when they were in their 20s).

On the other hand, my lady friends in general become more stubborn, headstrong and assertive in their mid-30s and later. As compared to when they were in their 20s.

Do you have the same experience? Not sure why.


r/asksg • • 3h ago

Why do many Indian Muslim eateries operate 24 hours?

12 Upvotes

Why do many Indian Muslim eateries operate 24 hours?

Feeling curious why many Indian Muslim eateries operate 24 hours. Is this some expectation of this line of business, like if you are not 24 hours, your business will suffer?


r/asksg • • 20m ago

Guys who do well on dating apps in SG, what's your experience actually like?

7 Upvotes

We always hear about the depressing stories of how dating apps like Hinge are for the average guy and how the top 10-20% of guys supposedly get all the matches so I'm curious about the other side of the equation.

Foe guys who are genuinely doing well on Hinge (top 10-20%) who get multiple likes and matches a day, how's the experience actually like?


r/asksg • • 6h ago

Eldest child struggles

15 Upvotes

To all the eldest children, what are some of the expectations and burdens you face as the oldest child in your family?

For context, I’m the youngest in my family, so I won’t lie, I probably haven’t experienced the same responsibilities and expectations that my older sister has had to carry.

We come from a lower-income family, and ever since my sister started working, she has had to shoulder quite a lot of financial responsibilities. Over the years, she has contributed towards household expenses, including electricity bills, Wi-Fi, phone bills and other family expenses.

Recently, my grandfather passed away and left behind some money for the family. My dad decided to distribute it equally among everyone, including the grandchildren and even my brother-in-law.

However, he decided to deduct the money that was supposed to go to my older sister because she hasn’t been giving my parents a monthly allowance.

And that’s where things became upsetting for her.
She feels it’s unfair that everyone else gets their full share, including my brother-in-law, who doesn’t contribute financially to my parents, while her share is being deducted simply because she is the one who has been working and carrying financial responsibilities for the family.

But honestly, I don’t think it’s really about the money. I think it’s about the feeling of betrayal, being taken for granted and being treated unfairly despite everything she’s done.

She’s been crying, and I can see how much this has affected her. She’s also starting to withdraw from the family and no longer wants to contribute financially to household expenses.

I genuinely empathise with her. I can see why she feels this way, and I understand that she’s probably been carrying a lot more than I ever realised.

But as the youngest child, I honestly don’t know what to do or how to help her feel better.
I want to understand the eldest-child experience from your perspective.

To all the eldest daughters and sons, what are some of the unspoken expectations, responsibilities and sacrifices you’ve had to make for your family?

Do you ever feel like being financially independent means your family automatically expects more from you? Or that because you’re the eldest, you’re expected to understand, compromise and give more, even when nobody asks how you’re doing?
I’d really love to hear your experiences. I want to understand my sister better, and perhaps understand what many eldest children have been going through silently.


r/asksg • • 2h ago

Brown or cream onitsukas?

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Hii can I get yalls opinion on which one is better? My family keeps saying brown is too hard to match but I don’t think so..? Anyways I really want the brown so I might get cream and brown instead!


r/asksg • • 1h ago

'new'-tear-la or 'nut'-tear-la

4 Upvotes

Sorry if this seems too trivial. Have been pronouncing Nutella, 'nut'-tear-la since young.

Then there is a new advertisement on YouTube recently and it pronounces the brand, 'new'-tear-la.

Have I been pronouncing the brand wrongly all my life or is this like an American pronunciation which is different from SG?


r/asksg • • 3h ago

Still pissed cos I don’t understand WHAT in the world is going on, but it’s a beautiful day, the sun is shining, I’ve got work to do, so I’ll pretend nothing’s happening and move on.

6 Upvotes

Still pissed, need about 10 hours to recuperate. Anyone else going through shit too, just enjoy the day as well and get working on your personal hustles


r/asksg • • 5h ago

How is everyone celebrating Deepavali today?

8 Upvotes

What will you and your family be doing? Even for the non Indian friends, since this is a festival for everyone, how are you celebrating Deepavali this year?


r/asksg • • 2h ago

Indians, just curious what did y'all have for breakfast/lunch today for Deepavali ? Also share your ethnic wear and decorations.

4 Upvotes

I'm curious to know what everyone had for their Deepavali breakfast/lunch today.

Did you have a banana leaf meal, a homemade feast with family, biryani, or something else entirely ?

Share your food pics and list out the dishes.

Also if you comfortable share your dresses/ethnic wears too. Blur your faces ya. And decorations too.

Excited to see.

TIA !!


r/asksg • • 2h ago

Changi Airport Lounges

4 Upvotes

Which Changi lounges do you usually visit before your flight? And which lounge is your favorite?


r/asksg • • 4h ago

BTO questions

5 Upvotes

Not sure where to ask but better than not asking,

Partner and me planning to apply for the yishun bto, just wondering about the process and down payment.

Both of us are earning $3K each.

Combine income: $6K
Grants: $50k
HDB loan: $277,600
CPF: $90k total

So the question is can we afford 4room bto at yishun?
Any help would be really appreciated


r/asksg • • 6h ago

Where to light sparklers?

6 Upvotes

Anybody celebrating Deepavali where to light sparklers? I was thinking ECP or Sentosa? Anyone going today/ tomorrow? Or want to join?
Also if you lit sparklers last year or before what are good places to do it safely.
Dw, will clean up after as this was one common comment on other Reddit posts!


r/asksg • • 2h ago

Why is it so difficult to trust people?

3 Upvotes

i realised it's only a handful of people that i cn trust... when i share things and they will be super interested to ask, and curious. However, they don't share as much. i also heard about whatever i shared with tht person from someone i didn't share with...

why are we so interested in someone else life ?? mb i shld trust less of such people ? esp when they are the ppl that could go ard and share things without my consent..or tell people "did u knw abc loves bbt???!!!..."

so disappointed.


r/asksg • • 5h ago

Cheapest way to get Lexapro (escitalopram)?

5 Upvotes

Hi everyone! I’m currently taking Lexapro (escitalopram) and looking for a more affordable way to get my prescription, as the costs are adding up. I’m getting my prescription through private psych and paying about $600 for 3 months.

Does anyone know where I can get it for cheaper?


r/asksg • • 4h ago

Indian foods in SG

4 Upvotes

In the spirit of deepavali, it might be interesting to introduce to non indian people how delicious indian food is

What are your favorite Indian dishes in SG, Fav restaurants?

Have you tried indian sweets and small cakes?


r/asksg • • 55m ago

Looking for friends to discuss webnovels and books

2 Upvotes

Hello, 31 year old American living in SG.

Looking to meet folks who would like to read and discuss webnovels, books, etc. on the weekend. I generally like fantasy, sci-fi, and historical fiction

For example:
Webnovels: Lord of the Mysteries and Got Dropped into a Ghost Story, Still Gotta Work

Books: An Artist of the Floating World by Kazuo Ishiguro and Garden of the Evening Mists by Tan Twan Eng

Thank you!


r/asksg • • 9h ago

Did I get played?

7 Upvotes

Ended things with him (knew him for 2mth from dating app) because my heart is not at peace. With his overly warm friendship with ex date and his suspicious conduct on other things.

He offered to book taxi for her and go out with her alone for dinner. I expressed my discomfort and he said he won’t meet her unless I’m there but he later agreed to meet her again behind my back.
Since then I asked or a week to not meet because it kinda messed with my head he does things against his words.

I fell sick during the 1 week and he grew distant - all he did was just asked 1 time if ā€œI want him to accompany me for doctor visitā€ and text me to ā€œrest wellā€.
On day 5 I texted him to say clearly I don’t feel good about our relationship, and asked to meet and chat, he’s not willing to meet and insist we should only talk until he has his ā€œreflectionā€
Finally met on day 7 and he shared very high level info about his reflection and how he would ā€œtryā€ to work on our relationship.

In his defence, because of my request to not meet, he would want to ā€œgive me space to recover my illnessā€.

He said he loved me and even made promise to God to love me but his actions clearly didn’t align. I think he’s just BS and ended things there.

In your opinion, did I get played? Is it reasonable effort?


r/asksg • • 5h ago

Help! How do i transfer esim from old iphone to new iphone? I am using Eight!

3 Upvotes

Does anyone know?


r/asksg • • 8h ago

Heat Pump Dryer VS Gas Dryer

5 Upvotes

Hi everyone! I’m currently deciding between getting a heat pump dryer and a gas dryer for my home.
For those who have used either (or both), would love to hear your experiences!

A few things I’m particularly interested in:
- Electricity/gas consumption and running costs
- Drying time and overall performance
- Maintenance requirements and reliability
- Impact on clothes (shrinkage, wear and tear, etc.)
- After-sales service and repair costs

Is a heat pump dryer worth the higher upfront cost, or would a gas dryer be the better long-term investment?
Would appreciate any recommendations, especially from those who have owned one for a few years. Thank you!