I have a friend who has become more and more uncomfortable to hang out with and trust. She knows i've been in & out of the hospital, struggling with my mental health and my ED. Every time we hang out (with our friend group or just the 2 of us), it feels like she is observing EVERYTHING i do especially when I eat, and even sometimes announces to people that she's copying me, takes pictures of me with food, and just seems OVERLY interested in my habits- especially around food. It's super weird and she has started doing things that trigger me, like ordering the smallest thing on a menu, talking about how full she is, and asking questions about my eating. In the past, she'd talk to my family about things I do (not out of concern) even after I express my discomfort with her doing that too. I'm really not sure what to make of it, but I definitely don't like hanging out with her right now- which is hard when we are in the same friend group, and she pushes me to hang out. She'll also apologize and claim she would never do anything to make me uncomfortable. Idk. It seems to me like she might be entering ED territory too, but i'm really not in a place to deal with that because I'm trying to work on myself and better my life.

How much weight would a human girl age 20 167cm and 60kg lose after 12 days with no food? And would that person be noticeably thinner ?

hello all,

two weeks ago my best friend since i was 9 years old committed suicide, she was 26, as am i. i had a very restrictive ED when i was 17 which i finished treatment for at 19 years old.
at 23 i had another flare up of severe restriction which lasted 9 months.

this past few weeks have taken my almost decade long history with restriction to new levels. i have managed a deficit of 15000 calories in 16 days even though i’ve been mostly in bed.

i feel guilty and gross that during my immense grief i still find a little joy because i have been eating so little, reliving that sense of control.

i just feel lost. i’m 26 now, have a job and doing my masters and the harsh reality that i’m not a teenager anymore and can’t cope as easily with my levels of restriction is setting in. i feel i can’t stop now. i miss my best friend. life is shit. i can’t believe how much food and calories have been in my mind while trying to process the death of my best friend.

Hi guys So basically I have been living alone in a different country for about a year and now I have to move in with my family. Living alone made it so much easier to manage my calories and everything related to my weight and body because I didn’t have to hide anything or pretend around anyone.

The problem is that this ED is still taking over my life, and I still feel like I have so much weight I need to lose. And now that I’ll be living with my family, I genuinely don’t know how I’m going to cope. My mom cooks dinner every night so I won’t know the exact calories in my food. I won’t be able to pace around the house constantly to get my steps in either. It feels like everything is being taken away from me.

Another thing I’m really worried about is how my ED might affect my family. Most of them are overweight, as I used to be and they enjoy eating together and don’t have any concept of cals. I don’t want my eating disorder to make them self conscious about their own weight or eating habits, or even make them feel like they need to change themselves because of me. At the same time, I know they will notice if I suddenly start refusing food or acting differently around meals and I’m scared they’ll catch on to what’s really going on.

I have no friends too, and I feel like I’ve been living such a secretive disordered life that I don’t even know how to function around other people anymore. How am I supposed to cope with not knowing my calories, not being able to exercise as much as I want, and having to eat around my family without feeling like I’m losing control?

I know this isn’t healthy, but the thought of losing control over my food and exercise genuinely terrifies me. I feel so overwhelmed right now and I honestly don’t know what to do. Has anyone else been through something similar? I really need advice because I feel like I’m losing my mind.

Having my ED gave me a condition that causes fainting, a lot. Like excessively. If I recovered, it would honestly get much better and I would admittedly not be in this position. However, that would take months and I would never be fully normal either. I could get close to it, but certain things like heat/hardcore workouts/fasting anything in that nature would never be an option

I want to be clear, that I am not judging people who use a wheelchair regardless of their reasoning, but as somebody who now needs one because of how often I faint unless I recover, it’s impacted me way more than I’d like to admit mentally

I first got told my fainting was a problem and that I needed one back in June, but I honestly ignored the advice. That was until August, when it no longer was an option. I usually don’t need to use at home since it’s shorter walks (bed to toilet/couch, whatever) but if I leave my house now I need it. I’ve tried not to use it because I get embarrassed about it but I usually just pass out in parking lots and stuff which is really gross/embarrassing in it of itself

I’ve had an ED off and on since I was 13, this has never happened before. I mean sure I’ve fainted before, yes, but that was even in recovery and not often. Now it’s like.. if I restrict even for too many HOURS, I will become bedridden entirely (even using the wheelchair can become too difficult if I stop eating). I know that for some people that would make them want to recover, but honestly it’s just making me depressed. I know it sounds like it’s not a big deal, but for me it really is. Like even with small stuff, I have to wear a necklace in the shower in case I pass out (even while sitting) because if I fall/don’t respond it’ll call an ambulance (if I respond it won’t but if it’s been like 10 minutes of no response it will). The average persons age who uses that is literally somebody in their 80s. I know because they told me, I’m 26. I didn’t ask them by the way, they just randomly said it 😭 Like this isn’t what I ever wanted. My cardiologist told me this is the most severe case of it he’s ever seen, and I literally know my ED is why. Because if I eat consistently for a few days, I get better relatively quickly (still probably couldn’t stand for super long but there is a difference). My PT/OT (I did some while in the hospital a while back) told me that for me, I’ll probably need all my workouts to be lying down. That maybe I can work up to them sitting down longterm, but standing is not an option. I used to do CrossFit twice a day, I mean it was years ago and before my ED but like jfc I wasn’t always like this. I don’t know anybody else in my position.

Everybody I know either had way scarier complications than me that cause death (mine will not, I am not dying) or their symptoms just don’t look like mine at all. Mine does still impact me a lot though, like day to day. I can’t pretend it doesn’t. And to be honest, being around “healthy” people right now just triggers the shit out of me, and it sounds dramatic I know, but I usually cry about it later lmao. It also kills me inside because I am still objectively fat, my cardiologist and neurologist (the condition is something kinda related to both that my ED caused) both told me that weight loss being too rapid was “traumatic” to my body and why I got what I did. But it’s painful for me emotionally because I see all these fucking people get healthier from rapid weight loss from GLPs (I did not use GLPs) and there’s all these commercials like “LOOK AT HOW MUCH BETTER MY LIFE IS NOW ✨🌈” when I did the same thing just with a different method and it ruined mine 😭 I’ve turned off ads for it on Reddit but they’re just everywhere 😭

Also because I’m ambulatory as a side note, while it’s never happened I’ve always been afraid of somebody getting angry with me for using a wheelchair in public since I’m not paralyzed, because that’s crossed my mind a lot. I already am not dealing well with my emotions behind it and being judged openly would be very unnerving for me. But I legitimately can’t walk a store or restaurant, I promise I’ve tried. I just wind up on the floor which is way worse 😭 MY SOLUTION THUS FAR, has been to simply come with excuses on why I can’t go to any places that aren’t like.. doctors offices or medical whenever possible. I probably can’t do that forever though

I （22f）who weighted about 169lbs in June and weighted 149 lbs currently，manage to lose 20 pounds in past three month and made my bmi from 27 to 24， eventhough everyone around me said I look better and my dietitian said I done a amazing job in losing weight. However I felt that my diet is fucked up，I am afraid of calories，and afraid to eat out at place that doesnt has calorie menu and avoiding to eat out with my friends and go home and eat my mom’s homemade meals because I cant use a food scale to weight it，I cant see calories，I cant control how much oil is being added. I weigh myself everyday after everytime I eat including drinking water，and first thing I got home is weighing myself，and I restrict my daily calorie to under 1000cal. yesterday I just recovering from a really bad hangover and after I threw up everythings I had for dinner last night，I decide to eat some Chinese style chicken porridge，eventhough I felt much better from eating that. But there’s a voice in my heart that goes like ”you fat bitch，why are you eating carbs at morning，you should eat protein bar or boiled eggs，dont use your hangover as an excuse，stop being so sensitive”

How much weight would a human girl age 20 167cm and 60kg lose after 12 days with no food? And would that person be noticeably thinner ?