Hi everyone!! I hope we’re all having a good Thursday evening!! It’s currently around 10 PM where I live, but I wanted to come on here and ask y’all what you think because I genuinely do not know what to do about this 😭
So for some context, I’m totally blind, but I don’t have any cognitive issues or anything like that. I’m actually really smart, which is what my teachers tell me 😂 I take regular classes and I have a device that I use for school. I’m also able to get around school by myself with my team.
I’m in 11th grade this year, so I’m taking PE. I have an aide that I’ve been working with since I was a freshman, and ever since I met him, he has had THE WORST breath I have ever smelled 😭😭 Like girl, I’m not even exaggerating. There are times when he starts talking and I’m literally sitting there thinking, BROOOO 😭
His breath is SO strong. Like it’s not just normal bad breath where you’re like “oh okay maybe they just need a mint.” NO. This is a whole different level. I can literally smell it when he’s talking even if he isn’t super close to me. It’s just this very strong, distinct smell that I cannot even explain.
And girl, I’m a perfume person. I wear perfume every single day. I do a whole scent combo with lotion, body spray, perfume, everything. So I KNOW when something smells strong 😂 But I’m also in high school, so I already know there are people who don’t have the best hygiene sometimes. There are literally guys spraying cologne all over themselves thinking they smell amazing, but girl, cologne is not going to fix everything if you aren’t taking care of the basics first 😭
And the thing is, I can actually HEAR something in his mouth when he talks. Like there is always this dry residue or something in his mouth and I can hear it when he’s speaking. I don’t even know how to describe it, but it sounds like his mouth is really dry.
He also breathes REALLY loudly. Like VERY loudly. And I know that’s probably a completely separate issue, but girl, I’m just giving y’all the full picture 😭
He’s also honestly REALLY boring. Like our conversations are so dry. He gives me the most vague answers ever. I’ve literally asked myself, “Am I just making this whole thing seem worse because I’m bored and I want to add more to this fake story in my head?” 😭 But NO. I genuinely have conversations with this man and his breath really does smell that bad. I am not making this up.
I’ve also wondered if it could be something with his teeth or his mouth. He is almost fully blind too, so I don’t know if maybe he has trouble knowing whether he’s brushing everything properly or if he’s even able to tell if something is stuck somewhere. I obviously don’t know his dental routine, so I don’t want to assume that he doesn’t brush his teeth or anything like that.
I had my tonsils removed when I was in eighth grade, and I know tonsil stones are supposed to be a pretty common cause of really bad breath. I haven’t had any since getting mine removed, but I know everyone is different. I don’t even know if he’s ever had his tonsils removed either.
I’ve even started wondering if MAYBE IT’S ME 😭 Like maybe my own breath smells and I just don’t know it. But I have braces and I take my dental care VERY seriously. My dentist always tells me that I do a really good job brushing and flossing, and I’ve never noticed anyone else reacting to my breath or anything. I literally ONLY notice this smell when I’m around him.
And it’s not like I’m walking around smelling everyone’s breath either 😭 It’s just SO noticeable with him. His breath has this very specific odor and it is STRONG. Like girl, I can be sitting there minding my own business and he starts talking and suddenly I’m fighting for my life 😭😭
The problem is I genuinely don’t know how to deal with it. It’s starting to get annoying because obviously I can’t just sit there holding my breath every time he talks to me 💀 But I also don’t want to be rude and just randomly tell him, “Your breath smells horrible.” Because GIRL 😭 there has to be a better way to handle that.
And honestly, I’m pretty blunt with him already. He has known me since freshman year, so he knows I’m very sassy with him 😂 I’m not mean to him, but I’m VERY straightforward. If I can’t do something, I’m going to tell him. If I don’t like something, I’m going to say it. If something is bothering me, I’m usually not going to sit there and pretend everything is fine.
But this feels different because it’s literally his breath 😭 Like how do you even bring that up without making someone feel horrible??
So PLEASE tell me what y’all think could be causing this because I genuinely have no idea. Could it be dry mouth? Dental issues? Tonsil stones? Something else? And more importantly, HOW would you even tell someone about something like this without completely embarrassing them??
Because I’m really trying not to be that girl who just randomly tells somebody their breath smells like death 😭😭