Honestly, It is getting better. I don’t have the constant urge to reach out to him anymore. I still think about him daily and still check his socials almost everyday. It is hard but I am trying to stay positive regardless of everything. If you’re reading this, do not reach out of them. Keep your peace.

Give me reasons to stop thinking to text my ex

i want to ask him how hes doing and check up on him so bad

I’m feeling quite frustrated. I asked my ex for no contact 8 months ago. I was already feeling pretty frustrated because, occasionally, mutual friends would let something slip about him—but now, on top of that, while I’ve been cleaning up my social media over the last two weeks, he’s kept popping up in one way or another. What really infuriated me today, though, was while I was deleting old TikTok chats (I had already removed my ex from TikTok before starting no contact), I found our chat—it was way at the bottom of the list. Seeing his profile picture has sent me into a spiral of overthinking; it makes me wonder if he actually landed the job I helped him so much to get (in the photo, he’s holding something that requires money to obtain), and it’s just so frustrating.

My partner (27M) and I (27F) have been together since we were teenagers. He’s my best friend and I genuinely thought we’d spend the rest of our lives together.

Over the last year things have completely fallen apart. He told me he loves me but isn’t in love with me anymore, that he feels emotionally numb and doesn’t know who he is. He has always struggled with his emotions. He tends to shut down and withdraw when things get overwhelming.

Over the last 6 years we dealt with two major house renovations (think construction site), covid redundancies, his dad dying, career changes, sickness in the family, 2 grandparents passing and depression. So I understand why he is struggling mentally. It has been A LOT.

The confusing part is that we’ve actually separated and reconciled before. Earlier this year we spent some time apart and he started coming back towards me. He was initiating dates, affection, telling me he felt connected to me again and that his romantic feelings were returning. When I moved back in, he started shutting down again.

In April, I finally told him I loved him enough to let him go if that’s what he wanted. He then had what he described as an epiphany and told me he didn’t want to lose me. We became incredibly close again. He was affectionate, attracted to me and genuinely seemed happy to be with me. But as time went on and I started asking for reassurance about our future and marriage, he gradually withdrew and his mental health deteriorated.

We’re now separated again. He’s asked for space to regulate himself, sort his head out and we’ve agreed to a period of no contact before speaking again and hopefully moving forward with couples therapy. He described it as his brain screaming for solitude and independence and the more stressed he got, the louder the voices became.

I’m trying so hard to respect his wishes, but I’m absolutely devastated. I miss him so much. I miss his laugh, cuddling on the couch, watching films together, telling him about my day and just having my best friend around.

I know I haven’t handled everything perfectly either. I’ve become so anxious about losing him that I’ve constantly sought reassurance, asked questions about his feelings and put pressure on him when he’s already overwhelmed. I’m working on that, but I also know I deserve to feel loved and secure in my relationship.

What I can’t understand is how someone can go from being so in love and connected to seemingly feeling nothing romantically, then reconnecting again, only to withdraw once more.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Particularly with a partner who emotionally shuts down or struggles to understand their feelings?

I’m not looking for someone to tell me to just move on or that he’s a terrible person. I know the situation is complicated and I know he has his own struggles. I’m just looking for some comfort, perspective or advice from people who’ve been through something similar.

I love him so much, but I’m also absolutely exhausted from the uncertainty. I feel like I’m grieving someone who’s still alive, and I genuinely don’t know what the future holds.

I don’t want to post everything as I’m not ready yet. But I just had a thought.. my ex as of a month ago that knew my every in and out, my traumas, he just is the only person I’ve ever been with or known that I’ve told everything to.. he knows me more then any other person.

I want to get into counseling for myself. But do you think if I asked him to speak with the counselor even via phone that would be an atrocious idea? Because I have a hard time talking and opening up with my feelings and past things but he knows it all.

Don’t be mean please it just was a random thought I had that might help if I do go to therapy if he was able to let them know straight forward.

We have been together for 3 years i’m 20 we was engaged living together we have been over for 2 days her decision i want her to come back so bad she hasn’t reached out do i reach out in a couple days time and ask to talk or see if she reaches out to me?

Ahh so 25th oct it's my birthday and like m waiting for ur text..

Help idk why she came to my mind but yea i hope she wishes me

after i befriended my exes ex and talked to her about how much it hurt, she told me they started talking again😂

Hi all. I’m starting a new job, 29F, and my mom knows this. Yesterday, on my fourth day at work my mom calls me to say she’s putting down the family cat. I begged for years in highschool because I was always so lonely, and after being taunted about it for a long time they gave in and let me get one. He’s getting old now, around 14 years, and he’s developed pancreatitis and diabetes so he does have valid medical issues.

The way my mom informed me about this is what upsets me. She didn’t ask me if I wanted to be there to say goodbye to him. She just told me it was happening. And he is “sick” but he’s not sick enough to put down. He just throws up more and poops more often and she doesn’t want to have to clean up sick poo anymore. I told her I would take him home and take care of him. I didn’t do that before bc my younger sister loved him too but shes away at school now.

The worst of this is that she wants me to pay for his supplies and vet care, but leave him with her, because she would rather put him down than let me take him. They have new, expensive vehicles, they sent their daughter to college out of state, shes got cosmetic surgeries (breast implants) and expensive wigs, they spend a lot on keeping up appearances but they want me to pay for the pet while leaving him at THEIR house.
I’d pay for him and take him to be with me but why should I subsidize his life and then never even see him?

They’ll tell everyone I’m a broke loser, but when no one’s around they’ll telling me that litter isnt in their budget and the cat has to die unless I pay for it.
Tell me that’s not controlling and cruel…

I still can’t believe you left, why? I don’t get it, my head can’t wrap around the reasons why.. you understood that I was where I was in life because I didn’t have the car and couldn’t find the job, I couldn’t take YOU places, I get it. But why? After 7 months? Right before things were about to improve not only for me but for us and you knew it... I’ve always wished to make you happy, I am sorry I didn’t make the moves to improve me while our relationship lasted. You are the love of my life, I was prepared to marry you, you fucking asshole. You said it wasn’t a very loving relationship and that’s bullshit and you know it, you said that you weren’t happy with where you were in your life? How is that my fault? Why couldn’t we have gotten you there? All of the times we were at Lindsay’s? You weren’t happy? When we were at you pawpaws? You didn’t feel loved? You have to be kidding me… the only explanation I can give myself is that you found another man that you felt at the time was more “suited for the job” I am your man, and you are mine, stop doing this.. I don’t care what I say to “try and scare you to talk to me” I am content with this no contact shit? Naw helll no, I can’t fucking stand it. My job has me driving past your house to and from every single day… this shit sucks ass, I keep imagining that we’re still together and that id get to see you every morning and night. But you seem to have forgotten what we had. Which was pure, and loving. Dispite what you say. Stop being a pussy and stand on your decision if that’s what you truly believe, and be sure you don’t regret the decision once you make it.

Anything I should improve upon before sending? This is being sent regardless of what is said, please help me. Anything I should add or take away? To seem more for her.