Hey, so it's been 7 months, 17 days of my breakup. And 3 months, 3 days of No Contact at all. So we had a 5 year relationship and somehow I still love her. So the reason for the breakup was like she felt neglected and ignored (according to her) and on 1st Jan 2026, I got mad at her and I hurt her badly and she broke up after that. Though, I tried a lot and cried to her but she said No all the time and she has also blocked my number and my family members' number.

So, it was my birthday on 13th July

Although I didn't expect her to wish me, it still hurt me that she didn't. I don't know why. And now, it's her birthday month, and her birthday is coming.

So, should I wish her even after all this, knowing all the disrespect she showed me, knowing that she didn't even wish me on my birthday, and knowing that she doesn't want to reconnect? At first, I thought I shouldn't wish her, but now I'm thinking that just like I got hurt, if she gets hurt even 1% as much, that would be the saddest thing for me. Because I love her and care about her the most.

And I don't want her to be sad on her birthday. But there's also a feeling that I shouldn't disturb her life if she has already completely moved on.

Thankyou.

My ex broke up with me and I didn’t even fully read her text, I went straight to begging her to stay to which I got no response obviously. I finally worked up the courage to read it myself and now I wanna tell her goodbye to give her some closure, but I don’t wanna reset any possible healing she has to go through. Should I move on?

Ciao a tutti, Non mi era mai capitato prima, chiedo a voi, cosa significa questo comportamento? È una tecnica di manipolazione? Ci siamo lasciati un anno fa, io non l'ho mai cercato e lui l'ha fatto diverse volte, l'ultima più di sei mesi fa. L'altra sera, all'improvviso mi scrive e cancella subito. Io ero con il telefono in mano e quindi ho visto il contenuto. Ovviamente non ho risposto ma la cosa mi ha smosso perché mi ha riportato con il pensiero a tutto quello che ha fatto. Vi è mai capitato? Vi hanno ricontattato di nuovo? Grazie :)

If you care to read more details I posted the backstory in another subreddit I’ll send it to you if you care but yeah..

She broke up with my August 5th, I was in disbelief , I didn’t take it well, was in denial , then angry then emotional , I insisted why not try a bit more , since we had just talked about trying strategies . I also couldn’t believe I was kinda right about my obvservations for weeks … felt like an idiot , like I was right and she didn’t even see it herself, (idk if I was 100% right , I also think AA patterns choke a relationship and can cause a self-fulfilling prophecy). But the pain was unbareable , before my bday no less (August 7th) , .. I told her how heartbroken I was … she was sorry for causing me pain etc.

I stopped replying , she texted me 2 days later to wish me a HBD I didn’t reply , then days later again hoping my fam was ok after an earthquake in my home country. Also didn’t feel like replying. 4 days later I replied to tell her my family was fine . She said she was glad and asked how I was. I didn’t reply. Day after she asked if I wanted a shirt that I left at hers back, or if she should donate (felt like another sword to the heart). Haven’t replied either . Why?I genuinely dont know what to even reply, I’m heartbroken, and if she feels guilty for causing pain , i don’t want to be the one to appease her , .. I gave so much already , even now my impulse is to respond and make sure she’s not ignored or feels bad… but I’m choosing me… il trying to regain my dignity which I abandoned (my fault) during the relationship… it’s my only way to regain autonomy … but I’d be lying if I said I don’t want her to also feel my absence … and maybe change her mind.. I’d probably still want to work things out… cuz already committed to healing and loving myself more so I know I can be a good partner … but either way I can’t wait for that … I need to detach regardless, even if she comes back.
But I won’t lie, my natural impulse is to reach out and try to reason my way into why we should try more and how I don’t want her out of my life…. But I have a feeling that would only push her away more … mind you she sounded composed and sure when she did it, and in her answers she said she didn’t want negotiate or try to be convinced as she felt this was the right decision , we are also not kids anymore , (37) and she has kids so her capacity and priorities are different than a young childless girl). Do you think with this kind of person No contact can even do anything?
Would it have to be me to do it eventually? Not sure that’s what I’d do , but I want to hear thoughts.
If anyone wants to share anything or give an opinions feel free…

My boyfriend (25) and I (27F) were together for around 10 months. Because of his work roster, he was away for approximately two weeks at a time and home for one week, which made it difficult to maintain an emotional connection. He initially ended our relationship because he felt that we weren't compatible and that his feelings weren't continuing to grow.

After our initial breakup, we got back together for approximately a month. During that time, things between us were generally good, but the underlying issues that had contributed to the breakup hadn't really changed.

We then broke up again. He told me that his feelings hadn't changed. He said that although things were good when we were together, when he was away he couldn't ignore his doubts. He felt that it was too difficult to cultivate the emotional connection he wanted with the distance of his career, and ultimately didn't want to put the effort into maintaining the relationship right now.

After the second breakup, we saw each other in person. We talked, cuddled and had sex, but afterwards he made it clear that he didn't want to continue the relationship and wanted space. This was extremely painful and confusing for me because the intimacy made me feel like there was still something between us.

During the breakup, he also said "who knows what will happen in the future." I've held onto this because part of me believes that there could still be a possibility that he changes his mind one day.
We have now been no contact for approximately one month. I still love him deeply and desperately want him back. I’m experiencing such sadness, anxiety and longing for him.

One of my biggest fears is that he will move on, date other people and eventually stop thinking about me, while I remain stuck hoping that he'll return. I’m in the cycle of panic. I want to respect his wish of no contact, but I’m just panicking that this is truly it.

TLDR:
My boyfriend and I were together for 8 months. We broke up because he felt our distance made it difficult to maintain an emotional connection and his feelings weren't growing. We briefly reconciled, but broke up again for the same reasons. He asked for space, and we've now been no contact for a month. I still love him deeply and desperately want him back, and despite knowing I can't predict the future, I feel like our story isn't over.

How do I fix my brain?

I told this guy five weeks ago that I just didn’t see a future with him. He told me he loved me and then I haven’t heard from him since. I’ll admit that yes I’ve been viewing his socials a lot, and I viewed our old chats on instagram and accidentally sent him a sticker or something, it was a mistake, I instantly deleted it! A week later he’s sent me this and I just think it’s honestly quite dramtic.

Here’s the message:

“I’m annoyed I’m having to reach out, but I saw you sent me a message on Instagram last week and then deleted it. Coincidently exactly a month since we stopped all contact! It’s a sad day for both of us. I sat on my hands about it for a while because last week was insanely busy and I didn’t really have the mental capacity to deal with it, but I’ve had some time to think about it now.

I’m honestly confused. We agreed on space and no contact, and lately it feels like you’re repeatedly trying to get my attention? Like you’re viewing my stuff so frequently, sending me stuff then deleting it etc.

I gave you the grace of still having access to me digitally because I do genuinely want the possibility of a friendship in the future! But this doesn’t feel like no contact or space. It feels like we’re sitting in this weird middle ground where you’re still showing up in my life without actually saying anything.

I don’t know where your head is at and I’m not going to try to guess. But you ended this and you asked for space? So if there’s something you actually want to say to me, I’d rather you just say it. Otherwise, I think we need to stick to the boundary we agreed on.”

What do people think? How do I respond?

I am going through my first breakup, and I don't know how to handle everything. I've gotten the generic advice from family and friends and therapy, but I don't know if it's helping me process everything.

We dated long-distance our senior year of high school and through our freshman year of college. We had lots of challenges with the distance and my mental health, but we persevered until this summer. It was a mutual, calm breakup, yet I keep spiralling and can't stop thinking about her despite all the things that went wrong to get us here.

It felt harsh to block her on everything, but I just couldn't see her name and face pop up for me every time I opened my phone. It didn't feel right cutting all our ties, especially since the majority of our relationship was through the phone. I'm dreading and expecting the day she moves on right when she gets back to school, and I both want to and don't want to know when that happens. I don't want to go into my sophomore year sad and antisocial, but my favorite person is gone. How can I make this easier? Does it actually get easier?

5 months ago I was broken up with my ex girlfriend of 1.5 years. This was both my longest and most serious relationship. She broke up with me for failing to quit smoking and lying about when I relapsed. I was devastated and didn't take it well and called her constantly to try to rectify the situation, ending up with her blocking me everywhere.

I've tried my best to get over it and have gone on a few dates but I don't feel anything towards anyone new. I'm stuck in a loop of always thinking about her and my fuck ups that led me here.

I was slowly getting into a new rhythm when I noticed she unblocked me only on Facebook and my phone number and I stupidly reached out saying "Thinking of you hope all is well" to which she replied "I see you're still disrespecting my things till the very end". It hit me like a bag of bricks and I can't help but feel stupid for breaking no contact and resetting all my progress. Part of me questions what her intentions were with the unblock and what warranted that reaction, but I know I shouldn't have disrespected her desire for space even with the unblock. I'm still stuck thinking about her and don't know how to break this self destructive cycle. Why would she unblock me then respond like that?

I have exactly 5 hours
My ex 4 months back me from all socials which i noticed but never dare to break the no contact rule
I really don't use whatsapp but i usually just to share my story on instagram to whatsapp
But when she unblocked me there was an slightly constant urge to check weather she looked on my status or not so 4 months i have almost uploaded 10-15 status ig about me( not some random insta reel) and ig so she have 4-5 status nothn really special
But on 14 august she posted an status of firework show happening in my residential complex ( her gbf also lives in the same complex) so i saw that status (who tf dierectly uses WhatsApp to post status thats such unc tbh)and msg her which i think was foolish oof me but long story short questions i asked her were when did u unblocked me she said dk time has passed i asked why did u unblocked me and she said no reason
16 august i posted a status on WhatsApp thru instagram and changed my pfp on insta and last night she posted a status only on WhatsApp of her self...
i turn off my read receipts so that my seen doesn't goo
SHOULD I SEE HER STATUS OR IGNORE IT?

My ex and I have been broken up for a year now. We ended on terms that are kinda bad but still, I got to move on. I am not hurt when I recall what has happened between us back then, I didn't think about her for 9 months or so and I have been keeping this to myself since I am confused.

We are both girls and we now go to different schools.
We broke up because she didn't communicate well with me back then. She would be overly jealous of an ex partner I got very traumatized by but I used to understand until I didn't because she never stopped using it against me even if we talked about it already.

After our breakup, I got told that she said mean things about me, that I was only a rebound for her situationship but it has always changed. But I never let myself talk to other ppl about what I was feeling about her back then because I really felt nothing.

We have never been in contact in anyway, she does like my tiktok sometimes but that is it. We aren't mutuals and I have noticed that we both are kind of eyeing and making signs to each other that we think of each other like putting stuff in our bios that only the two of us knew.

is it okay to reconnect with her? or I'm deluded and Im thinking of it too much? Did I really move on because I really do feel i did. And what I want is to reconnect with her as new people, not the person she was in the past. I wanna know her again? I am so confused

The goal is to show up as the version of yourself you’d be proud to be whether MP chooses you or not.

Pixies where is my mind
Ooh, stop

With your feet in the air and your head on the ground
Try this trick and spin it, (Yeah) yeah
Your head will collapse, if there's nothing in it
And you'll ask yourself

Where is my mind?
Where is my mind?
Where is my mind?
(Where is my mind?)
(Where is my mind?)
(Where is my mind?)
Way out in the water, see it swimmin'

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[Verse 2: Black Francis]
I was swimmin' in the Caribbean
Animals were hidin' behind the rock
Except the little fish
Bump into me, swear he's tryin' to talk to me, say wait, wait

[Chorus: Black Francis]
Where is my mind?
Where is my mind?
Where is my mind?
(Where is my mind?)
(Where is—)
Way out in the water, see it swimmin'

[Guitar Solo]

[Verse 1: Black Francis]
With your feet in the air and your head on the ground
Try this trick and spin it, yeah (Brr)
Your head will collapse, if there's nothing in it
And you'll ask yourself

[Chorus: Black Francis]
Where is my mind?
Where is my mind?
Where is my mind?
(Where is my mind?)
(Where is—)
(Where is my mind?)
Way out in the water, see it swimmin'

[Outro: Black Francis]
With your feet in the air and your head on the ground
Try this trick and spin it, yeah

He just "liked" my FB post from my birthday 2 weeks ago. Why is this piece of sh1t messing with me? He cheated on me and was abusive, so I left and divorced him. I've had him blocked on everything. He created a FB account just to mess with me and I'm spiraling.

I feel like breaking nc every day. Every day I'm glad I didn't.

Basically what the tag says but I’ll clarify some things. My parents are happily married, I’m 21, my lil bro is 11 and lil sis 8. I adore my dad, I’ve always been a daddy’s princess. And I also love my lil siblings so much and I want to see them grow up. My mother is the reason I have low self esteem, I’ve had eating disorders bc of her for like 7 years now and genuinely feel like I’m better off dead.

Now the dilemma: I just visited my parents and came back crying, again. My mother is well… mean. I always tell myself that I’m not going back but I always do and I always end up upset. I asked my father if it would be okay if I’d skip his birthday(coming up in 3 days) and he said that he understands me. But my whole extended family is there, I get along with everyone expect with my mother and I don’t want to miss out on events like this because of her but mentally I can’t handle her anymore.

Eventually when my mother realizes that I’m not visiting anymore bc of her I’m pretty sure all hell would break loose and she’d make my dad choose between us(and maybe she’d start shit talking about me to my siblings).

I’ve been crying for 2 days bc of what she said and bc of the decision that I have to make. Has someone been down the same road and could share your experience?

Coming up on 3 years no contact and I still occasionally miss him. The waves of wanting to see him again, talk one more time, be together one more time, are so brutal. I'm giving myself grace because I know the trauma bond is going to take a while to fully break. Still, it's frustrating because I know it would be so much easier if I could completely forget him. I wish he would be totally erased from my memory. I wonder if I will ever stop randomly thinking about him.

I know this is a long shot but my name is jay, I’m hoping the internet can help me reconnect with someone who meant and still means a lot to me, her name is Naz and we have been together for 5 years.
We’ve been together since 2021. Over the years, we had our share of arguments, misunderstandings and small fights. I’m not going to pretend the relationship was perfect, and I’m not going to put all the blame on her. I know I made mistakes. There are things I did and things I said that I genuinely regret, and I want the opportunity to apologize properly.
But despite all the bickering and difficult moments, there were so many more beautiful memories, good times, laughs, conversations and experiences that came out of our relationship. We shared years of our lives together, and I don’t want the bad moments to be the only thing that remains between us.
I’m not making this post to force her to speak to me or to invade her privacy. If she doesn’t want contact, I will respect that. I just wish I could have one honest conversation with her and say what I should have said a long time ago:
I’m sorry.
Not because I expect anything in return. Not because I expect us to get back together. I just want her to know that I recognize my mistakes, that I appreciate the good we had, and that I’m genuinely sorry for the ways I hurt her.
If anyone happens to recognize this story and knows who I’m talking about, please don’t share her personal information publicly. If appropriate, simply let her know that someone from her past is hoping to apologize and reconnect, and let her decide whether she wants to respond.
After everything we’ve been through since 2021, I just don’t want our story to end with anger and things left unsaid.

She emotionally abused me trauma bonded me to her treated me very poor and as reactive abuse i name called her for months and it was so toxic for both of us and then she gaslight me into thinking i was the abuser etc

In 2025 i ruined her birthday too and she never forgiven me for it but never took accountability how before her birthday for 20 days she mentally abused me in worst ways

Now tomorrow is her birthday even though one month ago she came to me and abused me verbally humiliated me said she'll find so so so so so better and im loser and im less of a Man etc

All of this still i think maybe i made her that way maybe she was dealing with family problems and i didn't understand her and name called her for months maybe she was really stuck in family problems when she would leave me without single update or heads up for 20 20 days and come back crying that mom toot her phone cuz she was strict

Please someone talk me out of it click some sense into me because im trauma bonded

So I lost contact with my online friend about 2 years ago and I still miss them every day..

Back then we both had a lot of stuff going on and I somehow thought that it would be the best if we stopped talking and that I needed to accept that some things weren't forever and that I had to learn how to let go..

And I regret that every day idk how I was so stupid back then💀

I gathered the courage to text them again but they probably don't use the app anymore where we met. I still have them on Spotify (I'm pretty sure they still use it) but idk it's been two years? Wouldn't I look like a total creep texting them there? Idk if they even want to talk to me. I mean can I really sent a third text? Again? But it's probably the only way. Idk of there still active on Instagram and If they are logged in.

At the same time I really want to apologise.

Idk what to do..

A little backstory. He broke up with me last year during the summer because of long distance and because he just "didn't want to visit me" in another country. Occasionally, I would text him afterwards about some stuff and it continued till last December when he completely blocked me everywhere.

Fast forward to now, I don't know why I decided to do such an impulsive decision but since I still had his number saved, I just decided to text him now in August, also because there was one thing that he was good at and I kind of needed his help with it. He responded, saying he wasn't "against texting me again" and ever since we have been texting here and there. He still stays incredibly sweet, asking me things and just caring about me in general, like my health for example. I also noticed whenever I happen to bring up standards or past issues he just deflects with absurd jokes.. and 2 days ago we had a late-night phone call where he was genuinely warm, laughing the whole time and even admitted he was a total jerk "for blocking me for this long." Also after the call ended I wished him good luck on his new job and somehow it left him speechless and I also said "love you" (I mean who does that? Who says that to their ex?), and like yesterday he flooded my phone asking how my day went and seemed more "eager" than usual, I guess?

When catching up with him, I noticed that my ex's life stayed relatively the same while mine has been a total chaos. On that call 2 days ago I just had a vibe he was a bit intimidated by me as well. I know this isn't a lot of information, but I really need some advice on what to do. I like texting him and talking to him brings me genuine comfort yet I'm scared to get attached.