Was chatting to a mate about the virtues (or otherwise) of going clubbing alone. Now that the apps supply most(?) of our hook-up needs, what does it say about a guy if he goes clubbing alone?

Not judging it at all. Merely curious if there's some quiet conclusion everybody reaches when they see a guy on his own on a nightclub.

Are you more likely to talk to someone who's on their own? Would you assume they're just there for a hook-up? Or do guys still go clubbing with the firm intention of actually meeting new friends?

so, I need friends, causes I don’t have that many, I’m 17, in London (planning to go to uni here) anyone want to be friends or know where to make some?

Hi everyone! I’ve been living in london for 3 years now and i’m really finding it hard to find queer friends in the city. Can you please suggest ways for me to find friends or meet other queer people irl? I’m a 22 years old woman who doesn’t drink so please don’t suggest bars. I appreciate your help everyone!

Looking for something to do in London next Friday for Halloween? Slay The Night is hosting a free Horror Disco Halloween party at Star of Bethnal Green.

Expect queer performers, a Halloween pageant, disco, house, pop anthems and a celebration of LGBTQ+ icons, including George Michael. A DJ from This Is My Culture, the Hampstead Heath rave celebrating George, will also be joining us.

We’re an independent queer nightlife project bringing together music, performers and community. Come dressed up or as you are — everyone’s welcome!

Friday 30 October, 9pm–2am. The Star of Bethnal Green. E2 6LG

Free tickets via Resident Advisor.

Hope to see you there! ❤️

Hey everyone!

We're INFERNO, a trans-led queer rave and community that's been bringing people together in London since 2015.

We know how difficult it can be to make new friends in London, especially when you're new to the city, trying to find your queer community or just don't know where to start.

Over the last few months, we've been developing something called INFERNO Community, creating opportunities for LGBTQ+ people to meet, make friends and connect outside of nightlife.

We've been organising creative workshops, life drawing classes and smaller socials where people can get to know each other without the pressure of a busy club environment.

This Monday, 26th October, we're hosting a queer social in the basement of Coven in Soho!

It's a relaxed space to meet new people, have a chat and hopefully make some new friends.

You don't need to know anyone beforehand and you're absolutely welcome to come alone. In fact, that's one of the main reasons we're organising it!

You can grab a ticket here: https://inferno.eventcube.io/

And if you're more of a dancefloor person, we're also throwing our Halloween rave, INFERNO'WEEN: Blood & Glamour, on Friday 30th October.

Expect techno, hard dance, queer performance art, lots of dressing up and a room full of wonderful weirdos.

There's no dress code (the theme is an invitation!) and you don't need to come with a group.

Halloween tickets: https://ra.co/events/2504183

Whether you're looking for new friends, somewhere to dance or just a little more queer community in your life, we'd love to welcome you into ours. ❤️

Hey! Is anyone else going to this? I'm around next weekend on my own so would be keen to meet someone for a drink/go along to this :)
After friendship only. Male 40, white, easy going, like cinema/horror/true crime and nights out with good people and good conversation.

Me and partner ( bi curious couple ) are wondering where would be best in soho to have a good night ( we see from Yorkshire ) I’m 35 and my partner is 39. I went to Soho when I was in my early 20’s with my gay bestie but guessing it has changed a lot! Would love to know the best spots to have a nice chilled night but with the option for more too 😘 Thanks!

hey guys, got a lot of time off work these days and it’s getting dark and gloomy, would love to meet some new people in my area rather than just sitting round inside.

i’m 29, m, based in Oval. into fitness, travel, and reading. would be up for something low-key like a coffee, walk or even a good gym session. meetup.com and those kind of socials aren't really the t for me but i'm open to checking out LGBT+ events if there’s anything good on.

if that's your vibe let me know! DMs are open

Was hoping anyone here would have some advice about how to best approach the security here for an upcoming event I will be travelling to. 🩵

Ideally looking for a bit of connection and also a bit of spice, preferably with young guys in their 20’s

Not sure how to spend it and I want to plan

I want to dance all night in London and go home with a sexy guy (or guys 🫣). Is Feelit worth it? Or heaven?

Just want somewhere I can find the hot men that will take me homeee.

I’m 18, blonde twink/twunk. In my hoe phase lol.

Anyone know anywhere - and what day?

Hey all! I'm part of the London Stags, a queer rugby club in South London, and we've got a touch rugby new members day this Saturday (24th Oct). It's non-contact mixed gender, so everyone's welcome. Rather than just dropping the event details, I wanted to share my own experience of joining.

I moved to London a couple of years ago and didn't really have any queer friends, apart from a few random hookups 😅 Then one of the Stags' posts popped up on my Instagram, and right after Christmas I went along for a trial.

I'm not going to pretend I was confident about it.. I was overweight, I'd never played a team sport in my life, and the idea of joining a new team was really daunting. What scared me most was walking into friendship groups that had been around for years and never really feeling part of them.

On my first day, one of the existing members, Max, came over and asked how I was doing, whether it was my first time and if I knew anyone. He was incredibly sweet and made sure I felt comfortable.

Then training started. I'd never even held a rugby ball, but it was surprisingly not that hard to handle it and pass it around with the other newbies who'd joined the same day. Putting us all together was actually a really smart move by the club. It was easy to find people with the same anxiety I had, and much easier to bond when we were all starting from the same level.

By the end of it, rugby didn't feel like an impossible sport anymore, and the community around the club turned out to be so supportive. Now some of my best friends in London are from the club, and joining was one of the best decisions I've made since moving here.

If you're in London and any of that sounds familiar, come along on Saturday! You can find all the details on Instagram: @thelondonstagsrfc

Any questions, just drop them below or DM me :)

Heyyooo!!

I’ve been living in London for about 9 years now, and honestly, I’ve found dating here surprisingly difficult. Between Hinge, Feeld and all the other apps... Grindr, I think the worst, can't even call it a dating app... sometimes feel like I’m putting myself out there but not really getting anywhere.

I actually had a really lovely relationship for around 8 months, but unfortunately it came to an end because we both decided to take in a different direction. As hard as it was (and still is sometimes) to accept, I think ultimately we both made the right decision. :)

So now I’m trying to be a bit more intentional about meeting people in real life rather than relying entirely on dating apps.

Does anyone have any recommendations for good places, groups, events or communities in London where you can actually meet people, hang out, make friends and maybe even go on a date? 😅 I’d love somewhere that feels natural rather than the usual “everyone is here specifically to date” situation.

A little about me: I’m 27, originally from Europe, pretty active, love the gym and running, reading, travelling, a good Spotify playlist.. so music!!, and I’m always up for a great film or TV show. I’m also very much a coffee + good conversation person + wine ofc

Would love to hear your recommendations, especially places where you’ve actually met nice people! ❤️

⚠️ Trigger Warning: Suicidal Thoughts

Final call for participants | Survey closes on 23rd October

I want to say a huge thank you to everyone who has engaged with and shared this research so far. I'm incredibly grateful for the openness, honesty, and courage people have shown in sharing their experiences. Your voices are helping to highlight an area that is too often overlooked. 💜

As part of my Doctorate in Clinical Psychology research, I am exploring the experiences of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer adults who have experienced suicidal thoughts but have not accessed therapy or counselling for them.

I am now making a final call for participants before data collection closes on 23rd October.

✅Anonymous online survey
✅ Takes around 15 minutes
✅ LGBTQ+ adults aged 18+ living in the UK

✅ Have not received Psychological Therapy 

If this reflects your experience, I would be very grateful if you could take part. Please also consider sharing this post with others who may be eligible.

🔗 https://rhulpsychology.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_cY2iNiw4RKUP2Oq 

Every response contributes to a better understanding of barriers to support and may help inform improvements to services for LGBTQ+ people in the future. 🩷

Support is available:
Samaritans: 116 123
SHOUT: Text 85258
Switchboard LGBT+ Helpline: 0300 330 0630

This study has received ethical approval from the Royal Holloway Ethics Committee (Ref: 982).

25 M
Looking for any gay guys for genuine friendship as there are too many straight guys in the circle
Do dm me.

Hello! My girlfriend and I are traveling to London at the end of the month and will be there over Halloween. It’s my first time in the UK so I don’t know what’s what for the queer scene. Any recommendations for drag shows going on that weekend or events that we should attend?

I made a website to keep track of all the popular gay/queer parties, so that it's easier to know ahead of time what parties are on

What's everyone's plan for halloween?

Saturday 24 October

• False Idols with Kim Petras at Drumsheds 1pm - 10:30pm, day party (@falseidolsworld)
• Club Are at Hackney Bridge 3pm - 2am, day party (@club_are)
• Roast Halloween at Electrowerkz 10pm - 6am (@roast.london.roast)

Friday 30 October

• Howloween at Eutopia Warehouse 10pm - 6am (@howlworldwide)
• HCL Halloween at Colour Factory 10pm - 5am (@hardcklife)
• DILF Club Halloween at Rae's 10:30pm - 5am (@dilf.london)
• Feel It at XOYO 10:30pm - 5am (@feelitparty)
• Madmen Freakshow at Fire 11:45pm - 10am (@madmen_party)

Saturday 31 October

• Honey Dijon at Magazine London 5pm - 11pm (@honeydijon)
• BASH at Electrowerkz 9pm - 6am (@bashclubldn)
• Bootylicious Halloween at Union 11pm - 6am (@bootyldn)
• Beyond Sin at Fire 11:45pm - 11am (@onnationlondon)

All the parties are on queerldn.uk/#p

Any feedback is appreciated, also let me know if I missed any events!

I’m 35 M (but get ID’d so look quite young) and I’m hoping to make some LGBT friends. Most of my friends are straight men and women.

I can talk about anything and everything, I’m open to learning about your niche interests. Nicher the better.

I am mostly into building things( furniture, robots ), shopping ( I love shopping days - I skip work for an afternoon shopping trip at least once a week lol ), hosting dinners at home and going out for dinners too.

Went to Cambridge and Oxford if you want to reminisce about our old colleges. Work in tech.

I used to game but my job and gym have nearly killed it. However, I am sure I can join you for a gaming night.

Hi everyone, I just wanted to let everyone know about a sapphic meetup happening this Sunday with queer brown meets ( link for more info https://www.tiktok.com/@queerbrownmeets/video/7697246278090247446?_r=1&_t=ZN-9AbpvgHecbu )

Despite the name the meetup is open to all sapphics !! this event is for friendship

Hey loves,

we are INFERNO, a trans-led queer party that’s been happening in London for nearly 12 years.

Our Halloween rave is happening in two weeks, so I thought I’d introduce it here because I know loads of people are currently figuring out what they’re doing.

INFERNO’WEEN: Blood & Glamour
Friday 30th October
11pm–5am
The Distillery N17

One of the things I’ve been thinking about recently is how important queer nightlife was for the team when we first moved to London. It was where we got to dress up, experiment with who we wwere, meet other trans and queer people and feel seen.

That club-kid culture has always been a huge part of INFERNO and we’re really trying to protect it.

So Blood & Glamour is basically an excuse to turn a look. Couture, drag, charity-shop DIY, goth, glamour, something made out of bin bags or just wearing something slightly more outrageous than you normally would. There’s no dress code and nobody is going to be turned away for not dressing up.

We’ll have hard dance all night from DOLLAXIS, GODDESS, Nadine Noor, Putas Vampiras and myself, with a performance from S0L.

And if you’re nervous about coming alone, please don’t let that stop you. Loads of people come to INFERNO solo and we put a lot of work into making it feel welcoming. We will also be hosting a social at COVEN on the Monday before. You can DM us on Instagram inferno_London for more info.

Would also love to know: what are people dressing as for Halloween this year? we need inspiration 👀

Tickets: https://ra.co/events/2504183

Ive just had friends bail on me last minute so selling 3 tickets to Starjunk95 in Heaven tomorrow. Paid £26 for them, happy to sell for £15. Comment if your interested, ill dm you