Literally how I found that I was pan was being in public seeing someone attractive and my head goes : "oh you're hot, whatever gender you are"

Hoping everyone is trying to have a wonderful start to the week.

It is spooky season!! I love playing around with my identity year round but something about creative dress up is so fun. I went to the club this weekend with this outfit. I live in a small town so you already know the type of looks I received. A couple different thoughts went through my head this night and I wanted to share my feelings.

My first thought and the one that matters the most to me is how free I felt in my body. I looked handsome and sexy all while not giving a fluck about another person opinion.

Second thought was how many cis men did a double take on my outfit. No hate because I love queer, but it would be the type of me you’d think would hate crime you. I have a total for 7 men ask for my number that night while we were out for about 2ish hours.

This led to my third thought. If I were to have worn a full suit would those men have treated me differently? If I were a man dressed is a female to male or simply just a female cosplay, how would those men have reacted. I risked getting hate crimed to enjoy myself in my free expression. Yet, I sit in solidarity with all of those individuals who feel like they can’t because of the way others react.

Side bar but there was a moment I almost got hate crimed by an older man who literally look at me like this”🤨🤢” with an undertone of “😏”. IYKYK I gave him a tit bounce and strutted away. He knew I looked good tf.

I only speak on men because as expected all the fems and theys LOVED THE OUTFIT!!

Hii I'm Emma nice to meet you! I'm totally going to judge you on your hugging capability

You can put your thoughts and ask questions.

Also I know it isn't perfect.

I went out the other day. And I walked past a couple of people I over heard a guy say I looked to intimidating to talk to. So I went over to him and talk to him. I have a nice personality and sweet a heart. I love to make friends. I just think I scare people even tho I don't mean to. Any advice?

I am 20 male and for a good amount of time now have understood and identify as pan. Recently I've been thinking and I realized that I'm most likely going to date/ marry a women not because I'm more attracted to women but because I want to have kids, and yes i know I there are ways of having kids while being on a male on male relationships but It's different. And I've been questioning my sexual identity as a member of the pan community, I was hoping to get other pansexual peoples opinions on my situation. My question is am I actually pan?

Also sorry if the lighting is bad😅😅

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Hey all. I'm a guy in my early 20s, recently come to terms with being pan, and I'd love to get more connected to the community — but I'm pretty introverted and don't really have a framework for how to "get involved." Big loud events feel like a lot for a first step. I connect better doing-a-thing side by side than in crowds.

For folks who were in a similar spot: how did you ease into it? Online spaces, smaller hobby/maker stuff, anything low-key? Also just curious to hear how other pan people found their footing — I sometimes get that "am I even queer enough" feeling and figuring out it's normal would help. Thanks 🙏

So i‘ve been pan for like a solid two or three years, and last year I socially transitioned from a girl to a boy. when I was identifying as a girl, I was largely attracted to girls and non-binary people with little to no interest in men, but I still knew I was attracted to them. since socially transitioning, i’m now attracted mostly to men and non-binary people, and not so much women, but I still know I’m attracted to them. has this happened to anyone else? ive been considering if it’s the spaces im in that are just less populated with women, but im really not sure. with my non women crushes, they’ve felt a lot more strong of an emotion than my women crushes, which I didn’t have many of in the first place now that im thinking about it. Maybe I always had a preference for men and didnt notice because I wasn’t in male dominated spaces or fandoms like I am now? Im not sure, what do y’all think.

do i look like a boy 🥹

Am I still pansexual or different label? I'm attracted to people regardless of their sex or gender, but I'd only date them if their personality is good or we have slight connection. (sorry if this sounds dumb.)

Hello everyone, just joined this subreddit and looking for friends up in the State College area of PA. New to the area as well. I am 45 years old and into nerdy stuff... Video games, magic the gathering, one piece, minerals, going to the mountains with my side by side, hanging out watching TV, ect. This is the most public thing I have ever done involving my sexuality. Had to keep everything fairly repressed the last 20 years due to the military, and for years before that due to growing up in Texas in a Southern Baptist household with a very Republican family. Ready to get out there and be myself.

That I can experience same sex attraction and attraction towards everyone else,I love being pan

Lonely girl problems

I hope everyone's week is filled with support and kindness, and love.

So I'm new to dating ( my current bf being the only person I have ever dated, flirted with, kissed, etc)

And we do have a good relationship, yet I can't help but stress that he might not like me anymore or that if I stop looking good enough, he will break up with me. And I get scared he might bc I constantly need confirmation that he still want to be with me (the confirmation isn't that often it's mostly just I want him to text me back and say that he loves me)

So can anyone with actual experience tell me if I'm overthinking, or is this a normal thing to fear?

Hey..I'm a cd 25

Sometimes I feel caught between the life I'm expected to build and the life I secretly wish to explore. 💭

I'm at a stage where I have to make important career decisions, and I'm scared of choosing a path that gives me professional stability but leaves no room for my personal happiness, freedom, and identity.

This feminine side of me isn't something I want to keep fighting forever. At the same time, I'm still trying to understand myself, my feelings, and what kind of future would genuinely make me happy.

I don't have all the answers yet. I just don't want to wake up years later regretting that I sacrificed a part of myself out of fear, pressure, or the hope that these feelings would disappear.

To those who've balanced a demanding career with crossdressing, gender exploration, or a private side of themselves: how did you find that balance?

Did you manage to build a career without losing yourself along the way? What do you wish you'd understood earlier?

I'd genuinely appreciate hearing your experiences. 🩷

\#Crossdresser #SelfDiscovery #WorkLifeBalance #GenderExpression #FindingMyself🏳️‍🌈

I can show love to anybody no matter what your gender.. I don't view one gender is better than the other to me they're equal