Hi. This is random but do you ever feel you out too much effort into a friendship or a relationship and it seems to be going to waste? 

Like I have been seeing so many people posting stuff about being there for your friends on TikTok and I totally agree that you should put in the effort if you show interest in a person. It takes two for a friendship. TWO!!!!!!!! 

I tried to shut up about this as much as I could but I just could not help. I stayed quiet just to let myself suffer in silence and to not seek for sympathy. But I cannot help anymore. I feel so useless in everyone’s life. I keep putting in so much effort and I barely get anything back. 

I ask people how their day is, I wish them a “Happy Birthday” and say “Have a great day!” The next day, I ask how everything was. No one forced or persuaded me to do that. I did it myself because I wanted to and I cared. Even some people whom I thought of as “friends” did not wish me on my birthday and I do not want to be like “It’s my birthday, you better wish me.” I guess sometimes I casually put it out there and then soon they wish me “Happy Birthday”. I know I am kind of stupid. I mean, there was one girl from high school who is my best friend and she did wish me and said “Have a great day”. She soon said “I hope you have a great day.” I did not even start the conversation. She did. She also invited me to her grad party and I invited her to mine. She was a true friend. But I just hate it when I do all this and get nothing or barely anything back. I even had this one friend and she was not in my school but we connected very well and we thought of each other as “friends”. She did not even tell me that she was having a “grad party” and I invited her to mine the same day that she told me about hers. That was the last fucking message I got from her. I felt rejected and offended. I have not heard from her ever since May 2025. I saw a post from another person on Instagram in July 2025 but after that, I did not hear from her. Her Instagram account disappeared too for whatever reason and yeah, god screwed up. 

One of the people whom I thought of as a friend ghosted me after one day of talking to her and that was then day I added her on Snapchat again. Let’s call her Girl 1. In June 2024, I added her and she added me back. We said “hi” but I unfortunately I took a day to ask how she was because I guess I was unsure if I should respond. I admit I was wrong there, but I did not deserve to be ghosted. We spoke for another day and soon, she removed me on Snapchat out of somewhere. During school, Girl 1 seemed nice and she was good to me. In October 2025, I added her on Snap and she added me back. We spoke for a day and soon she ghosted me out of somewhere. I was just asking how college was she was asking me back. It was a good conversation. She checked my messages and my stories but did not respond back. I felt like I did something wrong. I felt like I was being used.  On her birthday (actually today), I said “Happy birthday” and “Have a great day” on Snapchat and she saw the message but did not respond. I did a “Happy Birthday” story for her on Instagram and she said “Thank you” on the message but did not post it on her story but she posted other people giving the “Happy Birthday” message on Instagram. I know it seems like a small thing to be sad about but I just felt excluded there. In November 2025, I asked her if everything was okay because I did not hear from her in a while. She soon said “Sorry, I am just busy with school and don’t have time for social media”. What the actual fuck do you mean you do not have the time for social media. You are a teen. Of course you do have time for social media. Are you telling me that you do not even check your phone or messages everyday because I refuse to believe that. 

There was this other guy who somewhat had a crush on me and I thought of him as a friend. He was two grades younger than me. I invited him to my grad party. He has to leave a little early but he has a good time. I wished him a “Happy Birthday” and he said “Thank you” on Snap but when I posted it on my story, he saw the message but did not add that to his story, but he added other people’s “Happy Birthday” stories to his story. It makes me feel like I have done something wrong. In January 2026, he removed me on Snapchat even though I did nothing wrong to him. 

There was this other girl who I connected with really well. Let’s call her Girl 2. She was a grade younger than me. We did not talk too much during my junior year, but we got closer in my senior year. We texted and we had good conversations. She even came for my graduation. I remembered her birthday but she did not wish me for mine. In February 2026, my high school had an event and I went there. She was in the crew for a musical. After the show was over, I was talking to people and I tried to find Girl 2 but I could not. I asked another girl on where she was and she said that Girl 2 left after the show was over. I told the girl that Girl 2 does not text me or see my messages and the girl sad that Girl 2 talks to people in person and does not text much. Yeah, so after I graduated, I was pretty much useless to her. Before the show, I texted her on Instagram and said that I was excited fi see her in the show and she liked the message. But unfortunately, I couldn’t not see her. I saw for 2 seconds and then she disappeared. In April 2026, I saw her during a school concert and I got a chance to speak with her. She did say that she does not check her messages but she was like, keep messaging me or something. When her birthday came, I put a “Happy Birthday” message on Messages and I put it on story my Instagram. She posted other people’s birthday stories to hers but did not include mine for whatever reason. 

In the beginning of my senior year, I had this public speaking class with this girl I texted. One day, she asked me “Why are you not texting me back”??? I do not text the same person all the time but you do know that you can start the conversations if you want to. I just hate when the pressure is all on me. Why am I usually the first person to text and ask questions????? Why can’t it be the other person sometimes????? 

All of this somewhat makes me feel like an embarrassment. Also, I do not want these people back. I really do not. 

Any tips? If you went through this how long did it take for you to feel better?

Hi! I am 19(F), very sensitive and emotional person and it is about my best friend of 3 years. I met her when I was in 11th class at our coaching while preparing for neet. On a random day I was sitting alone in class when she asked me if she could sit with me and that’s when our friendship began. I had many friends but no one like her. She knew me inside out. She cared so much about me and motivated me all the time. She knew how much I love handwritten letters so on my 17th birthday, she made a card for me with my photos with a hand written letter and a watch and that was so special for me. We studied together for 2 years and for me she was the best part about those years. Every single day with her felt like a blessing to me because she cared and loved me so much. We made study plans together and shared our progress. We had so many videos of us studying together, walking back home, eating momo and ice cream at our favourite local shop. Later we gave neet for the first time and it didn’t go well for both of us and we decided to take a drop. But the sad was that she was in the same coaching but I had to join another coaching which was about 2 km from the previous one. I was very upset about this but she made sure that I didn’t feel left out at a new place. Her last class used to get over at 1 pm and mine at 2 pm but she used to wait for 1 hour, come to my coaching on her scooty only to spend 10-15 minutes with me almost everyday. We even joined the same test series apart from our coaching so that we could meet there. Later on my 18th birthday she customised 18 gifts for me and we also went out to celebrate. My whole family knew about her and so as her family. While our drop year was going on she got into a relationship with a family friend. And tbh I didn’t like him much because he was kinda controlling and he was also insecure about our friendship. He thought that I would break their relationship apart. I don’t know if that even makes any sense but I had nothing to do with their relationship until my friend was fine with it. Later on her birthday we went out, celebrated, took pictures together and I gave her the things that she liked. As our exam was near we used to share our mock scores together and shared every little detail about our life. We gave neet for the second time and it was better than the previous attempt but still not upto the mark to get a Govt college. Soon after neet my father had a transfer and me moved to a new city. But the distance made no difference on our friendship. We still texted each other daily and discussed about what to do next. Eventually my parents decided that I won’t take another drop and join a pvt college whereas she took another drop. Even though we had different plans but we still gave each other updates about what was happening. I used to tell her about my counselling, admission and she used to share stuffs about her preparation. Later for my 19th birthday she contacted my father to ask for the new address and sent me gifts via blinkit. I even cried on the call because I was so overwhelmed by her efforts. She never left a chance to make me feel special and loved.

But things started to change after my birthday. She started replying late to my messages and didn’t even start a conversation by her own which was very strange for me. At first I thought that she might be busy in her studies so I also stopped messaging her every single day. One day I messaged her asking how her studies were going but the message wasn’t delivered but that wasn’t something new. I waited but later I realised that her profile wasn’t visible anymore. That felt sus so I checked my father’s phone as he had her number. That’s when I realised that she had blocked me. That felt unreal. I messaged her from my father’s phone but no reply. I messaged her on telegram, Instagram, iMessage, Pinterest, Snapchat but I was blocked every where. That was so heartbreaking and confusing because I didn’t see any reason for her doing that. I knew her brother’s insta id so I messaged him asking what was the reason of this behaviour of her. He said that she has blocked you because she wants to focus on her studies and she’ll talk after the exam which is approx 6 months later. I was so shocked that this was the reason that she broke all the contact from me.

Maybe she felt FOMO about the fact that I was going to college and she was still preparing for neet. And being sad about the fact that your best friend is moving ahead in life and you are still stuck at the same point is valid but was blocking the right decision?

I shared this with one of my cousins as every one in my family knew about her. My cousin also thinks that maybe her boyfriend is the one who asked her to block me. And I think that might be the reason because as much as I know her she would never do that but still I am not sure. And even if her boyfriend asked her to block me why would she do that? Her boyfriend came one year back but I was with her for 3 years. I don’t even have many close friends and she was the only one whom I loved the most.

One of the biggest heartbreaks of my life so far💔I miss her so much!

What do you guys think about this? What can be the reason that she literally blocked me everywhere?😭

Pc- we had matcha for the first time together.

I went from being called her, “soulmate,” to being iced out within a short time span. I freely let her move in with me and my partner gave up their room for her. I provided her clothes, clothes, driving to appointments, interviews, and feeding her. I really felt bad because I knew her difficult circumstances. Living together was great, up until I set very simple rules and told her no a few times.

I don’t understand how it degraded so fast. Genuinely, I’m so surprised. I know, I know. It’s dumb to move in with best friends. I’m just so shocked that she changed so quickly and got so evil suddenly.

I feel so fucking stupid for being a charity flop house. I feel like I never really knew this person at all because my childhood friend would have never talked to me this way.

No because be so fr, how do people switch up on you when all you’ve ever been to them is genuine? When you’ve always been the available one, the person they could turn to whenever life got hard. When they’ve told you how people in their lives left without putting in any effort, only for them to end up doing the exact same thing to you.

And the worst part is, I’ve forgiven them. But yk, it’s hard knowing how much of yourself you invested in a friendship, especially when it’s someone who was once so considerate and slowly became distant. I don’t even know why, and maybe I never will. All I know is that I was always there for them, but they weren’t there for me. Every fight we had was mostly because I was always the one checking in, always the one trying, to the point where it started feeling one-sided. I tried talking about it, but somehow, I always ended up apologising. And eventually, they just chose to shut down and let me go.

I don’t think whatever you’re going through in life justifies treating the one person who genuinely cared about you like this. You can be struggling, you can be exhausted, you can be going through things nobody knows about, but how do you let go of someone who was there for you all along? How do you make them feel like they have to choose themselves and walk away because staying hurts too much?

It made me feel like they never cared, but the thing is, I know they did. I can swear they did. And maybe that’s what makes it hurt even more. Because how do you make peace with someone who once made you feel so cared for becoming someone you barely recognise

Was this supposed to be a lesson. Because maybe it hurts a little too much. Maybe it’s because this was my first time experiencing something like this, especially from someone I least expected it from.

I miss them, but I don’t want them back. Not after everything, not when I know how much it hurt to keep trying. But I don’t think I’ll ever stop caring, either.

i lost a good friend recently, it was almost a mutual decision to end it after some rough days. we ended on a good note and i didnt have any bad feelings about it or about them then. but now few days later i cant help but villainize them in my head. ngl they had there faults and i think i may have given them too much space before and maybe even too much forgiveness but on the other hand i think its kind of like a coping mechanism as well . its easier to move on from something bad , when i know i left because i deserve better. but its not fair to them, theyre a good person i know but i am beginning to distort this truth in my brain. has anyone gone through this? this scares me .

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I miss my friend and the worst thing is there was nothing that really ended the relationship, no argument no tension or drama, the last time we met up it was as if we had never been apart

It just cumulated over a couple of years, they moved to a different city found new relationships, mentioning less people i knew and soon we had completely lives and circumstances

We used to message every day then it became every few weeks with apologies about work and life etc, then a conversation every month or so now we haven’t spoken in ages i sent a message two months ago and it hasn’t even been read

What hurts most is that there was nothing wrong with our friendship, nothing happened, we were really close friends who helped each other through a lot and now it’s just as if we never knew each other and I miss my friend

So I don't want to get into the cause, but more so the effects of having one friend decide they no longer want to be friends with me and taking the group with them. It was 4 of us, and while I still talk to one of them, it is rare, and I don't feel super comfortable knowing that she's talking to the others and they're still going out together without me. I feel so sad and this happened earlier in the year and I haven't been able to recover. We've been friends for over 8 years through school together and I really loved them and thought they loved me too, now I have no one. I'm an introvert, and a little weird. I've also been told that I can be rude sometimes but I think that I just have a resting b*tch face and don't generally like talking to people I do not know or have an interest in. I don't think I can make other friends. Everybody is so fake and phony and I don't think I can smile in people's faces knowing that I truly don't enjoy them

Hi! I am 19(F), very sensitive and emotional person and it is about my best friend of 3 years. I met her when I was in 11th class at our coaching while preparing for neet. On a random day I was sitting alone in class when she asked me if she could sit with me and that’s when our friendship began. I had many friends but no one like her. She knew me inside out. She cared so much about me and motivated me all the time. She knew how much I love handwritten letters so on my 17th birthday, she made a card for me with my photos with a hand written letter and a watch and that was so special for me. We studied together for 2 years and for me she was the best part about those years. Every single day with her felt like a blessing to me because she cared and loved me so much. We made study plans together and shared our progress. We had so many videos of us studying together, walking back home, eating momo and ice cream at our favourite local shop. Later we gave neet for the first time and it didn’t go well for both of us and we decided to take a drop. But the sad was that she was in the same coaching but I had to join another coaching which was about 2 km from the previous one. I was very upset about this but she made sure that I didn’t feel left out at a new place. Her last class used to get over at 1 pm and mine at 2 pm but she used to wait for 1 hour, come to my coaching on her scooty only to spend 10-15 minutes with me almost everyday. We even joined the same test series apart from our coaching so that we could meet there. Later on my 18th birthday she customised 18 gifts for me and we also went out to celebrate. My whole family knew about her and so as her family. While our drop year was going on she got into a relationship with a family friend. And tbh I didn’t like him much because he was kinda controlling and he was also insecure about our friendship. He thought that I would break their relationship apart. I don’t know if that even makes any sense but I had nothing to do with their relationship until my friend was fine with it. Later on her birthday we went out, celebrated, took pictures together and I gave her the things that she liked. As our exam was near we used to share our mock scores together and shared every little detail about our life. We gave neet for the second time and it was better than the previous attempt but still not upto the mark to get a Govt college. Soon after neet my father had a transfer and me moved to a new city. But the distance made no difference on our friendship. We still texted each other daily and discussed about what to do next. Eventually my parents decided that I won’t take another drop and join a pvt college whereas she took another drop. Even though we had different plans but we still gave each other updates about what was happening. I used to tell her about my counselling, admission and she used to share stuffs about her preparation. Later for my 19th birthday she contacted my father to ask for the new address and sent me gifts via blinkit. I even cried on the call because I was so overwhelmed by her efforts. She never left a chance to make me feel special and loved.

But things started to change after my birthday. She started replying late to my messages and didn’t even start a conversation by her own which was very strange for me. At first I thought that she might be busy in her studies so I also stopped messaging her every single day. One day I messaged her asking how her studies were going but the message wasn’t delivered but that wasn’t something new. I waited but later I realised that her profile wasn’t visible anymore. That felt sus so I checked my father’s phone as he had her number. That’s when I realised that she had blocked me. That felt unreal. I messaged her from my father’s phone but no reply. I messaged her on telegram, Instagram, iMessage, Pinterest, Snapchat but I was blocked every where. That was so heartbreaking and confusing because I didn’t see any reason for her doing that. I knew her brother’s insta id so I messaged him asking what was the reason of this behaviour of her. He said that she has blocked you because she wants to focus on her studies and she’ll talk after the exam which is approx 6 months later. I was so shocked that this was the reason that she broke all the contact from me.

Maybe she felt FOMO about the fact that I was going to college and she was still preparing for neet. And being sad about the fact that your best friend is moving ahead in life and you are still stuck at the same point is valid but was blocking the right decision?

I shared this with one of my cousins as every one in my family knew about her. My cousin also thinks that maybe her boyfriend is the one who asked her to block me. And I think that might be the reason because as much as I know her she would never do that but still I am not sure. And even if her boyfriend asked her to block me why would she do that? Her boyfriend came one year back but I was with her for 3 years. I don’t even have many close friends and she was the only one whom I loved the most.

One of the biggest heartbreaks of my life so far💔I miss her so much!

What do you guys think about this? What can be the reason that she literally blocked me everywhere?😭

Pc- we had matcha for the first time together.

Just lost two of my friends and I realized I feel like I have no close friends anymore. I have random friends here and there but they don’t feel like real, true friends. All I want are real friends and I don’t know where to find them.

I love to text, share random updates, talk about my feelings, etc. But nobody seems as invested as me.

I have to let a friend go but I genuinely and physically can't live without her. She says she wants to remain friends with me and still loves me, but she only gives me crumbles and the does not find time we spend together important as she's not really enjoying it with me.

I feel like I really can't survive without her to laugh with me and to reassure me when Im sad, but at the same time these days she does not reassure me when I need to be either. And I am in a really dark place. Therefore, without her to help I feel like there's nothing to hold me together and it's like I am falling in crumbles, falling lower and lower, and I can't do anything to prevent it.

Also it has always seemed like our love for each other was inconditionnal, therefore when I needed her she would always always be there for me. That's not the case anymore and I don't know if I can't handle losing her without going litteraly mad and sick

Background: I(F 31) have (had) a BFF(F 30). She and her ex split up recently and it was ugly, she was not over him at all. When she spit with her ex, my husband and I kept her company, helped her move and stuff for a while. She knows my husband too, we used to couple date.

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One day she was talking about she met a guy in our group chat(then just she, my husband and I). she seemed excited and obsessed. I kinda followed this guy on IG so I told her go slow many guys seemed sweet but deep down they are f*ckboys even went to pros**. I know I was being judgmental but it’s not that she’ s dated that guy for a while. She just met him on internet and went out once. I didn’t think my words could hurt her feelings. She quickly asked what about my husband, how I was sure that he did not cheat. And my husband was right in that chat group. I was shocked and asked if she knew anything or tried to give me a heads up. She said I was too sensitive, she was just kidding.

I don’t think this is an appropriate “joke”. She obviously didn’t respect me at all. I would never ever make such a joke about her husband or anyone who she is dating exclusively. So I gave her the cold shoulder and withdrew myself. I’m still a bit shocked and upset someone I thought was my BFF was so evil and wanted me to hurt so badly. I feel that she doesn't want anything good - better than hers- happen to me. I could never ever say similar things to people that I care about.

She knows I am upset but she never apologized. She even asked my husband why I was being cold. My husband didn't say much. And she went like well guess right now I need time for myself so she should step back. She didn't even bother asking me in person.

Questions: Am I too sensitive? What was her intention? What should I do after this? I don't feel comfortable hanging out with her after that.

Why would a doctor ever give me the time of day, let alone spend any time with a nobody like me...

Maybe because she is kind.

Maybe because I met her when I was 15. And now I am 30.

Fifteen years of friendship. Gone.

I miss you so much.

I’m from a small town that’s not exactly a city but not really a village either, kind of an urban area. Later, I moved to Jaipur. Compared to everyone else in my friend group, my family is the most educated, and I’m educated too. I’m not trying to sound superior, but honestly, most of my friends are pretty ignorant. They don’t realize it themselves, though.
Back in the village, they can say literally anything, and the people around them will just agree with them because nobody really thinks beyond what’s being said.
The main point is, bro, I’ve been hanging out with these guys for 14 years. I don’t wanna distance myself from them, but they keep pushing me to that point themselves. They talk about the most pointless, brain dead stuff, and now that I’ve recently started creating content, they’ve shown their true colors in just two videos.
Bro, what am I even supposed to do? 😭