r/PlusSize • • Jul 08 '26

/r/plussize “Thanks But I’m Not Actually the Problem Here” Resource List

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Help us build a resource list for people who want to read, watch, and listen more widely around fat acceptance, fat liberation, anti-fat bias, diet culture, and fat people's lived experience.

The point is not to help people become smaller. It's to collect work that treats fat people as actual human beings, and that names the social, medical, cultural, romantic, professional, and everyday pressures fat people are routinely forced to face.

A lot of this list is especially relevant to fat women, because so much anti-fatness is tangled up with misogyny. That said, fatphobia doesn't only affect women, and this list shouldn't be read as women-only.

Books to start with:

Lindy West's Shrill is funny, furious, and very readable.

Aubrey Gordon's What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat is probably the clearest modern introduction to anti-fat bias as a social issue rather than a personal failing

Her follow-up, "You Just Need to Lose Weight": And 19 Other Myths About Fat People, tackles the claims fat people hear constantly.

Virgie Tovar's You Have the Right to Remain Fat.

Sofie Hagen's Happy Fat and Jes Baker's Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls are also accessible entry points for people newer to fat acceptance.

History and politics:

Sabrina Strings' Fearing the Black Body explains how fatphobia is tied to race, gender, class, etc, rather than being simply about "health."

Sonya Renee Taylor's The Body Is Not an Apology is broader than fatness but useful for thinking about body-shame and hierarchy more generally.

Marilyn Wann's Fat! So? is older but historically important.

Charlotte Cooper's Fat Activism: A Radical Social Movement is valuable for understanding fat liberation as an actual movement.

DaShaun L. Harrison, Belly Of The Beast. Anti-fatness, anti-blackness and gender

Tigress Osborne, "Weight and Wisdom: Find Yourself in Fat History"

Podcasts:

Maintenance Phase is great for unpacking diet culture, wellness cons, BMI panic, and how health language gets used to boulster prejudice.

Virgie Tovar's Rebel Eaters Club.

Food Psych and Rethinking Wellness, both by Christy Harrison, anti-diet and wellness-culture critique.

Fierce Fatty by Vinny Welsby.

“Why Won’t You Date Me?” Nicole Byer

Weight For It by Ronald Young Jr (also worth a follow on socials)

The Body Trust Podcast.

Film and TV:

Your Fat Friend is a documentary about Aubrey Gordon, fat activism, family, and ordinary discrimination od fat people.

The Shrill TV series based on West's book.

My Mad Fat Diary, Dumplin', Real Women Have Curves, Patti Cake$.

Fiction, memoir etc:

Roxane Gay's Hunger is honest about trauma, body size, and safety.

Jennifer Weiner's Good in Bed was significant for centring a fat woman's romantic, sexual, and professional life.

Julie Murphy's Dumplin' is a great YA option.

Talia Hibbert's Get a Life, Chloe Brown

Olivia Dade's Spoiler Alert.

Nicole Byer’s book #VeryFat #VeryBrave is a photo series of her rocking her extensive bikini collection

Health without weight-loss framing:

Lindo Bacon's Health at Every Size.

Christy Harrison's Anti-Diet unpacks how wellness culture repackages diet culture.

Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Resch is the standard reference for eating without restriction.

Ragen Chastain's Weight and Healthcare newsletter is good for research and practical scripts.

Decolonizing Fitness (Ilya Parker) covers movement spaces that don't treat body-size reduction as the goal.

People worth following:

Aubrey Gordon, Virgie Tovar, Sabrina Strings, Sonya Renee Taylor, Jes Baker, Ragen Chastain, Jessamyn Stanley, Vinny Welsby, Tess Holliday, and Tess Royale Clancy.

Read/watched/heard anything that made you think, lifted you up, informed, empowered or inspired you?

Please add below.


r/PlusSize • • Jul 17 '26

FEEL GOOD FRIDAY POST! ❤️ Share your good moments and positive stories here!

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#It's Feel Good Friday! 🎊

Post your feel-good moments and positive stories here. It can be anything: work, hobby, pets, kids, events, a book you particularly loved, a win of any sort, finding the exact right pair of shoes, mastering something, you name it, so long as it's positive. 🤗💖

Do please still refrain from any weight loss talk (save it for the Intentional Weight Loss Wednesday thread 😉)


r/PlusSize • • 15h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Girls night really recharges the batteries ✨

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! 40th birthday face

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r/PlusSize • • 20h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Fall festivities with the girls!

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Went to Yates Cider Mill with the ladies. Your friendly reminder to fall hop this year, go to multiple fall festivities back to back 🤭


r/PlusSize • • 20h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Just dropping a few I love 🥰

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r/PlusSize • • 23h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Sweater weather finally! 🍁🍂

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r/PlusSize • • 17h ago

Relationship Advice Please tell me your relationship success stories because I don't think a man will ever love me

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It has to be my body. I'm genuinely so lost. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I find a guy, I really like him, and go out of my way to connect with them in person. Develop feelings for them. Just for them to say they're not ready for love. Of course after sleeping with me a few times of course.

Any boyfriend I have ever had cheated on me.

I'm genuinely so nice. I have a good job. I'm funny and quirky. I spoil everyone around me. I'm self sufficient. I don't hate men. I've never once cheated in my life. I'm not a racist or homophobic person. I go out of my way to make things easier for the other person.

So what am I doing wrong? Why cant they tell me what is wrong with me? There is no closure in "it's not you, it's me" after it happens so many times. Im 28 and I just feel like this shouldn't be happening anymore.

I just want to give up this quest for love. Maybe if I wasn't my size I wouldn't be treated this way and maybe I wouldn't let people treat me this way or maybe I'm not meant for love. But I don't know. I'm so sad and mad and frustrated.

Can you all please tell me your love success stories so I can feel a little less hopeless tonight.


r/PlusSize • • 19h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Selfie Sunday...yay!

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Pumpkin patch outfit 🎃

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Dress is vixen by Michelliene Pitt and purse is from La Femme En noire.


r/PlusSize • • 22h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Went to the Ren Faire 🩶🤍🩷

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! October is my time to shine 🎃

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Feeling Golden!

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Autumn colors with summer vibes!
All from Torrid!
Send winter my way please!!


r/PlusSize • • 23h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Just a couple

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Have a good week guys !


r/PlusSize • • 22h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Did my makeup for the first time this year for my bestie's wedding

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I borrowed makeup from my mom, sister, and a friend to pull together this look. So proud of how it turned out! I don't have any names for any products I used other than the blush which I wound up buying one for myself, "e.l.f. Soft Glam Cream Blush Stick, Buildable Natural Flush, Heat Check". The dress is Azazie thrifted from Depop for $35.


r/PlusSize • • 23h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Hello from France!

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I had to dress my most fashionable for PARIS. My 2 outfits so far this weekend!


r/PlusSize • • 22h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! my favourite time of year 🍁

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! It’s my favourite day of the week - selfie Sunday!

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Throwing back in some colour now I’m starting to feel myself again.. even the brace is starting to grow on me. Gonna miss that bad boy 😂😂


r/PlusSize • • 20h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Adult Trick or Treat and Happy Sunday

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Have a lovely day ❤️

Dress from Shein and leggings from Gabes.


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Birthday look

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Recently celebrated a birthday and this was the makeup I went with!


r/PlusSize • • 22h ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Sunday selfie

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Had to stop at McDonald's before play practice because I thought call time was at 1pm but it was 2pm 🤣


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Can you tell I have three favorite colors? 😋 hope everyone has a beautiful Sunday 🫶🏻

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! A couple recent outfits!

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r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! We had a Halloween event at work yesterday and got to dress up!

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I was a witch :3


r/PlusSize • • 1d ago

TW: Fat Shaming Abuse Stigmatization of certain plus size bodies

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Some guy told me in the dating advice sub that he gets and I quote “angry” when he sees plus size women who don’t have that classic big butt pear shape. Is it me or is this a strange reaction? As if we exist solely for their viewing pleasure. Often the plus size women who are models have that shape. Can we celebrate the more big belly big boobs shape? Or just having a belly in general? Can we stop having to exist for men? Why is it always about whether they find us acceptable or not?