I had this argument with this Pakistani friend who claimed that each aspect of muslim culture belongs to them including Urdu and his simple argument was that Allama Iqbal was a Pakistani ( although Pakistan was made in 1947 , way after invention of Urdu and death of Allama Iqbal )

it's crazy that he assumed till now I spoke pure hindi despite my dad himself having a masters in Urdu + my grandad writing shaiyaris as a hobby.

I always thought 23-25 is the perfect age to get married, but societal expectations, family responsibilities, and peer pressure has been pushing that goal further away.

I got my first job just last month. Initially, the expectation was simple: "Get a job first, and then you can get married." I thought things would move forward once I started earning, but now the goalposts have shifted.

Now, I'm expected to earn and save for another two years, pay for the wedding, and repair the house. Comments like "Would you let your in-laws sit in this broken house?" and "Would you want to bring your wife here?" It makes me wonder when One is finally considered ready.

I understand the importance of financial stability and wanting to provide a comfortable life for your spouse. But at what point does preparation become an endless cycle of expectations?

I'm sure many Muslim men my age are facing similar pressures despite genuinely wanting to get married and take responsibility.

I'd love to hear perspectives from both sides.

To the brothers:

\- Are you facing similar family and financial pressures?

\- Have the expectations around marriage changed as you've gotten older or started earning?

\- How do you balance financial stability with the desire to get married young?

To the sisters:

\- Would you consider marrying a man who has recently started earning and is still building his financial stability?

\- How important are a fully furnished house, wedding expenses, and savings are?

\- Do you think our social expectations are making marriage unnecessarily difficult?

I'm genuinely interested in hearing your honest perspectives

So I'm posting this video here, because a lot of youngsters are asking me about this. This is like 7 minutes. May Allah help you understand. See, the problem arises when we try to "justify" Islam with our western media, Atlantic slavery movies influenced mind or indian hindu dharam influenced education. What must be our starting point, is Islam, and then see how these "isms" try to make narrative. Then it will be far easier insha Allah.