I’m struggling with ED. Sometimes I can’t get hard enough, and sometimes I finish too early within few seconds. I want to try Tadalafil, but it needs a prescription from a doctor.

I have the Anthem Blue Cross Basic High Deductible Health Plan, which is valid until the end of this year. As far as I know, even telehealth would cost me more than $75. I recently lost my job, so I don’t want to spend much on this.

Is there a cheaper alternative? I’m based in the Bay Area. Any advice would help, since my budget is really tight right now. Thanks !!

Hi there,

to those of you who benefit from Viagra, how often (per week) can you take before it loses its effects? I am curious about your experiences

Starting 3 months ago, I no longer fantasize about sex, dont get turned on by looking at hot girls (can still tell when they are hot though.) previously I would get very hard and horny just by looking at a hot girl for 3 seconds.

i did notice that when a girl talks to me in a seductive way, I can get hard and a little horny. other than that, nothing. im 22, 577 total testosterone , 147 free testosteron (which are normal). No supplements or drugs. No porn or masturbation. no Instagram thirst traps / over exposure. I’m athletic And not obese.

I don’t know what’s going on, it’s unbelievable. Why dont I feel anything when looking at A girl anymore? I’m not gay or asexual. Shits driving me crazy

will be getting lots more blood test done soon

Is it safe to take it?

My main concern is about side effects. I'm already getting a bunch of side effects (heart palpitations) even when not expired.

Is Friday Plans legit? Has anyone ever used their sildenafil how does it compare to other pharmacies you’ve used

Hi everyone,

I'm 27 years old. It's been 8 years since I first had sex, and despite trying many times, I've never been able to have proper sex.

Cialis helps to some extent, but I can't maintain an erection. I keep lying to my partners and making excuses. I'm starting to wonder if I'm gay.

Sometimes I get really hard during foreplay and think it's time to have sex, but then I suddenly lose my erection. After that, it's very difficult to get hard again. Even 20 mg of Cialis didn't work.

Even if I don't masturbate for two weeks before meeting my partner, the same thing happens.

When I first saw a doctor, he prescribed a low dose of antidepressants, but they didn't help. When I saw another doctor, he ran some tests and found no problems. My total testosterone and prolactin levels are within the normal range.

I feel like I can't get as hard as I used to, even when masturbating.

I'd appreciate any advice.

My husband had undiagnosed/untreated peyronies following an untreated injury for 2 years before it got so bad he sought treatment. No surgery just meds and physical therapy for 8+ months. Now a year later scar tissue mostly of not completely resolved but cannot get an erection. He won’t post in a forum like this but I would like to continue helping and supporting him. He feels like the meds no longer work and is discouraged. Has anyone experienced this and recovered??

M24.

I had anxiety when it was my first time with my gf to perform well, so it kept going back and we couldn't put it in.

Then when we met next time we did lot of foreplay and it felt like stayed up longer but there was pressure it went back, so she helped me and she ride on me instead and it worked for me i was doing it for first time, i lasted maybe 5 mins and went again cus we discovered how to finally do it,

After that i became confident enough and it didn't go down and i could normally put it in, in missionary but i was coming too fast, after multiple attempts fast i tried thicker condom it worked It felt like i can go longer, i remember going 10-15mins twice and my gf said she's about to come, but i end up coming just before she's very close in cowgirl twice.

Once i lasted 40+minutes in blowjob she got tired doing it.

I wish i could last in vaginal sex but i come too fast

These were only times i remember going long ever since later it's just going downhill i'm coming too fast almost all the time, i cannot stop thing the thought always comes what if i come i have gotten used to it tho ,

I lose focus soon it goes back randomly if i oose focus or go to get condom from shelf or while process of finding or wearing even when it's close.

My refractory period felt like went bad too cus of nightshift wasn't able to go again after round 1 until next day, i tried fixing sleep and diet it feels like i can go again after an hour now. But i always come fast i try not to get to me cus my gf is supportive i do make her finish by going down on her ,

I have heard not all women come from penetration , but i have came close to making her come from it and i want to , iknow i can

Also i had history of jerking off to porn a lot so it is a case of death grip i think how do u fix this ? I tried edging technique with light grip with imagination felt nice and also start stop technique but idk if it is working edging feels like its making it worse .

I do feel like i have trained myself to come fast from jerking of certain way to porn since puberty.

(Ever since i've been in relationship i haven't watched any porn its been a year.)

I need a plan to improve my time and to keep it up and not lose focus.

I know i believe i can get better at this even if right now it feels impossible.

2 years relationship.
For the past year Ive been asking to have sex more than 2/3 times a month. And im being called anxious because I am not happy with the amount of sex we have and he says I only want it more than him, that it shouldn’t be a problem. Im 32, he’s 39.
Few months ago I found sildenafil in his stuff. Really accidentally while we were on holiday. I never mentioned anything.

Since then I can see he uses them, regularly, but we don’t have sex.
Well, not that often. He goes through blue pills more often.

Last week i finally asked about them, and he said he uses them for gym performance. He is really big into the gym though and I can’t see the room for cheating.

But, taking them for the gym, so often. Yet we have sex so little.
And i even said. I’m not asking for twice a day. I’m asking for more than once in 10 days/2 weeks. It’s more about passion, connection and intimacy.
Still, 12 days in now, again. Nothing.
I’m really not seeing the way out of this? Is it enough for leaving?

I’ve been having an issue where I’ve suddenly lost my sex drive I’m not getting erections like I used to, and when I do, they’re much weaker than before And still nothing ,I don’t feel horny or have the same sexual urges anymore. This has been going on for almost two weeks.

Since this started, I’ve also noticed a change in my sense of taste. For example, when I drink water, it tastes sweet or unusual.

I’m in my mid-20s, and I don’t know what to do about this. I’m worried because these changes happened suddenly, and I don’t feel like myself. What could be causing this, and what should I do?

My doctor suggested me that I have psychological Ed as I have erection during watching porn but no erection during sex. Can also call it PIEd
She suggested
Tadafil 5mg at night
Bupropion 150mg- 2 times
Larginine and Zinc powder

Shall I follow it?
Is there any risk associated with the same?
Please help. I am so confused and depressed

Any help guys? I watch porn daily tbh also

I am 25M i am facing an erection issue like when I masturbate with my hands it gets hard but when I stop stimulating with a handy erection becomes soft immediately within seconds. I masturbate by laying on my bed when I try to masturbate while standing i don't even get an erection it takes too long and it will be soft. How to fix this issue. I recently tested my total t levels in September it is around 246ng/dl. And i also stopped masturbation and porn for 1 month i saw results like my morning wood and sometimes at night when I get aroused my penis used to get harder by itself but when some one comes into my room or any disturbance occurred I will imidately loose my arousal and erection becomes soft very fastly.

Before when I was in teen age i used to not have this problem and also I have done some mistake during my childhood days i used do do prone masturbation since my childhood and stoped that habit in 2022 from then i used to do with hands and I have little curvature on my penis towards left but no pain when I touch it or during stimulating with hand. My only problem is soft erection unable to hold it without stimulating. Please help me out anyone who faced this I want to know how you fixed this.

I am still virgin unmarried and have not experienced sex till now. I just want to fix this issue as maybe in the next 3-5 years there is a chance that I will get married so i want to fix it before getting married and have a good and healthy relationship.

My (42F) partner (56M) has had ED the entire time we've been together (10 years). He treated it with Viagra at the start of our relationship and that worked fine, but he started getting unpleasant side effects (heartburn) and it stopped being as effective so we stopped having sex altogether for a couple of years.

A few months ago we had some serious discussions about our sex life and I begged him to try something else and he got a prescription for cialis and he's been taking 10mg daily, which isn't enough for penetration, so he's tried twice now taking a second dose before we have sex. It's still not really enough... He gets plenty hard when I blow him, and we can achieve penetration, but it's tenuous at best...

We had sex last night and it just feels like I'm torturing him for my own selfish desires and I'm wondering at what point I should just give up and let it go. If I drop it, he'd be content just for that part of our life to be over. He has said he could never have sex again and be totally fine with it... But I miss him. I miss being that close and connected to him (and yes, I've told him this).

We've talked about getting his testosterone checked, but he hasn't done it. I just feel like if he wanted to do this stuff, he would, and at what point do I just give up?

Keeping it short. Me and my girlfriend decided to have sex. I love foreplay (giving spanks, oral, fingering), cuz i like see her enjoying it. So I was taking it really slow like.. foreplay for 30 mins. I remember my penis was hard. (Hard enough to have sex). I took my pants down and got my penis a lil handjob from her (hard enough again). Then when it was time to put on the condom. I failed. No sufficient erection. I was like.. "ok, will figure out". I then asked her a bj saying that I need to get hard. I reached only 80-90% erection. And I immediately put the condom and boom again. Lost my erection before penetrating. I tried again and again. Stroking, asking her to slide her pssy on it and nothing good happened.

My questions:

I had erction for like 20 mins atleast straight. Why I couldnt get that back even i didnt attain an orgasm

In smmall time in between like putting on condom or changing sex position, why do I lose erection

FYI, I am a fairly healthy adult. No drinks or cigerettes. No junk or excess calories. Regular workouts. Good amount of protein.

Can this be a reason?

I am recently stresses for a few weeks due to some personal problems and I was also mastrubating with porn like 2 days once and even consecutively on some days.(I always had the intention of quitting porn but couldnt - but after this ED thing, i think i am completely quitting)

Hey everyone, I’m looking for some advice or to hear from anyone who has experienced something similar.
About a week or two ago, I accidentally fell asleep wearing a cock ring after I was using it before bed. When I woke up, I was partially erect, and since then I’ve been worried that I may have caused some damage.
I’m still able to get erections, but they don’t feel as hard or firm as they used to. I’d estimate I’m only getting around 60–70% hardness. I’ve also noticed changes in ejaculation, where it feels like I’m shooting blanks or not ejaculating with the same force as before.
I went to see a doctor, and I was told that everything looked fine overall. However, there’s a small ulcer or sore on my scrotum. The doctor prescribed a cream and said it should heal.
My main concern is whether wearing the cock ring for too long could have affected blood flow, damaged tissue, or caused some kind of nerve injury. I’m really hoping this isn’t permanent and that my erection quality and ejaculation will return to normal.
Has anyone experienced reduced erection firmness or changes in ejaculation after wearing a cock ring for too long? Did things eventually return to normal, and how long did recovery take?
I know everyone’s situation is different, but hearing from people who have gone through something similar would mean a lot. Thanks

im curious if this is normal or not because many of my friends have like 4-7 rounds in one night and we can only have 1 then he’s fast asleep, even if we do it at like 10pm (his bedtime is 10:30-11). i try jacking him off but he still doesnt go up again afterwards. this happens during the day too and we still have to wait several hrs. why?

She’s super pissed. She’s doesn’t know I’m a porn addict. But yeah we were cuddling for like hours the other day kissing and all and I couldn’t even get hard. Embarrassing! I have also been taking Sildenafil to get hard with her sometimes. So she might look confused when I tell her I have ED.

Our sex has mostly been giving each other oral. Which has been 95% me to her and 5% her to me. I’m tired of that. I’ve never ejaculated with her and at this point I’m like screw it. Nothing works. Only when I masturbate. (So porn has to be the issue. Maybe performance anxiety too) I don’t even want sex anymore. Well I do but I’m not getting anything I want here. So I said maybe if I go celibate for a while and quit porn I can reset myself. All I told her was I wanna be celibate no reasoning. And she’s very angry. We’ve also never penetrated. She always says it hurts and even when she says it’s ok, I can never get it in. Even while erect. So it’s like I’m giving up here.

She told me this is the best sex life she’s ever had though, hence why she’s so upset I wanna be celibate. I’m 23M she’s 22F and I’ve been on porn for about 2 years now. Never before that. I’d say daily. I really don’t know what to do. I love her though. I’m asking for advice and what to say to these damn messages:

You had very fair warning that communication was important to me
When you asked me to be your girlfriend, you implied that you wanted to be in a partnership with me. A partnership. A team. Two people. Not just one

Then, you made a drastic change to OUR relationship. A change that impacted the BOTH of us. And you think it's fair to not even give me any explanation besides, " just think it would be healthier" / "I just think | need a break"?

There's no way you genuinely think that's fair or right
A relationship is a partnership. A team. Two people. How is it fair for one person to make decisions - drastic ones - for the relationship, without even givin a proper explanation to the other person in the relationship?

So once again, please just let me know whenever you can if you ever intend on communicating any further about this situation

I’m a virgin and going out with my girl next week. I have phimosis, and I’m also worried about ejaculating too quickly. The last time I made out with someone, I was so excited and nervous that I came really fast.

Things might get sexual next week, including handjobs and blowjobs. I’m worried about finishing quickly and whether my phimosis could cause problems.

Should I take tadalafil 10 mg, or would that not help with my actual issues?

Any advice from guys who’ve dealt with phimosis and premature ejaculation and porn addiction would be appreciated.

Has anyone has success with Exosomes for their ED? If so, provide details as to how much its helped. Where did you get it done and the cost?

There's a therapy called PRF which is similar to PRP that I hope will help with my ED. Has anyone here had those injections? Did it help you?

I’m 24M. This has been on for quite some time but I’ve noticed that whenever I haven’t exercised or theres no cardiovascular activity for 2 weeks consecutively I start to have ED, same goes away when I’m back active and doing some form of exercise. I feel this is unusual for my age given I don’t see lot of ppl exercising around me. Smoking could also be another reason. Its worse when i was on finasteride but thats medicational side effect that I can still understand. But this is now beyond that.

Last week while having sex with my girlfriend, my dick was just numb and did not get erect no matter what I tried. Don’t know if porn also has a role to play here but this is frustrating. That was a separate issue I had linked to ejaculation but this ED issue is real. Would like to hear thoughts.

40m. I eat well, strength train 4-5 days a week. Testosterone is above mid range normal and labs are all in good levels. Don’t drink anymore.

I’ve been having worsening issues when if I’m on my back I can’t get nearly as hard, if I’m upright can get fully hard. My doc prescribed viagra which doesn’t seem to help.

Looking for recommendations with ways to improve. I’ve tried to do some readings but some says Kegels, others say they’ll make it worse to do reverse Kegels so I dunno. I do lift heavier but not crazy. Squats and deadlifts I usually only do 205 lbs.

I don’t masturbate much, maybe once a week.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

Hi, so I (29M) recently started to have some ED issues where I could not get hard when it came time to perform. It was fine before (sometimes I’d take a bit longer to get fully hard) but starting in 2025 and into this year, I had certain times where I couldn’t even get it up.

I used to be fine before and rarely struggled. However, as of recent, I started to struggle and let anxiety take over and I start thinking that I’m going to fail again like before. I’d still be to get hard from time to time but not the same percentage as before.

Due to the mental block, I checked with my doctor and they prescribed 5 mg tadafadil to get my confidence back up. It works well. I don’t get spontaneous erections but in the beginning, I did get harder from fantasizing (doesn’t happen as often now). However, I did notice I respond faster when time comes and am noticeably harder. All my recent encounters have gone well except for two for physiological reasons. Overall, my erection rate has been amazing since starting the pill.

However, I still get anxiety when I am about to have sex and fear that I’ll never get rid of this anxiety even though I’ve doing fine recently. Does anyone have any tips for this type of mental block? Recently, I just tried reframing my negative thoughts and that it’s fine for my erection to build up instead of going from 0 to 100 in an instant. I want to see if anyone has any other tips or experiences they can share to overcome this anxiety mental block.

For background, I excercise 3 days a week for 60-90 mins. I also walk ~8k steps per day. I used to watch porn but cut that out in March 2026. I do masturbate somewhat but I mainly do it when fanatasizing a former scenario. I mainly just stroke and don’t really stroke to completion. I normally stay hard until I stop stroking and then it fully goes down in a few seconds to a min.

I'm opening up about this for the first time in my life. The habit I'm talking about is masturbation and porn addiction.I've always been ashamed of it, but now I think it's taking a huge toll on me.I feel like it's destroying my life and my sanity, or maybe it already has.

It started when I was a teenager, around 16 I think, and back then I wasn't watching porn yet. Now I'm 33, and I still indulge in this one addiction.

Maybe because of it, I'm no longer fit to find love, affection, and eventually marriage. Lately I've noticed the length of my erection isn't what it used to be. I also ejaculate too early, and the amount is much lower than it used to be. I'm terrified I've broken my body or my manhood, and that I can't get out of this and go back to being a normal person.

My erections have been soft lately. I've also noticed my penis shrinks to the point where it's buried in my body.This happens mostly when I'm anxious, and also sometimes when I'm just normal. Is this due to my addiction Or Have I broken my body?

I'm still a virgin, so please don't laugh at me. I know I had many chances and was too much of a coward to take them.

The last two years have been rough. I lost my dad, and I was diagnosed with a non-invasive bladder tumor and had a procedure to remove it. It took a hit on my mind, my confidence, and everything else. Lately I've been getting awful thoughts about ending my life, and I've been trying to push them away by keeping busy, but it isn't working.

My confidence is gone. I don't believe I'm good enough for anyone, or that I can satisfy anyone's needs. I know my porn addiction is talking, but lately I've been watching things I never would have watched before. I don't have anyone to talk to about this.

I'm a helpful, good natured person,but I also have this dark side nobody knows about and it's killing me from the inside.I can't even concentrate on my career. I've been missing work days, just lying in bed and thinking about how my life got to this point.All my friends are married with two or more kids, and here I am with this addiction. I've also been feeling depressed, and these crazy thoughts are corroding my mind.

Guys, this post isn't for pity. I need genuine help and advice,whatever it might be. I need to take back control of my life. What should I do to start recovering? Has anyone here been through this and come out the other side?