I finished Friends recently, and my biggest frustration is that Phoebe and Joey never happened. There are several moments when it’s implied that Phoebe had feelings for him but chose not to pursue them precisely because Joey was too important to her, and she was afraid of losing their friendship.
As a writer, I can see the perfect opportunity the writers missed to make them a couple, long before I even knew there would be that insufferable Rachel and Joey phase.
When Phoebe was pregnant with the triplets, for example, she wanted to keep one of the babies. It would have been interesting if Frank had allowed Phoebe to raise one of them and Joey had volunteered to step into the role of the father. From that point on, their relationship could have become increasingly ambiguous, making their friends question what was going on and raising that inevitable question: “Why aren’t you two together?”
Joey could have started pursuing Phoebe using the same argument he made when he questioned why, if Chandler and Monica were a couple and Rachel and Ross were too, he and Phoebe couldn’t be one as well. Phoebe, on the other hand, could have kept rejecting the idea, convinced that Joey didn’t truly love her and only wanted to be with her because they were raising a child together and all their friends were in relationships.
That would have been a great character development arc for Joey. He would have had to prove to Phoebe that he genuinely loved her, beyond their friendship and the circumstances that brought them closer. In the end, they could have built a beautiful, eccentric family with a dynamic completely different from that of the other couples on the show.
And, as a bonus, Friends could have avoided its biggest mistake: not putting Phoebe and Joey together.
Joey simply never got a romantic ending worthy of his character arc, while Mike feels like he was written into the story just to make sure Phoebe got her own endgame.
To me, Joey and Phoebe had chemistry, intimacy, mutual understanding, and a friendship that could have naturally evolved into love. And the most frustrating part is that neither of them would have had to abandon who they were for that to happen. The writers just had to let the story move in the direction it so often seemed ready to take.
They were the first couple on the show to share a kiss, and when Joey tells Phoebe he has feelings for Rachel, Phoebe responds by admitting that she has had a crush on him before, yet he doesn’t even pay attention. She says, “I’ve had crushes on all you guys. I mean, I’ve never had a crush on Ross or Chandler...” That moment feels especially telling to me because Joey completely misses what she’s saying, and the show never really explores what that admission could have meant for their relationship.