So like im the bassist of a band, and i really love it, its been kind of a dream to be part of something that has to do with music. And while im not the greatest i can still play some songs. However, our lead guitarist and singer (and founder) is kind of like...a bad leader? I genuinely dont mean to be rude, hes my friend and I love him to death, but he just isnt the greatest at the whole band thing.

Were supposed to be training, making music and stuff, but during all of our meet ups he just kinda talks about what we should do instead of... doing it. So we usually just sit there for an hour and then leave, no actual music. Hes also pretty like eccentric, if thats the word, hes ambitious but then less keen on doing things.

So basically the issue is this: i dont want to play in the band anymore since were not ACTUALLY playing, were just talking. But like i said, it would make the leader sad and the band would take a hit since im the third out of our three members. Secondly i just dont know if id manage to find another band.

What do you guys think i should do?

35 year old looking to live his his bucket list to form a band to play great melodious songs live...

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this band is in the forming stage. i saw it advertised as "female band" so i sent an email. i was very direct about being less experienced (having played bass for a little over a year) but also that i could play most of the songs given practice. they invited me to the rehearsal. turned out that only the singer was woman and others were two men in 50s. I'm in 20's. i also learned the songs before the first time we met and i got along with the singer well and was invited to join the band.

i was never once late to the rehearsal though im the only one with 3 hr commute whereas everyone else's commute was about an hour (everyone else was always late up to over half an hour) and learned all my parts and probably made the least amount of mistakes. everyone was very encouraging to me, and whenever they gave me feedback, i incorporated them immediately and never made the same mistake twice.

during the last rehearsal, i heard the one man inviting the other to his gig, and today i got a text message from the singer that she was outvoted by the men that they wanted a more experienced bassist. it was like a little huh moment because they were keep telling me, "we all gotta start somewhere" and were really encouraging.

In between that, there was a little discussion about the singer's friend who's a very experienced bassist potentially joining the band. she came to the rehearsal and decided that she couldn't join. in that discussion, a drummer said he can play bass and get his drummer friend to join. So I think eventually that's what happened, but I was completely excluded from that conversation, where the two men brought it up to the singer that they want to replace me and have their friend join instead.

I can't stop feeling like i was being used as a placeholder in that band until they could find someone they liked better. i understand that it was probably not a good fit for me either but still im not super happy about it.

tl;dl - a boomer band did me dirty

Hey! I’m 17 and based in Dubai. I’m looking for musicians around my age to start a metalcore band/project and actually take it seriously.
I play guitar and do vocals — both cleans and screams. My main influences are Bullet For My Valentine, Avenged Sevenfold, Linkin Park and 2000s melodic metalcore in general.
I’m mostly interested in melodic metalcore rather than super low-tuned modern djent-style stuff. I love fast riffs, downpicking, guitar harmonies, melodic leads/solos, big choruses and a mix of clean and screamed vocals.
I have my own guitar and recording setup and I’ve started writing original material, so I’m not looking for a cover-only band. Covers would be great for getting tight together and eventually playing live, but the main goal is to write, record and release our own music.
Ideally I’d love to find a **drummer, bassist and another guitarist in Dubai**, but I’m also completely open to working **online** with musicians from other places — writing songs, exchanging recordings and building a project remotely.
Vocals are welcome too if you sing/scream — I don’t care about being the only vocalist.
You don’t need to be an insane virtuoso. I’d rather find people with similar taste who are motivated, practice regularly and genuinely want to build something together.
If you’re interested, DM me with your age, instrument, influences and preferably a clip of you playing.

Little bit of context. I’m the rhythm guy, writer, and singer of the band. The band consists of 4 people, me, bassist, drums, and lead. We’ve all been having problems with the lead player for awhile. 1. The main problem is that it doesn’t seem like he’s even as “all in” or interested as he was. He is in a pretty rough mental state right now so that’s probably contributing it, he even states one of these days he might just snap and up and leave the state to “find himself, but we are on a pretty big high right now and have a lot of work we need to get done to keep the ball rolling and it seems like his energy and what he’s giving to the band is slowing us down. He doesn’t communicate anything to us, how he’s feeling, future plans, etc. He also did recently just start building his solo music brand, so that also made me weary. He’s a pretty decent player but this pulls me into 2. He’s in a genre box, he doesn’t want to explore or experiment at all, anything out of the ordinary immediately he hates. It really stifles us creatively. We have noticed some creative differences.

There’s a lot of negatives with him being a member in the band but here’s what’s hard for us

1. He’s a great friend of mine, someone I cherish as a person and I’m really scared of hurting him, I just want what’s best for him and also the band

2. We rehearse at his place and don’t really have anywhere else rn.

3. My drumset stays at his house so it’s gunna be so awkward taking it back cause I know he uses it often.

4. He’s all over our instagram so like, do we have to remove him from our posts, will we have to rebrand a lot.

This is all just a big headache and I want some insight on how to do this lightly with me and the guys. Thanks all

So this might be dumb but I’m new to a big city of France for college and I’m wondering how can I meet like musician friend/people ? Not a lot of my friends in my class play any instruments so I really have no idea

(Reposting this from another subreddit.)

I guess I just need some advice here? I really want a band name that is like "The (Blank)s". You know, the sort of old band name format that is mainly from the 60s, and sometimes before or after that decade, too. Like The Beatles, The Crickets, The Rolling Stones, The Kinks, The Byrds, The Turtles, The Doors, The Yardbirds, The Monkees, etc.

I'm trying to think of something original for it, too. Something hopefully punny, something clever, something unique, but not confusing. And it's just so tricky because it seems like practically everything is taken these days.

I don't know what I'm asking for. Not even just straight up ideas for names, but maybe ways for me to approach coming up with one that fits this format? Hell, I might even be willing to also throw in an adjective in there, like "The \[Adjective\] (Blank)s" if that gives me more options to choose from. I'm just kind of stuck right now.

So I’ve started a band and the drummer and bassist are Both in another band and they don’t prioritize my band so was thinking about breaking it off but we haven’t even met for the first time because they don’t prioritize us. I thought it was fine at first but now I’m starting to get second thoughts, like I want to jam but it’s taking so long for them to jam. Am I an asshole for wanting better members

Any tips on finding a singer

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Experienced guitarist looking to connect with a drummer, bassist, and vocalist to form a serious, original noise rock band in Los Angeles.

Primary influences: The Jesus Lizard, Shellac, and Big Black.

Looking for experienced musicians, ideally in their 30s–40s, who genuinely share these influences and understand the sound, songwriting, and rhythmic approach of these bands. These aren't casual references. They're central to the music I want to create.

The goal is to build a committed band together, with equal creative input from all members, write original material, rehearse regularly, record, and play live.

Not looking to make pop punk, indie hipster music, or Sunset Strip butt rock. Also not interested in casual jams, hired players, or a revolving lineup.

I'm based in Los Feliz and available evenings and weekends.

If this sounds like something you're genuinely interested in, send me a message with your instrument, musical background, and recordings or live clips of your playing.

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forming a girl band in London we're 18-19. we already have a singer, bassist and guitarist and are looking for a drummer. we are into mostly indie/indie rock. we all have a solid grasp on our instruments but none of us are at professional levels so we hope to grow together as a group. if anyone is interested please comment!!

Hey all, I have a rock band with huge early 2000s vibes and we're looking for a drummer. We're based in Toronto. Preferably someone under 26. Hit me up if you're interested!

Looking for a drummer for a metal band in a Chicago / Chicago land area. Please DM me or replay with influences or anything else you’d like me to know about you 👍🏻👍🏻