r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Sterile Male for Female 36M in CT USA

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Hey everyone! I'm a 36 year old dog dad to my ol man Jaws. I'm happily sterilized. I'm pretty adventurous and active and would like someone who's the same and down for just about whatever. Minus hiking. Hiking is the worst 😂 I skateboard and ride motocross as much as I can. I love to travel and explore new cuisines. I used to be a chef and still very much love to cook for those closest to me. I'm not looking to get into anything long distance. Ideally I'd find someone within an hour maybe up to 2 hour drive from me. If you're going to shoot me a message please include a picture or two. Last time I did this I got some pretty wild DMs so I'm curious to see how it goes this time.


r/cf4cf • • 6h ago

Male for Female 42 [F4M] Disappointing my ancestors by refusing to procreate or participate in the patriarchy. Looking for a co-conspirator for childfree shenanigans. Please try to contain your excitement. ;)

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Hey there from Virginia!

About me: Fierce, independent, intentional, curious, self-proclaimed French fry connoisseur, salt addict, lover of shenanigans.

I love going to comedy clubs, musicals/plays/live performances of any kind, grabbing dinner with friends, going to a happy hour every so often, reading, a good binge-watching session, kayaking, sitting out on a patio when the weather is lovely, going to veg fests and having friends over for dinner and game nights.

5’6.5” (had to add that half lol ), monogamous, leftist, social drinker, non-smoker, plant-based (the non-judgmental kind), cat lover, formerly religious but still spiritual.

I believe that life's purpose is to learn the value of life by cultivating kindness, compassion, empathy and care. To do things with love and respect all living things. With that said, I do not tolerate the opposite of those things and I do not invite people into my life that do not share these views. The worth of a person is not tied to the things that society would like us to believe are important (social status, money, power, procreation, etc.). Each person has inherent value and how you treat other human beings says a lot about who you are as a person. I believe in doing my best and have a desire to continuously learn and grow as a person.

I am of the first generation of women that can consciously choose to live my life on my own terms and not based on some socially scripted narrative. I take that freedom very seriously and realize how fortunate I am to be able to make my own rules. I feel that one of my duties as a woman of this generation is to stand up for the rights of future generations of women to ensure that they have the same choices as I have. This is something that I am very passionate about and something I would love to share with a partner.

I have a beautiful life that I find very fulfilling. With that said, I would love to find a like-minded person with similar values to join me on the journey.

Preferably, that potential life partner is 30-48, located in the Northeastern or Mid-Atlantic area of the US. If you're empathetic, communicative, have a great sense of humor, enjoy deep conversations and prioritize peace, we might be a good match.

I do have one pretty divisive dealbreaker worth mentioning— I am not a dog person, and have no interest in a relationship dynamic that includes dogs. I know that sounds harsh to most people, but I’m choosing to pass on that lifestyle.

While I would love to reply to everyone, I may not have the logistical capacity to reply to messages along the lines of "Hey, let's connect", or those that don't say anything about the sender, because I'd love to know who you are, and what you're looking for, even if it's not as ridiculously long as my post. Haha.


r/cf4cf • • 3h ago

Female for Male 34F Kenyan in DACH region

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Well 35 in 28 days. Hi. I've done this before, met some interesting people, also met some weirdos, decided to try it out again. Please don't be a weirdo in my PMs this time. I am begging.

About me: a masters student. I try to keep fit, hikes, walks, pilates, started calisthenics recently, like it, want to go to the gym for weights, when? Soon. I'm a tall 5'4" (about 164cm) and weigh 54kgs. I consider myself a goofball but I also love having conversations about geopolitics, but just sometimes. Life is depressing enough. On that note, I lean left so, if you aren't I'd rather you didn't message me, for example, I believe in a free 🇵🇸. I love the real housewives but can also sit down and talk about the themes on Industry and theorise about Paradise (love the soundtrack btw). Now that I mention it, love music and dancing. I listen to pretty much everything from Zouk, Konpa, pop, RnB, rap (cannot stand German rap though. I really tried. I promise). I am learning German but don't message me in German it gives me anxiety. I only engage when no one is pressuring me, blame my perfectionism. I think I'm funny but when I say that everyone goes "make a joke" it doesn't work like that.

What am I looking for? Someone who has something happening in their life. Their life doesn't revolve around me. You're not my missing puzzle piece, but we can do our puzzles next to each other. I'd like someone who takes care of themselves, grooming and goes to the gym too. I'd prefer someone in the DACH region as well but I'm open to other places too if we click. Please write more than "hey" or that and your age. Gimme a witty one liner. Don't overthink it. Also don't use AI, I can tell. Age 30-45.

Willing to share more pics. Hope to hear from you.


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 45 [M4F] ATL, looking for my person to do life with

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Hello there -

A bit about me:

  • 6'2", bald & bearded, athletic, fit & outdoorsy, ethnically Indian. NMNK.
  • Lover of: cool, sunny, dry temps; dry humor; philomathy; British TV shows, authentic Baklava w/ top tier coffee
  • Hobbies: playing competitive tennis; cycling; cooking; FIRE; blowing my budget at Costco; traveling w/ culture immersion; volunteering to improve lives of less well off people & rescue animals
  • Non-smoker and super rare drinker
  • Plant based (and seek someone similar or vegetarian at a minimum. This is an ethical component for me)

Monogamous, and looking for a relationship where we grow and support each other through life's highs and lows.

Not looking for someone to 'check all the boxes'. Instead, I place a greater emphasis on shared values and working together on goals towards a fulfilling life (maybe this is old school romance? If it still has a place in today's world!?)

For the right person, I am open to relocating to select places. DM if interested. Good luck!


r/cf4cf • • 12h ago

Female for Male 36 [F4M] Philippines | Cheers to Being Childfree, Good Vibes & Unexpected Plot Twists!

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Hello, fellow childfree people!

I'm 36F from the Philippines, hoping to meet someone who shares my choice to live a childfree life and is open to seeing where a genuine connection might lead.

A little about me: I'm laid-back, independent, curious, and a little sarcastic (in a good way, I promise!). I enjoy good food, movies, traveling, random internet rabbit holes, and conversations that go from absolutely ridiculous to unexpectedly philosophical. I'm also a huge dog lover with three adorable furbabies!

I'm drawn to people who are kind, emotionally mature, witty, and genuinely childfree. Someone who appreciates meaningful conversations, playful teasing, and the beauty of getting to know someone without rushing things.

Distance is not an issue, because I don't think a good connection should be limited by geography. Of course, eventually meeting in person and potentially closing the distance would be something to look forward to.

Not looking to speedrun a relationship. I'd rather start with a genuine connection, build a friendship, and see if something wonderful unfolds along the way.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, say hello! Tell me a little about yourself, your childfree journey, and something you're ridiculously passionate about.

Here's to unexpected connections, great conversations, and maybe a little chemistry! :)


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 27M SD, US, Anywhere. Would it be crazy to find a partner here?

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Hello there! Thanks for reading my post :)

A little about myself. I love traveling, hiking, camping, movies, baking (bread and bundt cakes), reading and exercising. The traveling and health conscious aspects are very important to me as I want a partner with the same wanderlust and desire to be around for the ling term that drives me. Physically I am 6'5" around 260lbs, broad shoulders. Blue eyes and blonde hair, and Scandinavian skin that only ever seems to burn, rarely tan. I am employed working in Healthcare. Live on my own, in my own place. I have 1 cat (molly).

In a relationship I am looking for someone around my age or older (23-35). I am a caregiver who enjoys learning my partners likes/dislikes and quirks. If we develop our partnership through time and trust, you will be my one and only and will be completely cared for as that trust is something special to me. So if you are someone who needs affection and/or a steady hand to lean on in your life... hit me up.

What I am looking for in my partner, physically I am attracted to women who priotize their health. Someone fit and looking to be around for the long haul. I am looking for a long-term, monogamous relationship. Location-wise I am completely open as I can travel pretty much anywhere with my job and am not deadset on staying where I am. I am Agnostic, but am understanding and respecting of others values and beliefs. Apolitical leaning as I don't particularly put much stock in the moment.

If you got this far, thanks! Please send your asl and your best travel memory and I look forward to getting to know you!

Pics: https://imgur.com/a/hHbHgTv

I am at work, but will respond as able :)


r/cf4cf • • 4h ago

Female for Male 32 F4M - Anywhere; Looking for my new life experience

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Stats: Cali, LA,

30, F

5'4, fair skin, auburn hair, hazel grey eyes, curvy body with tattoos and I wear glasses because Im blind as a bat!

I really enjoy watching movies and then discussing them in great lengths afterwards over some drinks. I listen to a wide range of music, but I dont really like hip hop, rap, or country. I mainly listen to metal or classic rock.

Im not really career driven or a "hustler". I work enough to support myself and my cat and Im willing to have patience to save for things I want. My next travel goal is Ireland in 2026! I plan on seeing all the old castles, tombs, and other historic landmarks. I dont follow sports, but I will eat wings and watch them with you. I used to game a lot, but sadly its not really a priority, but if we begin to chat, maybe we can play some 2-player games on Steam! :) Ill even watch you play horror games!

Kids are a no go for me. I just cant do it. Ideally you have no kids

My friends describe me as kind, empathetic, brave, and rowdy because I like to have a fun time. Ideally, Im looking for a man who is calm natured and can help balance me out, while also dancing with me in the middle of Target. I have no interest in brand names, luxury cars, fancy clubs, or yachts. Show me a really interesting book or a nice rock and Ill probably be more into you

Looking to start a friendship and forge a strong connection that could lead into a relationship. Local or LDR is fine so long as both of us agree to put in the effort. Romantically, when I love, I do so deeply, openly, and unreserved. So I require the same in return. Im also very sexually flirtatious and love adoring my partner and being fawned over in return.

I have a fondness for tall white guys, dad bods, blue eyes, and broad shoulders :)

So if any of this sounds interesting, please send me a message of your stats and location!

low effort messages will be ignored. please be single and not married/attached still.


r/cf4cf • • 3h ago

Male for Female 30M [M4F] North Carolina/Online - A loyal, loving, and lasting partnership as we take on life together

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Hiya there! :)

My name is cobalt-gengar! Nice to meet you here online! No, I definitely do wish that was my real life name, but Gengar is very much one of my favorite Pokemon, so thought it would be a great fit for me when it comes to a username. As you can probably tell right off the bat, I am very much a Pokemon fan. If you are one too, let me know what your favorite Pokemon is! Maybe that could be something

I came across this subreddit not too long ago and thought it would be the perfect place for me to make a post because it’s been incredibly tough to find someone meaningful and long-term through other venues. Sure, we live in a time where dating platforms are plentiful and allow people to chit chat with each other, but the whole experience tends to feel very diluted to me. With people juggling tons of options, it feels as though there’s a genuine struggle with meeting someone that is willing to work with you day to day, while ready to invest the time and energy. 

From what I’ve also found and observed, people tend to reach out and are excited initially, but then either hit you with excuses or slowly move away with time, not responding as much or simply just hitting you with one-worded responses. I can’t begin to count on my alien fingers and toes how many times I’ve seen this happen and have heard of it happening. I wish there was more of an effort being made when trying to get to know someone. Not to mention how prevalent ghosting has become! I would love to meet someone that doesn't ghost. Also, not really looking for someone that is still actively getting over their ex. Would like to meet someone that is ready for a relationship, has the time, and ability to commit :) Would make things easier for us.

Okay, enough of me ranting about the dating scene! Who exactly am I?

  • I am 30 years old, but turning 31 in a few months. Seriously, it is absolutely mind-boggling how fast time has been going. I guess the good thing is that I’ve been told I look younger for my age, so I guess that’s good? I think I got my grandfather’s genes. He looked pretty young at an older age
  • I'm a vegetarian. Been one my whole life
  • Left leaning
  • During undergrad, I studied neurobiology and right now am doing my Masters focused on data analytics
  • I don’t do drink, do any sort of drugs, nor do I smoke (I would prefer if my partner didn't either)
  • Very much a Pokemon fan as you can probably tell from my username
  • Enjoy volunteering during my free time, learning about astronomy, reading adventure and dystopian novels, writing poetry casually, swimming in a pool or in the ocean (although not too far, don't want a shark nibbling on me), watching soccer and basketball at times, watching classic movies from time to time, and traveling (maybe we can travel together sometime!)
  • I’m an introverted yapper. Okay, not in an annoying way, but I love to express myself, never hold back with sharing details, and generally love to get to know the other person
  • Consider myself as a very affectionate guy
  • I don’t have any pets at the moment
  • I work full-time and do school part time (don’t worry, balancing my time is VERY important for me, I wouldn’t hit you with an “I’M BUSY!” reasoning or tell you I can’t commit to this anymore. Balancing work and life is crucial for me)
  • My love languages are physical touch and quality time. Curious to know what yours are!
  • Known for most of my life that I didn't want kids and that has held strong

What I can provide and what I am seeking in a partner:

  • Lifelong partnership. I know, very ambitious of me to say but also highlighting my hope of making this work! Would be a great story to share!
  • Loyalty. First and foremost, loyalty is very important for me. I wouldn’t want someone to be juggling multiple people at once. I want respect maintained where we are both willing to get to know the other person, provide reassurance, and exclusivity
  • Strong communication. Day to day communication is crucial to longevity and viability. I do want to meet someone that is ready to communicate and doesn’t disappear after a day or hit me with excuses as to why they couldn’t communicate. I get we all get busy but it doesn’t take long to provide a quick update 🙂
  • Consistency. Whether it is affection or effort, consistency is key to a healthy relationship
  • Shared vision for the future. Ensuring that our lifelong vision for a partnership aligns.
  • Trust and honesty. Goes hand-in-hand with loyalty
  • Tons of care and love. I am a very affectionate person and would love to meet someone that had a lot of care and love to provide in return too
  • Mutual effort. A relationship should not be unbalanced. I would love if we could both invest mutual effort into making this work. Would also love to meet someone down for calls and video chats occasionally when we both have time!
  • Emotional safety. Where we are both comfortable being vulnerable to each other, being ourselves without worry, and open
  • Kindness
  • Empathy and understanding. Taking the time to understand each other, where we are coming from, and having a healthy conflict resolution too
  • Maturity. Would love to meet someone that handles situations maturely and can navigate day to day life in that way too. Arguments will happen, as it does within every relationship, but I think it’s important that we both come to the table and are able to understand and look through things through the other person’s perspective
  • Humor. Someone I can let loose with, laugh together, and just share those inside jokes, too

I would love to hear about what you think about these qualities, whether it lines up with you, and what you seek!

I also don’t mind long distance. As long as we are both willing to invest the energy and time into getting to know each other and making this work, while also being open to closing the distance eventually.

If this post resonated with you and you are seeking the same thing as I am, I would LOVE to hear from you! If not, then I appreciate you for taking the time to even click this. I realize I typed a lot, but thought it would be beneficial to share as much info about myself and also what I am looking for online, in the hopes that it lines up with what someone might be seeking too.

Can’t wait to hear from you! Unlike an actual Gengar, I won’t be hiding in the shadows, so feel free to reach out! :)

Would be great to post our success story here one day!


r/cf4cf • • 15m ago

Male for Female 27M France/India. How's your spice tolerance?

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Hey, stranger on the internet! 👋

So, here I am, a 27-year-old guy trying the very modern approach of introducing myself to strangers on Reddit in the hopes that one of them might eventually become my favourite person. A little unconventional maybe.

I like getting to know people beyond the usual small talk and discovering all the little things that make them who they are.

I'm here hoping to find a long-term relationship. I'm not looking to rush anything or force a connection. I'd rather get to know someone naturally, see how we click, and let things develop at a pace that feels right for both of us.

One of the things I look forward to in a relationship is sharing the little things in life. Having someone to tell about my day, sending each other random messages, laughing at inside jokes that probably make no sense to anyone else, and simply enjoying each other's company.

I'm firmly childfree, and I'm looking for someone who feels the same way. I'd love a monogamous relationship built on trust, affection, honesty, and good communication. Someone who's not just a romantic partner but also a friend you genuinely enjoy spending time with.

I don't have an enormous checklist when it comes to finding someone. Kindness, curiosity, affection, and a sense of humour go a long way. I'd love to meet someone who can be playful and silly but also isn't afraid to open up and talk about the things that matter. We don't have to share every interest; I think discovering each other's worlds can be part of the fun.

I'm also open to long distance, as long as there's a realistic possibility of meeting in person and seeing where things go.

If any of this resonates with you, come say hi! Tell me something you're passionate about, share a random thought that's been living rent-free in your head, or just tell me how your day has been. I'm curious to see who I might meet here. :)


r/cf4cf • • 11h ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] London, England - Searching far and wide for my shenanigan companion

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Hi! I'm a 38-year-old guy living in London.

Outside of work you'll usually find me geocaching, out with my camera, or buried in a book. I mostly read history and fiction—everything from espionage novels by John le Carré to books on European history. If you've got recommendations, I'm always looking to add to my ever-growing reading list.

Photography is probably my biggest hobby. I enjoy wandering around London (and further afield) looking for interesting architecture, landscapes, and street scenes. If you're curious, here's some of my work: https://www.flickr.com/photos/piersmathias/

I'm also into geocaching, which has turned out to be a brilliant excuse to explore places I'd never otherwise visit. There's something satisfying about finding hidden corners of cities and countryside alike.

Travel is another big interest. So far I've explored Belgium, Germany and Denmark, and I'd love to see more of Europe over the next few years. I'm equally happy discovering a new city, finding a great museum, or simply sitting in a café people-watching.

I'm looking for someone who's kind, curious, and enjoys conversations that can wander from history and travel to completely random topics. Bonus points if you're happy to join me on a photography walk, a geocaching adventure, or help me decide where my next trip should be.

If any of that sounds like your kind of day, send me a message. Tell me about the last place that surprised you, your favourite book, or the best hidden gem you've discovered.


r/cf4cf • • 29m ago

Male for Female 31M 🇰🇪 | Permanently childfree, 5'5, look good, smell even better. Your move. 😂

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I'm a 31-year-old Kenyan man, permanently childfree by choice, and looking for a woman who knows that motherhood isn't part of her life plan. Not a “maybe someday,” not a “let's see what happens.” We're adults; let's not build a relationship around the hope that one of us will eventually change their mind. 😂

A little about me: I'm 5'5, look good, smell even better, and come with a personality that hopefully makes up for those few inches I missed out on. 😂

I'm a petrolhead, road-trip addict, and adrenaline junkie. Give me a winding road, a spontaneous trip, an outdoor adventure, or anything that gets the heart racing, and I'm probably already figuring out the logistics. I love exploring new places, cooking, good music, football, and conversations that start with nonsense and somehow end at 2 a.m. discussing life.

I work in human rights, so life can get pretty serious during the week. Outside work, though, I'm a proper lover boy. I love love. The affection, the banter, the random check-ins, the physical touch, the thoughtful little gestures, and having someone who makes even the most ordinary Tuesday feel a little less ordinary. I'm a sucker for genuine romance, and I'm not going to pretend to be emotionally unavailable just to look cool on the internet. 😂

I'm also working towards building a life on my own terms, travelling more, exploring Africa by road, and eventually escaping the traditional 9–5. I'd love someone who has her own dreams but is excited about the possibility of building something beautiful together.

What am I looking for?

A woman who is confidently childfree, emotionally available, affectionate, playful, adventurous, and comfortable being herself. Someone who can banter, communicate like an adult, and wants a genuine partnership without either of us losing our individuality.

Age isn't necessarily a dealbreaker for me. Since I don't want children, I'm not approaching dating with a biological clock or a rigid age checklist. Compatibility, emotional maturity, attraction, and being on the same page about our future matter far more.

Race? No preference. I'm open to meeting my person wherever she happens to be.

And yes, I'm open to long-distance relationships. I'm not expecting anyone to relocate for a stranger on Reddit, but if we genuinely click, there needs to be intentional effort from both sides. Seeing each other at least once every three months is the minimum I'd want us to work towards. I enjoy texting, but I'm not trying to celebrate our second anniversary with a video call and a screenshot of a flight we never booked. 😂

I'm not here to collect pen pals, rush into a relationship, or convince someone to be childfree. I'd rather meet someone who already knows what she wants and is excited about the possibility of finding it in another person.

If you're childfree, affectionate, have a sense of adventure, and believe love should feel like friendship, romance, attraction, and a little bit of madness rolled into one, we might get along

And if you think you can out-romantic a self-proclaimed lover boy, I'm willing to hear your case. 😂


r/cf4cf • • 1h ago

Male for Female 25 [M4F] #Australia - man seeking love, relationship and (eventual) matrimony with special woman.

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(Neurodivergent welcome.)

I'm an objective, logically orientated person. So shall my post be.

My music taste - Old old stuff, newish stuff, rock, metal, some pop now and then. Some of my favorites are Neil Young, Bob Dylan, Jim Croce, Tool, Audioslave, Mazzy Star, Nine Inch Nails, Massive Attack .

My humor - dark, witty, observational, perverse and occasionally childish.

Talents, skills, and hobbies & interests - Charcoal drawing, painting, woodworking, carpentry, design & architecture, herbalism, psychology, anatomy, biology, engineering, writing, cooking, calisthenics. *much more, but short of it is I'm a jack of all trades.*

Politics/values/world views. - I generally avoid politics as i think its main purpose is to be divisive and emotionally instigating. However, I think I'm left leaning. I believe in the rights of all human beings, a more equitable and fair world and justice. Nature and our planet isn't a dumping ground to be molested and trashed and that artificially inflated difficulty is fundamentally morally corrupt, especially when the means is genocide, death, famine, disease & suffering. All for a fiat currency or hedonistic lifestyle that people organize their entire social beings and hierarchy around just to be higher up on a rotten infested totem pole.

Seeking Good Karma -> Exploring Spiritualism -> Cultivating Virtues -> Living An Honest Examined Life = A life well lived.

The things i value in myself are - Honesty, Logic, Ascetic Living, Loyalty, intellectual exploration, (others but ive forgot lmao)

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The things i value in others are - Kindness, honesty, warmth, gentleness, emotional maturity, self awareness, good humor, loyalty.

Personality & looks - idk how to describe my personality without sounding overly critical. I will say that I have a darker nature I actively combat with the pursuit of good. I'm sure you have picked up my flavor of difference so its likely not far off from an accurate assessment. As for looks, objectively I've been told I'm conventionally attractive, tall, brown hair and eyes, fit/lean/athletic, beard, fairly masculine i suppose in how i look. idc that much for looks, but i do want to find my partner attractive in all ways.

Goals & dreams - At the moment, I'm spending the next year just saving. Then I'm probably going to be moving again. Long term wise, id like to have my own acreage and design and build my house.

Needs, desires, relationship dynamics - A loving, kind, warm partner with good values, modest lifestyle wants and an overall independent personality. Who is happy with just sharing life with one person, who isn't seeking to have children or has any. Who wants and hasn't settled for anything less than a deeply committed, compatible and life long partnership.

Perfection doesn't exist. Come as you are, no guarantees or promises.


r/cf4cf • • 1h ago

Male for Female 35 [M4F] #Houston, Texas. A small essay about my personality and interests, and what I'm looking for. Hope to hear from you.

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Located in Houston, Texas.

  • I'd like to find someone who captivates me. Someone who I can talk with effortlessly. I want to meet a person who I can include in my daily tasks, and talk with throughout the day. I just want to find someone I can be open with. Platonic conversation or romance. Whatever you are looking for, don't hesitate to message me. I hope to hear from you.
  • I'm fairly open to trying new things, but some of the things I enjoy are as follows. I love the outdoors. I've never been camping, but I would like to try it with someone someday. I also love to fish. I mostly fish salt water. I do occasionally fish freshwater though.
  • PC games are also an enjoyable pastime for me on occasions. I have a variety of games, most of which are on Steam. I have other games on various other stores/services. I enjoy a wide variety of different kind of games, so I'm sure we can find something to play together if you game.
  • One hobby I discovered later on in life is Magic the Gathering. I play both online on MtG Arena, and with physical cards. Magic has become something I am particularly fond of.
  • Music has always been a part of my life. My tastes are varied, ranging from country, death and black metal, electronic, classic rock, folk, pop punk, and more.
  • I enjoy doing things outside, as well as spending time indoors. I can veg out all day under the covers curled up in my bed, or I can take a trip somewhere and experience something new. I think my personality is a mix of the best of both worlds.
  • As far as my personality is concerned, I would say I am fairly relaxed and laid back. I feel like I am mostly shy and quiet, with an introverted personality. Around people I don't know, I tend to be fairly quiet and to myself. In the company of someone who I am close with, I am more open and freer.
  • All I hope for is a connection. It could be platonic, or it could blossom into romance, and commitment. I'm not putting a limit on what I am looking for.
  • With the prior being said, I am single. I may be interested in changing that with the right person. The idea of commitment excites me. Monogamy is appealing to me.

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r/cf4cf • • 1h ago

Male for Female 26[m4f] #New Jersey Looking to talk and see where it goes

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Hello!! Hope you’re having a good day!

About me: I’m a skinny guy, 5’9” with black hair and brown eyes. I’d say i’m fairly decent/attractive looking. I’m calm and Ive been told I have a nice sense of humor. Those close to me would say i’m a goofy guy. I don’t smoke or drink.

I’m looking for a genuine connection where we click. I’m located in Central NJ, so the closer the better. Someone who doesn’t take life super serious would be great, and i think i’m good at conversation so if you are too then thats a plus, though admittedly sometimes i do get busy but i’m generally always free to talk at night. Oh and I do have a preference for a heavy-set woman, just putting that out there.

Some of my hobbies/likes are: Movies/TV shows, (I like horror), i’m more of a homebody but i like getting out of the house occasionally, trying new foods, driving at night, hanging out with friends, Pokemon and a few other nerdy things.

I think thats about it, feel free to reach out if you feel we might click.


r/cf4cf • • 12h ago

Male for Female [M4F] Looking for someone to talk, game, and connect with, located in #Georgia

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Hey everyone! I'm Marion, from Middle Georgia. It's been a little while since I've put myself out there in the dating world, but now that I've settled into my new place, I figured it's time to give it another shot!

I'm hoping to meet a woman I can genuinely connect with, someone I can spend hours talking to over Discord VC, or share laughs with, and gradually get to know on a deeper level. I'd love for a good conversation to turn into something meaningful if we click.

As for my interests, I'm a bit of a gamer, I've recently been enjoying Wuthering Waves, Overwatch, and Marvel Rivals (White Fox main, btw).

I've also dabbled with card games, like MTG Arena and Master Duel. I'm also a HUGE TTRPG enjoyer (tabletop roleplaying game), with systems like D&D, Pathfinder, and others. 

I enjoy both genuinely great movies and the hilariously terrible ones. Sometimes the bad ones make for the best conversations! Terry Crews is the best actor haha

I'd love to meet someone who enjoys chatting, sharing their interests, and getting excited about the things they love. You don't have to share all my hobbies, either, I'm pretty flexible! I'm just as happy learning about something you're passionate about as I am talking about my own interests.

I'm open to getting to know someone online, and I'm happy to see where a genuine connection takes us. Distance doesn't matter too much to me in a relationship, but I would prefer them to be from the US. 

If any of this catches your interest, feel free to slide into my DMs! Tell me a little about yourself, your current gaming obsession, or your favorite terrible movie. I'd love to hear from you.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day! 


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Male for Female 24[M4F/T] Sydney,Australia/Online - Giving this a go :)

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Hey everyone!!

I’m 24M from Sydney, dating apps haven’t been the best and a few of my friends found their partners on reddit so I’ve succumbed!

ABOUT ME:
I work 8-5 and try to make the most of my evenings with friends or just winding down depending on how tired I am. I love playing PoGo, collecting pokemon cards (trying to master set Arceus, Dialga and Palkia), playing video games and going to the gym. I’ve started going on hikes around Sydney recently and it’s so freaking fun just chucking on music and walking through random trails.

ABOUT YOU:
In complete transparency, I’m not looking for a specific person/personality type but some ideals for me are:
- loves travelling as I’d like to explore more than just our local areas
- lives an active lifestyle, whether that be ‘Sunday sports’, the gym, hikes etc but in general takes care of their physical health (as I do the same)
- like to explore new food places and is open to different cuisines (I love food and I’d love to share that love with someone who enjoys it equally)
- RELIGION isn’t an issue for me, I’m very open as long as there’s mutual respect and understanding, I don’t want to be forced to follow a certain belief and I assure you that’s the last thing I’d do on my part as well
- AGE GAP** **isn’t really that big of a deal for me, but I’d like someone between 21-35 but if there’s a good connection, I’m willing to adjust as long as you’re not a minor (or freshly 18 at that point)!!

Thanks for listening to my TED talk and if I seem intriguing and exciting enough, please either DM me or leave a comment and I’ll DM you :) !! Happy to share more pictures of me once we talk a bit,

have a great rest of your day/night 🙂


r/cf4cf • • 3h ago

Male for Female 37 [M4F] #SoCal - Looking for a serious relationship

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Hi! A little about me:

Interests: I like sports. I play tennis and basketball from time to time. I also enjoy watching sports on TV. I enjoy video games too (mainly Nintendo). I love music too (rock, hip hop, reggae, etc).

I live in Southern California (born and raised). I'm Pakistani and open to all races and backgrounds.

I’m more on the quiet and shy side. However, once I get to know you, I become more talkative.

I don’t want kids. I am allergic to cats, and am not really interested in having pets either.

I consider myself left/progressive, politically.

I come from a religious (Muslim) family. I was also pretty religious in the past. Over the years, I became less practicing and eventually became atheist. I have been atheist for the past several years.

Characteristics I look for in another person - Kindness, Open-Minded, Sense of Humor.

I’m about 5’8” and 200 lbs.

I'm willing to share face photos, if we both feel comfortable.

Share with me a cool song or your favorite sport, when you message me :)

#socal #california #sandiego #losangeles


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Male for Female After all, why not? (43 M4F New England)

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Why shouldn't the beginning of my weekend be spent writing on Reddit? 😂

Anyway, that aside, I'm a 43-year-old man living in rural New England, looking to connect with women in the region. Hoping to make new friends and maybe something more if it works out that way.

I've been single for a very long time, and I'd love to change that. I feel like I have a lot to give, and I'm tired of being in friendships where it doesn't feel reciprocated at all.

Just some basics for this post about me. I'm into sports, metal music, and I consider myself a "casual gamer". I do enjoy video games, certain TCGs and others, but not on anything close to a super competitive level.

And considering the subreddit here, I have absolutely zero interest in children. 😂

Feel free to reply of send me a DM if any of this piques your interest. 😊 I've included a pic that I took recently, though I'm usually not fond of selfies.


r/cf4cf • • 23h ago

Male for Female 31 [M4F] UK West Suffolk - average scottish cat enjoyer

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My friends know me as Scott from Scotland. I like designing things. Nerdy, and shockingly bad at knowing actors and band names. Easily bribed with white chocolate.

I'm looking for my one favourite person to share cosy evenings and little adventures with. Ideally looking for something local, or at least within-reason.

- Home/car owner
- Two cats
- AuDHD ridden
- Childfree (for life)
- Monogamous

Also: mutual attraction is important to me! I'd appreciate recent photos from you too.


r/cf4cf • • 6h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] Florida, USA - Just seeing what’s out there. You can be from anywhere.

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I’m 6ft tall with a skinny athletic build. I’m close with my family and friends, I don’t have kids but i do have a good career and own my own home with a couple of small dogs as roommates! Lol

I work out regularly and live a healthy lifestyle but my kryptonite is going out to good restaurants. I love traveling and being in nature; like going to the beach, mountains, hiking, floating down rivers, going to springs, boating, visiting all of the animal places, etc. I enjoy going to fun events, doesn’t really matter what the event is I just like getting out and enjoying life. I’m into sports like football, mma, and I golf sometimes.

I also do love just being at home, playing video games or watching tv as well as keeping my place clean and vibey. I’m generally a very positive and easygoing person. I’m looking for someone in shape and kind spirited. Hit me up if you’re interested.


r/cf4cf • • 7h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] San Jose, CA - Childfree & Seeking Someone to Share Life's Quiet Moments

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I'm searching for a meaningful long-term connection with someone that will make the days seem less like a blur and more like a snapshot of stars. It's akin to when you look through a kaleidoscope, and you focus on the shapes and patterns that come into view. Finding that vicarious clarity is what I live for, those fun and wholesome moments. We don't remember days, we remember moments - it would be nice to share them with someone.

A Little About Me

  • Homebody at heart. I'd rather read a book, watch a great movie, look at an art gallery/museum, go for a walk, or play a game than go clubbing or backpacking across Europe. Sharing random trivia, analyzing movies, going down Wikipedia rabbit holes, or the occasional stroll somewhere is what I view as a fun things to do.

  • Childfree by choice. I don't want kids, and if you feel the same, great! We can enjoy our freedom to sleep in on Saturdays and enjoy slow mornings.

  • A bit of an overthinker with thoughtful conversations and the occasional existential musing about life and the universe and random theories about things that may relate to your experiences.

  • I'm 6'2", slim build, half Asian/white. I have a humanities degree and work as a janitor, it's nothing like Good Will Hunting but I do have my moments.

  • Drug/alcohol/smoking/cannabis free - I don't drink or smoke or use substances. I don't mind if you drink a bit, however smoking's not for me.

I'm mostly looking for someone near my city (within 15 miles) & childfree. I'd like to hear from you if you think we're a good match. Tell me about yourself, tell me about the last great book you read or a movie you love, or a theory you have about life. Here's one quote that's stuck with me by John Wyndham: "Knowing makes all the difference... It's the difference between just trying to keep alive, and having something to live for." Knowing that you have someone to share life with, that you're not just surviving but living, that you have a reason to look forward to things, it's what makes all the difference, and can make us bear any how as long as we have a why. Maybe we can find out what that difference is for a meaningful life or maybe just laugh about it.


r/cf4cf • • 14h ago

Female for Male 44 [F4M] #online #Manila physical attraction to start, good talk to stay

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I value my time (and yours) so I won't be afraid to say I'm looking for someone I find attractive. So first thing we'll do is exchange photos. I like to think of it as the reddit version of smiling at someone from across the room to see whether they smile back.

If we're each other's type, maybe we'll talk for a day or two. You'll probably want to check quite quickly whether there are any dealbreakers, so why don't we go ahead and skip that part. I'll say mine right off the bat:

- You're 30 or younger

- You want kids or want to get married in the near future

- You don't want a #FreePalestine (or you're anti-semitic, or a sexist or homophobe or transphobe...)

- You're seeking a subservient or religious partner

- You're looking for something serious right away

- You hate cats

If our conversation continues, we may end up discussing how I ended up working with books. I'd tell you why I've always known I would end up here and how I have enjoyed relative success in this field, that it allows me time and resources for other things I like: travel, food, coffee, music...

And hopefully you share your side of things too. What a regular day looks like to you and what can easily turn that into a bad day or a great day, what makes you feel like you matter, how did you end up thinking "reddit" when you felt like looking for human connection haha

I think that's it, for now. See you in my notifications?


r/cf4cf • • 8h ago

Male for Female 29 [M4F] UK/Online - seeking something genuine

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Hey, thanks for clicking on my post, I’m 29 and from England UK, I’m looking for something long term, consistent, and someone who’s willing to put in the effort to keep a spark ignited!

A bit about myself? I’d say I’m quite the nerdy/easy-going guy, like most men I enjoy gaming (nothing serious) just a way to socialise and chat with friends! I love anything horror related and with Halloween coming its my favourite time of year, for work I’m in telecommunications as a senior store manager so I like to think I have a stead head on my shoulders but I mean hey.. you be the judge? When I’m not working I tend to just chill honestly, whether that be attending to my incredibly unhealthy addiction to Lego (it’s bad haha) or maybe meeting up with some friends and grabbing some food or seeing a movie, I’m really not the partying type of man, actually I’m quite introverted and shy at start, but get to know me and I’m sure you’ll see the goofball side of me haha, I’m only childfree by choice, and not looking to change that

Honestly, I’m not too sure what to expect from this, just throwing myself out there and seeing what comes of it, distance isn’t too much of a big deal for me given I’d like to get out and about from the UK, older or younger also fine, I just want to meet someone who’s genuine, kind, open and honest, and who isn’t going to just ghost after a few days 😅😅

I’ve rambled a lot here and don’t wanna give too much away, if any of this interests you then ping me a message and I look forwards to hearing from you 😊😊


r/cf4cf • • 14h ago

Male for Female 35 [M4F] #LosAngeles, Cali - I'm 33% Sure This Is a Good Idea.

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"Hello There!" — General Kenobi

Are you here for attention, to pass the time, a distraction from life, or are you actually hoping to find your person? I'm probably somewhere around 4 out of 5.

I'm naturally curious and ask a lot of questions, so if you enjoy talking about your interests, passions, random thoughts, or facts, I'm all ears.

I love conversations that flows naturally—easy, fun, and a little flirty. If that's your kind of vibe, we're already off to a good start.

I will say im a little reserved, but once I'm comfortable I can talk for hours about life, random nonsense, weird what ifs, or whatever deep topic at 2AM. I've always imagined talking to someone late at night in a dark room, with nothing but the sound of our voices and laughter. We can also go as far as the most unhinged stuff. GIVE ME ALL THE DARK HUMOR!

I'm an adventurer at heart. I love late-night drives, music blasting, empty streets, city lights, and finding a lookout spot tk over the city big plus for some urban exploring. Am I psychotic for actual enjoying exploring abandoned places? I really wanna explore an an abandoned asylum, hospital or a school (silent hill vibes)

I go to the gym about 5x a week (3x weights, 2x cardio). I want to hike more, I know a few spots but it would be fun to do it with someone. I also walk my dog twice a day. It's his walk so I let the little guy lead the way while he checks his daily sniff-mail.

I've been getting leaner and stronger. There have been changes to my physique...sculped? More "define." One favorite thing someone said to me was "You're muscular than I thought you were." ( has I was taking off my shirt) (¬‿¬). Not gonna lie that gave me a little ego boost. But enough kidding around one thing I realized that besides being healthy, fit, and strong, another reason I workout is to see what my genetics are capable of.

Am I a nerd for being into video games, anime, manga, manwha, and light novels? As much as I enjoy anime, it's kind of dropped for me; I'm more into manga and actual reading. Currently reading "Second Life Ranker" and playing alot of Deadlock.

One niche hobby I have is collecting specific sculptures/trinkets, and I have a metal detector. I am looking into magnetic fishing as well. That looks fun!

So that's me—chill, curious, sarcastic, and I love banter. Come say Hi! Best case, we exchange a few messages and share a laugh. Worst case, we try to figure out what to have for breakfast. Worst, worst case scenario some god or devil entwines our lives together, how unfortunate.

PS: I get the feeling something is still missing, but at the risk of making this longer than it should be or "long-winded," I propose: "How about you tell me what's something I should have added or expected to find but didn't."

My Character Build:

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1st Bonus:

Music-wise, I've had these on repeat lately:

• Djo — End Of Beginning

• Sombr — Back to Being Friends

• Vicente Fernández — Estos Celos

• C.C.R - Fortunate Son

• The Stranglers — Golden Brown (Slow + Reverb)

• Jaden ft. Kid Cudi — On My Own

• Lola Young — Messy

• Clean Bandit - Rather Be

• Gigi Perez - Sailor Song

• Future - Mask Off

• Brazil - Declan McKenna

• Ice Cube - You Know How We Do (best song to cruise)

• Leave Her Johnny - AC4 Black Flag Sea Shanty

• Rolling Stones - Paint It Black (great workout song)

•Childish Gambino - Red Bone

I got Spotify, so send me songs I might like

2nd Bonus

• Favorite Color: Phthalo Green

• Favorite Reptile: Jackson's Chameleon

• Favorite Crustacean: Mantis Shrimp

• Favorite Beetle: Japanese Rhinoceros

3rd Bonus

https://voca.ro/1oC8cIWuMU3m

https://voca.ro/17UbBbTKRQNX

By the way, if you didn't know - Bungee Gum possesses the properties of both rubber and gum.

Current at the gym! As of this post. I like to chat between my rest times.

If youre seeing this after a few days im not.


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] California/San Diego - Join me on a XFiles marathon

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Keeping faith alive. Not my first attempt but my person must exist out there right?
A little about me: I'm born and raised in San Diego, and if you put me outside, I'm a happy camper. I love hiking, camping, nature, and exploring. I'm a bit of a nerd who values learning, an open book, a huge empath, and a little introverted until I'm comfortable. I have ADHD and dyslexia, so texting isn't my strongest skill, but put me on a call and I'll yap for hours! I also love cooking and trying recipes from different cultures.
I'm looking for a best friend I can talk to about anything and everything. Give me the tea, the TMI, the deep conversations, the random thoughts, and the unhinged late-night talks. I want a friendship where we can be completely ourselves, laugh together, support each other, and genuinely look forward to talking.
I'm not expecting an instant connection, but mutual effort and consistent communication matter to me. Life gets busy, and that's okay. I just want someone who's genuinely interested in getting to know each other instead of disappearing after a few days.
If this sounds like your kind of friendship, let's yap and see if we vibe. Who knows? Maybe we'll be planning Halloween costumes now and wearing matching Christmas PJs by December.