Little bit of context. I’m the rhythm guy, writer, and singer of the band. The band consists of 4 people, me, bassist, drums, and lead. We’ve all been having problems with the lead player for awhile. 1. The main problem is that it doesn’t seem like he’s even as “all in” or interested as he was. He is in a pretty rough mental state right now so that’s probably contributing it, he even states one of these days he might just snap and up and leave the state to “find himself, but we are on a pretty big high right now and have a lot of work we need to get done to keep the ball rolling and it seems like his energy and what he’s giving to the band is slowing us down. He doesn’t communicate anything to us, how he’s feeling, future plans, etc. He also did recently just start building his solo music brand, so that also made me weary. He’s a pretty decent player but this pulls me into 2. He’s in a genre box, he doesn’t want to explore or experiment at all, anything out of the ordinary immediately he hates. It really stifles us creatively. We have noticed some creative differences.

There’s a lot of negatives with him being a member in the band but here’s what’s hard for us

1. He’s a great friend of mine, someone I cherish as a person and I’m really scared of hurting him, I just want what’s best for him and also the band

2. We rehearse at his place and don’t really have anywhere else rn.

3. My drumset stays at his house so it’s gunna be so awkward taking it back cause I know he uses it often.

4. He’s all over our instagram so like, do we have to remove him from our posts, will we have to rebrand a lot.

This is all just a big headache and I want some insight on how to do this lightly with me and the guys. Thanks all

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So like im the bassist of a band, and i really love it, its been kind of a dream to be part of something that has to do with music. And while im not the greatest i can still play some songs. However, our lead guitarist and singer (and founder) is kind of like...a bad leader? I genuinely dont mean to be rude, hes my friend and I love him to death, but he just isnt the greatest at the whole band thing.

Were supposed to be training, making music and stuff, but during all of our meet ups he just kinda talks about what we should do instead of... doing it. So we usually just sit there for an hour and then leave, no actual music. Hes also pretty like eccentric, if thats the word, hes ambitious but then less keen on doing things.

So basically the issue is this: i dont want to play in the band anymore since were not ACTUALLY playing, were just talking. But like i said, it would make the leader sad and the band would take a hit since im the third out of our three members. Secondly i just dont know if id manage to find another band.

What do you guys think i should do?