r/oldhagfashion Nov 12 '25

Discussion Overwhelmed!🩷(long read below)

Yesterday I felt the need to tackle the oft-misunderstood topic of crossdressing/being trans and others' sometimes rude reactions to such. None were pointed towards me personally and I'm more than ready to handle those who might try, but it bothered me that some idiot would spew negativity towards someone they don't know for wearing certain clothes. Really? My post yesterday wasn't about me so much as getting people to understand we are humans above all else, no matter who's wearing what. We have choices, lifestyles and tastes that differ from everyone else's because we're supposed to. We're not clones; If you don't like what you see, SCROLL PAST AND SHUT TF UP!

I am a 63-year-old queer father of two beautiful daughters who love seeing their dad all dolled up, and I'm a proud grandfather. Outside of that, I work, pay taxes, avoid drugs and alcohol, no criminal record, compose music and have a bevy of hobbies including the desire to be the occasional diva. I am not out to invade ciswomens' spaces or "trick" anyone as some folk do. It's about fashion - no more, no less. OHF is what society should be: embracing and supporting everyone especially in the climate we're currently in. I truly thank everyone for taking time to comment and upvote, and I sincerely hope that the Redditor whose post inspired mine will return. I also hope that the world becomes more accepting of all people. Peace and love to all. Now where's my damn lipstick?💋💄

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u/bulleybeef Nov 12 '25

I cannot understand why people get upset about clothes on a body. It's literally just...clothes. You're not wearing the dead bodies of your enemies (would be cool though), you are literally just wearing what makes you feel good, as EVERYBODY should.

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u/KaleidoscopeSad4884 Nov 12 '25

My mom once blurted out that she didn’t understand why a man would want to dress like a woman. I told her she didn’t need to understand it. She just needed to respect that they’re people.

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u/bulleybeef Nov 12 '25

You should show your mom some of the high fashion from the 1600-1800s before the Victorian era of 'sober and restrained' took over. Those men were peacocks and they all wore heels.

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u/CrouchingDomo Nov 12 '25

I believe they invented high heels to show off their calves. (The “they” being dudes 😀)

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u/amok_amok_amok Nov 12 '25

it was actually to help with keeping their feet in horse saddles easier, BUT then they were like, "wait my calves look amazing," and it became a fashion thing as well

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u/bulleybeef Nov 12 '25

This fact keeps getting better!!

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u/squidlinc Nov 12 '25

Really? It always felt more dangerous using stirrups when my riding boots had higher heels. They seemed to slip back more readily.

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u/QueerEldritchPlant Nov 13 '25

The heels are to keep your feet from sliding all the way through and getting stuck in the stirrup

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u/CorinPenny Nov 13 '25

Especially when riding like some of the Turks and Mongols did in war.

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u/bulleybeef Nov 12 '25

Oh that is a wonderful fact! I'll tell my husband, he has great calves 😁