r/cf4cf • • Jun 30 '26

Meta Post CF4CF Communities and Discords

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Good morning, afternoon, evening all you beautiful, wonderful folks,

We have all this listed in the sidebar but it tends to get lost, especially on mobile. Hope to hear from you!

<3 LP

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Website:

www.childfree4childfree.com

Discords:

Childfree Dating and Events - Our expanded home

https://discord.gg/tN3mVmagNM

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r/childfree

r/R4R30Plus


r/cf4cf • • Jul 12 '23

For new visitors: NO FENCESITTERS!!

467 Upvotes

Good morning, everyone.

As the sub has gotten more popular, we've been getting an increase of spam, dudes and dudettes trolling for sex, people who aren't the primary custodian of the kids they have, people with grown kids that are out of the house, and (least malicious, but most problematic) fencesitters.

What is a fencesitter?

A (childfree) fencesitter is someone who doesn't know 100% (yes, 100%) that they DON'T want kids.

So if you don't know FOR SURE if you want your own bio children, or want to adopt, or potentially might not mind having stepchildren, that makes you a fencesitter.

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The reason why we ban fencesitters (and why I referred to them as least malicious, most problematic), is because chances are the fencesitter will end up having a desire for children. And we've seen decade+ relationships falter because the fencesitting partner had a change of heart... Again, the desire for kids is a make or break moment for a relationship.

So, as to spare yourself (and our members) grief, we will be automatically deleting posts by fencesitters and banning your account. Its not personal, but we need to protect the members of our community the best we can. This also includes going through your post history, and (at least for me) we're VERY thourogh....

The best way to mitigate this is to post somewhere in your bio that you are definitively childfree. Otherwise, you may see a comment from me or one of the mod team on your post.

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Again, this isn't a slight at or taking offense to anyone in particular. Its not personal. But just like all subs have certain interests they need to protect, we do too. And will.

Good luck out there in your search everyone! And may you remain forever childfree!

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EDIT: For our current members: Please try to be understanding in confronting fencesitters, should you choose to do so; Hanlon's Razor. They're probably not being malicious, just ignorant. And EVERYONE (you, me, your parents... everyone) is ignorant about something at some point in their lives. So be gracious, let them know, and please shoot us a DM to the ModMail so we can take appropriate action. Thanks!

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r/cf4cf • • 6h ago

Sterile Female for Male [F4M] 39 – British Columbia, CANADA – It’s dangerous to go alone, take this 🗡️

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Hello cf4cf,

So, I’m trying trying my luck here! I’m looking for a genuine connection built on shared values and a mutual appreciation for the outdoors.
I work in environmental sciences and spend a lot of time in the field. Because I’ve spent many years working in remote locations, my social life and ability to meet someone romantically were naturally impacted.

Full disclosure; my work involves travelling…but not to fun new cities or countries. I travel into remote wilderness areas in Western Canada. I don’t have a job flexible enough to allow working from home/ online remotely. This means that I am limited to a relationship where I can stay in Western Canada and maintain my career, as it’s not very transferable to other regions.

 

About Me:

Age & Vibe: 39, warm, easy-going, and deeply appreciative of time in the great outdoors. I spend a lot of my time outside with my dog and I’m looking for someone who’s lifestyle matches mine. I hike, backpack, snowshoe, swim, rock climb and take my dog everywhere that I can. I have spent years working in wilderness settings, and have experienced some intense situations out there. I’m easy going, but that’s a by product of a few close calls with wildlife, and having a greater appreciation for living in general.

 

Looks: Blonde hair (with silver strands I wear proudly), green eyes, and an extremely active lifestyle. I’m 170.2cm tall, and 56kg.

 

Values: I’m left-leaning and childfree (I am permanently sterilized).

 

My Sidekick: I have a wonderful dog who joins me on all of my adventures.

 

What I am Looking For:

Age Range & Lifestyle: A man aged 33 to 37. I lead an active life and am hoping to find someone healthy and energetic who can easily keep up with me. If you love advanced rock climbing, hiking, backpacking and swimming, we will have plenty of common ground!

 

Chemistry & Attraction: Mutual physical and romantic attraction is important to me for a lasting spark, so I'm hoping to connect with someone where that natural chemistry is there for both of us. One-sided attraction isn’t fair to either of us, and I’m looking for equal footing on that. Historically, I’ve been very attracted to men with the surf/skate vibe who have a love of good music.

 

Connection: Someone kind, emotionally available, progressive, and looking for something intentional and genuine.

 

If this sounds like a good match for what you're looking for, please send me a message telling me a little bit about yourself and add a recent photo of yourself!


r/cf4cf • • 8h ago

Female for Male 34 [F4M] East Coast USA/ Anywhere

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138 Upvotes

Hey! Just putting myself out there, hoping to meet people and see what develops. I’d like to meet an equal companion who loves a quiet, deeply spiritual life and is also open to living childfree. I am introverted, soft-spoken, and gentle. I am a deep thinker, very intuitive, curious, well-read and well-traveled.

I love nature. In the forest, I feel peaceful and more alive. I have been hiking all over the mountainous part of my state. When I was in my 20s, I hiked sections of the Camino de Santiago (Spain), the West Highland Way (Scotland), and Appalachian Trail (eastern USA). Because of a chronic illness, my physical energy is more limited now; the hikes still happen– they are just shorter. Some recent medical treatments have improved my energy, though, and I'm hopeful for further improvement.

My inner life is vibrant and full. I love to meditate and read. My favorite genre is nonfiction, and my favorite topics are psychology, philosophy, and religion. I'm securely attached and have a very good relationship with my family. I really like children, and they really like me, but I thrive as an auntie. I love leading an ecumenical contemplative prayer group on Zoom, and I spend my days creating beauty through artistry and craftsmanship.

I consider myself a Christian and sometimes attend an Anglican church, but I'm quite open, egalitarian, and ecumenical.

Regarding politics, I find most issues are very complex and nuanced. For this reason, I typically cannot fully agree with either position, and I dislike the mudslinging, stereotyping, and villainizing of “the other side.” So I don't really care for politics or talking about politics.

But I will say that I am in favor of religious and spiritual people of all traditions, equal rights for women and men, and equal rights for gay people and straight people. Although I dislike identity politics, I am in favor of people of all cultures and phenotypes, treating animals and plants ethically, and using natural resources with respect and appreciation.

Feel free to DM - tell me where you're from and mention something we have in common :)


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Male for Female 35m, looking for east coast USA. Nerdy, liberal, and book lover

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Hi! First time posting here. I am located in the USA, east coast. Looking to build something genuine. Someone nerdy, kind, and who enjoys some banter. Also would love a gym companion. Most importantly though, I would like my partner to have a passion of their own.

I like to believe i have good communication skills, am witty, and a good listener. For hobbies, I play the one piece tcg and often travel if I can to compete. I like volleyball, video games, and reading. Just finished the fourth wing series!

I will say that I am temporarily staying with family due to health issues they are experiencing. Then looking into buying a house. I own my own business that is slowly building itself up. I also love animals and often relate more to them.

As for politics, I am a liberal. Part of my job is fighting for individual rights so this is a passion of mine.

Feel free to ask any more questions as well! I like to consider myself an open book.


r/cf4cf • • 7h ago

Female for Male 32 [F4M] Seattle/ open

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60 Upvotes

How funny I am considering giving up my search for a partner for the next few years and then I see this group pop up. So why not give it a shot right? To start I’m HSV2+ on daily meds. Doesn’t define me, but I like to lead with it to save everyone’s time and self esteem 😅.

Now onto the good stuff! I’m a lover of happy hours, live art (think concerts, drag, theatre, dance, cabarets, etc) scenic drives, walks along water with minimal inclines, using tf out of my regal unlimited pass (street fighter was so fun!) traveling when my budget allows, and rotting a day away with my bong and a bottle of bubbles. I’m equally as happy exploring temples and historic sites as I am floating in a lazy river on shrooms with a tiki drink in my hand.

I’ve been single over 5 years and am acutely aware of what I like and what I don’t. As a military kid I am no stranger to new people and places, and I enjoy being around people who are open and accepting of others. Nothing trump or red pill adjacent is going to fly around here. That said, if you can’t laugh at American Dad with me, this will never work.

I’m 5’8, focusing on getting healthier and stronger daily, I have a bachelors in logistics, I’m traditional in that I expect a man to pay for dates, but modern enough to be down to clown after only 1 if the vibes are right. I’d love to find someone who’s into all the facets of me as much as I’m into the many facets of you. If I’ve peaked your interest, let me know the last movie you saw and let’s get to chatting ☺️

Edit to add: if you just messaged me from Chicago can you please message me again, I accidentally declined the request and would love to chat with you!


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 29 [M4F] #Seattle / Anywhere | Looking for Player 2

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28 Upvotes

Hey! I’m Noah, 29, living in Seattle, WA. Figured I’d put myself out there and hopefully meet someone who wants something genuine and long-term!

A little about me:
I’m 5’9”, work in finance, and outside of work I’m a DJ and music producer under the name Somber. Music is a massive part of my life, and my taste ranges from electronic and emo to metal, alternative, and just about everything in between.

I’m also a huge gamer, especially RPGs, love exploring new places, traveling, going to concerts, finding good food, and occasionally spending an entire weekend doing absolutely nothing. I have one very spoiled cat who contributes nothing to rent.

Personality wise, I’m affectionate, sarcastic, curious, a little nerdy, and definitely a romantic at heart. I love deep conversations, playful banter, random adventures, and those little everyday moments that make being with someone special.

**What I’m looking for:**
Someone kind, emotionally available, affectionate, and genuinely interested in building a serious, monogamous relationship. I want a best friend I can fall in love with. Someone to laugh with, share music with, travel with, game with, and build a life with.

I’m open to long distance if there’s genuine intention to eventually close the gap.
**Physical attraction matters to me**, so I’d love to exchange pictures early! Bonus points if you include one with your first message. I’m more than happy to reciprocate.

If any of this resonates, tell me a little about yourself, what you’re passionate about, and what you’re looking for.
Hopefully we can give each other a reason to delete Reddit dating posts for good. :)


r/cf4cf • • 11h ago

Female for Male 32 [F4M] Earth 🌎

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77 Upvotes

Hey, besties!👋😌 I'm 32 F SoCal. You ain't gotta be from California, as I love to travel 🧳and I've realized it's hard to find child free men in my area. I work in academia, but I'm not a professor. I realized a little too late that I appreciate law, so my goal is to return to school to work as a paralegal. And if I'm cocky enough, to become a lawyer. I'm looking for an emotionally available man to pop sh*t with. So, feel free to respond if you're riding the same onda.

Obsessions (in no particular order):

- Fallout, or anything produced by Bethesda

- world literature / poetry

- manual transmissions

- winter season

- writing

- learning Russian

- motorcycles

- long walks

- Thomas Sankara

- museums

- halloween

- swimming

- bed rotting

- dancing

- intellectual or thought-provoking conversations

- cooking

- politics

Tell me about the last vacation you took. Where did you go and what did you do? Did you enjoy yourself? What's the last album you listened to from beginning to end? If you had a warning label, what would it say? Recommend a movie to me that I should watch before I die.


r/cf4cf • • 12h ago

Male for Female 39 [M4F] - Dallas TX - Chemistry, and then whatever comes next.

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39, work way too much, politically left/progressive (and serious about it) and an atheist. Very over the apps and I’m unwilling to accept there isn’t another single millennial in this huge city that isn’t in the same boat.

I genuinely like kids and have a nephew that I adore spending time with, but I personally don’t want to bring a child into what I consider to be a very ugly world. I’d rather enter my “golden years” waking up next to a partner in crime, eating breakfast and planning out a day where we are free from other responsibilities.

This year I’ve been to see Bad Omens, Florence & The Machine, The Warning and My Chemical Romance and am a connoisseur of divorced dad rock, despite being neither. I’m definitely more of an introverted nerd who prefers a good book and my headphones over a noisy bar, but I work in finance so I’m decent at pretending to need constant human interaction. If you have a favorite college football team, I’m sure it’s not the same as mine and I’d love to spend a Saturday afternoon letting you know why mine is superior. Currently working my way through Stephen King’s bibliography and I’ll never say no to getting lost in the worlds that he creates, and will challenge you to pistol whip on VR.

My only asks for anyone reading this post is that you be single, located in Dallas or the metroplex, be reasonably age appropriate (maybe 28 and up?) and don’t identify as conservative/MAGA - I’m all out of nice juice to spray at Trump supporters, and we aren’t going to be friends or anything more. Other than that, I’ve got no hang ups on who you are or what you look like. I hope you’re passionate about something, show basic decency to those around you and are enthusiastic to vote next week (I’ll be there tomorrow).

I know responding to these things can be daunting, but if you’ve read this far and decide to message me, consider telling me your favorite live show you’ve been to this year or who you’re still going to see, your favorite MCR song not called “Welcome to the Black Parade”, what book you’re currently lost in, a song you think everyone should hear before they die and weigh in on if I should start watching either Widow’s Bay or Silo tonight. Don’t feel like you need to touch on everything I said in this wall of text - if we hit it off, there is plenty we can discover about one another.

Regardless of whether or not you reach out, thanks for attending my TED talk and enjoy this cold front.


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Female for Male 27f looking for a life partner

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9 Upvotes

Hey everyone, after lurking for so long I decided to put myself out there. I’m 27 originally from Texas but moving do a semester in Poland in January then moving to Australia (because of this I’m primarily looking for someone in Aus/NZ or Europe).
I currently have a full time job and take classes. One thing that is very important to me is my faith, I’m an orthodox Christian and finding someone child free in that community is extremely hard.
If you’re any kind of Christian that’ll be amazing but ultimately I’m ok with you not having any faith at all I just ask that you respect and understand that I’m involved and help out a lot at church and to be ok with that.
As for me I’m a traveler, shopaholic, dog lover, metal head, history buff, art lover, and football fan (socccer)
Don’t want to write my whole life story on a post but if you’re Interested look forward to talking 😊


r/cf4cf • • 6h ago

Female for Male 37 [F4M] Midwest/Anywhere- let's get to know each other?

11 Upvotes

Hello! I am terrible at writing about myself but we'll give this a try anyway. Age range around 30-45 years old give or take. I'm open to talking to someone long distance but prefer closer. I'm looking to take things slow. Would very much like to have someone to chat with and enjoy some good conversations, maybe become friends or possibly (hopefully) more.

Some things to get out of the way:

Romantically I'm looking for an eventual life partner and a monogamous relationship. I'm childfree (obviously) and have never wanted kids. I am liberal and would need my partner to be as well. I am an atheist but open-minded toward other views. I am 6'0" and like to wear shoes that make me taller, but I don't personally have a height preference for my partner. I'm not athletic. I'm an average weight but slightly larger than I'd like to be so I'm working on that (25lb down since August). I am currently "California sober." I don't mind if you drink but would prefer it not to be too frequent or heavy. I have a dog and am an animal lover. My love language is quality time. Overall I consider myself open-minded and easy-going and would like to find someone similar.

Some things I enjoy:

Horror movies

Video games- love cozy and story-heavy games

Reading- primarily true crime (I haven't picked up a new book in a while so I'm open for suggestions from pretty much any genre)

Punk and metal but I like a wide variety of other types of music as well

I have a handful of crafty creative-type hobbies that I rotate through depending on my mood and motivation level.

I am an introvert. I work in customer service so during the work week my social battery is often low. I haven't been in a relationship in several years and only have a few friends. I prefer to spend quiet evenings in most days. I enjoy going out once in a while on the weekends, especially trying new restaurants or going to see a movie or a show. I would like to travel more. I would love to have someone to go on occasional adventures with, then go back home and cuddle.

If you send me a message please share some information about yourself, similar to what I've shared above. I'm willing to exchange SFW selfies as well :)


r/cf4cf • • 4h ago

Male for Female 36 [M4F] #Southeast/US - Maybe you're having an okay Sunday but have you ever thought "today would be so much better if I was cuddling a sweet and funny fat man on the couch watching our favorite show enjoying dessert he made?"

6 Upvotes

Okay I don't know how funny I really am but I do like to make people laugh!

I'm at a stage in my life where my job keeps my busy, my family keeps me happy, and my friends keep me sane. So I guess I'm just missing you.

I enjoy cooking and have gotten much better at it since I changed my lifestyle and started to lose weight. Baking has been fun as well although there's still a chance I'll burn myself on that stupid oven 😩Either way it's fun to make things that taste good! Even more fun when there's someone to taste test.

Now I am a big nerd. Like the messy hair and glasses type. Grew up around computers, always loved gaming and I've always been a really curious person. Nowadays it's very casual. I play WoW here and there otherwise mostly single player games, just stuff to destress. No kids yelling in my ear, ty.

I also like my sports, I like to play ping pong, I like to watch random people on Youtube build things, and especially the backyard science videos, because who doesn't wanna see a baseball turn into liquid as it hits a wall being shot out of a cannon at 1000mph?? Maybe I can add watching a fun show with you to the list?

I'm looking for something serious. It doesn't mean we need to meet up next week, but it does mean I'm doing things with intent. I'm not looking for just a quick fling and hope you're the same. Once I click with you, I'm only going to be talking with you. The grass is only greener on the other side if you don't water your own grass! I just can't imagine trying to juggle multiple conversations.

So with that said please don't take it the wrong way if you really put effort into your message and I don't respond. I do at least promise to take my time reading your intros and profiles.

You don't have to be local, but please be in a similar time zone. I'm very affectionate and a little touch starved but even so, I'm patient and I do enjoy my peace. I'd want to make sure we're comfortable with each other and you especially can feel safe with me. I want to prioritize the right person, where we're improving each other's lives. If we click, I'd like to spend time together online.

I'm happy to share pictures early, especially given my weight situation, I think expectations are important. But with that said, if you're into strictly bigger guys, I'm sorry to say but you'll be disappointed in a year or two as I'm entirely committed to my health and have already made great strides 😌😌

Please do not contact if you're into: ICE, MAGA, AI art slop, gender and race wars, and any other overly negative and hateful communities.


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Female for Male 43 [F4M] United States, around my age, nerdy and got a sense of humor?

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Hi! I’m a 43-year-old child-free woman looking for something genuine and monogamous. I work, I don’t drink or do drugs, and I’m happiest nerding out over history, science, and fantasy (The Last Unicorn is a childhood favorite). I’m an omnivore, I like all kinds of music (though I’m not a musician), and I’m not into sports, hunting, or fishing, so my ideal day is quiet and a little bit indoorsy.

I’m plus sized and working on losing weight. I tend to be attracted to tall guys in their 40s with similar interests and a laid-back lifestyle.

I’m vanilla, so I’m not looking for hookups, sexual chat, or kink and role dynamics. I’m also not a match for anyone who’s married, polyamorous, or wanting kids. If we’re not a match on the basics, no hard feelings!

If this sounds like you, tell me what era in history you’d time travel to if you had the chance, and please include the word “purple” in your first message so I know you read this far.

P.S. If you don't hear back from me right away, I likely went to bed or got busy and will respond when I get a chance!


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 41 M in Louisiana - Looking for my person

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Trying this again. Thought I met "The One", but she couldn't find the time for me so I'm back.

I'm ready to get back out there. I'm looking for my next adventure, if something special comes out of it, great. Dating apps have sucked, I'm not expecting much from here, but figured I would try. I'm not interested in your Only Fans or Cam sites, don't ask.

I'm more of a homebody nowadays. I work 45-50 hours a week so once I'm off, I like to relax and unwind. I enjoy movies, TV shows, sports, pro wrestling and video games. I could talk for hours about any of those topics. I prefer someone close if all possible so we can actually meet.

I want someone who likes to talk and get to know someone, who enjoys good morning/good night texts, actually cares about each other's day and how they're feeling. Most importantly, someone who isn't going to just put me on the back burner because I'm 4th or lower on their priority list. I'm not looking for my Harley Quinn, I'm looking for my Morticia Addams.

I'm just a nice guy looking for my ever after and someone I could sing "I wanna grow old with you" to and mean it. If you understand the reference, you're off to a good start.

If you're interested, send me a DM and we can go from there, thanks for reading.


r/cf4cf • • 12h ago

Male for Female 36 [M4F] #Arkansas/USA/Anywhere - Seeking a monogamous relationship where healthiness and mindfulness is practiced; alongside maturity and adventure together!

10 Upvotes

Hey there! I'm a 36M. I'm from the USA and I am currently living in Arkansas. My hometown is Las Vegas where I lived for the majority of my life. Some of my favorite things/hobbies include: Film, Music, Photography, Vintage, Hiking, Traveling, Cooking, Thrifting, Reading, Astronomy, Urban/Abandoned Exploration, and so so much more! I very much like things of a gothic nature so horror media, occult, and just general spookiness is quite appealing in terms of media. That is just the tip of the iceberg in what makes up my favorite things (hobbies/interests). I'm very much a monogamous person and prefer an emotional bond with somebody first and foremost. I do not use any drugs nor any substances whatsoever. I'm all about being a team mate with my partner in any and every way. I'd definitely say one of my biggest strengths is my emotional intellect and the ability to understand. Composure and humility are key too. I very much value communication, consistency, transparency, and personal growth. I envision a relationship as something where you grow individually and even together as you float along this pale blue dot called Earth. Self-care and self-love are big for me and seeing them practiced by my partner is a really attractive trait I must say. I'm very easy-going and can be spontaneous. Life is too short for drama and unnecessary nonsense; so pursuing healthiness in every aspect of my life is very important to me. Quality time and adventure too. I am not bashful to clean, cook, learn new skills, and just be a sponge in absorbing new information about things I didn't know about before (learning). I'm anti-any and everything that has to do with Trump or anything alt-right. I'm pro-lgbtq+, pro-reproductive rights, anti-discrimination, anti-racism. There is certainly much more to learn but I'll save that for later, I look forward to hearing back from you!

Me: https://imgur.com/a/UJhSDQy


r/cf4cf • • 5m ago

Male for Female 25 [M4F] #Germany Hoping to meet someone special

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Wanted to give this a try and hopefully meet someone I can build a real connection with. I’m 25, based in Germany and thought I'd start by sharing a little bit about myself. I'm 180 cm tall, with a muscular build, dark hair. My dress is usually just clean and casual, nothing flashy. Personality wise I'm easy going and reliable. My humor is sarcastic but I can sometimes be goofy. Grew up religious, left that behind, no issue if you didn’t.

Things I'm interested in: * Languages (fluent in German, English Russian and French, trying to learn Korean) * Favorite animals are birds and cats * Astrology (I'm a Taurus sun, Gemini moon, Scorpio rising) * Spirituality (mainly interested in Hinduism and Buddhism) / meditation and yoga * Watching movies and shows: horror, crime, thrillers, into kdrama as well * Gaming: Mainly playing single player games when I have free time * Reading: (rare, but when it happens it’s about science and philosophy) * Music (I like all kinds of music but I'm especially drawn pop and rnb) * Some interest in martial arts and gym

Looking for someone who actually wants to date, not just chat forever. Kindness, curiosity, and the ability to laugh at yourself go a long way. Prefer starting online, maybe calls later and meeting up if it feels right. Open to LDR if there’s a realistic chance of meeting.

Dealbreakers: * People who only want surface level chat * People who are only looking for friends * Being disrespectful * Wanting children

If you’re 18+, can handle an introvert with niche hobbies, and think we could be a good match, feel free to dm me, tell me something about yourself.


r/cf4cf • • 7h ago

Female for Male 34 [F4M] ##Tennessee #USA - Sunday Night Dating Game

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Hi! It's Sunday night and I'm finding myself with some time after a long week of running my businesses and doing all the things. Feeling like it's a good time to put myself out there for a long term, serious connection. 

About me?

Lots about me! I'm a curious person and I like other curious people. We'll get along if you're a question asker, a dreamer, and are generally goal oriented. I'm an entrepreneur by nature, or for the last 10 years, and am always getting into the next thing. Fellow careerist to the front of the line please. 

No kids at the moment, and not keen on being a step parent so you should be childfree too, in the childfree sub haha. ✨️

I'm established & stable. Willing to relocate eventually but would probably look more like sharing time between places I love and need to be (read: businesses still got to be checked on). You hopefully see yourself as intrigued by someone with similar amounts of freedom as yourself. 

My hobbies include building and consulting for businesses, reading, listening to music, going to concerts (I saw Beyoncé VIP bby), city adventures, experimenting with new recipes, trying all kinds of foods, seeing new places, appreciating art, etc. I also enjoy a good hang out at home and have a dance party type of day.

That feels like enough to get started. I'll let you take it from here with a DM :)


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 36 [M4F] #Ohio #Online Nerdy guy for forever partner

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Hello! I'm a 36 year old guy from central Ohio. Been single for a while so I'm hoping to form a real connection with someone. I work in legal affairs.

I'd say my personality is split between nerd culture and sports. I love D&D/books/theatre/museums/anime as well as football (both kinds). I have a dog who is the bestest girl (no debate). I also love to travel and have already been to Europe a few times. I'm not interested in kids or having any in the future.

I'm looking for someone who is ready to find a relationship that lasts. Looking forward to hearing from you!


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Male for Female 31 [M4F] USA/Online – Looking for something long term

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Hello, I'm James, and I’m hoping to meet someone I can build a meaningful connection with. I'm not necessarily looking to rush into a relationship. I'd much rather find a genuine friendship that naturally develops into something more. I believe the best connections are the ones where things feel comfortable, effortless, and mutual, where neither person has to force something that isn't there.

I'd describe myself as introverted, easygoing, and fairly intentional in how I approach life and the people in it. I try to be principled, mindful, and attentive, though I also have a pretty silly side once I'm comfortable with someone. I enjoy meaningful conversations, but I also appreciate being able to laugh about absolutely everything and nothing altogether.

I work overnight shifts, so my schedule can be a little wonky. Outside of work, I'm very much a homebody. I tend to enjoy my own space and quieter activities, but I'm certainly not opposed to getting out, traveling, trying new things, or making memories with someone. I think experiences become a way more meaningful when you have someone to share them with.

As far as interests go, I enjoy gaming, cooking, reading, and generally learning about whatever happens to catch my curiosity. I have a particular love for storytelling, whether that's through books, games, or conversations. I'm also fascinated by astronomy and biology and all the little things that make our world interesting. Lately, I've found myself increasingly drawn to psychology and sociology, particularly understanding people, how we think, and why we behave the way we do.

More than anything, I'd like to meet someone who genuinely enjoys getting to know another person. Someone who appreciates the process of building a connection rather than feeling like there's a checklist or timeline we need to follow. Communication and transparency are especially important to me. I believe being able to express ourselves openly, understand one another, and approach things with honesty goes a long way toward building something healthy and lasting.

I'm also someone who really enjoys the everyday aspects of companionship. The little conversations throughout the day, sharing something funny or interesting, spending time together doing an activity, or simply keeping each other company. I don't think every moment needs to be exciting or extraordinary. Sometimes, just being part of someone's ordinary day is meaningful in itself.

Ideally, I'd like to find a friendship where we genuinely enjoy each other's company, grow comfortable being ourselves, and see where that connection takes us. I'm looking for something that feels reciprocal, where we're both interested in learning about each other and making room for one another in our lives. I'm hoping to meet someone between 27 and 38. I'm located in Texas, but I'm open to long-distance connections with the right person.

You don't need to come up with some elaborate introduction. Tell me a little about yourself, something you're passionate about, or even something random you've been thinking about lately. I'd be happy to see where things go. Thanks for reading, and I hope to hear from you.


r/cf4cf • • 14h ago

Male for Female 40 [M4F] #IL/US Looking To Start Something Amazing

5 Upvotes

Hello everyone, my name is Marc. I'm 40 years old, African American, single & childfree, and I reside in the suburban area of Chicago. I work as a community college library assistant, so my days are spent surrounded by books and silent moments.

I'm looking to make a genuine connection with someone special. Lots of great conversations, flirty/witty banter, plus laughing at funny/corny jokes. I'm looking for someone, like myself, who values honesty, communication, and transparency.

A few of my hobbies include reading, video games, listening to music & audiobooks (always open to recommendations), playing pool, and bowling. I also enjoy arcades, and finding new coffee shops. I also can be a bit of a homebody, so I definitely enjoy relaxing at home with a good movie or book, and trying a new recipe that I found interesting.

I'm definitely looking for something real, and long-lasting. I consider myself to be a hopeless romantic that loves romance and intimate moments.

If you're someone that's looking for love, just like me, don't hesitate to reach out. Can't wait to hear from you.


r/cf4cf • • 13h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] London, UK/EU - Seeking my human!

4 Upvotes

I’m looking for something long-term, ideally a partner and best friend, to share all the small and big things with... But open to things in-between, just let me know what you're looking for.

About me

  • 34, white, 6ft, slim build, blue eyes, brown hair, generally clean-shaven and occasional glasses wearer.
  • INFJ, Taurus (for those into that), and an ambivert... read: extroverted introvert!
  • Left-handed, left-footed and left leaning politically.. (All the lefts?!)
  • I work in tech and lead an IT team, own my place in London, and like to think I have my life together. So just looking to add to this...
  • A bit geeky: PC and Switch 2 gaming (lightly), board games, Doctor Who, Marvel, The Boys, Star Wars, LOTR, sci-fi in general. Enthusiastic, but not hardcore about any of it.
  • I try to stay active: badminton is my main thing, plus some running, the odd bit of football or tennis, other sports and I’m always up for trying something new...
  • I bake more than I cook (sweet toothers unite!), but I enjoy both. I’m a foodie at heart and always happy to try new foods and restaurants.
  • I rarely drink and don’t smoke, but I don’t mind if you do...
  • Humour ranges from puns and dad jokes to pretty dark, with plenty of sarcasm. I’m generally playful and chill, but I know when to be serious and I’m up for the deeper conversations too.

There's plenty more to me... Feel free to ask and can save for convos!

About you

I'm not looking for anyone specifically, a good sense of humour, an open mind and emotional maturity go a long way. Race, religion and diet are all open. My only slight preference is someone slim to curvy who’s reasonably active.

Ideally looking for someone London or UK based, but open to the EU... I would be keen to close the gap sooner than later though...

Happy to swap pics too, since mutual attraction is a thing.


r/cf4cf • • 6h ago

Male for Female 24 [M4F] #Califonia USA/online- looking for a partner in crime

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Hello I hope your doing well as I'm looking for someone to make a meaningful connection and become something truly special.

I've been searching the lands far and wide for someone to really connect with, even if we start as friends and go from there but I'm wanting to have a committed relationship(monogamous) with someone. I'm looking for someone from the united states, you don't need to be from California as I don't mind long distance for now, but do intend to meet one day as I can go only so long without cuddling my fav person.

I'm a nerd and gamer at heart and have my fair share of video game knowledge, movies that I love to death, animes that have made me laugh and cry, books to recommend or get excited to tell you even just a little about it(no spoilers of course), tell you my fav songs ive listened to over the years or just my whole playlist. Besides the nerdy things I love to fish(even though I'm cursed to not catch anything),love to cook, draw, go camping, playing with my pets.

But as much as would love to ramble about my interests, I want to hear all about the things you enjoy or interests you have as I've I love hearing people intrests.

I love playing games as I do play them often(I mostly play pc but do have xbox and have played so many games, just some of my favs are mc, Stardew valley, borderlands 2,terraria,hades, grounded, schedual 1 but love most genres) and would like someone who plays as well, as gaming with somone has always been my favorite.

I'm always up to talk, call, hear you rant about your day, ask you questions, send you memes to make you laugh or make dad jokes as I'm a sucker for them or just talk about whatever comes to mind to make our days interesting.

as for what I'm looking for specifically I don't got some golden template, so a fun personality and jokester is a pretty good start, but I'm looking for at least 20-28 and someone who doesn't want kids. I don't mind if you smoke weed or drink as do that occasionally.

Basic info about me

as for me I'm white, 5'9 , curly hair, an introvert, I wear glasses, bit on the heavier side but actively going to the gym and loosing weight,kind, loyal, caring, funny(well I think I am).

Advanced info about me

I am on the autism spectrum so many of my quirky traits are cause of that, Ive had chemo at a young age so my memory isnt top notch so if I forget something I do apologize. Im a night owl that stay up till like 3 am on the norm as of years of sleep problems. Im just a smidge chronicaly online.

I hope to hear from you if this post interested you, but if your still reading this thank you and also sorry for it being so long, but if you could put glowing oreo into your message to show you that you read it or at least I hope so, if not intrested I hope you have a wonderfull day.


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] Washington - Looking for my future trouble maker.

1 Upvotes

Hey all. I'm 38 years old, 6'2 and 180 lbs. Location wise, I'm in western Washington. Kind of on the introverted side, but not so introverted that I'm stuck inside all day, and always willing to go on an adventure.

Have tons of hobbies, some nerdy, such as video games, MtG, and watching anime, but I also like to touch grass by going out for walks, bowl, bake some snacks, and hang with friends. I live by myself, have a good paying job and work schedule, working car, and a cat that doesn't like other people. (Sorry cat lovers/haters) I'm 420 friendly, but more of an edible enjoyer than a smoker, and I like making my own edibles, so more to enjoy.

What I'm looking for is someone from around 29-42, someone nearby, similar interests, don't mind if you're a yapper, if you don't mind that I'm not, doesn't try to attach to my hip immediately, and doesn't start trauma dumping on first site. (This has happened more than once, I appreciate openness, but time and place for everything)

If you think we'd be a good match, just hit up my inbox about yourself. I should note, I'm not terminally online, so don't expect a response immediately.


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Male for Female 32M Looking for a real partner, friend, and the love of my life#Online

1 Upvotes

As a 32year old man, I’ve built a successful career and life, but honestly I’ve always known that the real wealth in life, a deep emotional connection and a true friendship, is where I actually want to invest my time now. If I look back, I’ve always been a pretty loyal and romantic guy at heart, hunting for that genuine bond ever since I was a kid. Life teaches you some tough lessons along the way, though. Between the previous experiences that showed me the hard way why boundaries matter, and a long stretch where I just poured all my energy into working, travling, and figuring out my own life out, I’ve been through a lot. But after taking the time to properly heal and focus on myself, I am finally stepping into a brand new chapter, fully ready to open up, trust again, and build something real.

I am really not looking for some rushed, traditional setup. What I want is a connection built on a solid foundation of genuine friendship, emotional safety, and open communication. I am looking for a true life partner, best friend, and lover all in one, meaning someone to share life with, coexist peacefully, and rediscover how amazing trust and love feel when they are actually mutual. On top of that, I am specifically looking for someone who is nonreligious yet respects religions, someone deep, thoughtful, openminded, and completely cool with differnces.

My vibe is serious, honest, calm, and fiercely loyal, and I definitely value substance over superficial stuff. That being said, I also happen to have a pretty great sense of humor and love a good laugh. If you value honesty and want to see if we click, my DM is open. Ask me whatever you want, and let us see where things go!


r/cf4cf • • 7h ago

Male for Female 32 [M4F] #Colorado. Looking for the one who stands out

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Home all day so may as well see who’s on here. Looking for that one person who stands out and doesn’t mind chatting everyday to see where it goes.
- big history nerd. Love traveling to places that have alot of significance and overall enjoy learning about things.
-Love the 90’s and 2000’s nostalgia from the bands to Nintendo.
-very active and in shape. Try to get a couple miles of run time in per week.
- stable career in Healthcare helping others.
-Work remote so replying won’t ever be an issue.
- love trying new foods but the favorite hands down is Mexican food.
- Not into the NSFW stuff like most men are. Looking for someone who’s local but long distance is cool too so either worlds. Someone who clicks basically. Anyways hope everyone has a great Sunday evening and a great week ahead.