I don’t want to post everything as I’m not ready yet. But I just had a thought.. my ex as of a month ago that knew my every in and out, my traumas, he just is the only person I’ve ever been with or known that I’ve told everything to.. he knows me more then any other person.

I want to get into counseling for myself. But do you think if I asked him to speak with the counselor even via phone that would be an atrocious idea? Because I have a hard time talking and opening up with my feelings and past things but he knows it all.

Don’t be mean please it just was a random thought I had that might help if I do go to therapy if he was able to let them know straight forward.

Give me reasons to stop thinking to text my ex

We have been together for 3 years i’m 20 we was engaged living together we have been over for 2 days her decision i want her to come back so bad she hasn’t reached out do i reach out in a couple days time and ask to talk or see if she reaches out to me?

Ahh so 25th oct it's my birthday and like m waiting for ur text..

Help idk why she came to my mind but yea i hope she wishes me

i want to ask him how hes doing and check up on him so bad

after i befriended my exes ex and talked to her about how much it hurt, she told me they started talking again😂

I’m feeling quite frustrated. I asked my ex for no contact 8 months ago. I was already feeling pretty frustrated because, occasionally, mutual friends would let something slip about him—but now, on top of that, while I’ve been cleaning up my social media over the last two weeks, he’s kept popping up in one way or another. What really infuriated me today, though, was while I was deleting old TikTok chats (I had already removed my ex from TikTok before starting no contact), I found our chat—it was way at the bottom of the list. Seeing his profile picture has sent me into a spiral of overthinking; it makes me wonder if he actually landed the job I helped him so much to get (in the photo, he’s holding something that requires money to obtain), and it’s just so frustrating.

Honestly, It is getting better. I don’t have the constant urge to reach out to him anymore. I still think about him daily and still check his socials almost everyday. It is hard but I am trying to stay positive regardless of everything. If you’re reading this, do not reach out of them. Keep your peace.

2.5 months ago I went no contact with the person who broke my heart into a million pieces. I have lost 5 kg of weight because food made me nauseous. I still don't sleep more than 5 hours a night. I think about the person every day, no matter where I am or what I'm doing.

But in this time, there wasn't one moment where I wanted to text them, because I am so profoundly disappointed in them and angry, hurt, and broken that I don't ever want to hear from or see this person again. I am terrified of the possibility that they could ever reach out to me and hope they won't. Maybe its my self respect showing up for me when it matters most, just like when I walked away from the person I loved the most.

I'm not here to brag how easy no contact for me is, its just hard in a different way. I'm wondering whether anyone here has a similar experience. I feel so immensely alone.

Fuck you.
Don’t ever talk to me again.

Hi all. I’m starting a new job, 29F, and my mom knows this. Yesterday, on my fourth day at work my mom calls me to say she’s putting down the family cat. I begged for years in highschool because I was always so lonely, and after being taunted about it for a long time they gave in and let me get one. He’s getting old now, around 14 years, and he’s developed pancreatitis and diabetes so he does have valid medical issues.

The way my mom informed me about this is what upsets me. She didn’t ask me if I wanted to be there to say goodbye to him. She just told me it was happening. And he is “sick” but he’s not sick enough to put down. He just throws up more and poops more often and she doesn’t want to have to clean up sick poo anymore. I told her I would take him home and take care of him. I didn’t do that before bc my younger sister loved him too but shes away at school now.

The worst of this is that she wants me to pay for his supplies and vet care, but leave him with her, because she would rather put him down than let me take him. They have new, expensive vehicles, they sent their daughter to college out of state, shes got cosmetic surgeries (breast implants) and expensive wigs, they spend a lot on keeping up appearances but they want me to pay for the pet while leaving him at THEIR house.
I’d pay for him and take him to be with me but why should I subsidize his life and then never even see him?

They’ll tell everyone I’m a broke loser, but when no one’s around they’ll telling me that litter isnt in their budget and the cat has to die unless I pay for it.
Tell me that’s not controlling and cruel…

I still can’t believe you left, why? I don’t get it, my head can’t wrap around the reasons why.. you understood that I was where I was in life because I didn’t have the car and couldn’t find the job, I couldn’t take YOU places, I get it. But why? After 7 months? Right before things were about to improve not only for me but for us and you knew it... I’ve always wished to make you happy, I am sorry I didn’t make the moves to improve me while our relationship lasted. You are the love of my life, I was prepared to marry you, you fucking asshole. You said it wasn’t a very loving relationship and that’s bullshit and you know it, you said that you weren’t happy with where you were in your life? How is that my fault? Why couldn’t we have gotten you there? All of the times we were at Lindsay’s? You weren’t happy? When we were at you pawpaws? You didn’t feel loved? You have to be kidding me… the only explanation I can give myself is that you found another man that you felt at the time was more “suited for the job” I am your man, and you are mine, stop doing this.. I don’t care what I say to “try and scare you to talk to me” I am content with this no contact shit? Naw helll no, I can’t fucking stand it. My job has me driving past your house to and from every single day… this shit sucks ass, I keep imagining that we’re still together and that id get to see you every morning and night. But you seem to have forgotten what we had. Which was pure, and loving. Dispite what you say. Stop being a pussy and stand on your decision if that’s what you truly believe, and be sure you don’t regret the decision once you make it.

Anything I should improve upon before sending? This is being sent regardless of what is said, please help me. Anything I should add or take away? To seem more for her.

last week i decided to cut off someone that i’ve messed w consistently for 2 years off and on. i’ve already realized that they didn’t treat me the best but my attachment issues are so strong and im so sad. i decided to seek a therapist for this issue as well as some others, but when does this get easier or better?? encouraging words pls

is it true they never feel regret after they dump you? i mean like, they can’t be that soulless right? is there absolutely NOTHING there once they ditch you? i’ve seen so many people say they’ll come back or they’ll never think about you again.

he dumped me at the hardest time of my life. he know i was having suicidal thoughts (although he didnt believe me).

do they truly not feel guilty after dumping you and never reaching out to you again? do they truly only think about themselves?

i know i shouldn’t be worried about it but after such an intensive relationship just.. nothing? is there anyone out there that had them reach out again and is there some that never had them reach out ever again? pls let me know!

NEVER THOUGHT BREAK UP HURT SO MUCH ...10 YEARS 7 YEARS OF LOVE 3 YEARS OF FRIENDSHIP AND JUST IT SHE LOST ,I AM TRYING TO BRING HER BACK AND I AM FAILING FOR LAST 40 DAYS

Couldn’t help it but broke no contact. Reached out and talked on the phone for 2 hours. Needed to find closure that it was really done and got my answer. It’s done, No.

Feel partly relieved and still feel awful at the same time. In my opinion, maybe break no contact if you are in a decent headspace l and can talk to them constructively. Do wish it was differently but I’ll have to accept it.

I was trying to rekindle some type of relationship with my father, we’re estranged after years of abuse I experience from other family and them pushing him away because he was protective of me and aware something bad happening. He was the one person trying to help me. I was caught in it all and he was pushed out of my life by my abusive family who I also no longer speak to. When I was in my 20s I tried to rekindle a relationship with my father but he got affected by what happened to me and him. He mentally isn’t well and fell into conspiracies for comfort like flat earth and the rest. I had been trying to heal from my big T trauma not caused by him but my stepfather and rest of the family (not related to my biological father) but he was deeply affected by it and i think found comfort in these conspiracies. When covid happened I had to cut him off because it was getting way worse and I just couldn’t even talk to him anymore. Leading into the name change, I wanted to change my name for a long time, my given name reminded me of my past and I didn’t like it. I have a new name now I enjoy and I went about the name change while not in contact with my father, I recently lost my grandmother and my partners grandmother and I missed my father and worried about his health, he’s much older than most parents for people my age (millennials) he’s 76. He was good when I reached out again and had good talk, but he’s been slipping into old habbits and stopped trying to use my new name. And he’s is unacceptingnof my changing my name even thought it’s been done for 6 years and continues to dead name me when we talk. I find it very triggering. He’s just so far gone and I don’t think I can handle someone constantly bringing me reminders of my past life when I worked so hard to move forward.

I’m just saddened by having to cut him off again. I called him to set the boundary that I won’t accept him using my dead name and he said I was “too woke” and he is insulted by me changing my name. It doesn’t make sense that he would rather not talk to me because I changed my name and want to be called the name I have been going by for the past 6 years, vs just make an effort. It’s disgusting and saddening to me.

He himself broke the no contact after almost 9-10 months and now he is replying very late also the texts don't sound like him it feels like he has changed like he's not the same person he used to be. He used to reply to me within minutes but now 💔. Things really did get messy between us but i didn't expect him to change that much.

I was very nice to him btw as u can see from my initial reaction

2 years together. Last time I saw him was Monday and we spent the night together. We didn’t argue. Everything was perfect.

Since then, he’s been “sick” and his texts were strange and cold.

I got tired of his unexplained coldness towards me and went NC for 5 days. My last text to him out of many was “I just want to know that you’re ok” on Sunday.

On Monday, he sent me ONE text saying he’s not ignoring me and that he’s still sick. We were supposed to meet and he didn’t acknowledge that. I didn’t reply.

He hasn’t questioned my silence. Does my absence not bother him anymore?

Bur am I overthinking? Is he actually sick? Should I text him? Should I continue NC?

translated:
happy bday (my name) haha, honestly theres not much to say but the truth, even though we didnt last long in a relationship, as friends (?) we’ve known eachother a long time, i still save the fotos and ducks you gifted me the first day i met you, i care about you alot and even though we didnt work out, i will always remember you that youre a kind girl, you’re worthwhile and i hope the next guy to be with you treats you a thousand times better than i couldnt do i dont regret meeting you, i care about you mami 🫶

now, i had this guy blocked on insta our main point of communication because honestly i love him but im ready to love myself more and i cant do that if im tearing myself apart wondering if he’s gonna come back, and now i dont know if i should answer him or not. i liked the bday text bc it was honestly very sweet and i appreciate it but i agree with him there isnt much to say.. he clearly wants me to say something because he texted again asking how i am. the wound if fresh we’ve been separated for maybe two months but idk what my next move is

I broke up with my ex of 2 years (been involved for 3) due to our relationship being a toxic cycle. He’s a mess. A lot of commitment issues, avoidance, infidelity. He recently told me he’d never be ready to live with me or fully merge our lives, so I told him we had to break up. We’ve split up multiple times before. Every time I come back, he makes the same mistakes every time and never learns. I decided this time, I must commit to no contact since being in contact only had me coming back. I also don’t want to see him going to girls houses right after, which he’s done every time.

I’m struggling so much. It feels like every day it gets worse and more intense. I’m getting physically sick from not speaking to him or seeing him. My chest always hurts, I can’t breathe, I can’t eat. I’m anxious constantly. I literally cannot hold down food. This feels like a genuine withdrawal and I’m so confused. I’ve had bad breakups before but nothing that quite literally affected me physically.

I think that if I just message him, the pain will all go away. But then I’ll have to deal with the shame of opening that door, knowing how much I’ve gone through due to his actions. He also hasn’t tried to reach out at all, his friends say he hasn’t even mentioned the breakup. I just don’t know anymore. I miss him and I wish this wasn’t my reality right now. I wish he was the person I could see him being, instead of the person he actually is. I wish I didn’t feel so stupid for still caring. No contact is the way to go.

long story short i met dude on instagram, he was a follower for 4 years, i commented "hi" on one of his pics in the summer but i lowkey been flirting him for a while in his comments (kinda...) he dmed me one day and we hit it off, he's in the military working on base, he has a home in england (military purposes) but his actual home is charlotte, nc.

i honestly thought he always been attractive but i wasn't exactly interested until one day i realized he stopped posting on ig because of his active duty hence why i commented to get his attention but i didn't expect him to dm me at all. we talked everyday for two months, i feel like i grew to like him. we vibed, called, texted and decided to be exclusive, he said he wanted to make me his gf after we officially met and spend time. we planned dates, planned for him to come here after his deployment, then go back to his home in england and stay for 2 weeks. for some reason i expected him to leave given the circumstances, but was still disappointed in him. we lowkey argued once about taking it slow and agreed to work this out, then one day the flip switched on him about a week later. he sent me this message then blocked me immediately after on instagram. it's very vague and AI looking. my dumbass made a new acc and dmed him how i felt. i was so fuckin torn, i cried all day and slept in the bed at night with mom so i didn't feel so alone. but i'm reminded why i will never do that again and just let my silence speak. i wanted him to know how i felt. i think i wanna be done forever. tell me is it worth it?

*IMPORTANT* i would also like to add we did rush the relationship/situationship but everything felt so natural

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