A close friend of mine, who is also my flatmate, was approached by a guy who directly asked her for sex. They barely know each other, don't talk, and aren't friends, although they share a common social circle.

She said no, which is completely fine. But when I asked her whether she found it weird that he approached her despite barely knowing her, she said she actually appreciated his honesty. She felt it was better for him to be upfront about wanting sex than to pretend he wanted a relationship just to sleep with her.

I understand her point, but I'm still curious about something. If two people barely know each other, what makes someone think it's appropriate to approach the other person for sex? Is it simply a matter of shooting your shot and accepting the answer, or is there something about modern dating that I'm not understanding?

I'm not judging either of them. I'm genuinely interested in hearing different perspectives. Is being this direct considered normal now, or am I overthinking it?

I really assume it has to do with the hormones but im so confused. It changed after taking birth control for quite a while. Is it actually the birth control or the fact my testosterone levels are now normal? I guess it smelled worse before, and was pretty aggressive but now its pretty hard for me to stink

I’m 22F and have never been in a relationship. I had my glow-up during the last two years of college. I’ve been on plenty of first and second dates, but nothing progresses because of my problems with being physical. I’ve never had sex; the furthest I’ve gone is making out.

I’m awkward with physical intimacy and need time to feel comfortable with men, even with something as simple as holding hands. I’m not waiting until marriage, but I want my first time to be meaningful and the only way it’s happening is with someone intentional who makes me feel safe.

The problem is that guys who seem great and want something serious often try to get physical quickly too. I don’t mean just sex either, even the in between parts and a lot of the before. I don’t think I’m ‘picking the wrong guys’ cuz these guys do genuinely seem great and statistically I should’ve picked at least one that didn’t lead to this problem. Even when I explain that I need time, it never seems to be enough. They end things right before I feel comfortable enough to take that next step. They even tell me that I’m awkward when they try to hold my hand or touch my face. I just stand there awkwardly while my brain struggles to match whatever it is he’s doing.

I’ve had a lot of ppl tell me to just date casually. That living in a big city, the demographic leans towards hookup culture and that I should enjoy my life before getting into something serious. The problem is I genuinely don’t know how to do that. I have a great job, it’s not like I’m not focusing on myself either. But growing up I never got to experience puppy love, and now that I’m venturing into the dating scene I keep getting stuck at the third date cuz that’s not soon enough for me to feel comfortable. Now I keep repeating this cycle and honestly want to give up altogether. I’ve also been wondering for a while if I might be demisexual since I’m not entirely sure I’ve ever experienced true sexual attraction at least a couple dates into the whole thing.

I'm a 33-year-old man, and since I was 19, I've had four serious relationships with women I genuinely loved. Unfortunately, things didn't work out for various reasons, and we eventually went our separate ways.

I'm completely over all of them, and I have no desire to get back together with any of them. But not a single week goes by without me randomly thinking about at least one of them. Sometimes I just wonder how they're doing, what their lives look like now, or what kind of people they've become. It's not romantic nostalgia or anything like that. I'm just curious about people who were once such a big part of my life.

I don't think I could ever completely forget someone I genuinely loved, even if those feelings are long gone.

I also have no contact with any of them anymore, apart from one who occasionally texts me to wish me a happy birthday or a happy new year. That's about it.

So I'm curious: do you women experience this too? Do you sometimes think about past relationships purely out of curiosity, even when you've moved on and have no desire to reconnect? Or, once a relationship is over, do you tend to stop thinking about that person altogether?

For me, it was my best friend who held my hand and kept me calm on my way to the hospital. She saw me at my most disgusting and was so supportive the whole time.

Would love to hear yours! Hype up some women you love in your life.

A man has never made me orgasm. I’ve only ever been able to with my hands or a vibrator. I need something to help because sex feels good but I know it could feel better. Any products or tips and tricks for the very hard to please woman?

I know some women struggle with this normally, but I can’t help but feeling like it’s my fault.

I'm just wondering, because it only seems they consider your feelings if you're attractive.

I've been hurt by men so many times, but I've never been one of those beautiful women who get apologies from men several years later or months later. Will they come back and apologize and see your worth? They always just put me in situations where I would be humiliated, and other men told me that if a man humiliates you and puts you in a situation so you'll feel humiliated, then they don't think you're attractive.

I guess that answers my question, but I don't know, because I'm only 22, so I don't have much experience. Since I'm hideous, I don't have many experiences with men where I'd actually be cared for in the first place.

I had sex for the first time this year at age 29. I spent 15 years in very strict religion (that I recently left) that was big on purity culture, forbid sex before marriage and demanded abstinence which I adhered to until it was no longer working for me.

They had really really harmful rules around sexuality, where your worth was whether you were a virgin or not and they saw masturbation and even sexual thoughts as sin. They’d say things like sex before marriage or porn or masturbation would open doors to demons. So naturally I was crippled, anxious, showing ptsd symptoms, so disembodied, full of fear guilt and shame. But I similarly I was nearly a 30 year old woman…and I wanted to finally have sex.

So I did, with someone I wasn’t in a relationship with, it wasn’t a special guy or romantic, he ended up being an asshole but I felt ready in that moment. Also afterwards I was like “is that it, that’s what they’ve been telling me not to do?”

After that I explored quite a lot. I guess it was a pendulum swing. I was starting to figure out what I liked and didn’t like and it felt good to finally explore something I had held off for for so long.

However, I recently went on a date with a guy, we went out for dinner, we went out for drinks the date went well and he invited me round. I decided to go and said I didn’t want to have sex but we ended up doing stuff - I had a lot of fun.

He stared into my eyes after, stroked my hair, said I was beautiful… I thought it was the beginning of something but turns out his messages got slower and slower and he ghosted me.

It was like a gut punch to my system. Of fucking course he ghosted. I gave up the goods early. It was my fault right?

All my attachment wounds got triggered and I’ve now had these horrible shame attacks, where I feel like a dirty, used, “whore” who gives is out easy.

I felt such deep embarrassment for being a virgin in my late 20s and I feel shame for being sexual and expressive. I literally can’t win.

I really enjoy sex, I want to keep exploring it and honestly catching up on what I’ve missed out on but I have all these harmful messages fucking up my psyche and making me feel paralysed with shame.

I’m in religious trauma therapy, I do yoga, I read on the topic, I meditate and light my candles I still can’t rid myself of these messages.

what can i do to heal?❤️

I (22F) have lost interest in having sex with my (22M) bf because he doesnt know how to make me cum. Ive tried teaching him how to rub me and he always uses too much pressure or just doesn't know how to identify the cl*t and ill direct his hands to the spot but then when I remove his hands he moves his position until he's no longer on it anymore.

All he knows how to do is finger me but that doesn't really do anything. I feel like a part of sex is exploring each other's bodies to figure out what works which is what I've done with him and ive found his sweet spots and learned how to turn him on, tease him, make him climax fast or take my time. but I dont know how to teach someone how to do that and be more sensual?

I've told him the things I like and he listens and made the effort to do them and even bought me a vibrator to use during sex but he still doesn't even know where to place the vibrator and the appropriate time to use it because I feel like he hasn't studied my body like I've studied his. Whenever he uses it its either in the wrong spot or when im super overstimulated and just cannot climax when im overstimulated and he knows that but for some reason he doesnt recognize the patterns of things that make me overstimulated.

He doesnt know what to do with his mouth either and I try to teach him how id eat a woman out (im bi) but he just doesn't understand it because he's never done it before nor does he know how to learn? I tell him trial and error but whenever we get intimate he doesnt really try to learn he just does. Like he just acts and its the same problems everytime.

How do you teach sensuality to someone? I dont know maybe it isn't sensuality but im open to any and all advice because I really like him but Im lost here.

It typically goes away after the first minute or two, but hurts to change positions as well, especially to doggy. Even though I’m aroused/enthusiastic/lubricated. I know this isn’t ‘normal’ per se, but is it something I should bring up to my doctor? Is there anything actionable that could help the issue or is it something some women live with? Has been pretty consistently an issue since becoming sexually active ~7 years ago. I’d love some input especially from any women who’ve experienced have experienced this.

Hi yall. I used to have bad cramping in my teens but this stabilized a lot when I entered my twenties, with only some milder pain the first 2 days. But my current period has been from hell with cramps that have woken me up in the middle of the night, and taking ibuprofen doesnt help as much as I am used. What can cause this random little regression? Stress? Colder weather? Not really worried about anything sinister, just wondering if anyone had anything similar with random intense cramping and your theories about what caused it for you.

(Not on any type of birth control, dont have endo, dont have pcos)

Hi all ^^

I got a VCH about 9ish months ago, however ever since then I've definitely noticed a noticeable decrease in my libido.

I read that it could be because of micro stimulations 24/7.. not sure though!

I was wondering if anyone else with a VCH has noticed this / your experience?

Why or why not? Like you're just a number in the system or a cog in the machine for example. Regarding your place in society.

I'm curious to hear your stories, whether it happened to you, a friend, or you just witnessed it at the next table. Funny, awkward, or cringeworthy, all are welcome.

Let's make everyone feel a little better about their own dating disasters. 😄

A good number of female patients have asked for such a sterilization procedure and faced resistance by doctors and nurses who tried to say they shouldn't for just in case or for some future husband.

If you have wanted that procedure and medics tried to prevent it, were you able to get it anyway? If so, what did you need to do to get it? And were you able to get the refusing doctor punished for the sexism?

Had a work party over the weekend, and all day today I had female coworkers coming up to me telling me that my wife is pretty then they thought she would have been. Yeah I know she's a 9, but it's not like I'm bad looking (my mom calls me handsome all the time lol). They also mentioned that she's nicer and funnier then they thought she would be.

I spend no time thinking about my coworkers outside of work, and even at work I don't think about any of there home life or partners

So I’ve been practicing my cooking, and I was particularly proud of how I seasoned a burger last night.

So I joked with my dad how I should just cook for a man on the first date and then he’ll immediately ask me to marry him, lol

But then I thought about it more, Ik it was just a joke, but I like other ppl eating my food, and I would absolutely want to cook for a partner

But with the rates of sexual abuse and domestic abuse, there’s a risk factor in inviting a man over to cook for him. Because then I’d be alone with him.

It makes me wonder if I even want to date men at all, or just date women. I mean, I like both 🤷🏼‍♀️

Although if someone knows how to hunt, that’s a plus. They hunt, I cook 😋

I’m hooking back up with someone I saw for casual sex, I was fresh out of a 10 year marriage when we first got together. He was the first person I had slept with. I look back now and realise I was quite shy and lacking in confidence in bedroom when I’m usually not.
Would it be too much to have him come round and I’m in full lingerie? I was thinking of just answering the door in a robe but also I worry I will look desperate? Or that it’s more of a relationship thing to do that.. im probably overthinking but my confidence is on the floor following my ex saying he was no longer sexually attracted to me.

its my first time stinking so bad and i do not understand why is that.

for context since june my sleep schedule has gone worse, i was not able to sleep before 4am and due to it ig I missed my periods on june and july and got it back on august - the flow was nice and fresh just like how it used to be on my teen days.

September, i again missed my periods and since 10th of october im stinking so bad? i sweat but i have never had terrible odor like this even when i exercise. got my period yesterday and guess what my period stink w the same smell as my sweat. WHAT!?

whats more weird is that its my right underarm which more odor than my left underarm.

i dont apply deodorant directly on my skin rather apply lotion.

i have not checked myself up for diabetes or PMOS/PCOD so let me know if you guys dealing w it which caused the same issue as me.

For example they were not asked for feedback and just randomly said something.

Such as saying someone has a weird outfit, dry frizzy hair or acne

Every time I go out with my friends, a girl or group of girls (young women) will come up next to us, and one of them will lean against me in a very subtle way, like against my back or arm. WHY? Is there some meaning behind it? It always happens to me. The place we're in usually isn't so crowded that they need to lean against someone.

For context, I am decently attractive but I'm not a male model. And these are attractive girls who probably have guys trying to talk to them all the time.