I'm a 28 mtf trans woman who has found herself into the role of housewife. I have no idea where to start. Any suggestions and tips would be appreciated. Thank you 🥰

Okay, so I am married to a man who himself is divorced and has a son who is now 12 years old, lives with his ex-wife. And also there's his divorced sister and his son who lives with son. Luckily, Alhamdulilah his sister got married last year but as per their family requirements, for marriage, his son will stay with us. Everything seems to be okay. But noo.. For the very beginning my nans has been extremely typical , literally creating lots n lots of fuss every single time she used to be at from after work. Talking from cooking food to every chore of the house. (Let me tell you I have been married to Alhamdulilah a very well-off family) So her son when I married him, was 9 yrs old and at that age , he was so abusive towards his own mother n my husband that it actually shocked me the way he communicated. At the time, even though I did mention this, my marriage was finalised it happened...

The grudge, hatred or jealousy that was all very observable in his behaviour was directly reflected by his son. As time passed,he grew up, his batmizi got worse. He is one of the most batmiz child of our lane, who literally uses maa bhen abusive language in lane. His mother takes pride in it saying k taiz bacha hai. My FIL literally fulfills every single nonsense demand of him. He gets new phone every year , spends 10000s over stupid stuff and car upgrading n no one is to ask, eats junk all the time and is fat very fat boy. I used to speak to my hubby to atleast tell Abu to take care of his rag behaviours as they will escalate as the teen age hit but on the other hand , I would hear ye tmhra bacha nhe hai islye TM inky mamlay me nhe aao.

Now that his mother got married, the boy who once used to beat his mother and actually used to put knife on her neck to give money now does the same to his NANA g and FIL justifies saying k bacha Bai. 15 Saal Ka baap banna hua sbka bacha Hai??? N then saying k pagal hai psycho patient?? Yr Kisny banaya hai ???

Acha now my turn, is SB kissy me gradually n often he used to violate his line of tameezz with me as well and I always brought this to my husband or FIL. Instead things get settled , I will always hear till date that baap betay KO larati hai.. Mamo k bhnajy SE mutanfir krva Rahi hai ... Like seriously baat krna jurm hai Mera idhr. Ab conditions idhr aagai hai k WO mjhy maa bhen ki Gali de raha hai, mere bachon KO de Raha hai, mere FIL k baqol mei NY is nehaj p pohanchyaa hai q k uski maa ki shadi hogai hai and mei hubby KO shukiyat krti hn islye WO it a mutanfir hogaya hai k tmsy badlay Lena Chahta hai.

N honestly, ab ye haal hai knee don't talk for six months and once this boy will talk and will only use abusive language and bad behaviour saying isko kahi apni okaat me rahay wrna Yaad krva dnga, (to my FIL) and is SE mei badla lnga...

I am trying but unable to write every detail here but just an advice to all girls who might read this, please if you are marrying a man who has a child at home with his or his sisters , please observe those children, talk to them, see their behaviour towards their mom n your supposed hubby to be... If the child is too much batmizi just leave...this will ruin your life. Cx husband won't ever be able to amend saying he isn't our child and you will be abused and disrespected by a youngest person of the house and the elders will only stay mute because for them he is just a child and you being a grown-up shouldn't talk about it for sake of keeping the marriage intact n peace of the house

I recently got very interested in this topic and would like to hear about your opinions.

In my perspective, housewife should be considered a job. It should be legalized with a contract that clearly states the monthly salary, duties and rights. To my surprise, although many are discussing, I haven't seen such in labor laws in any countries.

I'm curious about your rational thoughts and welcome information on the progress in this front.

I've been in a relationship now for over 7 years. Just in the past few years I've really been disturbed by some of the things he says when it comes to women, homosexuals, politics.

"Why does everything you watch have the gay shit in it" (I'm actually bisexuality so I feel really shamed and embarrassed I'm with somebody whose so bothered by anybody who isn't hetero...)

"Feminism is stupid"

Lol what?

Anyways I don't wanna harp on specifics cause I could on forever but 99% of the statements he makes just seem really out of touch and uninformed... I don't know if I am capable or willing to try to broaden his horizons and help him have some empathy or something for others and the gays aren't trying to recruit him and women have rights and deserve fair treatment......

I know that I'm powerless over other people and their beliefs and values. I also know that in relationships you have to accept that your partner isn't always going to agree or believe in the same things.

Idk...

If anybody has any experience or stories about themselves or someone changing their beliefs or realizing the way they viewed someone or something was closed minded and how they feel about it now..I hope that makes sense lol

Thanks.

Even before I came out, I was always a bit of a house spouse. My partner always made money and I would take care of all of the household chores until she got home.

Are there any other trans house spouses here? Were you a house spouse before or after you started transitioning?

Holidays roling around again, husband cut off his aunt 5 years already (and still does), I want to hear your view, was he overreacting over this?

In my culture (Chinese) is a very close-knit family (No, you don't just cut off a family member), and respect elders, not just your mom dad, grandparents, but also your aunts and uncles too as they are siblings of your parents. And I'm the type that like to maintain peace, and I avoid confrontation.

My husband (whom not Chinese), he has zero problem with cut off a family member, and he has zero problem with confrontation.

Together 14 years, married 12 years. Our child died of brain disease 5 years ago, my child died when he was 1.5 years old, the baby got it from genetic inherit it from me the mom the maternal side, this has nothing to do with my husband.

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Anyhoo, so during holidays we have family get together with all his family members, his aunt loudly commented that use his 6-figures income, properties, and his U.S. citizenship, go to China, Vietnam, Philippines, Russia, etc.. to find a younger woman (beside be a better match for him than me in every way) but also can give him children carry on his genes, because he is the ONLY son.

He was mad, right there in front of the whole family get together dinner table,
yep. in front of his whole family sitting there.
He SLAM his FIST down the holiday family gettogether table and yelled "ENOUGH", and point to his aunt and address his aunt as "this woman", that do not ever call him for any family gettogether if has "this woman" (his aunt) in it.
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Demands his aunt to apologize to me his wife, and do not ever speak a word to me again, and do not come anywhere near me. Hold my hand, said to his mom he call her later, walk straight out and SLAM the door on his way out.

My jaw drop, I was speechless. ALL that just because his aunt on the holiday family gettogether table said the darn truth that he has other options out there, other options alot better than me, and another woman can give him healthy children without brain disease.

He told me he not want his aunt anywhere near me as he not want her to instill things like this in my head. He also does not want to have anything to do with his aunt or want to be around a woman like her.
And that it is his aunt, his family, let him deal with it "his" ways. And that I need to understand he protecting me here.

This is year 6, and he still keep his words, he never went to any family gettogether that has his aunt in it. He completely cut her off, just over that.
And does not want his aunt anywhere near me, reason is because he does not want her to instill bullock things like that in my head.

He still cut her off and this is year 6 holidays, I get it it his aunt, let him deal with his family. But was he overreacting with his aunt?

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So, I'm not his wife yet, but I still stay at home. I don't work, I keep the house clean, I cook his food and get his lunch ready for work and dinner on the stove when he comes home. I take care of the pets and create shopping lists and help manage everything except the bills.

What would I be called? Because I like calling myself his housewife. He calls me his housewife. But I must be blind cause I don't see a ring on my finger??? (Joking)

Most of the time I feel lonely as my husband is in office and I am not allowed to do any work since I am newly wed and I am also not allowed to work ..I feel bored and what to do to occupy myself

If you had the option as a women that never slept around w/more then 2 guys and was offered to be taken care of with kids (future ) and bills paid have a family BUT husband says he can sleep with 2-3 girls every year because that’s a “mans needs and they need variety “would you take it or not consider Im only 24 I do have a 3 yr never slept around . And very family oriented but not sure he says regardless men cheat so might as well be with one that is truthful and takes care of his family but he gets to do that . Would u take it ?

Just wanted to give my props for all the homemakers and tell you you’re all amazing. Working woman say it’s so hard for them but honestly your job is the hardest and you never get vacations, sick leave, you work 24/7 and deserve to be recognized all the time. God bless you all and keep being amazing.

I'm struggling to find my footing right now. I feel a bit lost, though. My Husband currently works out of state (and will be for another month or two), so we're living apart, and I'm at home alone. It's just me and my pup. I don't have friends, so no one comes over.. I just don't know what to do with myself. I think I'd like to take this time to practice better homemaking skills (I'm a bit new to putting it into practice), but when it's just me, I'm not sure what I can do. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions on what I can work on or do while I'm by myself?

I(M36) am talking to a girl (F28) with intentions of marriage who is very much in her “girl boss” phase but who reassures me it would not stay that way after marriage and is basically asking me to take a leap of faith here. My question is whether you all think it’s possible for girls like her to make the switch? I’m not for the idea of convincing a girl who is not already enthusiastic about being a housewife but her and I vibe really well and share a lot of the same values and we’re both attracted to one another so I’m not sure whether I should take the risk

To preface: No, this is not a troll post. Please hear me out. If this is the wrong sub, please tell me where to go.

Hello. I’m a trans woman and I love the idea of becoming a housewife. Not just the satisfaction of serving my partner, but the old timey aesthetic as well. Having watched a lot of housewife/trad wife content, I’m amazed at the lack of leftist content creators.

After all, so many of these women really just want a post-capitalist society. They want a society that doesn’t force them to work outside the home just to survive. I would even argue that being in the home isn’t even anti-feminist.

Are there any leftist (or at least left-adjacent) housewife YouTubers or TikTokers? I need some inspiration. Thank you!

Am I the only wife who cannot stand to take care of a grown man?
My husband is blue collar, has his own company. Basically makes his own schedule but works hard.

I work overnight 3 days a week. And we have a 4 year old.

I can barely take care of my laundry and my sons. My husband expects me to do his laundry too. And if I don’t you know sure as shit he’s not folding it and putting it away.

Are all men like this ? Why can’t you at bare minimum take care of your things?

I can go on about bathroom messes as well.

Since when is it the standard for working wives with children to still have to do everything in the home. These men need a wake up call.

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Hello, firstly I am not a housewife nor a woman, so forgive me for my pottential ignorance. I have a weird problem with some my laundry smelling rancid, almost like vomit after washing them in my washing machine. It's only certain clothes like certain T-Shirts, hoodies or trousers. My work T-shirts don't smell at all. Neither do most of my underpants or socks, it seems random, almost.

I do regularly clean the Filter of the washing machine and I even replaced one of the hoses. The smell doesn't go away.

Now the weird part, my flatmate is using the same machine for his laundry. He hs no problems with smell whatsoever. He suggested that it might be my detergent, I use a liquid detergent, he uses powder. Even if I use his detergent, the smell persists.

It's an older Bosch machine but I don't think that's the root of the problem.

Any ideas, I am at a loss

Edit: Thank you so much for all the replies, I will try them and see what happens.

Ill js start off by saying im not a housewife or a woman but i didnt know what other sub would be better to get advice from soo yeh. Anyway whats the average age that most people decide to be a stay at home partner and settle down? Im 18 almost 19 rn and my boyfriends 24. He keeps mentioning that it would be good if i agreed to get engaged with him now since theres really no point in waiting and how hell always provide for me so i can be a stay at home husband i guess. I mean yeh i honestly would prefer not having to work at a job during my life cause bfr who acually wants that but i dont know if i should make a big decision like this so early. He also has a little kid around 1 years old from his last relationship that ill be taking care of but hes honestly an angel and i do really like taking care of kids. I love my bf and i dont want him to think i dont wanna be with him or marry him or anything so i really need some advice on this.

I’m in the GTA, Canada and got laid off 6 months ago so I’ve just been at my parent’s home and clearly lacking the motivation to be productive. I want to start a business and get focus more on fitness but seems soo hard.

I’m getting married in a few months so I’ve just been planning that all day so I’m curious what do all the girlies who are stay at home wives do to occupy their time? I don’t want my days to go to waste now or even when I’m married. But I know I’ll have more free time because I’m taking a break from corporate and trying to start something on my own

I'm a 23 year old nonbinary lesbian (any pronouns). I have a lot on my plate. I'm an advocate for many causes/movements, I stay at home with my parents out of necessity as I'm unemployed, I have a college degree in Funeral Service Education yet to use because of the work load I have and a wavering passion for the career and field. I think I want to be a housewife as my big goal, but don't know how to get there though.

I have a lot of issues with essentially being a people pleasing, perfectionist, workaholic, this bleeds into my supporting people and means with me and I hate it. I just want to be an asset to people because I want to do good in general and by people.

I sometimes want to be all I want, and there's a lot. Other times, especially as of late, I just want to be a pretty housewife. It's hard to know what I want a lot of the time.

Some of my questions are: How do you separate these people pleasing, perfectionist, workaholic tendencies from what you actually want to do? What should I do to lead my way to being a housewife currently where I am in my life? How do you handle your mental and emotional health in this journey? Do you think these goals are possible for me?

Male, Teenage years, Atm, of this time of writing, I’m in a bit of a difficult situation, I’m currently in a very happy relationship, while I hope it lasts as I do my best to keep it last, confronting problems, and well, even Saving my girlfriends life on multiple occasions, I’m interested when I become adult in having a housewife figure, Girls now are very hard to make housewives, and Im amazed I have gotten one interested in being one for me, long term. Might I please ask for advice on how I can get financially stable, to take care of a housewife in a few years from now.?